I accidentally simped EXTREMELY hard.

Parkandhuck · 2021-07-24T12:51:42+00:00

You don’t have to buy the battery….

Rachoeroe · 2021-07-24T12:54:28+00:00

Before jou do anything, tell her what it will cost her.

Pringles__ · 2021-07-24T13:23:22+00:00

Obviously she should expect she's going to pay for any parts. If she assumes otherwise, you don't want to go down this road anyway.

Axedroam · 2021-07-24T13:41:36+00:00

Chargé her for the parts, the labor can be a favor if it's not too much work. Plus you can even score a date if you play it right.

"It wasn't too much work, nothing a home cooked meal and bottle if wine won't fix"

Dabean_R · 2021-07-24T13:29:39+00:00

If she's not paying for it don't do it brother she's not ur gf your not obligated to buy here anything even if she was

cmj4120 · 2021-07-24T13:41:46+00:00

At this point, your best bet is to turn it into a date opportunity.

Before you start the work, tell her something like: this part’s on me, dinner is on you. I like [restaurant / type of food].

If she doesn’t give you a positive response, then I’d pull away hard.

Blackmetalpenguin90 · 2021-07-24T14:29:31+00:00

Tell her in a natural manner how much the battery will cost, so she has the opportunity to tell you "ok, thanks!" or "uh, I thought you'd pay for it?" Obviously, the 2nd one is extremely unlikely. If she thought that would be the case, she'll back out and ask someone else.

RealHumanBeing2021 · 2021-07-24T13:28:48+00:00

It’s okay to help her out but DO NOT allow her not to pay you.

SpookyKG · 2021-07-24T15:16:46+00:00

"Pick up this battery and let me know when you have it, and come hang out with me while I switch things out"

Ashamed-Height1106 · 2021-07-24T12:52:21+00:00

Just charge her for the parts and labor from the get go.

boogie_spookie · 2021-07-24T13:48:00+00:00

She knows. She knows you crazily simp for her. She knows you are willing to do anything for her for free. And potentially keep you distance from you later. Untill she finds a need to use your skillset again. Please have a bargaining chip brother. Master the courage. You can play this game if you try. Be careful.

ErnieJohn · 2021-07-24T16:54:55+00:00

$150 battery and It'll take you 1 hour equals 200 bucks. When you text her back this morning tell her it's going to cost 200 bucks.

This is the way to not sound like a simp you sound a little bit like a hustler or a guy just working- it's just business, you're making money.
This is the way to possibly get respect back, and may get you back to equal with her instead of simp status.

BlueCollarSinner · 2021-07-24T16:17:58+00:00

Dude she text you at 3am, was she getting another favor from another orbiter at that time? If I were you just tell her you'll do all that stuff but don't buy here a battery or tires or whatever. I remember a while back a women I knew asked me "hey, you know how to change oil on cars right?" I said yeah, "she's like can you do it this weekend" I said sure, just bring me the oil and filter and I'll do it. She then ghosted me the weekend as I guess she thought I would buy her oil and filter for free!

PaqS18 · 2021-07-24T15:17:09+00:00

How did you got her number anyways? You dated her before? Need more information. Is she someone from work/uni that you worked with before?

loofyd · 2021-07-24T15:03:00+00:00

Paragraphs of thanks ?

She insecure or what ?

If i were you I'd be a bit careful - looks are fantastic, great, alluring even - they aren't everything

Other people have given you some tips to regain your frame here - use that advice and report back on the sub

TheBYOBShow · 2021-07-24T17:25:33+00:00

She pays all fees. Not a dime should come out of your pocket. Girls do this to friend zoned guys. They will use you.

Andrewfairlane · 2021-07-24T15:24:27+00:00

Say something came up and you can’t do this anymore. Something did come up, a better thought in your mind and reality.

Moikepdx · 2021-07-24T17:21:33+00:00

“Wow. I must have been a bit wasted. I thought this was (insert someone else, sister, FWB, etc). I can still hook you up, but I’ll need $65 for the battery and $50 for my time.”

Hell, you can even grow a spine, skip the confusion part and just give her the $ damage news. You said she didn’t have to worry, not “it’s all free ‘cause I’m a sucker, baby!”

daysinnroom203 · 2021-07-24T17:21:58+00:00

If you ever plan of having sex - or anything with her, don’t ask where the battery is. One time I was in a car accident- Like 20 years ago. The guy showed up to help us get tires- and showed up a thermos of hot chocolate!!! That small gesture- I would have absolutely gone to town if he weren’t dating my best friend. Being thoughtful wins A LOT of points

chasingsukoon · 2021-07-24T17:43:00+00:00

Bro if u pay for the battery i wont be disappointed but just mad at you

hihi9888 · 2021-07-24T14:37:39+00:00

Labor can be free but keep receipt for the battery so she can pay

Ohhhwordddd · 2021-07-24T13:36:05+00:00

Prentwnd you got covid

heyoh79 · 2021-07-24T15:33:11+00:00

Hot female opinion here(😆😏)

you could say “hey, wanted to clarify something quick so we’re on the same page.:) I’m cool with doing the labor for free for ya but will have to pass on the cost of the battery to you. All good?”

Then you can shake the overly simp-y feeling, have some boundaries, AND not have to pay for a damn battery lol

If she says “uh not good to me” you can proceed how you want from there

Handsome_Claptrap · 2021-07-24T13:13:47+00:00

Do this in person: tell her she can pay you in nature, looking overly serious and staring her right in the eyes. After her reaction, laugh and say you are joking, that the battery costed 150$ (implicitly telling her she has to pay for that with cash) and that she can just buy you a drink for the work done.

MalibuProducer77 · 2021-07-24T15:04:42+00:00

Nope! Abort mission bro! If she really liked you she would be texting you at 3am saying "You wanna hangout sometime?" She's just using you when something goes wrong in her life! Like another post in here said, she knows. She's trying to use her sexual attractiveness power to make you do anything for her. We already know how this story goes. Plus you said she's a 10? Red flag. Leave her alone and date other women please. You'll be better off trust me. She's a scam bro don't do nothing for her, unless you getting something out of it if you know what I mean. If she reallyyyyy thought you were sooooooo "cute", she would've been hit you up saying when are you free to go do something together. Go out and date some other girls where you actually get something out of it. Reddit, help this man before it's too late!

creamyturtle · 2021-07-24T14:48:21+00:00

well if she sent paragraphs, maybe she is legit and actually feels indebted to you. get her a walmart battery and swap that shit, then act like you DONT want to smash. she will def let you hit it

creamyturtle · 2021-07-24T14:48:44+00:00

well if she sent paragraphs, maybe she is legit and actually feels indebted to you. get her a walmart battery and swap that shit, then act like you DONT want to smash. she will def let you hit it

chriipping · 2021-07-24T15:51:14+00:00

It's probably a good idea to do a girl a small favour like this, then you can go for the date. But like a lot of people have already said, paying for the car parts is too much. I wouldn't do that for someone unless they were a close friend and couldn't afford it.

d00b661 · 2021-07-24T15:53:55+00:00

There is always an opportunity, you just have to make it. In this case, you could of said something like "I'm going to be backed up most of the day but I'll be able to get you in over my lunch. Lunch is on you." and proceeded to see her reaction. If she pulled back then she was never into you in the first place and just using you.

Own-Pride-7987 · 2021-07-24T16:09:13+00:00

Don't let her take advantage of You

2021-07-24T16:32:19+00:00

Please help me understand this? Why, specifically, did you say yes?

IntroMystique · 2021-07-24T16:52:05+00:00

“Me, drooling over my phone” 😆

Maybe take it to the car-shop for her, handle all the fitting, drop it back to her, but tell her what sort of price she is looking at for the battery, etc.

I like to stick to my word so I understand the scenario you’re stuck in.

In the future, please be weary of incidents like this. A girl I used to like some years back would often text me asking for random things. A lift here, etc. But I always took a step back and never committed to anything I didn’t want to. It’s a hard decision to make but you have to do it.

There’s a lot more to my story, but it taught me to be aware of not only other people’s intentions, but my own.

pablodiablo906 · 2021-07-24T16:57:59+00:00

Have her buy the battery. Install everything. If she asks for payment say how about dinner and bottle of wine or something like that.

theprufeshanul · 2021-07-24T17:07:13+00:00

If you buy her shit for free she will never sleep with you. She may be a 10 but she also has ambitions and sets her sights high. She is deluged with interest do you seriously think she is gonna settle for an easy simp?

doomnoodle77 · 2021-07-24T17:10:37+00:00

Welcome to the friend zone.

ContWord2346 · 2021-07-24T17:14:58+00:00

Charge for the parts at least. Every man has been in this situation and unless it’s family you’re going to get soaked. She will have you in simp speed dial. If you don’t respect yourself or time she won’t respect you.

Jordan Peterson spoke about women not engaging in mutually beneficial friendships as a trait, they will manipulate and use a man whenever they can.

Sonik122 · 2021-07-24T17:15:23+00:00

You play it like a Docta you simp. You charge her for everything including your time. She’ll respect you more for it in the end.

Jimbobbly123 · 2021-07-24T17:33:24+00:00

Uh who said you gotta buy it? That's like hiring a plumber and expecting him to pay for the pipes. Hell you're not even hired.

Too late now but ask her where the battery is or pay for it and credit it to her. If you wouldn't do this for a guy then she's not special.

Unusual-Base-4939 · 2021-07-24T18:09:56+00:00

take service charge as well, just kidding, just tell, "I am not sure what is the current cost for battery and which of them you wanna buy , you wanna tag along" , make it a date

paulpro69 · 2021-07-24T18:13:30+00:00

Or she can pay with parts... (Batteries And stuff etc.)

FishyBricky · 2021-07-24T13:36:01+00:00

You offered to do a nice thing for her. You are helping out a person in need. I don’t see the problem here. Why did you offer if you aren’t going to follow through?

fat-girls · 2021-07-24T15:34:05+00:00

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PatientAssociation62 · 2021-07-24T15:24:41+00:00

Don't be too hard on yourself. We've all done it. Seriously man, we all have. I know I have. My mindset is "Every Day I Win". Your win of the day is you realized you simped. If she asks for more, tell her no and move on. When you tell her no follow these guidelines...

don't be aggressive

don't be passive aggressive (try to make her feel guilty or act manipulative)

DO get her to clearly and explicitly ask you for a favor and ask her to clarify what she wants you to do

DO firmly tell her no, that you would only do that for someone you are dating AND am intimate with

DO be short and succinct with her

Don't get hooked into a bunch of emotional bullshit with her and engage in an argument

Do it right and you may actually have a chance to turn things around with her in the future or find someone else.

Tabegonia · 2021-07-24T16:14:45+00:00

You said you’d do the work for free, not pay for the parts. Be cool. Bring the receipt for the battery. You don’t have to pay for that and if she expects it, she can go down a point or two.

creamyturtle · 2021-07-24T14:48:11+00:00

well if she sent paragraphs, maybe she is legit and actually feels indebted to you. get her a walmart battery and swap that shit, then act like you DONT want to smash. she will def let you hit it

daysinnroom203 · 2021-07-24T17:19:30+00:00

I mean….. as a woman, we’d be in love now- so I’m not exactly sure what the problem is……

Last_Bowl_3606 · 2021-07-24T12:54:07+00:00

Ummm would you rather she ask YOU to do it or watch her ask some other man to be the manly man she needs? She’s asking YOU, do it and look into her eyes and mouth while you’re around her. And you can just tell her that will be 150 dollars if you want, or you can just ask her out on a date afterwards instead and then become her bf. I’m sure she has the money for the battery if she bought herself tires btw.

AnOldSchoolVGNerd · 2021-07-24T15:38:36+00:00

If this is a true story(he named himself "fat girls", so I'm suspicious), then I hope you learn and never repeat this behavior again.

lightmightisright · 2021-07-24T15:39:34+00:00

Don’t beat yourself up. Go out and approach. Daygame and nightgame. You deserve and will find a 10 that thinks you’re a 10 too!

d00b661 · 2021-07-24T15:42:46+00:00

Missed opportunity to smash. Hulk mad, hulk not smashing.

VDKay · 2021-07-24T15:42:48+00:00

It's OK to be nice to people and helping them when in need. However, helping them out and simping are different things and you seem to be snapping out of it thankfully. Be sure to put on your boundaries as soon as possible and you won't be taken advantage of in the future.

What you can do now? First of all, don't act up all offended. You offered to help and that's what you are gonna do! Because a man is a man of his word! Take her car, get it to the shop, get the battery and swap the tires. Return her can and tell her how much the battery cost (make sure to give her the receipt). Don't ask anything for labour. Expect her to pay 100% for the battery or any other costs (e.g. if you were changed to use the shop's tools) (If she refuses, feel free to nuke her). Finally, also tell her that texting you at 3AM is not acceptable and ask her to never do it again.

She will most probably thank you profusely for all that work, so tell her to buy you a coffee instead. Confidently (as if you already expect her to reply positively) ask her if next Tuesday is good (say whatever date/time suits you). Playfully tell her to take you to a nice place and not some cheap-ass cornershop. Proceed with her taking you out for a coffee. If she does indeed think you are cute, this will go well

Aadith99n · 2021-07-24T16:22:57+00:00

Dude just take her with the car and give it out to the work shop and take her to some restaurant or some place have a date and she pays for it tho ( just send her estimate of how much it will cost as a reply) so it means she's paying for parts

2021-07-24T16:33:14+00:00

Lol, don’t buy the battery. Go over and see what the situation is, maybe she just doesn’t know which battery to get.

Look, I’ve had friends help me out with random car shit like this before so I don’t think it’s that weird unless you have other stuff you’re trying to do.

I’d setup a time, see if she can get a battery first and probably ask maybe if you can have some beers in exchange. Build that rapport. If you think she’s interested go from there.

If you really think she’s just using you, you can just act like something came up, but it sounds like she just needs a hand and is possibly interested in more.

2021-07-24T16:33:30+00:00

Also, I did not get "I will pay for everything" out if anything you said. Tell her how much parts and labor are.

ithinkoutloudtoo · 2021-07-24T16:33:42+00:00

I wouldn’t do it, because she is obviously using you. You fell for her trap. You can back out though, which I would do.

vze1fm8gn · 2021-07-24T16:40:44+00:00

Helping others is Ok. What is not OK is to help expecting something in return. Help, charge money if they can afford (and reasonable money depending on situation) and forget about it. If you are helping in the hope of a relationship or whatever, that is simping.

Helping someone is not simping.

CicadaProfessional76 · 2021-07-24T16:51:37+00:00

Do NOT do what some are suggesting which is using the favor to barter for attention/date. If she’s in to you and asking you for help was her way to signal interest, she will signal in the way she thanks you. Don’t ask her out, just be a cool about it, let her know what cost of battery is before purchase. If she’s in to you, even when you part ways, it won’t be the last you hear from her. Keep communication lines open if need be.

ahoytetra · 2021-07-24T18:18:58+00:00

Whoa seeing all of these losers trying to give advice on how to manipulate this girl or get favors from her is gross as hell.

It’s literally this easy: if you don’t want to do it, don’t do it.
If you have the means to help her out and would like to do it, do it.

I would not buy her a new battery. Absolutely not. It’s not too late to tell her you need the money for the battery and labor. It’s very possible that she was planning on paying you in the first place when she asked.

But whatever you do, be true to yourself and your feelings and wishes, and do not manipulate this woman into doing anything with you. Not only is that fucked up, but she will know that’s what you’re doing. You gotta respect yourself and also respect her, that’s the only way this will work.

Charge her the money, and tell her that you like her and wanna take her out on a date.

recyclablebanthas · 2021-07-24T18:20:36+00:00

1

A girl that I find is a 10/10 and I’ve heard she thinks I’m cute texted me out of the blue at 3am......

First off, assuming that you're not on some sort of graveyard shift or something, you shouldn't be answering texts at 3 am, let alone answering at the drop of a hat.

It's just a question of self-respect. Anyone worth your time can wait until the morning unless it's actually an emergency or family or something.

2

....asking if I knew someone that could put a new battery in her car and swap over new tires she bought. Me drooling over my phone instantly replied with don’t even worry about it, just give me the keys to your car tomorrow and I’ll handle all of it.

Yeah, that was definitely your self respect going out the window.

Like the level you just took it to, might have been reasonable for someone you have a very close relationship with. Like your wife or your mom or something.

Some girl you apparently barely know? Obviously you went over a line here. And that might affect how she views you now.

3

After waking up a little bit I’m now scratching my head wondering why I’m buying her a $150 battery and swapping tires over (I can do it myself at a shop I used to work for in an hour or so).

Did you literally say you'd buy the battery? Otherwise, no one would assume that.

4

I fucked up, but it’s to late to go back and cancel. I think I obviously have to follow through.....

Do you though?

That was the middle of the freaking night. Safe to say you weren't completely with it. Just get back to her with a fair offer more in line with your self-respect.

You can take her somewhere that someone else can do it. Like someone who won't rip her off? There's surely a way you can hook her up a little without putting yourself out by doing all that shit you think you agreed to do.

There's go to be some middle ground. Just talk to her. Explain you were half sleep and didn't realize what you texted. And that you can help, but clarify what that means and observe your boundaries.

"Taking care of it" doesn't need to mean you're putting on all that free labor and buying a battery, etc.

Title	I accidentally simped EXTREMELY hard.
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Date	July 24, 2021 12:36 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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