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sneaky_pete911 · 2022-02-12T15:33:25+00:00

Night game is fun when you want to start meeting alot of women. But like you said you can get into some meaningless situations as well (ONS that leads nowhere, crazy people men and women alike, bad habits such as lack of sleep, drinking alot of alchohol and not prioritizing other things, etc. ) I think that if you’re in it to learn social skills and possibly hook up with someone it may work out. Otherwise, you're better off just networking during daytime events.

TheMadShaman · 2022-02-12T14:58:28+00:00

I feel you man! The lifestyle definitely is unhealthy and takes a mental toll on you. Mostly it leads to just meaningless sex with chicks who won’t even remember shit.

Its fun tho if you’re with a wing who likes to give challenges and you keep leveling up, but more or less same meaningless shit.

The lifestyle itself tells a lot about people. Someone whos drunk 4 nights a week and is just clubbing and twerking, I’m noone to judge but their way of perceiving life definitely is too low.

I don’t wanna be with someone like that. I’d love to have good conversations, humour, talk philosophy and space, and grow. You get the vibe I guess. For that day game/social circle and those things seem better.

You can still use game and speed up those things and have an upper hand almost at all points of interaction and relationships.

Dm if you wanna talk 💯

faithinstrangers92 · 2022-02-12T17:42:19+00:00

Going to clubs only to pick up women, yeah I would agree.

Going to clubs/bars/venues because you want to be there outside of the women (friend's birthday party, a concert, dj, celebration with friends, etc) then you'll be able to enjoy the evening and the "night game" will just be an organic branch-off from the authentic reason you went to the venue to begin with.

Edit: Typo

rustoof · 2022-02-12T18:10:53+00:00

I agree. If you're not a borderline or full blown addict/alcoholic night game is really just frustrating more than fun.

hang-loose_bruhh · 2022-02-12T17:39:14+00:00

What’s an SNL?

NineteenAD9 · 2022-02-12T16:45:48+00:00

Clubs bleed you dry and rarely give you value comparable to the time and the money you spend. Lounges are cool every once in a while. Bars are fine if there's some games on. Clubs are for your 20s. Once you hit 30s, you gotta leave that shit alone.

The older you get, day game becomes more preferable. You're not going out with the mindset of anticipating to talk to someone, because you're going to places that you need to be at or doing things you actually like doing. It's much more organic. Plus, the quality of woman you randomly meet goes up.

always_stay_activ3 · 2022-02-12T17:35:07+00:00

Pffff the health part is where I realized that lifestyle is shit I got more girls in the running track and gym than at the bar besides in those places you get more centered women

greenwaffulz · 2022-02-12T19:44:31+00:00

If you *actively* practice pick up (i.e approaching girls you've never met), night game is a BLESSING. But if you casually go out 1 or 2 nights with your buddies talk to 2 or 3 girls and go home, night game does indeed suck. Most "regular guys" meet women through their social circles or the occasional online dating lay.

What pick-up artists do well is that they make it into a LIFESTYLE so it's enjoyable. The OG pick up artists actually went out SOBER, didn't drink or do drugs, and actually got sleep where needed as they were going out so often that they needed to conserve their energy. Otherwise, they would be broke, unhealthy and needy.

All those "problems" you mentioned, actually disappear if you actually "practice". I mean when you get 10 numbers in a night, made new friends, have a rotation of women you're sleeping with, do you really care that some random girl told you to F off? In fact, you become unfazed by rejections the more you go out. But make no mistake, approaching is a SKILL.

5_7pickup · 2022-02-12T21:44:43+00:00

Lols some nights i dont even think im doing game. Im just partying at this point

masmiester · 2022-02-12T16:13:05+00:00

Counter argument incoming: you don't have good game and are probably going to poor venues.

Seriously someone who is doing well will not say this.

As you are a little bit older, you need to avoid the 18 year olds clubs and go to the higher end venues, for the better quality women.

2022-02-12T18:00:15+00:00

I agree. Daygame generally leads to better long-term connections and it can be done in conjunction with other activities that enrich your life.

poly_nerdy_panda · 2022-02-12T22:48:48+00:00

hey man I'm 40 but can say clubs can seem like a big waste of time you have to find lounges or something that is more for "older" people like breweries, paint nights, coffee places, etc... If you want younger girls you will have to go where they go! I still think going to a club is a big waste of time.. maybe search "speak easy" or "low key" in your area maybe a bar ?.. I end up taking a child studies course at local college and invite everyone out i had 4 new girlfriends but just to much dam drama keeping them all. now I'm only dating 1 right now but might go back to 2

No_Raspberry3670 · 2022-02-13T14:36:50+00:00

I think OP is feeling like he needs to fit some kind of mould in order to have success which is ultimately what’s throwing him off. If he’d just relax and just be himself at the clubs and bars, that anxiety would probably go away and he’d be having fun doing whatever it is his natural self does to have fun. And that’s really all it takes. If girls see you having fun in the clubs/bars,… hell it’s not uncommon they’ll come up to you!

TrueBroccoli8 · 2022-02-12T19:43:31+00:00

It sounds like you equate nightgame with nightclubs. Nightgame is literally any venue you can find as part of nightlife.
There are a plethora of other types of venues besides nightclubs. You need to figure out what kind of venue you actually enjoy being in. Talking to women because you enjoy what's going on around you instead of inspite of it will do wonders for your success. For example, you like Spanish wine, tapas, and Flamenco music. You traveled to Madrid once in college. You go to a Spanish wine bar in your city with all of these things. You now have 4 topics to talk about with women there. Or you like art. Go to a cocktail bar that features local artists and hang out at an art opening and bond with girls over that. Or maybe you love playing air hockey? Go to a bar with air hockey and talk to girls at the same time while doing something you are good at.
This brings me to my next point. I disagree with other folks responding to you who equate nightclubs with providing ultimate truth. It provides the unfiltered truth of how you are perceived without talking (it's too loud), with bad lighting, by people who are probably inebriated enough that they are primarily making instinctual based decisions based on their primal lizard brains. It's too loud to have a conversation that plays to your strengths as an older guy which is going to be more based on intellect, experience, storytelling, and conversational confidence in how you banter and flirt.
So why nightgame? Because of intention. Whether it's a house party, or a bar, or an art opening, or a nightclub, this is the time that human beings are going out with the intention to potentially meet a mate. Not everyone is, but a lot are. They are out because they want to meet someone like you for sex, dating, or marriage. You need to be out at night so that you can provide that opportunity. So go somewhere that plays to your strengths. There's a whole world out there outside of nightclubs. Explore your enviornment and put the time in at venues where you most want to spend time regardless of the ladies, and then make that the terrain you master.

Woujo · 2022-02-13T00:50:15+00:00

What's the point of this kind of post? If you don't like doing nightgame, don't do it.

I always feel like posts like this are you fishing for excuses to give up. Most of the stuff you wrote about nightgame is not necessary. You don't need to drink, you don't need to do drugs, you don't have to go to expensive places, and you can wear earplugs. So those are just excuses.

Also, you should not use the existence of other creepy guys as an excuse to not approach women. The fact that other guys are creeps has nothing to do with you. In fact, it's good for you that other guys are creeps - by being the one non-creep that approaches them, you are like a breath of fresh air.

And no the girls aren't "uptight." That's you making excuses again. The idea that ALL girls in nightgame are uptight is fucking stupid and absurd. ALL GIRLS AT NIGHT ARE UPTIGHT? Think about how fucking stupid that sentences sounds. YOU CANNOT FIND ANY GIRLS THAT ARE NOT UPTIGHT,. Come on, man.

PaleontologistNo2785 · 2022-02-12T15:09:49+00:00

Its fun when youre young.

kyle_fall · 2022-02-12T18:53:59+00:00

Nightgame is a staple due to anonymity, volume, and rapid escalation being the norm. There is really only a nightclub where you can meet a girl and be fucking her in the bathroom 10 mins later. Mostly the goal is to learn the fundamental skills and to apply them to other areas of your life. Daygame is a great alternative if you don't enjoy the wild and degenerate part of nightlife.

I would say that nightclubs are some of the rawest and honest places in the world so thoughts like this

The clubs are designed to alienate you and make it hard to have a meaningful interaction with a girl, girls are uptight and irritated after the 10th drunken a*hole harrassed them, especially on the dancefloor - you can be the greatest guy in the world but they won't care as you're just a random dude. Or girls are with their social group and already have a guy in it they know and trust etc.

expose you by design. If you have bad game/are low value, you can have pleasant interactions in your daily life and think you're doing fine. Going to a club and getting brutally rejected brings you back to reality.

You aren't the greatest guy in the world mate, you're an average chump. If you were the greatest guy then girls would literally come up with a ploy themselves to ditch their friends to go home with you, I've seen and had it happen many times.

Welcome to brutal reality, enjoy your stay. Clubs are brutal mating grounds, they aren't cute places to look at pretty lights and have a few drinks with the boys.

Seppmeister85 · 2022-02-12T17:32:09+00:00

Your mindsets are screwed up guys

ForeverInYou · 2022-02-12T19:39:13+00:00

The best ones has a large open area with not so loud music or only the remnaiscent from the dance floor

2022-02-12T21:06:39+00:00

I was wearing my Pokemon shirt at the club last night. I was surprised at how many compliments I was getting. Eventually, I was on the dance floor a little past 1 when this little nerdy, Velma-type girl walked past and also said she liked my shirt. I thanked her and awkwardly held out my arms for her to dance with me. She leaned in, her friend came rushing over to "check" on her I guess. She assured her friend it was ok. I physically escalated a little, touching her in the appropriate spots. Eventually, we were sitting outside and enjoying a conversation about both of us being socially awkward introverts, but that I was trying to hide it. I ended up getting her Snapchat. She wants to see me again. It was the first time I even managed to get a girl to dance with me.

Distraughtsugardaddy · 2022-02-12T17:04:27+00:00

Agree pretty much. The only way to make clubs work in your 30s if if you own the place OR you come in with a crew of cool dudes and hot chicks and drop a shit ton of bottle service etc so that you are the main thing at the club. Birches will flock to your tables

Czekraft · 2022-02-12T20:10:15+00:00

It's a zero sum game, but going out to have fun with no expectations? That's a win-win.

djdante · 2022-02-12T21:33:08+00:00

It’s interesting so many guys see night game only as the strategy for one night stands….

I mean, yes that has been a source of the majority of my own one night stands. But it’s also been the source of two long term relationships.

I’ve also met some truly amazing women I would have dated had I been in the right head space.

I don’t drink at all myself - I’m 38 now and quit drinking when I was 21. I also would just night game from 8pm to 12am (unless I was shooting hard for ONS), so it wouldn’t mess with my sleep cycle much either.

It suits my personality better than day, some guys just prefer day, and that’s totally cool. Both have advantages.

But yeah just wanted to pop my hand up and say “hold up guys, night game isn’t only about super drunk girls and one night stands” and I’ve done night game in at least 30 different countries.

Dependent_Arm_6942 · 2022-02-13T01:52:00+00:00

Game isn’t real…. Why are you going to a club if you don’t like it? I swear y’all are weird.

baddog992 · 2022-02-12T22:02:15+00:00

"and sex is not even that great when you sometimes don't even know each other's name". I respectfully disagree. Sex is like bad pizza both are good.

I do agree that if your looking for a long term thing going to a club might not help. That being said I have known a few people who got together long term that met in a bar. I just think its rare.

dobbs1997 · 2022-02-12T22:03:49+00:00

It can be unhealthy but that depends on you..it’s not actually unhealthy, people make it unhealthy.

youcheekydelinquent · 2022-02-12T22:20:16+00:00

i never found it a good place to do anything but dance

reversedbydark · 2022-02-12T23:31:40+00:00

I'm not going out to a club or party to get laid, I'm going out to have fun cos I like dancing and drinking...it makes me happy, picking up a girl is just the cherry on top.

-Twyptophan- · 2022-02-13T00:31:43+00:00

I like night game. I enjoy going to the bars with my friends and I always try to make a few moves if I'm feeling like it. I haven't been going very long since I'm only 22 and COVID happened right before my 21st, but in the short amount of time I've done it, I've had some decent results. Went on a date with a girl I met at a bar, had the opportunity to go out on dates with two others, and made out with a handful. Logistics have been awful because I have to take a train to the city where all the bars are and I live with my parents, but that's gonna change once I move to a city in a few months

Night game is fun because it's low pressure, there's a lot of attractive women, and you can still have fun even if you don't have any success. I only get 1 jack and coke and nurse it all night so I'm not getting wasted every time and staying in good financial and physical shape. Not worth it if you don't like that scene, but I enjoy it

Principatus · 2022-02-13T02:00:53+00:00

In my 30s I always feel like I’m surrounded by kiddies at the club. Omg one time I went drinking with some younger friends and they wanted to do karaoke. They sang S Club 7, can you imagine? They might as well have sung the theme song for Barney the Dinosaur. That shit is for preschoolers, changemymind.jpg.

I don’t do night clubs anymore. Pubs maybe, for a game of pool. But not nightclubs.

binzera1 · 2022-02-13T02:23:11+00:00

Nah, man, you gotta find them yourself. But fear not; they are definitely out there. Just like younger women, you can find older women everywhere. Bars, coffeeshops, grocery stores, etc. You might wanna try dating sites whose user base skews older like Plenty of Fish or Match.com. I also highly recommend taking yoga classes; they've got lots of fit flexible milfs who are often more open minded than average. Because that's really what you need; an open minded woman.

It's stupid, but even in this day and age there's a huge social taboo against women dating younger men. You're trying to convince an older woman to disregard everything society is telling her and fuck a teenager. Therefore, it's critical that you demonstrate to older women that you are very mature for your age. So, to start, don't call them milfs or cougars; they're beautiful women and you are a man who wants to be with them. Don't approach older women wearing some cheap Star Wars t-shirt or reeking of Axe body spray or with a messy head of hair you haven't even bothered to run a comb through. Being a mature man means being well dressed and well groomed. You are in command of yourself. If an older woman is going to sleep with you it's because she sees you as a young gentleman rather than a teenage boy.

When you get her number, maybe your text game is so good that she just straight up invites you over for a fuckfest, but there's a good chance she's gonna wanna go on a date first. Don't just hang out like you might with a girl your own age. Take her out to a nice restaurant or cocktail bar. And wear a suit and tie. At this point in her life she's gone on a lot of shitty dates with middle aged man-children who won't even bother to get dressed up for her or take her somewhere nice. She will be blown away by how you're treating her with so much class. During your date, DO NOT BRING UP THE AGE DIFFERENCE. Just confidently act like everything about this situation is perfectly normal. You are a man and you're on a date with a beautiful woman who you want to be with. You don't give a fuck what anybody else thinks about it. Eventually, she will almost certainly bring up the age difference herself. Acknowledge that your age gap isn't what's typical, but you aren't the kind of man who settles for typical. Assure her that she's beautiful and that you are very attracted to her. Tell her that you're with her on this date because you want to be with her. And point out that if your genders were reversed no one would bat an eye. The taboo is hypocritical bullshit and the two of you are above that. Once you've successfully deflected the age gap issue don't ever bring it up again. Just enjoy your lovely date together.

Assuming, your date goes well and you're going back to her place or yours for sex, remember that this is big league grown up sex, not that amateur teenage sex you've had with your schoolmates. You can't just ram your dick inside her, cum in under five seconds and then think you're done. You need to make sure this woman has an orgasm. That means you have to put serious effort into the foreplay. You tell that woman just how beautiful she really is and you kiss and caress every inch of her gorgeous body. And, most importantly, GIVE HER GOOD CUNNILUNGUS! This is not optional, motherfucker. At this point in her life, she's been with a lot of lame unskilled men who didn't care about her orgasm and either only reluctantly gave her oral sex or even worse outright refused to give her oral sex. And suddenly here you are licking away at her clitoris with your teenage tongue. She will be SO GRATEFUL! Once you've given her an orgasm she will fuck your brains out as a reward. She won't just lie there like some inexperienced teen girl who doesn't know what to do. She will fuck you with a skill and passion that you have never experienced before. After years of fucking middle aged men who can barely achieve and maintain an erection she will absolutely love your hard throbbing teenage cock. After you cum, keep cuddling and making out and soon enough you will reap the benefit of your young body's brief refractory period. She will be amazed that you're already hard and erect again. Guys her age either take forever to get hard again or even worse are simply one and done. She will now want to take full advantage of your youth and vitality and will fuck you over and over again until you are both too exhausted to continue. But, you will have proven your worth to her. You will be her man. If you continue to see her she will fuck you with a fiery passion and teach you everything she knows. You will come out of this experience a far more skilled lover than when you went in.

One more important piece of advice. USE CONDOMS. Contrary to what a lot of people think, women in their late thirties and early forties can get pregnant. You're still a teenager, so your sperm are almost certainly very strong and fast swimmers. If anyone can get a 40 year old woman pregnant it's a teenage boy. You're just entering adulthood now; the last thing you need is to be saddled with a kid at this stage of your life. So, be responsible and enjoy the great sexual adventures of your life.

daybit95 · 2022-02-13T04:50:55+00:00

I’m in my mid 20s and I enjoy the nightlife. I occasionally go clubbing but most of the time it’s dating women. It’s fun and exciting for me. I have hooked up with girls at the club from time to time but my forte is tinder/instagram meet ups

2022-02-13T06:50:42+00:00

I usually just go to Bikini Bars and Lingerie Cafes. No sex but at least I can look. I should get better at gaming because only action I get is in shady massage parlors, but I've spent dozens of nights out with no prospects and it's definitely frustrating. I'd rather see eye candy than spend all night striking out.

mightymite88 · 2022-02-13T07:06:29+00:00

I'm 33, I still have good luck with night game. If you're "just sone random dude " then you're missing the point if game tho

If you dont like night game ; dont do it. Game can be applied anywhere at any time

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