askTRP Megathread January 17

DaftOdyssey · 2018-01-17T14:39:18+00:00

Is there a relation between -how many kids you have with your woman, and how much time you the relationship lasts-?

I've never heard of a couple that had 5+ kids and were not together.

shutupitsunique · 2018-01-17T22:45:47+00:00

HS shit head here 2 friends in class make fun of me a lot. What do I do? I can beat the shit out of both of them (thought about doing that a lot), but I'd rather go for a different approach. I don't hang out with them as much anymore, one of them is pretty much everything I don't want to be (lazy, pussy, weak, asshole, only good thing going for him is women), but I have to spend time in class with them.

Triplescrew · 2018-01-17T19:21:48+00:00

So this one girl I've been seeing seems really into me, texting me constantly etc., but I've had to initiate all of our meet ups thus far. Should I wait for her to make the next move? I asked her out last weekend and didn't even get a response because she was feeling "out of it," so I don't want to keep initiating if it's just going to make me look needy.

throw5597 · 2018-01-17T14:22:28+00:00

I’m 20 years old, I’m in college, I’m working as an intern. I train BJJ everyday, usually twice a day but I don’t have much friends. What are some activities I can do to meet people? Meet girls?

packetdata · 2018-01-17T18:55:45+00:00

How do i maintain a balance between being friendly while also not being a nice guy ?

The problem is she will only talk to those she considers friends,How do i get on a good level being playfull and stuff without looking like a nice guy who basically is a orbiter.

Chaddeus_Rex · 2018-01-17T15:18:49+00:00

Confused abput two things. Have a friend shorter and skinnier than me (he doesnt lift) and yet seems more successful with girls than i. He texts excessively, calling it 'talking to girls' (rather than using text for logistics), hes always asking how theyre doing and other seemingly cringey stuff. Moroever, when we go to bars we will be talking to the same groups of girls and yet girls will message him over insta and no me. I am much larger physically than he is. He seems to be breaking many TRP rules. He got laid twice in the last month. We are both in college. Interested in how TRP views this.

Second question. Theres this girl i see on instagram who constantly posts pictures with her bf (he seems to be a pretty cool dude). She looks like one of those girls who dresses in a posh manner, with lots of makeup, is a fitness bunny, with many friends and the guy is ripped. Shes 21 and already pregnant and proud of it. I thought that girls (especially like that) dont value their relationships and will cheat on their guy. So whats going on here?

andrew21w · 2018-01-17T15:15:08+00:00

I am 16 years old.

How to apply the Red Pill rules on my everyday life?

(I've read the sidebar)

tacko276 · 2018-01-17T15:39:38+00:00

Co worker came into my office and kept harping on how "crazy"she was in college. Rambled some crap about pictures on a cd that she won't let her husband see. Unnecessary and almost awkwardly worked into the conversation. ioi's or am in being autistic? Or maybe both?

iftair · 2018-01-17T18:44:26+00:00

So how do I get flirty with a lady I meet at a party or bar. I'm interested in her and want to make my intentions known that I want to hook up with her. Like whenever I talk to her, the conversation dies (mostly about academics, where we from, etc.) and I just can't figure out how to transition to something more.

Edit - Go easy on me. I'm new here.

fade2clear · 2018-01-18T01:13:49+00:00

I have worked as a IT support guy for about 6-7 years now. The pay is decent but I feel like I'm at a dead end. I'm honestly burnt out on doing tech support, and sysadmin type duties. It's just fucking boring and unfulfilling to me.

I'd like to get certified or focus on my skills on something more specific with technology, like something with audio/video applications. Basically not IT shit.

I'm also thinking about getting a degree or education in something entirely different that pays well and doesn't feel so blue pill like a support role. Something more independent.

Any suggestions?

[deleted] · 2018-01-18T13:58:08+00:00

Approach: talk to everyone, cashiers, old ladies, random dudes at the bar. That helped me plus getting rejected some. I still get rejected, it just sucks less now. Gotta do it to get better at it.

ananyo007 · 2018-01-18T16:05:50+00:00

I've recently started counting my words when I speak.

As in, if I have to buy a cigarette, instead of saying it as hey bro, could you hand me a box of flake I put it as a box of flakes, please.

Same goes with casual talk with friends. When somebody asks me how my test was, I simply nod with a contained smile rather than describe at lengths something arbitrary, hollow set of words that don't mean much, as in: Yeah, it was alright, uuuuuhhhhh I mean I don't know. Okay I guess.

Think of it like Ryan Reynolds in Drive. He barely spoke! I think it supplies to the power that I hold over the conversation and the person, keeping him/her at bay, adding a layer of mystery to myself.

I was wondering what you guys think of it.

xAkdas · 2018-01-17T17:16:52+00:00

What are your guys thoughts on receiving mixed signals?

YouDontKnowMeHeHe · 2018-01-17T23:58:42+00:00

So here is the deal.This year I decided to turn my life around.I made plan which contain everything from reading sidebar,calisthenics,meditation,reading,professional development and so on.I made daily plan and my whole day is scheduled.It's just fucking work.I am 18 years old and currently in high school.I am contantly seeing bunch of idiots whos most important task is to decide where to go on weekend to get fucking wasted.To make it even worse they just seem to have great lives(in all areas, whether that be getting girls or having fun etc.).So my question: is it fucking worth it?Doing all this work, having literally my whole day scheduled doing work and no fun.Does it pay off in the end?

beam_me_up2017 · 2018-01-19T23:25:28+00:00

Hi gents. I have a problem, and I acknowledge the problem.

I rarely make eye contact with men. I'll spare you the diatribe of abusive childhood and multiple-time victim of street crime, and just say I need to fix it. I feel like eye contact with men puts me in the following bad position:

Don't make eye contact, signalling weakness and inviting crime or disrespect
Make eye contact, potentially inviting violence by implied challenge OR unintentionally inviting a gay guy

How do I solve this?

vampur · 2018-01-17T20:30:29+00:00

Girlfriend complains that I put my needs before hers and feels like I don't care about what she wants. I value our relationship, but I honestly don't feel like I'm doing anything wrong. If I don't feel like doing something, then why should I do it? If she doesn't feel like doing something, I don't feel entitled to make her do it for me, I just don't do it.

swagile · 2018-01-18T06:59:25+00:00

Friendships with women, is that a thing or just a crux? Like I've no romantic interest in them they're just good to talk to sometimes when I'm bored?

Radinax · 2018-01-19T01:35:15+00:00

Your thoughts on Alpha Male Strategies on youtube? That guy is legit and on point on almost everything, really glad I found him because it complements very well the sidebar.

BeijingTurkey · 2018-01-17T17:50:08+00:00

Is it normal for men to gossip and talk behind each other’s back and put people down constantly? I work in a construction related job right now, all guys, with some ladies in our offices. I think it’s just a shitty place to work. But I don’t know if I’m just being sensitive

ZigzagLumen · 2018-01-17T18:00:47+00:00

A friend of mine is always paying for his plates when he goes on dates (cinema, bowling, restaurants). Some he'll keep around longer than others He definitely gets more sex than me, but I thought this was a beta movement paying for everything? I used to do this all the time, but since TRP, it isn't something I'd feel inclined to do from now on...

zyzzstarr · 2018-01-18T02:16:35+00:00

Quick run down-

19 years old, uni student, girl lives in flat next door
Plating girl who has got major daddy issues (dad died at early age)
She's fucked in the head, cries after nights out in my room about her dad, although IMO she's sometimes crying because of me fucking with her head
Disappears on nights out in the same club but we find her somewhere else (95% she's not doing it to get with other dudes, she just fucks off for no reason)
Acts as if we aren't anything in public (club) around her and my friends, other night when we both seen each other for the first time after Christmas holidays (1 month apart) she can't even pluck up the courage to talk to me. Literally completely ignores me particularly when she's had a drink, also when she drinks she gets absolutely fucked
Two of her friends have told me she doesn't want anything more to happen (when we went out on Monday), apparently still due to the fact that I got with 5 other girls on a night out a month ago, which I thought was forgotten about
So on Monday night, I rang her about 3AM after the night out asking if we could talk and then she comes over
I ask her if what her friends were saying was the truth, and if it was I don't give a shit I just want to know
She says it isn't true, blah blah blah, tries kissing me, putting my hand down there etc
Next day (Tuesday), no message from her
Today, no message from her

What do I do in this situation? I just want to use her for sex now. But she isn't messaging me, I certainly don't want to look like billy beta and message her. I know she likes me, all her friends think i'm fit etc (probably 8/10 maybe 9) and 6'3". But she's certainly fucked in the head and doesn't show any signs of "liking" me or whatever, I presume it's something to do with her issues.

So what do I do? Leave it and she might message? Message her to "talk"? (which will make me look like a bitch). Or just fuck her off and next? Part of me just wants to message and basically tell her to fuck off and that I never want to see her again, another part of me wants to leave it, see what happens and then when/ if she messages just use her for sex lol.

Please someone just guide me in the right direction and hopefully give me the wake up call I need to hear.

lordmainstream · 2018-01-18T00:30:28+00:00

I get that i shouldn’t compliement women all the time and not look for validation from them, but at wich point when approaching a woman should i say that she is beautiful or hot, and when i do that, what is the best way to do it so i dont look like a average bluepill?

redpilledjoe · 2018-01-18T02:48:36+00:00

How do I tell a girl that's pushing for commitment I just wanna be friends and still fuck? Without her leaving

rpadv9991 · 2018-01-18T03:05:40+00:00

How do I ask a college girl (I'm a freshman in college) out to dinner/a date without coming off as autistic?

Obviously I'm not gonna ask someone I just met in the dining hall line like they do in those cringy youtube pick-up artist videos. But where should I meet girls and when/how do I open to them?

AwkwardEmpath · 2018-01-18T04:33:16+00:00

Can you be an alpha with an average sized dick? How important is that? Curious if you can be great in bed with an average dick as well.

n0va_lyfe · 2018-01-18T04:50:34+00:00

As a college student is there any benefit to being friends with girls? Also I am currently banging a girl that is in my major (95% male major). This semester just started and we have 5 classes together... I've been thinking about friend zoning her because she is a fantastic asset (she works at a popular bar and gives me and my my friends all the free stuff I want).

Don't wanna shit where I eat but also don't know if I am shitting where I eat. It seems like every girl I bang has ties to some activity/group that I hang with.

binarynightmare · 2018-01-18T05:04:07+00:00

My 'sales funnel', if you will, for meeting new prospective lays is pathetically empty. I work in a small software engineering company, so work is a no go. I REALLY REALLY struggle with Tinder/Bumble despite all the conventional advice, and I am not opposed to joining meetups but I have yet to find any that provide reasonable stomping grounds.

How can I fix this?

KyinWonderland · 2018-01-18T05:51:08+00:00

Honest question: Do you see any parallels between The Red Pill Theory and backlash against the Black Live Matter movement? Please explain.

InstigatingDrunk · 2018-01-18T13:26:10+00:00

I'm 5'5" and not white. But I do lift weights and kickbox competitively. I'm a kissless virgin and get zero matches on tinder. Where do I go from here?

Ccarlial · 2018-01-18T14:52:16+00:00

I just read "Models: Attract Women Through Honesty", it was suggested through this site. Its mainly about attraction through open and honest communication. The Author said he usually walks up to a girl he thinks is cute and says something like "hey, i think you're cute, and i wanted to meet you", however often on here I read about masking why you are talking to her and acting like the meeting was an accident. So what is better to be bold and say why you are talking to her, or to be cunning and hide your intentions? I'm interested in any personal experiences with either approach.

PhaedrusHunt · 2018-01-18T20:24:57+00:00

What's are basically parameters for when to drop side plates for the main plate, and enter into an LTR?

For the record, I'm 39. Been married and divorced twice. I have a history of getting into relationships a bit fast, but have been doing a lot of test driving the past two years since my last divorce. I've slept with about 25 women and been on dates with a lot more.

So that's a good amount of test drives. I've been spinning lots of plates, but getting pretty bored with it. Want to focus more on my business.

The woman I have in mind: Also 39. Very sexy and sweet. The sex isnas good as any I've ever had. She actually APPRECIATES traditional gender roles. Has a great job, owns her own place, pays for her own shit. I've met quite a few of her friends and no red flags from them-- not a slut crew. She's only mildly shit tested me a couple times, I passed flying colors. Basically I'm SEARCHING for red flags, and I've seen a couple but addressed both and she's agreed. A very self aware woman.

I'm still spinning other plates, almost forcing myself to really. It's fun and I like fucking a variety of women, and she's even said she's OK with it, has a very European attitude about the whole thing.

I'm mostly hesitant not because I think things will cool down or that the shit tests will increase-- I'm holding frame completely at this point. I'm more just wanting to focus on work, and other women seem to take my focus from that. I know I can keep her in a state of competition anxiety even if I shut the other stuff down.

Opinions and insight welcome.

myroommateisasian · 2018-01-19T05:31:39+00:00

I go to a pretty good university with a ton of tall good looking dudes. I'm already kind of on the shy side with people I don't know, and I can't really use my height, athletics, intelligence, or attractiveness to stick out from the crowd anymore. It's so hard to distinguish myself from the crowd in this new environment.

I'm 6'2" 175lb, but I'm probably average to lower average body size compared to everyone here. I've been lifting, getting high grades, and setting myself up for a good internship but everyone else is doing the same or better. It's grueling to work so hard in every other aspect of life just to be average, while also getting minimal hookups along the way. How can I get noticed a little better?

reecewagner · 2018-01-19T18:13:07+00:00

I understand and agree with TRP's standpoint on social media, that being, use it responsibly and with character, if you're using it at all. Don't tweet out the first thing that pops into your head for attention-seeking or validation purposes. The logic checks out on a masculinity level.

My question is, why don't TRP users apply these same social media standards to Donald Trump? The guy routinely shits out the first thing that pops into his head for mass consumption on a national level.

Blakrov · 2018-01-17T14:37:10+00:00

I'm at home most of the time in a small town, nearest city is 20 mins drive away, and most tinder matches are there. Thats really the only option i have, don't have any hobbies besides local gym. If I have no business in the city other than to meet a chick, how does that work for logistics? Expensive to drive in to go to a bar and have a taxi home idk

Self-honest · 2018-01-17T22:26:53+00:00

I got banned from asktrp last week. I sent a message to the mods to figure out why, but got no response. If I broke a rule, I would like to know so I don't do it again. I didn't make a post, only comments. I don't believe I deviated from the mission of TRP and asktrp. Any thoughts, comments, insights, or answers from mods are appreciated.

Edit: For 45 days

shortcopy · 2018-01-18T04:03:46+00:00

Spent 16 -19 in DEEP love with Disney princess. Peak femininity, real ideal woman.

Spent three years cucking myself and ignoring obvious signs to fuck. 'My back hurts can you give me a massage' 'let's get dressed up and go on a date' 'let's make dinner and watch movies wrapped up in bed'

PURE PUSSY NO MOVE EVER MADE

Move away, severely restrict contact - long story short become the fucking MAN. Drop 1/3 of body weight, flat broke to $60/ hr. Business owner.

I still find myself lost in thought dreaming of this woman despite the fact she's fucking dudes and sucking dick in college .

I will see her again she's my best friend. (see how fucked my mentality is concerning this woman, still consider her a best friend)

Have I completely fucked myself from my past behavior? How can I shake this repressive mind frame? I know I can fuck her, but even should I considering my mindset and fixation with her?

Any input is appreciated, especially that which will hurt me most.

Googoots · 2018-01-17T13:46:18+00:00

This ones more lighthearted. What are some fun innuendo-filled karaoke songs worth mastering? The two that jump out to me are below.

fuck her gently by Tenacious D
why don’t we get drunk and screw by Jimmy Buffett

RedBenedict · 2018-01-17T14:23:41+00:00

i maintained my weight (86kg) and gained some muscle.

Why isnt the scale going down

Insendi · 2018-01-18T01:25:06+00:00

Should plates be monogamous?

MrCarepig · 2018-01-18T05:00:12+00:00

Iv'e noticed sometimes that low smv women try to open or game me at times. Since women dont know how to game from a man's perspective I find it to be pretty cingey now that i know the game. It gave me a new point of view, know i know how a high smv woman feels when a low value man or a man without game approaches or tries to open. For example being too direct with your intention without the attraction just looks and feels of thirst. Just some observations i had.

Title	askTRP Megathread January 17
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Date	January 17, 2018 1:10 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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