Am I wrong to feel bothered that a woman referred to me as "small" despite being 6 ft 1?

ricebucket1 · 2022-08-24T19:36:16+00:00

If your confidence can be shook by a petty comment that you know just isn't true, you must be fixated on the idea that height is your main attribute, probably time to take a look inwards at yourself my man.

_LuisFernandez_ · 2022-08-24T19:55:43+00:00

yeah you’re not small. there. unless she meant something else lol

Canadian-Seductioner · 2022-08-24T18:29:29+00:00

Um, yes. You know she's just trying to mess with you because you know it's not true so the only reason you're feeling bothered by it is because you're choosing to feel bothered by it.

Educational_Soup8845 · 2022-08-24T19:49:46+00:00

You are small if that comment bothered you so much. Do some meditation and get rid of the insecurity brother

thecatgodcometh · 2022-08-24T20:58:58+00:00

Her whole point was to rattle your confidence, just one of many tactics toxic women use as power moves to get what they want in some way, shape or form.

Subject-Craft5870 · 2022-08-24T23:06:48+00:00

That was a shit test my friend and you let it get to you. I’m 5’10” and would love to be a few inches taller. After all, what do women call a guy who’s under 6 feet? Their friend lolololololololololol

Cell-Senescence · 2022-08-24T18:22:24+00:00

Lmao let me guess she’s either 4’7” or a giraffe

rockintomordor · 2022-08-25T00:38:00+00:00

laughs hysterically in 5’5”

In all seriousness, if she actually meant it/wasn’t actually flirting with you she’s literally delusional and can just be ignored.

garlopf · 2022-08-24T18:37:14+00:00

Even if you should not be bothered by it, you might not want to let it slide. It depends on the situation.

zapadz · 2022-08-24T20:10:42+00:00

The issue is the fact that you are letting such a minor thing bother you, that is a sign of a deeper issue.

L0n3W01f_ · 2022-08-24T20:43:34+00:00

You are above average, no way you should’ve been bothered by that. IGNORE

burncushlikewood · 2022-08-24T21:11:43+00:00

I've had women tell me I'm short, I'm only 5'10, I think they do this to try and hurt your confidence, probably a sign she's interested when people say stuff like that it's to qualify you make you think you're not good enough for her

Complex-Peak · 2022-08-24T22:18:26+00:00

I mean if youre a skinny guy at 160lbs you are small.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-08-24T23:49:53+00:00

🤣ego of men is so fragile.

One day you will learn that mens ego is their biggest weakness, specially when talking with women.

Paranoidexboyfriend · 2022-08-25T01:08:46+00:00

Women are negging dudes now? And you let it work? That's like old school 90s type of game.

ZachMoore88 · 2022-08-25T03:11:57+00:00

She gave you a shit test. The correct way to respond is to lean into it. The moment you let her know it bothers you, you've failed.

btrpb · 2022-08-25T07:28:27+00:00

Fuck me you're a pussy. People under 5'10 currently thinking WTF

mmmxmiaa · 2022-08-24T20:27:52+00:00

Maybe she meant small as in cute. I recently called a 6’3 guy a teeny cute thing cuz his personality was so endearing I really thought he was the cutest little thing. 😅

Phil_YT · 2022-08-24T22:44:58+00:00

She's one woman out of 7.8 billion. Her comment is insignificant.

ActionEve · 2022-08-24T23:20:05+00:00

Dude 6 ft 1 is a solid height, that person is trippin

Blaphrodite · 2022-08-25T00:14:08+00:00

What exactly did she refer to as “small”?

Your height or your lil buddy?

HTML_Novice · 2022-08-25T00:15:03+00:00

I was on a date with a girl who was 2 inches shorter than me and she called me a little hottie, I wanted to jump into the river then and there dog. I feel your pain

JakeDaAussie · 2022-08-25T02:07:05+00:00

Is she shorter then you? If yes her opinion on height is invalid If she is 6ft you are still taller so her opinion is still invalid

Perfect_War5446 · 2022-08-25T02:12:40+00:00

Not at all, she’s really stupid

Successful_Teach366 · 2022-08-25T02:35:07+00:00

Lol it’s not wrong to realize that you are insecure about a certain attribute of yourself. It’s okay to have those feelings.

What’s not okay is fixating and ruminating on those feelings. Your height or any one thing doesn’t make you who you are. This might sound scary at first but there’s more to you than just your height, just like there’s more to a pretty girl than her face, we hope.

If all the lights were turned off and you were to meet someone, they will get to know you for you. I don’t assume you would only have conversations of how tall you are lol. But if you do, I guarantee there’s more to you than your height. And if there isn’t, this is your time to reestablish who you are and who you want to actually be.

This new insight to yourself should make you feel excited on who you are finding out and who you want to be. It was for me.

Who you are in the inside is what matters because after the attraction of your height and body goes away, what’s left? And attraction goes away fast. People appreciate and respect those with depth, not shallowness

“Know thyself”

inline6throwaway · 2022-08-25T02:46:53+00:00

Damn lmao.... I've never had a woman refer to me as that and I'm 5'8." Listen dude, uhhh.....I wouldn't worry about it at all of I were you. She's just trying to bust your balls to test you. Hell I've even told women I was 5'5" before lol

Quantic316 · 2022-08-25T04:34:00+00:00

I was flirting with a waitress

She asked me how tall I am, I said 6’2

she said ew and walked away …

that’s a first

Injured_Fox · 2022-08-25T04:39:06+00:00

Biggest guy is always named tiny. It’s for comedy effect.

demirozudegnek · 2022-08-25T04:40:29+00:00

It’s a shit test, which is good because it means she’s attracted to you and testing if you can hold your frame. Pass it by not being bothered by it, which displays confidence in your own skin.

She probably wouldn’t say that if she wasn’t interested in you.

kingtechllc · 2022-08-25T04:49:16+00:00

Why do you care what she or others think about you? Only you know you.

yeetusfoetus324 · 2022-08-25T05:07:55+00:00

Fuck you man. I’m 5’11. Be grateful.

Temporary_Pair_5829 · 2022-08-25T05:20:37+00:00

pdxtrader · 2022-08-25T06:11:35+00:00

Learn what a “shit test” is. Women will say things to see if it rattles you. If it does you don’t get the pussy.

WhiteIncelRightWing · 2022-08-25T06:28:05+00:00

Maybe she meant small as in, you are weak and don't workout

YouGotTangoed · 2022-08-25T07:11:48+00:00

This is what they call a “shit test”

Connect-Pear-3859 · 2022-08-25T10:31:58+00:00

It's a shit test to see how you'd handle it and with the sound of it, you failed.

When a woman says to me I'm small and I'm 5 8, I turn round and make a comment like nice dress but I'd not wear it with such a big ass. Puts them on the back foot.

Then I move on to someone who's more approachable. This drives them mad because your not interested in them and they can't understand why 😂

Sure-Wish3240 · 2022-08-24T18:55:17+00:00

Yes you are wrong. You are a man. What others think about your height should not bother you.

Take a look of a post on r/tinder about a 5ft4 man about to rabbit climb a 6ft1 lady.

Superb-End6273 · 2022-08-24T21:43:26+00:00

YOU ARE WRONG and the fact that you were bothered by some bullshit shows that you lack true inner confidence to begin with... why do all you fucking men let woman form YOUR self image about yourself? And why the fuck do YOU let others define YOU?

Your problem is that YOU give a fuck about an opinion that really should be none of your fucking business. There's so many problems with the way youve developed your confidence up to this point that EVEN some bullshit statement like that can shake you. Maybe you are a just a nosy ass "small" dude who can't mind his own fucking business and wants to let other people's opinions define him.

Defining yourself, loving yourself, and minding your own business are my three pieces of advice to your "short" ass. If you don't define yourself others will and you'll be on an emotional rollercoaster(not a good thing) because if others say "your good" your nosy ass will give a fuck and be happy, when they say "your ugly" your nosy ass will give a fuck and you'll be mad.

(I'm using this comment to test the amount of fucks you[and anyone reading this] gives and show you all why you need to define yourselves so that things like this won't phase you... don't take it personally)

Liberaler · 2022-08-24T19:22:53+00:00

Don't question such trivial things. What ever it meant, it's not really relevant. No one likes or understands all the things people say about them.

Your ego has to become smaller! Don't take yourself so serious. An ambiguous compliment about your height, that was probably meant to be funny, if that's your biggest problem, then you are the luckiest man on earth.

Impossible_Yellow751 · 2022-08-25T01:47:51+00:00

I joke about my husband height he way taller than me I’m 5’6 and he’s several feet taller than me so I make jokes about it cause I know he’s so tall compared to me so if it bother you let her know that for me I make fun of my husband because I love him and he makes fun of my crazy antics so for us it’s a running joke for me I’m never mad at my boyfriend because he’s a sweetheart I like to be sarcastic cause for some reason he finds it sexy I use to be all lovely dovey with my boyfriend and call him all kinds of romantic stuff he didn’t like it so now I just roast him cause he. Lives for it

Alternative_Pin5925 · 2022-08-25T02:40:44+00:00

Next time that happens, just say “I may not be big but they always call back”

IEatAce · 2022-08-25T06:56:33+00:00

peduxe · 2022-08-25T07:31:54+00:00

Confidence is about knowing who you are.

Are you sure you don’t identify yourself as someone that is tall?

A one off situation shouldn’t leave you insecure about yourself like this.

reglurker · 2022-08-25T07:34:48+00:00

I wouldn't even be able to take that person seriously and would associate it with lower intelligence. I would find it funny. If you are bothered by that you need to do some serious self reflection and work on not having such a fragile ego.

Impulsive666 · 2022-08-25T09:17:27+00:00

Wow, looks like negging really works!

Raiders2112 · 2022-08-25T10:01:51+00:00

Yesterday I read where a 5' woman called a 5'7" man too short. Now I'm reading that a 6'1" man was considered small. WTF is going on with today's society. Seriously!!! What THE F!!? When I was growing up 5'7" was considered average and anyone above 6' was considered tall.

To the OP. I wouldn't let that mess with your confidence at all. Screw her. She's a petty bitch.

kona1160 · 2022-08-25T10:15:07+00:00

Small usually refers to muscle mass.... not height.... She would have said short if she meant height

What do you weigh? Do you workout? Being physically fit and having muscle is a good thing, and as much as people like to say women like dad bods they really don't, they prefer strong well built men, not weedy weak men. Anyone who tells you different has never been in a position where they are strong and fit

jack3dr00 · 2022-08-25T12:55:31+00:00

It's all relative. She could be calling you small compared to Eddie hall.

bradinthecreek · 2022-08-25T13:45:21+00:00

Jesus. Who fucking cares

Huemanretreat4000 · 2022-08-25T21:36:32+00:00

It was nothing more than a shit test. Treat her like a little sister just ignore them and laugh how illogical they can be lol. Learn how to be assertive in the situation. Take charge. Keep a masculine frame.

RearwindowPinecone · 2022-08-25T03:16:33+00:00

bro nowadays 6'3 is the new "average"

Title	Am I wrong to feel bothered that a woman referred to me as "small" despite being 6 ft 1?
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Upvotes	26
Comments	90
Date	August 24, 2022 6:17 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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