Crush texted me that I look hot. She had rejected me a year ago. What do I do?

driller20 · 2022-07-08T16:37:31+00:00

Dont give any indicator of interest, just escalate logistically but dont assume shit, if it happens cool if not, cool.

bcool_returns · 2022-07-08T14:52:32+00:00

I wouldn't escalate yet. Key is to just receive the compliment. You want to leave space to allow her to reveal if she just wants validation or is really about it. So my reply might just be a meme or something chill like "Gracias"/"Gee, thanks"). Then you see what she does. No rush. If she now sees you as new and improved, you need to actually be new and improved. This means you don't just let people back into your life with no conditions.

Late last year I went on one date with a woman. Seemed to be quite solid but then she flaked out 2 hrs before the 2nd date. She basically she put me on the backburner ("a lot going on before the New Year") but then really started hitting me up early this year. Pretty sure it was just a case of another dude in the picture for a while. Anyway, my replies were short and sweet until one day she texted me late night saying she was at a bar down the street from me. Ultimately, I decided not to jump on that and it was the last I heard from her. Point is, it's up to you what you want to do, but don't start with the idea that you need to make moves. Give it time.

RedditorCabron · 2022-07-08T19:46:42+00:00

She ignored you when it suited her. She approached you when it suited her. She's gonna forget you when it suits her.

Quantum-117 · 2022-07-08T18:50:36+00:00

Bro let her chase you. She rejected you a time ago because your social value was low. You didn’t creep on her and walked away. Now she’s chasing you cause your value is higher. If you want this girl don’t ever chase her. Let her chase you! If you guys had a bond before it’ll come back. Being the nice guy NEVER WORKS!!! Unless you are being targeted by a narcissist. Get it bro! 🤙

Also you need to learn the texting game. I’m learning this myself. It’s not easy. A new relationship can get screwed up way too easily during texting. One rule I learned is match her energy in the texts. Mirror it. Don’t text back immediately. Wait like 5 minutes. If your busy doing something and she knows it, don’t text back. Wait till said activity is done. Then say “hey just got your text was busy doing _____” so and on so forth. Learn the game. Lots to learn on YouTube.

buddhistbulgyo · 2022-07-08T14:50:08+00:00

Give her a shot. See what happens. You might have grown out of liking her now that you have more confidence.

isisishtar · 2022-07-08T17:20:57+00:00

She’s got nothing else going on at the moment. You’re just one of the other fish who might possibly fill the aching gap in her life for attention.

p8orion · 2022-07-08T16:57:09+00:00

Something very similar happened to me... she rejected me -> i got muscles -> she showed interest. Arrange a date *at your place* with a stupid excuse, like watching a movie or cooking together, fuck her brains out and then keep her at a distance

Krouser1522 · 2022-07-08T15:10:37+00:00

It’s nice to get validation but if you weren’t good enough then and life happens and you gain some weight or you back pedal a bit in your confidence etc you are dead in the water

ComedianSquare2839 · 2022-07-08T16:51:14+00:00

Gold digger... Alert!!!

2022-07-08T18:15:10+00:00

Nah she had her chance, on to bigger and better

Only_Commercial_774 · 2022-07-08T18:45:53+00:00

It’s her turn to chase you now

jdog3406 · 2022-07-08T17:14:49+00:00

Text back “new phone, who dis?”

Dad7025 · 2022-07-08T17:50:54+00:00

"Thanks!"

SkatingOnThinIce · 2022-07-08T19:35:26+00:00

Fuck and dump.

modsRlameIRL · 2022-07-08T19:36:28+00:00

Bro trust me, bang her and leave her. She doesn’t like you, she’s lonely/ bored and thinks you’re an easy lick.

TRUST THE FELLAS YOU CAN DO BETTER

IratusHonestus · 2022-07-08T14:35:48+00:00

Block her and move on. Otherwise you're just another toy for her to play with.

Let's look at this logically. What is different now, that you didn't have a year ago?... She ain't interested in you man, just your stuff.

Snoo_23173 · 2022-07-08T16:34:29+00:00

Dear let me tell you a story, There was a man not, that rich. One day he went to a car showroom to buy a car. But judging him by his appearance, the salesperson and showroom owner overlooked and ignored him. He left without buying anything. Fast forward a few years, he became rich but now can afford a Lamborghini. Why should he go back to Toyota now?

shaolin_octopus · 2022-07-08T15:37:52+00:00

Respond “you’re just realizing that now?”, and then quickly follow up with a “haha thanks though, you’re looking pretty good yourself”

Confident reaction, followed by appreciation for compliment, followed by return of interest

Guigzi · 2022-07-08T17:31:20+00:00

your story is inspiring but i woulnt even talk to girls like that

Snakehead004 · 2022-07-08T17:49:24+00:00

What's up with all you ppl who don't talk to you partners?? My partner is my best friend and I tell her everything.

Maybe just talk to her like you talked to a bunch of random people lol

natron07 · 2022-07-08T18:33:35+00:00

I mean, let her enjoy the chase. Don’t play hard to get though.. bc u’re already ahead😄

xyvw · 2022-07-08T18:54:54+00:00

I wouldn’t even go for her honestly, someone who denied you and now only wants you at your best.

SausageDeliveryBoy · 2022-07-08T19:11:26+00:00

Fuck her dad.

cheddarbob01 · 2022-07-08T19:39:56+00:00

I don’t intend to be “toxic” or anything, but you should just let it play out and see where it goes. Don’t let it get serious or anything past maybe a hook up or casual dates, and definitely don’t get attached. I know you said there isn’t really much of a spark anymore, and it’s probably due to her rejecting you and you overall growing as a person. Don’t get too invested, play it cool. Plus I don’t know much else about you or your current dating life, but if you are currently seeing other girls at the moment, continue doing so. Nothing should change.

I had something similar to this happen to me and I’m happy I didn’t let it get serious. Take my advice like a grain of salt ultimately, just remember to always have your own best interest at the top of your priorities list, especially in dating.

Everlast23 · 2022-07-08T20:14:13+00:00

Never escalate over text. That should be done in person.

Chat her up and ask her out on a date.

CanUnusual8729 · 2022-07-08T20:18:39+00:00

She’s probably trying to see if she can still capture your attention after you’ve leveled up. Don’t immediately start to fixate on her again or she will get bored pretty fast. She may be reconsidering if she made a mistake by rejecting you and if you act the same as before she will be over it for good

CompleteRetard69 · 2022-07-08T20:56:48+00:00

Sounds like she’s waiting at the finish line for you.

DrewforPres · 2022-07-08T21:12:29+00:00

You upped your game to get better women and it worked. So enjoy that knowledge. I've given women second chances, but you need to ensure she knows things are different now. Just like Tommy in Goodfellas, "no more shoe shines". Make sure she proves herself before opening up to her again

100pervcent · 2022-07-08T21:37:03+00:00

Not gonna say “bang and leave”, but she’s not the one so if you aren’t gonna do that I wouldn’t entertain it. You’ve improved your life, and that’s good, but I assume you’re not a wildly different person at the core. If she couldn’t appreciate who you were before she won’t appreciate you now.

Majestic_Meal_5655 · 2022-07-08T15:39:06+00:00

What you do is ignore that bs. NC for ever.

iclap2fap · 2022-07-08T19:16:32+00:00

Bang her then dump her after, chad

m0ztDope · 2022-07-08T19:23:41+00:00

Bang her

Sandvicheater · 2022-07-08T18:58:16+00:00

Hit it and quit it

Zytinite · 2022-07-08T15:50:59+00:00

Leave it on read brother

WhoGotHunt22 · 2022-07-08T17:26:22+00:00

Recreational use only. Do not commit to her.

tdroylshy · 2022-07-08T16:38:03+00:00

Ask her what she's going to do about it and then wait.

12mixup · 2022-07-08T19:01:28+00:00

She might want something from u , favour or something, no need to water dead plant

recyclablebanthas · 2022-07-08T21:39:35+00:00

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Mc_Dickles · 2022-07-08T15:54:07+00:00

Give her a shit test

Grilled_Cheese95 · 2022-07-08T17:24:22+00:00

reveal your meat.

staier0 · 2022-07-08T17:33:37+00:00

If i were you i'd reciprocate the compliment and write something like i" funny thing, i have been thinking about you lately".

Girls have wild imagination)

Fluffy_Risk9955 · 2022-07-08T18:03:00+00:00

She just wants a slice of the pie. Why bother?

_pathak · 2022-07-08T19:00:54+00:00

Fuck her right in the pussy

cipox95 · 2022-07-08T19:25:16+00:00

Im definitely not in shape but either not fat. Always had consistent female Friends... I have more female than male Friends. I bond a lot in friendship, not ti mention with my fiance. Gym Is overrated

harpermack · 2022-07-08T20:00:27+00:00

You're 25 mate

Recktion · 2022-07-08T14:06:34+00:00

Another I am a loser post

dogeG9 · 2022-07-08T16:58:31+00:00

Thank you. How have you been?

See what she says and update us.

ZachMoore88 · 2022-07-08T17:37:27+00:00

You don't wanna get locked into oneitis, do you?

focus_flow69 · 2022-07-08T18:28:07+00:00

That makes us something we both have in common, let's talk about it over drinks 🤔

Keravnos- · 2022-07-08T18:53:11+00:00

why did you go to therapy in the first place if you dont mind me asking

vladtheinhaler0 · 2022-07-08T20:14:57+00:00

It all depends on the specifics, but I'll speak generally.

Either she is now genuinely attracted to you or sees your success and wants it for her self. It all depends on what kind of person she is which you would know better than internet people.

You said yourself that you didn't take care of yourself very much and were a "nice guy". It's may not be that you were bad deep down, but you weren't doing things for yourself women find attractive so why should she have been?

Now that you have invested in yourself and your life, it's not surprising she's interested. It may be she had interest in some of you, but not all. Now that you've taken care of yourself she sees you as more of the total package.

You just need to find out if the women who show interest are genuine and the kind of woman you want to be with. Don't fall into the trap many men fall in and be into women for the sole reason they are into them. You both have to have value and be valued for this to work.

Melissa_And · 2022-07-08T20:25:20+00:00

In the simplest terms, if she wasn’t into you then, she’s not into you now. Don’t fall for it.

luhvxr · 2022-07-08T21:04:17+00:00

just be like ahah thank u

SeanBatemanJr · 2022-07-09T09:38:06+00:00

A lot of over-thinking in the comments. Don’t over-think, offer this girl to catch up over coffee and test the waters.

Title	Crush texted me that I look hot. She had rejected me a year ago. What do I do?
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Date	July 8, 2022 2:02 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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