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Puzzleheaded-Life970 · 2022-07-28T10:14:34+00:00

When I realized that if I am just relaxed, masculine and proactive, I get tonnes of success.

magicfingers73 · 2022-07-28T09:24:16+00:00

I was completely honest with my intentions, not in the way assholes say it just to be cruel, I was very kind and respectful. Women also like the same things as men a lot of times too

sleepstages · 2022-07-28T11:54:09+00:00

I met a woman so incredibly beautiful, I thought she was way out of my league. I didn't even try to flirt with her, I just treated her like another person. I treated her like any person because I thought I would never stand a chance with her. 2 weeks later she was literally sucking my dick. Maybe it was just luck, but I learned the less you put beautiful women on a pedestal, the higher the chance she'll feel attracted to you.

no_not_this · 2022-07-28T12:58:08+00:00

When I was in my hoe phase and went to another country for a week and had sex with 4 different women from 4 different countries.

cronasminate · 2022-07-28T17:39:23+00:00

You don't seduce women. You simply help them along.

You simply get better at detecting who likes you. It's like getting closer to that "reading minds so you can see who likes you." If you can read body languages and know how to ping, you get pretty close. It's just a matter of knowing how to make women at ease and not trigger guards while you go through the escalation points.

If you can't attract anyone your skills won't go anywhere. It's like multiplying by 0 or 1. If you have nothing attractive about you to begin with, then you have no use. That's why the base practice should always be improving yourself along with your social skills.

iceking123 · 2022-07-28T10:28:55+00:00

My friend is 6'1 and I'm around 5'4. He has blue eyes, blonde hair, dad bod with muscles. I'm your average short latino, black hair and dark eyes, but I make sure I look good and clothes are matching for the occasion. I work out but not much to show it. Anyways, we went clubbing last weekend, a few woman hit on him but they left because he kept calling them his "girlfriends". Then they started dancing to the music while next to me. I noticed them and one of them noticed me and I smiled when we made eye contact. She started getting closer to me and kept touching my shoulders, then I told her "Nice moves". She laughed, hugged me, and starting dancing/grinding on me. Anyways, long story short, I socialized with a few girls there and left the club with 3 new phone numbers in my phone while he left with 0. He did say he grabbed some boobs on his way out though but I told him that's probably the issue they're not giving him their time. He's showing too much desperation early on. On our way home we stopped at waffle house, saw a beautiful woman and asked her for her phone number cause she's cute. He said I shouldn't do that because I can get beat up if she got a boyfriend. That's when I knew that I probably know more than him when it comes to getting woman. I feel like I know what works and what doesn't, maybe not for everyone but for me it works out.

kshades25 · 2022-07-28T14:29:31+00:00

The truth...

I think many of us cling on to this black and white version of the truth, in regards to dating. We yearn for our childhood assumptions to be real, but they aren't. While women are complicated, they respond to the same basic things we do. The only difference is, men are upfront with it, while women try to paint a mundane picture of what attracts them.

Once you understand that, you won' get mad at them for behaving and responding the way they do. Judge a woman on her actions, not her words.

Be yourself, don't take shit, don't hesitate, and learn to walk away. That is what I have learned from my transition.

ThorOden101 · 2022-07-28T16:58:18+00:00

well last week, I got to a party and just wanted to have fun. I had a long day, was tired and I would sleep in my parent's house so I did not have any sexual motive that night, stupid me right. well, I got there relaxed, outgoing, and laid back, and felt more confident with no outcome in my mind. And immediately I got the attention of two beautiful girls there. I treated them how I would treat anyone else. But they were trying to hit on me, I was soo confused because that rarely happens. well, I believe it was because of these things I said at the start.

geardluffy · 2022-07-28T13:13:24+00:00

Nothing works unless I don’t try

Stockholmroast · 2022-07-28T10:57:37+00:00

I realized I was on to something when I read up on seduction and then ended up at a girls house one night. At the time she was a 10/10 in my mind, so to try some techniques and end up at her house, I knew it wasn't just all talk.

yuckyuck13 · 2022-07-28T15:06:50+00:00

Unintentionally by working on being friendlier with people I see on any kind of regularity.

JF803 · 2022-07-28T13:35:50+00:00

I was always pretty natural but I would just take what fell into my lap. I felt like I had it figured out when I started getting the girls I was picking instead of the ones that just came to me

TH3BUDDHA · 2022-07-28T20:16:14+00:00

When I realized that you aren't improving yourself for women, you're improving yourself for you. Women just become a side effect of that. It's not about "seducing" women. It's about being yourself, finding women that are into it, and quickly moving on from the ones that aren't. Hit the gym, eat healthy, have hobbies that increase your social life, and the rest falls into place on it's own.

sidbunch6 · 2022-07-28T17:24:17+00:00

when i stopped trying to 'game' girls. Approach. see if she's into you. If so, escalate. If not, move on

as you say; 'not rocket science' lol

xiosy · 2022-07-28T11:14:47+00:00

My brain is saying one thousand things in my head to not approach 23 and I have approach anxiety without alcohol can’t do it Any Tipps ?

2022-07-28T17:42:23+00:00

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The_Sir_Galahad · 2022-07-28T18:03:27+00:00

Talking slowly and deliberately. You could say the most random things, but if you deliver what you’re saying in a slow and smooth manner it’ll put the girl in a trance. Coupled with strong eye contact and you got something.

freespirit1963TJ · 2022-07-28T19:16:02+00:00

Years ago when I was in the service, a buddy of mine invited me to a club. He didn't say anything about there being a third.......or wanting me to be a wingman. So he shows up with this tall, dark haired Cajun beauty. We all hung out, dancing laughing etc. I began to get the feeling that this chick liked me a lot more than my buddy. I decided to move it, we had had a few cocktails, slow danced and I told her how beautiful I thought she was. Bam a very physical 5 month deal. She got orders and was gone. It was terrific while it lasted.

ahillbilly97 · 2022-07-28T15:38:55+00:00

Becoming outcome independent was my biggest hurdle.

Going out to have a good time and not get women is the best way to get women.

ftdrain · 2022-07-28T12:11:39+00:00

I think some women are too easy to seduce and it makes the whole process boring. I came to this realization today laying in bed with a chick I invited out of the blue this wednesday, it was all too straight forward.

Theres little to no excitement in easy lays at this point and I have a hunch that its brains, not beauty (assuming an acceptable baseline, mine is 7) that make the difference, seducing a smart girl that figures out your shit is much more entertaining

Sumbuddyonce · 2022-07-28T18:23:29+00:00

When they started fucking me

burakbenxd · 2022-07-28T20:10:09+00:00

Few weeks ago, went to a bar. I'm not sure if it was my mental state. Random guy started buying us shots, but his friend was so hot. I decided to use my social skills to find out if they're dating. Established kino, got her number, subtly flirted. Few days later took her out. Few days after that she's blowing me..

So, really, it's the mindset, not giving extra attention over text, and being straight to the point. I don't want to rush having sex with a girl that isn't ready yet, but they'll let you know when they're ready. I'm super lax now.

Her words, "charismatic, confident, positive outlook on life, and sexy"

On one of our dates, she asked me to tell me about some traumatizing experiences I had. I responded with, "Well.. I was in a lab which I spent 8 months working on a project. My principal investigator thought I wasn't getting results, gave me an ultimatum. I took him on the ultimatum, and left the lab. But it was no issue because I quickly found another lab, and made great progress." something along those lines. There I demonstrated that I can easily get back up after an issue, and I'm not going to sit there like a bitch and cry.

burncushlikewood · 2022-07-28T21:23:17+00:00

When I got the confidence to go for the kiss and when I started university, I studied game for 4 years and I became a masculine force after high school

ahillbilly97 · 2022-07-28T20:25:11+00:00

Once pulled a sexy Russian girl from my resort’s lobby in Cuba using only the Google translate app

OLD is one thing, but that’s when I knew I had it

Broofturker71 · 2022-07-28T23:07:20+00:00

When I was at the point you just described, brother. Good work. The field is ready to harvest. Have fun.

Plug-From-Oaxaca · 2022-07-29T03:42:53+00:00

Work on yourself, love yourself, seduction is fake game. You attract what you are, if you value yourself and work hard on yourself, everything else will come easy, including people's attention.

Effective_Unit_711 · 2022-07-29T05:21:13+00:00

When I noticed I was just casually giving them more compliments while passing on by or striking up conversation with no expectations. The more often you do it, the more comfort you become in general with talking to women, which in turn will have you more relaxed.

Jasonhardon · 2022-07-28T11:58:27+00:00

Consistent consecutive successful pickups of 8,9a & 10s & actually it kind of is like rocket science sorry to break your bubble. A lot of technical stuff.

MentalCelOmega · 2022-07-28T14:09:24+00:00

None. Its all rigged to begin with. Lol.

2022-07-28T18:22:24+00:00

I realized that, when I had my first #fc. It went from approach to getting in her bed in like 90 minutes.

freddymerckx · 2022-07-28T20:25:32+00:00

Fukin A dude you should wear a cape

2022-07-28T19:24:40+00:00

Success

BigMacDawgyDawg · 2022-07-29T04:36:38+00:00

Once I realised the following works: Get to the bar, spot who has got good energy, make an impression for 30 seconds or so (sing/dance with her and her crowd) but before she has started drinking too much. Disappear for an hour but before she gets too drunk, jump back in and match her energy. You can hang all night then and take it from there.

life_long_learnerabc · 2022-07-29T08:30:13+00:00

Little bit of success not much.

What made me realize was "It's ok to be rejected", "It's ok to go home empty handed", "It's ok to fail"

Zealousideal6669 · 2022-07-30T08:36:44+00:00

if you sleep with multiple girls week by week maybe it's a honest sign that you're doing something well

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