Wife Moving Out

BobbyPeru · 2019-08-27T21:42:33+00:00

You should have ghosted her on the texts. She said she’d wants out, but she wants to make sure you’re not hooking up. She has no right to have an opinion once she said she wants out. Then, the manipulation saying she loves you suddenly. W. T. F.

Texting is for logistics. Otherwise you are playing in her ballpark

Hold frame going forth. No DEERing. Simply say, “if you want out, the door is right there.”

She’s most likely branch swinging, but if she is she’ll keep it on the DL so she gets to be the victim. It doesn’t matter. Stick with the mantra: “If you want out, the door is right there”

itiswr1tten · 2019-08-27T22:47:18+00:00

Things you cannot control:

You will be sad
You will want to salvage things
Her behavior, esp her attempting to tarnish your reputation to justify this crazy decision

Things you can control:

Your attitude
Digging through the garbage - this relationship is over. Start acting like it
The company you keep - you're about to get a completely free lesson on who matters to you among the gradually separating venn diagram of your friends
Your frame

Focus on category 2. It is YOUR CHOICE that moves this forward in the right manner. Do what you know is right.

Edit now I remember you. You posted a single OYS then peaced out. Be glad you're rid of this trash relationship.

https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/bj0vtc/z/em6f2qm

red-sfpplus · 2019-08-27T23:24:57+00:00

No kids?

Who fucking cares.

Stud.

simbarlion · 2019-08-27T21:48:47+00:00

I'm just not sure what to do right now.

Seems pretty clear to me. You're young enough with no kids.

Oh, and a gentleman would help her move her stuff out.

umizumiz · 2019-08-27T22:24:44+00:00

You insisting that you want to stay with this woman after all of this is so troubling.

RStonePT · 2019-08-28T13:34:33+00:00

Lol, single mom of 2 left you and you are wondering your next move?

I'd suggest adding 20lbs of muscle, but that's me and my dignity talking

Tiway22 · 2019-08-28T03:08:12+00:00

Something tells me she’s just putting on a show. Help her with the moveout/divorce.

Keep your head up. You’ll be fine.

A year from now you and your 25yo hottie girlfriend will be laughing about your ex wife’s hilarious attempts to annoy you.

[deleted] · 2019-08-27T21:43:24+00:00

As hard as it may be to do... you should turn off contact from her and just enjoy the evening.

Like really just be a good bloke and friend and make the most of the wedding, you can make time to chat with her at a later time.

It’s one thing to bail on a wedding invite leaving you in the lurch and another worse thing to freak out over TEXT MESSAGE when you’re heading there.

She wants to derail you

Don’t be derailed

Bring warmth and make new friends at the wedding...

Hey maybe get a sneaky number from a single lady if you’re on your game

EDIT.

Just realised this already happened.

DONT USE TEXT MESSAGE TO DISCUSS ANYTHING EXCEPT LOGISTICS

1 RULE: DO NOT WRITE ANYTHING YOU MAY LATER REGRET IN COURT

If she writes anything that could get you heated YOU REPLY:

“I’m sorry you feel this way, I disagree and happy to chat over the phone to discuss”

HornsOfApathy · 2019-08-28T01:03:37+00:00

Thought about this some.

She wants one last ride on the CC.

Send her away with a smile and a wave as she goes round and round...

HornsOfApathy · 2019-08-27T21:25:29+00:00

My neighbor recently went through something almost identical. He's a dude from Harlem. Doesn't give a fuck how crazy his wife is. He deals just fine.

His wife recently did the same thing, and he just held frame. She went so fucking far that she put the house up for sale, bought another house, he bought a house, she put everything in storage, sold a bunch of shit... the whole time he's just telling me: "Whatever dude, if this is what she wants, she'll do it. She be crazy bro."

A week from closing on three properties with shittons of money tied up in them.... I see my neighbor. We are having a beer together when he says, "Yeah, so Katie ain't leaving man. She's staying. Fucking hell that bitch went pretty far this time. Whatever though. It's going to be all ok."

You could learn from this dude. If it's going to happen, it's going to happen. Nothing you can control. This is the moment of your life where you maintain frame the strongest if you want to pass this test.

themerovingian01 · 2019-08-27T21:19:14+00:00

Meanwhile she's also going around telling all her friends, family, and colleagues that she's leaving mean and she's trying to create negative advocates out of them.

apietroski8 · 2019-08-27T21:28:41+00:00

Keep owning your shit. The stay plan is the same as the go plan. Get all the good lawyers in your area on retainer. When she brings up again that she's leaving, ask her if she needs some help packing. When women throw childish fits, they get treated like children.

The more you maintain frame and act like you are not phased by her threats, the angrier she will get. It sounds like you are not very interested in fighting for the relationship.

There is a chance she will come back to you and beg for you to take her back. You have to ask yourself what value she brings to your life. If there is a reason, besides feeling guilty about her spreading lies about you to family and friends, you need to put your foot down with this BS.

Someone once told me they have seen the world end a dozen times, but they are somehow still around and its still spinning. Now when my wife makes some comment about not wanting to be with me, I just laugh because I know it is just a test.

Worst case you can go and utilize your RP knowledge to go find some plates and have a good time.

FlyingSexistPig · 2019-08-27T23:27:11+00:00

You are doing just fine.

Stay strong.

Take pictures of everything you care about before she leaves with it.

You know for a fact that she will lie and tell you anything she thinks you might want to hear just to get you to do what she wants. She knows that if she was at that wedding alone, she'd 100% be looking to hook up with a dude there. Weddings do that to women, and she knows that other women find you attractive.

Stay strong brother, stay strong.

Neoduder · 2019-08-28T08:17:36+00:00

She's clearly fucking someone else

FereallyRed · 2019-08-28T14:21:43+00:00

She wants out so do that. Do a legal separation so any new debts/windfalls aren't mutual property. Kick her ass out.

She's got it good with you, but Briffault, so give her what she wants.

Go cold. She doesn't want you anymore.

She doesn't want to be around you.

Give the lady what she wants.

And stop marrying single moms. There's a reason babydaddy left the scene.

Ketonian_Empire · 2019-08-28T16:15:17+00:00

Facebook status...... Dude delete that shit. Facebook is blue pill training in my opinion.

DirectChemical · 2019-08-27T21:26:30+00:00

Best of luck man, seems like you're in control of yourself so making the right choices ought to be more straightforward than if you were emotional. Hope the kids take it OK.

Stay blessed.

beachedseacow · 2019-08-28T06:15:08+00:00

find a lawyer and say no more to her

ReddJive · 2019-08-28T14:03:52+00:00

Watch what she does. Not what she said.

If she can drop you and 6 years with thought so can you. Realize she’s been thinking about it a lot longer. You’re just catching up but it changes nothing for you. Your path is still the same.

She’s once again a single mom with 2 kids.

blissfullyaware00 · 2019-08-28T14:23:07+00:00

Not sure if you've read the Rational Male yet, but I just went through the part where he describes women's peak SMV at 23 and men's at 36. You are at your fucking peak SMV right now! Go slay brother.

RicoDunne · 2019-08-28T15:25:14+00:00

Make sure you are not on the hook for child support to the two kids, as you were playing the part of cuck sugar daddy to them. Your short term goal is to avoid child support and alimony to it.

Take an inventory of all of your stuff and photograph/video it.

Joint assets- just decide now who gets what. Stuff that is under contention- leave that for the court to decide if you can't. Unless it's a pet, then it's replaceable. Just get her out the door.

reddit-guy61 · 2019-08-30T13:29:21+00:00

Don't see the problem. Help her pack.

bmrdriver · 2019-09-02T07:27:28+00:00

Delete the Facebook dude

onionknightofknee · 2019-09-04T18:03:26+00:00

lol, 37 with kids ending a relationship with a successful business owner

andyturbo2000 · 2019-08-28T08:00:57+00:00

Classic show-all-your-cards-last-ditch-attempt-to-drag-you-into-her-frame-permanently-shit test. And it totally backfired. At least at be moment should you play your cards right. I’d be surprised that she hasn’t already got options on the hypergamy front for her to vomit it all out before a wedding.

UnPussified · 2019-09-04T21:04:38+00:00

Buy more boxes & help her pack as quickly as possible.

Hire a moving company if its more than she can carry on her own.

And keep an eye on your own shit.

Take the trash to the curb, pour bleach all over it & say your final good bye.

Take down all photos of her & shoe box in the attic.

Then toss everything ELSE you kept, that still reminds you of her, into a metal bin & burn it at 2:00 am Saturday nite in your back yard, while getting stinking drunk.

Then with your freshly cleaned house, start re-investing in yourself.

maljo24 · 2019-09-06T20:53:27+00:00

Marriage counseling and don’t get your advice from the internet.

themerovingian01 · 2019-09-09T15:39:56+00:00

Just an update: A therapist I saw said she very likely has borderline personality disorder.

themerovingian01 · 2019-08-27T21:52:23+00:00

If I want to make an effort to salvage the relationship what's the best course of action over the next month?

Title	Wife Moving Out
Author	themerovingian01
Upvotes	52
Comments	159
Date	August 27, 2019 9:18 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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