Vasectomy DENIED

victor_knight · 2016-07-29T02:54:39+00:00

Do doctors ever say, "No, I'm not going to perform circumcision on this male child until he's old enough to consent"?

Capt_ShitNuts · 2016-07-28T22:08:45+00:00

it might be worth going to a different doctor and telling them you already have 2 kids with 2 different women and you know for sure you don't want/can't afford anymore. I doubt they will check. and even if they do, there is always another doctor that will happily take your money.

KDO3 · 2016-07-28T22:30:12+00:00

Doctors can refuse to treat you. He's protecting himself from a potential future lawsuit.

Call other urologic clinics until you find one who will do the procedure.

putsch80 · 2016-07-29T02:27:50+00:00

The reason he won't treat you is similar to the reason that a lot of tattoo artists won't give you a tattoo on your face. They've encountered too many people who have changed their mind or regretted the choice, and they either don't want to deal with your bullshit, or have you badmouthing them for "doing that" to you, or getting sued.

At the end of the day, you don't have a right to receive non-life sustaining medical treatment. If you are that deadset on getting a vasectomy, shop around until you find a doc who will do it. Beware though: most reputable doctors will not snip a man your age. This leaves you dealing with less experienced/less reputable doctors to perform the procedure.

TheMotoManiac · 2016-07-28T22:19:14+00:00

No, you can't murder an unborn child. You can't because you're not a woman.

If a man wants to plan ahead and avoid children, he is denied.

If a woman isn't happy with her idiotic choices, screw anything and everything that gets in the way. Be it an ex she had consensual sex with and turned around and says she regrets it, or an unborn baby that needs to be cut up and sucked out of her gut because it's a burden to her.

We can't just have women out here running around dealing with the consequences of their actions!

OwlsExterminator · 2016-07-28T22:56:37+00:00

If our government had an ounce of foresight they would have free sterilization clinics. Hell, I'd be okay with the gov paying out $500 as a reward to each nut-less schmuck that walks out of there. Would totally eliminate the poor lower class in 40 years.

Some states in the South had this going on for decades. (e.g. North Carolina) To get welfare you had to be sterilized. Ended having a ton of kids being supported by the taxpayers. Later some people tried to sue the state. It was a fucking joke. Voluntary choice to take the welfare in exchange of sterilization.

calmdownroundeye · 2016-07-29T12:58:03+00:00

What in the hell is with all the second guessing regarding a personal choice in this forum?

The man has come to a decision, and made a choice. Rummaging around your nutsack and carving out chunks of rice-noodles isn't something any rational person takes lightly. And that decision one made, should be respected.

Each person has their choice for going through a procedure, and typically it goes like this (At least these are my reasons for getting snipped.)

I do not feel a biological imperative to reproduce.
Read 1 again because it's that fucking important.
The current system is slanted against men in such a way that Children=Slavery to the state. Your input into a child's upbringing is consistently being encroached.
There's too many god damn people on this planet.

OP certainly has their own reasons for this procedure. And it's none of our fucking business what those are.

Seriously, how fucking dare you folks sit there in your mock "Alpha"-ness and try to fuck with a perfectly rational decision.

The guy is old enough to vote. He's old enough to not only fight and die for our nation... he's old enough that if he did join the military, he'd be in a position of leading other men to potentially fight and die.

And you think he's too young to make a decision about his reproductive system.

OP: I respect your decision, I think you should check out the resources such as Planned Parenthood, or becoming a health-care tourist to obtain the surgery you wish.

yummyluckycharms · 2016-07-29T19:40:59+00:00

Legally, if you are married or common law in Canada and the doctor is aware of this, the wife must give permission for your vasectomy. Not kidding - when its her body, its her rules and when its your body, its her rules.

Canada works quite hard to strip the rights of men away

operationzeem · 2016-07-29T02:52:50+00:00

Visit the childfree subreddit. Look at the sidebar for the vasectomy-friendly urologists in your area. I haven't gotten mine just yet but I am soon; called up the local offices on that list and they confirmed that they would operate on pretty much anyone mentally healthy. I'm 21.

jontycampbell · 2016-07-29T02:26:52+00:00

compromise: freeze some prime selected sperm, then get it done.

yomo86 · 2016-07-29T07:11:57+00:00

I got snipped at the age of 27.

The task of doctor shopping was really daunting.

However, what yielded the best result was a phone call with the following content: please put me through to the doc nurse it is a about a planned procedure.

She will probe you but remember the magic word is priviledged. Once to got to the doc ask him straight without stating your name about his attitude regarding the procedure on a 23yo man and tell him that you are adament about your decision and know the risks. Then set an appointment.

Why all this you might ask? Well, the doctor does not make a dollar of you if there is no 'consulting' involved. Two BP doctors turned me down but sent me invoices for the initial 'consultation' in which he only talked about ethics... yea sure..

You folks amputate a man's penis, flood his body with estrogen if this man thinks he is a magic elf but a standart procedure is somehow against ethics.

meh613 · 2016-07-29T02:21:58+00:00

they would have free sterilization clinics

Umm.. Who would fight their wars then?

luciansolaris · 2016-07-29T04:06:36+00:00

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cloudstryfe · 2016-07-28T23:02:19+00:00

Its pretty hard for women to get sterilized too. Come on man quit bitching. Keep shopping around till you find one that will

tb87670 · 2016-07-28T22:19:49+00:00

Another post a guy mentioned he had a vasectomy and said he just kept going to different ones until one agreed. Even then the nurse was giving him shit about it and was trying to grand-stand. That was a post from this past winter I think?

solidsnork · 2016-07-29T05:35:40+00:00

Even a red pilled doctor would be hard pressed to do this procedure on someone so young. People do change their minds and lawsuits are a thing. there are alternatives coming out though.

forcevacum · 2016-07-28T22:42:20+00:00

So I had to pay this guy for an orientation just to be told no.

You got conned. Get that money back as a matter of principle.

bonekeeper · 2016-07-29T01:34:26+00:00

Do you even have to prove you have kids? Just tell another doctor you have two kids you dont even see with two different women and he'll nip you.

AstralAeonSoul · 2016-07-29T04:55:18+00:00

Look up Vasalgel, it's reversible male contraception.

DoesNotMatterAnymore · 2016-07-29T11:08:58+00:00

In my country you need to be at least 35 with 2 kids, otherwise you need to be 40years old plus. If you are married, you need your wife's signature too. Imo that's absolutely reasonable.

You are 23years old, a kid, "redditor for 1 month". So few months of TRP is enough for you to do a life changing surgery? I'm glad that the doc denied you, he did the right call.

notepug · 2016-07-29T08:23:54+00:00

Why don't you tell him you saved your sperm at a sperm bank in case of anything? That's what a friend did before a risky operation(not vasectomy).

Rufferto_n_Groo · 2016-07-28T23:49:43+00:00

Do the research and travel for medical services. Enjoy the trip and get snipped.

Colombia, surprisingly to me, has excellent medical services for foreigners at decent prices.

PemBayliss · 2016-07-29T17:19:10+00:00

I read a manosphere post a few years ago about an unmarried man who couldn't get a physician to perform a vasectomy on him because he's not married.

That man had a female friend pose as his wife so he could get a doctor to do the procedure.

collegegreens · 2016-07-29T21:53:13+00:00

I think some people on the childfree subreddit maintain lists of child free friendly doctors.

DarkwraithBaguette · 2016-07-29T01:51:01+00:00

I understand your point of view and you are obviously entitled to pay for the procedure you want done to your body. Especially a procedure that is legally performed and offered as a service.

I am not trying to convince you of otherwise but have you heard of Vasalgel? I don't believe it has gotten to the market just yet but it's supposed to (don't quote me on the details) be a product that will make you temporarily sterile as long as you use it. That way you can keep the possibility of getting a child if you ever would get a feeling that you'd like to. And while you don't, you can stay sterile without repercussion. It might come to the market in a year or two but it would completely remove the need for a vasectomy unless there is no doubt one would never want kids.

MeinBimmer · 2016-07-29T05:04:48+00:00

Don't be beta and pay that bill. I would dispute that shit all the way to court.

awmace5 · 2016-07-30T09:34:53+00:00

I posted a question regarding vasectomy on asktrp earlier this year and recieved mostly negative responses since I'm 20. I think this sub of all others would support free thinking and decision making. Obviously it isn't a decision to be made lightly, but many young men simply don't want children. Doesn't mean we can't give back to society by being a mentor to other children or young men. edit: and I've already had multiple women try to babytrap me at this young of an age. I'm sure that reflects my SMV and how they want to tie me down, but at this young age I am already familiar with baby scares and do not want to be subject to the whims of woman.

michael_wilkins · 2016-07-29T02:13:42+00:00

Booked in for a referral with a urologist myself in a months time.

I plan to lie and say I already have a kid if it comes up.

Questionablechoice · 2016-07-29T06:55:16+00:00

You can claim that cystic fibrosis runs in your family and you don't want to have a child committed to a life time of suffering.

doveenigma13 · 2016-07-29T08:18:44+00:00

They are reversible as well.

TheDisillusionist · 2016-07-29T11:37:03+00:00

See if your doc is associated with a religious system. We have a catholic system in my area who will deny you control over reproduction and mask it as a medical opinion when you can go to the SAME DOC once they arent affiliated and they will do it.

Just a thought.

gorillabazooka · 2016-07-29T11:53:54+00:00

Never wanted kids and/or family, changed my opinion around 25 yo. And not because I met 'the grrl of my drimz' or any of than bullshit.

Anyway, sterilization seems like an overkill to me. Yeah, gives you an ability to bang w/o protection. But, considering the DRAMATICALLY increased risks of catching an STD, do you really want that?

makechangegreatagain · 2016-07-29T13:36:44+00:00

Probably would have no problem prescribing you government approved heroin for some minor lower back pain though..

TryDoingSomethingNew · 2016-07-29T13:41:32+00:00

Be sure to do an internet search for the doctor's name and see if he's on a health care provider review site, so you can leave a negative review and warn others.

I ran across one of those sites when searching a doctor's/dermatologists name out of curiosity, before scheduling an appointment, and I was glad I did--people get a chance to be warned about things like this, bad attitudes, etc.

crimsonpowder · 2016-07-29T16:50:17+00:00

Since there's nothing wrong with being jacked anyway, sterilize yourself using nandrolone decanoate.

Original_Dankster · 2016-07-29T16:55:46+00:00

I had the same experience. I tried to get a vasectomy in my 20s, and was refused.

I got one in my mid 30s finally. What was bullshit was I had to demonstrate that I had a partner and bring her to the appointment, and she (not even my wife, just a gf) had to fucking consent as well. WTF?!

This was in Ontario, Canada.

My advice: Go back in a year, and tell him that if you don't get one from him you've got an appointment lined up in Mexico. If he doesn't budge, go get it done someplace else.

354999556 · 2016-07-29T17:02:33+00:00

You can reverse a vasectomy, just go to another doctor, demand your money back.

You can't eradicate poverty without removing money from the equation.

frys180 · 2016-07-29T18:33:36+00:00

Would totally eliminate the poor lower class in 40 years.

There's a lot of foresight missing here. Without the poor lower class, who's going to do all the grunt work? Who's going to work in the factories to produce products we all use? Some inequality is necessary for a stable society.

TheRealMewt · 2016-07-29T21:19:33+00:00

So I had to pay this guy for an orientation just to be told no.

Lawyer up. Not even doctors are allowed to just take money from you for no reason.

Capn_Underpants · 2016-07-31T08:02:55+00:00

Fly to Bankgok, Yahnee Hospital. Have a holiday while there.

rhys5584 · 2016-07-31T10:40:36+00:00

Dude donate sperm a fuck load then get a vasectomy, ask for a different doctor btw.

"my body, my choice" that shit doesn't exist just look at the war on drugs and the fact that hospitals hold people with chronic depression wanting to kill themselves.

stop_the_tickle · 2016-07-28T22:03:32+00:00

Where do you live? It is your right to get a Vasectomy, nobody can deny it

hardlifeman · 2016-07-30T00:01:44+00:00

Just go to a different doctor, a specialized urology clinic, or a practice that specializes in vasectomy. Or, if you have to, get some of your sperm saved for artificial insemination and never use it (or use it, if you actually DO change your mind someday).

killer_buzz · 2016-08-03T20:58:02+00:00

It's the same for women. Doctor can and often does deny tubals. Even after having children. Same bullshit. "you might change your mind"

cEddowes · 2016-07-28T22:24:25+00:00

I think it's funny that you think you have reproductive rights like a woman might. It's sad that you don't, but still funny you live in that fantasy world.

StoicCrane · 2016-07-29T07:44:56+00:00

OP if a Doc won't give you one do it yourself. Take a pair of stainless steel scissors and cut right below the left and right sides of your shaft. Best thing I ever did.

The bleeding stops after about 8 hours and the scab takes over a month to form. I'm still pissing bright orange but it's worth it.

On a more serious note, consider waiting until you're 30 or at least have 150k US for a potential surrogate. It's about 20k overseas in India I've read. You can have a child without the hassle of a woman and get a vasectomy if you play your cards right.

Could consider freezing your seed too but they have an expiration date so think wisely. Look deep and determine if you really want kids or not and act accordingly.

NeoreactionSafe · 2016-07-28T23:51:09+00:00

I'm never going to be able to wrap my head around two modern concepts:

Getting a Vasectomy while presently having no children.
Accepting a Cuckoldry situation.

It's just too strange for me.

My preferred choice was to have ten kids (always joked about that) but at 55 years old I can honestly say I never met a woman I had a high enough opinion of to have kids with.

Now I realize women just aren't design for this higher standard and the Blue Pill has eroded their mental functioning to actually degrade their nature even further. AWALT is not only a certainty, but it's even magnified these days.

But ideally... with the removal of the State out of human affairs I'd see children as the goal in life and the future potential of better human relationships.

Anyway... I'm just saying... at 23 years old you don't have a solid understanding of life yet, so I can see the doctor having ethical problems letting you do this. I'm probably near his age.

What would be better advice is to focus on "Killing the Beta" and becoming a more masculine male and that has little to do with frequent ONS or Plates.

You could use a condom... these nasty whores have diseases too... it's not just pregnancy that you must worry about.

As life goes by you don't spend much effort remembering past sex acts, so this "dream" of wild sex with an iinfinite stream of partners doesn't last forever. You read others guys here on the Red Pill that have had many sex partners and burnout on it.

Way_Of_Man · 2016-07-29T01:11:25+00:00

"90% of men in your situation change their mind."

So fucking what?

harsha_hs · 2016-07-29T01:37:12+00:00

23 is early. Bang with condoms now. I don't think any women want to lock down to you now, because you don't have so much assets to become her betabucks

OmegaMan2 · 2016-07-29T02:48:31+00:00

Wait until you're 30. From my own experience with other things in life, you don't want to do things that you will regret for the rest of your life.

For once listen to reason!

radamintos · 2016-07-29T04:16:55+00:00

are you planning to have sex without a condom?

Moolg86 · 2016-07-28T23:00:41+00:00

Vasectomy is what you do when you don't want to exercise self-control. I thought TRP rejects the notion of choices without consequences.

Hell, I'd be okay with the gov paying out $500 as a reward to each nut-less schmuck that walks out of there. Would totally eliminate the poor lower class in 40 years.

Then a lower class will emerge from the remaining people. The poor you will always have with you.

David35207 · 2016-07-28T22:08:35+00:00

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Dazayo · 2016-07-28T22:20:21+00:00

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Makonar · 2016-07-29T10:00:19+00:00

First of all... should've told him: I'm not paying for this visit if you are not doing the procedure. Sue me and I'll sue you back.
Second... call ahead and ask to talk with the doctor - ask him if he will perform vasectomy on a 23 year old - and record him - if he confirms - tell him you have a recording and you will go to the press, your lawyer if he orders you to pay for the visit and refuses to actually shedule the procedure...

JohnKwando · 2016-07-29T13:55:54+00:00

as a 30+ man, I have made decisions in my 20s that I thought were absolutely correct and the best thing for me. I now regret some of them. Do what you want, find a dr. who will do it for you. Own the consequences.

Chubby_Bert · 2016-07-29T17:18:03+00:00

Go to someplace else, no need to get all bitchy about it.

NolanHarlow · 2016-07-30T01:02:39+00:00

The idea of paying for vasectomies is a very valid one. I, for one, would like to see such a program put in place when the vasagel gets approved (injection of 'glue' in the vas deferenes to block sperm indefinitely). Imagine the positive social implications: pay young folks $500 or $1000 to have the procedure. Want to get it reversed? Submit to a financial/drug/employment test to ensure you're not a degenerate and you're approved.

PantsonFire1234 · 2016-07-31T00:15:33+00:00

Dude you might just be in the anger phase. When everything settles down and you're 30 years old spinning plates- you might consider having a little you running around.

Don't be so rash just because a couple of dudes threw some empowering shit around about snipping themselves.

edwardhwhite · 2016-07-29T06:05:19+00:00

Why would you willingly deny the world your genes if you were alpha? Alpha exists to pass on their genes. You are 23 and single, why the fuck would you get this? Are you truly banging so many chicks per week and they are so into you that you are truly concerned you will get a woman pregnant?

Its a big move to say "my genes won't be passed down." A huge move. You are young. You need more time to make this call.

frankdux9 · 2016-07-29T11:59:20+00:00

Why the hell would you want a vasectomy at 23. Your doctor is right, you are a dumb-ass. Might as well get a giant dick tattooed on your forehead while you are at it to make up for you lack of being a man in control of his destiny.

LosingMoneyAllDay · 2016-07-28T22:39:10+00:00

The fact that you paid is the problem. You paid for a consultation service to go through with a procedure. He did not provide the service that you paid for. Sue him.

ksnyder1 · 2016-07-29T02:25:30+00:00

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Irrelevantquestion6 · 2016-07-29T15:01:55+00:00

The whole idea of a vasectomy really boggles my mind. Why on earth would you just give up your ability to reproduce ? It will also result in low testosterone and a few other negative effects. Low testoterone will is responsible for alot of problems that men suffer today that men didnt a 100 years ago because their environments were not polluted with libido killing chemicals. I just personally think one should not give up the freedom to do something just because you can and you can do whatever you want with you body, just use a condom bro. Thinking you wont ever change your mind in the next decades to come is extremely naive imo.

juliusstreicher · 2016-07-29T05:03:06+00:00

I do not see how a vasectomy is an exercise of choice. It is a denial of choice ... to have future children. Vasectomy is a constriction of your freedom of action.

NYLON_G · 2016-07-28T22:49:28+00:00

If a female had gone to request sterilisation on the basis that she didnt want to have children you better believe she would have walked out of that clinic without baby making equipment. Her choice and not yours I'm afraid.

Title	Vasectomy DENIED
Author	JustTitDirt
Upvotes	94
Comments	204
Date	July 28, 2016 9:57 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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