I think I know why some women ghost randomly even if it seems like you’re both enjoying yourselves.

Granny_Killa · 2022-04-17T14:30:26+00:00

Nope. Not in my experience. I had the best date of my life with a girl I know was perfect for me. She was even joking about what we should do 'next time'. I've had sex and relationships with girls before her where there was 1/3 as much chemistry and connection. We were out for hours. It was perfect.

And... I never got any response from her ever again after that night.

I sent more followup messages than I normally would (spaced out by a few days or a week), and I never heard a single thing from her ever again. I don't normally get oneitis but I somehow lost my wife there and I will never ever know why. All you can do is have abundance so you have more than 1 of these girls in your life.

(And she was still alive, because she changed her bumble photos several times before I gave up.)

hazrat_unmad · 2022-04-17T17:25:25+00:00

Some people are very good at putting on a facade. Just know you saw the facade and you liked it. Ghosting is her real self. People have issues. It's sad.

eszibit · 2022-04-17T14:41:14+00:00

Having so many options to choose from shows the shitty side of people, guys and girls. It's the same over and over again, girls complain about chads ghosting and guys complain about girls ghosting. Chads don't complain and are not on reddit, neither are the 8s,9s,10s.

Not think about how many people you met in real life and how many have decent moral values and are well grounded good people. For me, i'd say maybe 5% or 2% ? So now think about how many of these pretty girls that usually have a life of being praised and have everything just given to them ( look up the halo effect ) and think how many had to develop a good personality, morality, boundaries, self responsibility. maybe one out of 1000 or even less?

I have plenty of cute+ friends that are girls and the amount of shit they spew and mental gymnastics and crap they come up with when it comes to guys is unbelievable. Sadly with Instagram and all the validation that social media brings they all believe they deserve prince charming.

Long story short, she ghosted you cuz a Chad gave her some attention, will fuck her and she may or may not text you back after a while, there's nothing deeper there

vroomvroomski · 2022-04-17T13:45:30+00:00

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CocoBabeNYC · 2022-04-17T14:20:37+00:00

You are 100% wrong. A girl who is into you will chase you and make it easy for you to seduce her. Everything else is cope

newrisingsun70 · 2022-04-17T13:31:06+00:00

You could be right. But in the end it doesn't really matter, because you don't wanna be with such girls anyway imo

2022-04-17T21:38:02+00:00

Nope. If we stop texting it means we're not interested anymore.

Source: am woman.

kingofmylunchtime · 2022-04-17T22:16:17+00:00

Someone who’s being chased doesn’t want to be caught. A wise man once said.

I don’t chase anymore I’m happier for it. Not bothered if something doesn’t manifest and happy when it does.

Besides chasing someone will just give them the upper hand and kill any mystery to you.

Own-Peak-4464 · 2022-04-17T13:53:12+00:00

If I'm honest mate your not far wrong. I'm not discriminating here because all genders can be the same in this attitude and actions. I matched with this girl once, nice looking girl, started chatting more or less a sentence if that sometimes with a question always polite and added a bit of humour. Sometimes you'd get a answer. Other times it'd be left on read. Which told me I wasn't really what she was looking for. She had my snap and she'd put on her story some of her dates she'd been on which never bothered me. Then all of a sudden she sees some of the stuff on my story and for some reason she's always the first to see it and starts messaging me complimenting my projects I do and past times. Now I've seen she's added me to my private story. Girls can be like that sometimes and guys as well not discriminating here.

It is an attention thing and if I were you I wouldn't bother. Let them get on with it. This girl now I just do the same to her as she did to me I think it's rude and they're probably isn't any need for it but sometimes they maybe don't feel comfortable enough to tell the person how they feel or they awkward. I've always said things it how it is and some people don't like confrontation at all. But to me at the end of the day I'd rather be honest then lead someone on and waste their and my time really. Hope this helps

hagakurejunkie · 2022-04-17T16:38:20+00:00

Eh, I've been ghosted twice in my life, Both times were because an ex came back and she wanted him more than me. Don't read into it, delete the number and move on. If she ghosted, you obviously meant so little to her that you didn't even deserve an explanation.

Hairy-Profile-7092 · 2022-04-17T18:25:55+00:00

As a girl that does this , you are 100% right

joeyggg · 2022-04-17T19:27:39+00:00

Or she started getting serious with one guy and severed contact with the rest. Having a great time together doesn’t guarantee future dates. The heart wants what the heart wants.

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-04-17T20:25:53+00:00

Short story: I know this woman for awhile, I’m attracted to her and she knows it. She’s a bartender and very flirty ( yea, I know that’s her job) had lots of conversations and she asked me to put on new windshield wipers on her car. I said sure. Asked if she had them and she said no but she would get them, and she asked for my number. I gave her mine, she gave me hers. A few day passed and I texted asking how she was, etc. and if she got her w.w yet, or if she wanted me to get them. No response. Moral of the story: There is none. Women are a complete enigma. Btw- I still see her, she’s still flirty and she’s never brought up my text or her w.w. again.

ecish · 2022-04-17T22:48:43+00:00

Well I pretty much had the same thing happen to me just a while ago. Thought this girl was perfect and she seemed to feel the same. We got serious way too fast and I got all attached of course.

Then one text from the ex boyfriend later and she needs to “think about things”, never heard from her again. They were together for like 10+ years so I knew she wouldn’t choose me, but it still sucked. At least I got a reason before she disappeared, it’s obvious what choice she made, but it’s just annoying not to be told.

Each time I’ve actually gotten a reason before a woman disappears, it’s another guy. Ex, new guy, whatever. That’s just the way it is though I guess, everyone is just looking for something to improve their lives more. Hard to disagree with because most people would do the same in the dating phase.

RepulsiveCat1681 · 2022-04-18T09:50:33+00:00

in my experience it’s because women need a mystery. they can’t know you like them a lot and want to spend tons of time w/ them or want a relationship etc. i reckon they ghost coz they bored as they aren’t as engages in the relationship as you are, simply because; men fall in love quicker. never fully commit to telling them how you feel until you are dating, or else there’s no game. chasing them is a bad idea aha! literally,irl= don’t give too many compliments, say ur super busy but you want to find time to see them again (even if ur not), & gas yourself up when you talk about yourself. This doesn’t mean, when she tells you something great in her life you downplay it, imo giving fewer compliments makes them more powerful. When texting never reply instantly, be subtle w/ texts & i would even stay away from talking about your feelings. this is what i learnt. i had the same exp; lovely girl, wonderful date, then couple weeks later ghosted, simply coz verbally i moved too fast. i could be wrong in ur sitch, but ik i’m not wrong in general.

froze_gold · 2022-04-17T20:43:38+00:00

Haha, yeah girls loved being chased.. by men of they don't desire. Good ol' validation.

Don't fuck with girls who play the pull-card too intensely that you have to seek them out.

Some aren't even playing a game. They just lost interest. Either way, let them go and be completely indifferent.

The truth is that girls act upon what they feel, and what they feel comes and goes. When they lose the tingles over you, it's game over. When you make em feel a lil crazy then they're yours... For now (She's not yours, it's just your turn)

Sigh.. Hence my continued single status. I don't need to invest that much for nothing. I can play the short term emotional game just fine with a girl up until it peaks and drops off when they don't get commitment out of me.

LandscapeClear1630 · 2022-04-17T15:31:50+00:00

Nah, it's because women are usually cowards and won't say why they are doing it to your face or even on a call or a text message.

daddysgotanew · 2022-04-17T23:46:33+00:00

No. You just weren’t good enough for her. When you’re Chad, women do the chasing

Genderneutral_Bird · 2022-04-18T02:44:56+00:00

Disclaimer, I know this might sound like an attack, but I don’t mean it that way. I am genuinely trying to give you advice here on what you’re doing wrong, but it’s the middle of the night and I don’t really have the mental energy to phrase it all nicely, so sorry if it comes out bitchy, but the point stays the same

There are a few reasons why women ‘suddenly ghost’; - You’re not what they are looking for, either in time, affection, love language, hobbies, etc etc - You offended them with something you said (for example seeing them as a sex object and a prize pocession to go after) - They found someone else - They were very busy but when they finally had time to reply you were already done with them - You’re not a match for them

Reasons why girls don’t just tell you any of this (not having time, not being a match, finding someone else); - They are scared to be murdered after they reject you, especially if you mnow where they live - They feel you are not worth their time to explain because you are a dick/mysoginist etc - They didn’t have time - They didn’t wanna hurt your feelings - Anxiety (especially in introverts), not knowing the right words to say, being scared of your reaction, or again being scared to get hurt or even murdered

You said you ghost women too, just think of the reason you ghost women, and you will see why women ghost you. The fact that you don’t see women as people but as objects to be won, prizes to have, is exactly why a lot of people would not wanna be with you.

If I was your match and saw this post you made, that is exactly why I would ghost you. You don’t respect women, you just want to get them, like they’re some kind of prey item. Start seeing women as humans with feelings just like you, and maybe then you will actually have a good time.

Also, btw, you said ‘even though the day before she was very affectionate, talkative, and happy’. You can’t fill out her feelings and emotions for her. For all you know she was terrified and just wanted to get out of there but had no idea how to do it without you coming after her. Too many times when women reject a date, the men are like ‘EVERY WOMAN ALWAYS REJECTS ME, I HATE WOMEN, I HAVE TO BEAT HER UP TO PROVE HOW WRONG SHE WAS IN ME’. That’s the thing most women are afraid of happening, so if she was uncomfortable with you, she wouldn’t say anything and just sit it out and hope you would accept her excuse of ‘I have to work early’ of why she isn’t coming back ro your place.

Real life example from my life; I was dating this very nice person, and we were having a great time, the dates were nice and the sex was good, but at one point they started talking about how rape culture isn’t a thing, and how their friends would never rape or sexually assualt anyone, how I was ‘hating on all men’ but being scared of them, etc etc etc.

Gone it was. No more trust in them. From their first two weeks of being ‘yeah I respect your body, we don’t need to have sex, everything on your time, id you wanna stop anytime just say so’ they went to ‘no rape culture doesn’t exist, not all men are like that, you have to change how you see the world, men wouldn’t hurt you, that isn’t rape/sexual assault, stop hating men for no reason, you’re stupid for thinking men would just rape you like that, I don’t need to ask anyone to kiss or touch them’ etc. They’re still a nice person and I liked hanging out with them, ht I can never trust them again. The fact that they think these things is so wrong, and tells me they too would sexually assault someone, and then talk about it as if it were the girls fault. ‘But she was wearing a skirt’ or ‘she shouldn’t have made me horny’, stuff like that.

Hungry_Ad2210 · 2022-04-17T14:56:47+00:00

To continue OPs question, is it possible that someone has talked bad about you to the girl amd then she leaves you on read? Do girla let themselves be influenced in that way? Help beacuse we don't know what we did wrong

notLOL · 2022-04-17T16:49:26+00:00

This is why light negging works. It puts the ball in her court to respond.

Otherwise if you are her type you don't even have to neg.

introsetsam · 2022-04-18T00:53:56+00:00

it’s not “oh i want him to chase me and not he isn’t so i’m bored”, it’s “he’s showing absolutely zero interest in me and doesn’t care to hear from me so i’m not going to waste my time where i don’t feel like i’d even be missed”

mistandfury90 · 2022-04-18T01:34:53+00:00

Nope, it’s usually an incompatibility issues. I went on a great date Thursday but he doesn’t drink and I just can’t be with someone who won’t have a glass of wine with me. I know it’s ridiculous. I told my sister and even she thinks it’s dumb to cut someone off for that. I’m NOT going to ghost bc I’m older/more empathetic now. But if this was 22 year old me? I’d feel too dumb to be honest and just ghost. The only other times I’ve ghosted was guy with bad hygiene (how do u tell someone they stink?) abs guy with feminine voice (he turned out gay so I was right about that).

Visualize_ · 2022-04-18T02:20:15+00:00

Some girls will play games but ultimately if they were very interested, they would put a pause on the game and reach out, double text, ect. I would even say the guys that girls allow for this chasing behavior are the guys they are ok with friendzoning and/or have low interest anyway.

MikeAlphaGolf · 2022-04-18T03:44:43+00:00

Ghosting is just an easy way to avoid an uncomfortable conversation. That’s all.

If you’re going no contact after you get ghosted, which is almost always the correct play, then it might at least leave a bit of mystery about you, which can lead to her coming back later.

Chasing someone who either explicitly or covertly tells you they don’t want you, is always going to lead to negative emotions on her behalf, even if occasionally it might work. On those occasions it’s likely to be for a lack of other options more so than any kind of witty or charming text or Snapchat you sent. It’s never a good place to start a new relationship from because the frame is 100% with her.

FaithInStrangers94 · 2022-04-18T04:06:44+00:00

I think a lot of strange behaviour can be explained by the fact we aren’t rational

TheMorningJoe · 2022-04-18T04:12:25+00:00

If they really wanted to they would stop the games so by your logic if anything them ghosting me is doing me a favor lol

incognito3107 · 2022-04-18T06:16:59+00:00

Most likely she is not seeing any future with you, despite your date thereotically went pretty smooth. You didn't hit the right buttons, your vibe is not on point with her, you are not compatible biologically, there is no natural chemistry, your duo is uncapable of breeding strong emotions and interesting experiences. I believe that dating for girls is mostly just like collecting memorable, pleasurable experiences until they want to calm down, pass their genes and play family game.

Sara196 · 2022-04-18T06:29:35+00:00

“For a while I was baffled as to why would a girl stop replying to my last text, even though just the day before she was very affectionate, talkative, and happy. “

Just the day before? Then she’s not interested, and I’m sorry this happened to you. It sucks. However, if you say that

“Also sometimes I do take hours upon hours to reply (not on purpose I’m just busy). Something tells me that they feel as though I’m not giving them enough attention so they withdraw even if they like me just to see if I’ll contact them if they go cold. “

I am one of those women, even I really like the guy, if I don’t feel like the vibe is reciprocated I hold back and eventually stop contacting at all. Unfortunately, when he is finally available, it might be already to late for me to give him another chance, you know? Also sucks.

2022-04-18T13:28:14+00:00

Sometimes it's just her ...

hagakurejunkie · 2022-04-18T20:02:49+00:00

Think of why you would ghost.

You're out, you meet this new chick, she's a total fox, fun and sexy and everything you want.

You had a great time with her, you exchanged numbers and you're looking forward to seeing her again.

Then you get a text from your ex-girlfriend. Yeah, THAT ex-girlfriend, the one who you had the best sex of your life with, the one that could make you laugh with just the way she crinkled her nose. The woman you thought you would marry until all that bullshit happened that caused you to break up.

She tells you she's single and she REALLY misses you and she desperately wants to see you and she's headed over your place RIGHT NOW!

She stays the night, and the next night and the night after that. You fall madly in love with her all over again and nothing could be better.

until.....

You get that text from that total fox you met a week ago, asking you to grab a drink tonight.

How do you tell this new person "Hey, you're cool but the love of my life just came back and I'm going to go be with them. You're cool but sorry!"

So you just decide that anything you say will just hurt them, so you say nothing and decide to ghost.

Title	I think I know why some women ghost randomly even if it seems like you’re both enjoying yourselves.
Author	renny811
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Date	April 17, 2022 1:20 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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