Even when I act confident (body language, posture, walking with my head up) and dress well, I almost never catch girls on the street looking at me twice. Is that an indication that I'm not good looking enough for women? To be a ladies man?

Biggity1 · 2015-05-18T09:44:42+00:00

I'm learning that you shouldn't be or act confident so people will react to you. That's called being outcome dependent. Be confident and enjoy yourself because you are comfortable with who you are. Chicks will notice that; trust me.

jayhovaasmywitness · 2015-05-18T03:17:21+00:00

No it does not, people have shit to do during the day. The only way you'll know is if you actually approach some of these women.

nomdeanon · 2015-05-18T01:51:19+00:00

Pro-tip: looks only matter slightly. Think of it as a flash of wow, but quickly they need to know whether you'll meet their inmediate needs.
In a sea of beta AFCs, a confident and capable man rises above. Talent and skill demonstrated is an attraction multiplier. Many women are sapiosexual, demonstrate your intellectual prowess and fortitude of wit -- and you might have elicited the deep throb.

Some women have told me: "my pussy was throbbing after our first meeting... i couldn't wait to have you."

Objectively I'm not good looking: older, somewhat thinning hair, completely fucked up teeth, not muscular, pretty big gut. I do dress sharp, speak confidently, never apologize for my sexuality, and always pursue under the assumption she's attracted to me. Do i fail or get blown out? Rarely, do I lose some to the fade? Yea. But it only takes one to make things go right.

Take risks, accept that you'll fail, show your best characteristics, and be ready to roll with any comment she throws at you.

dednian · 2015-05-18T07:46:12+00:00

Well I have a bit of this problem too. Not in the same sense but even when I dress nicely and put an effort into everything I never see women check me out. However when I'm dressed that way with my friends, my friends will tell me that they were a multitude of girls checking me out. I think a key component of why you might not be seeing these girls looking at you twice is because they're looking when you're not. It's a hypothesis but that's the case with me at least, whenever you look at them they turn around or divert their eyes before you even see them.

GalwayUW · 2015-05-18T03:07:20+00:00

I'm a really good looking guy 8.5+. Whatever you think happens to good looking guys doesn't happen. We're not constantly bombarded with girls all the time. We still have to go out and initiate and put in the work. Everything is easier when you're actually doing that, but we have to do everything that normal guys do.

opelmanz · 2015-05-18T14:28:34+00:00

have you tried buying more shiny things?

TheLiminalGiant · 2015-05-18T01:14:44+00:00

Not good looking enough to catch their attention maybe. It doesn't mean you shouldn't go for them. You just have to work a little bit harder than the male models on here.

News_Bot · 2015-05-18T10:55:06+00:00

Never rely on girls to make the first move or sign of interest. Sometimes it does indeed happen, but the ball is squarely in your court. Take matters into your own hands.

lofiharvest · 2015-05-18T20:57:41+00:00

Have you ever been in a situation where you found someone attractive yet were afraid to talk to them let alone make eye contact? Of course you have! The same anxiety we experience as men happens to women. Just make a move. Stop trying to know the score before playing the game.

Zchex · 2015-05-18T08:05:00+00:00

Try to think of something slightly amusing and keep that vague smile on your face. Does wonders.

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bjlmag · 2015-05-18T13:32:42+00:00

It means you're not actually confident if you're asking this and acting like that. They can smell it from a mile away.

Also, people are way too worried about themselves to care about how you look if you don't even approach. Double-takes happen in movies. In real life, you have to approach.

BigBobbert · 2015-05-18T13:40:01+00:00

I've found that 90% of the girls I ask out already say they have boyfriends. It leads to this mentality of "well no shit she wasn't looking, she wasn't interested". It's rather hard for me to break that mentality.

penis_sosmall · 2015-05-18T14:07:27+00:00

Also... Keep in mind that they may be checking you out but are more sneaky about it than a guy is. I thought that girls weren't checking me out... Until I started going to the gym with my girlfriend and she pointed it out to me... That they are much more sly than we are, haha

routesixtysix · 2015-05-18T15:18:02+00:00

Honestly it doesn't matter what you look like. Sure if a girl thinks your hot it's a plus, but women are not like men, where looks are not the deciding factor when it comes to which partner they are choosing. There is a lot more to it. If you talk to them confidently, show them who you are etc. etc. then it shouldn't matter and you should still be able to lock one down. I'm no male model but I still got a hot girlfriend from some tips on this sub and me just being myself.

zephyrprime · 2015-05-18T16:07:59+00:00

When girls look at guys, it is only a brief look. It is hard for a guy to notice this shit because the looks are so brief that it is hard to discern them from just casual glances of people walking down the street. I'm willing to bet that lots of girls do look at you but you don't notice because the looks are so small OR the girls are looking at you only when you can't see.

Girls actually have better peripheral vision than guys which is easily measurable by a field of view measuring device like optometrists have. Hence, girls actually have a biological advantage over men that allows them to not be seen as easily when looking at guys! I was with a girl and she told me she was staring at me when she first saw me BUT she was doing it from a distance and she was only doing it while my back was turned. Another time a girl opened me verbally while I was shopping and I didn't even notice it because she was too casual and indirect for me to realize it. My friend realized it right away though. He later saw her staring at me for 5 wholes seconds BUT it was while my back was turned. Girls are NOT aggressive. They HATE acting out in the open. They HATE revealing their interest in a guy because they feel like they're being too crass and easy if they do so. Girls DON'T think that beating around the bush is stupid. They love beating around the bush.

Guys are just way more willing to stare at girls. I've tried playing the whole eye contact game with girls before but it is just bullshit. Girls will intentionally ignore you when you look straight into their eyes. Only very rarely will they actually play the game and return your look and then look away. This is why eye contact is actually limited in usefulness. Girls just aren't willing to be honest about their interest and they don't want to reveal to you that they want you.

However, it's wrongheaded as a man to even expect girls to be honest about their interest. The nature of the romance game is NOT about pairing off those people who like each other and who are compatible. Those are logical goals but the Romance Game is not logical. The whole nature of the seduction game is about getting the girls who somewhat like you into bed. However, the girls who like you will not reveal themselves to you directly and they will make themselves a challenge to you. The girls are not even certain that they like you! They will not make things easy for you even if they do like you! (However, the girls that DON'T like you are CERTAIN that they don't like you.)

The romance game is not like the job market or the economy where the participants are making decisions based purely on intent of getting the most they can for the least cost. The Game of seduction isn't really like any other sort of market or game I can think of at all.

romeopov · 2015-05-18T19:00:24+00:00

That doesn't matter. If you get caught up on your looks, you will lose self confidence and females will pick this up when you talk to them.

Everyone can't be Fabio so if you're average or below average looking join the club. When you approach a female it's about what you say and the confidence in which you say it. If you're worried about your looks you will be less confident and self conscious about your looks. You will be wondering does she find me attractive and that's the last thing you should be worrying about.

Baron-Barrington · 2015-05-18T20:32:50+00:00

How do you dress?.... do you comb your hair and groom yourself?...

You haven't given us enough information for us to really critique you or coach you.

primal-matter · 2015-05-18T20:55:48+00:00

Women are so much more discreet than men so it's normal you don't notice.

Spore2012 · 2015-05-18T12:36:40+00:00

If you stare at a girl she will look at you.

HdabKingberry · 2015-05-18T03:01:32+00:00

Ya man, sorry.

undniable · 2015-05-18T12:53:10+00:00

I'm slightly attractive. I catch people starting at me all the time. My issue is that these people include guys (gays) and old people. Shit actually creeps me out to the point that I get fucking angry.

I can't imagine how attractive women deal with the attention.

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