Hello everyone! I am really happy because few days ago I reached a huge milestone for my self-development and my sex-life. So I wanted to share this experience with you guys, and tell all you late bloomers out there that with consistent work, it is possible!

A little bit of background:

  • Male, southern European, 33yo. Engineering degree. Good job. Renting my own place. Have a car (Though IMO, none of those really matter anything).

  • I consider myself relatively un-attractive. I am short (5'6" on good days) and not a great face either. I keep my wordrobe a bit unconventional/flashy, but everything is good-fitting. I am relatively slim (more like skinny-fat I suppose) and have moderate-severe scoliosis. I am currently doing PT to fix these. I used to lift but stopped because it worsened the scoliosis. IMO, fixing my posture was way more effective at improving my looks that it was building muscle.

  • I have been really struggling with girls since teenage years. Had massive school crush for 5 years who never even acknowledged me. Then got unrealistic crushes with various girls, even at late 20's. Through my 20's I did go on several dates which I sucked, or got ghosted. Looks never was my strong point so I sucked on dating apps as well.

  • Like every average frustrated champ not having as much sex as he'd like, I have been hanging around r/seduction quite a lot. TBH, all the seduction and pick-up stuff helped a lot. I feel that techniques, and lines, and date games, and all that are fine, and everyone involved in seduction should know them because they can spice things up and give you a guideline on what to say/do when your mind blacks-out completely, and also give you a pretty straight idea how flirting works and what exactly is the role of the male in the relationship. However, I feel that at the end of the day, what makes a person interesting is his inner self, his values and, most importantly, his intelligence and sense of humor (and nothing of these can be learned from pick-up books). Mark Mason's "Models" and "The subtle art of not giving a fuck", and also "How to win friends and influence people" were really the most impactful and helpful stuff I have read. Of course the change didn't happen overnight

  • Over the last few years I picked up some social hobbies (social dancing, language class, group PT), which helped tremendously with becoming more social and self-calibrating all my social interactions by helping me get out of my head and decreasing the feeling of being judged by others. I had to essentially re-learn several social cues and how to behave like a grown up man (you could say I am a very-late-bloomer)

  • Never did therapy of any kind, never took any type of drugs, never visited a prostitute. I just constantly pushed myself to get out of my comfort zone

  • Last time a girl saw me sexually was like 1 year ago. We dated for a month or so, but I was such a pussy and didn't fuck her, and she had her own set of issues as well. She ended up ghosting me. I did go to a couple of dates since then, but I blew them by being in-decisive and/or awkward.

OK now to the fun stuff:

  • Met an OK girl at a party (like 6/10). 23yo. I talked to her (I admit I run a couple of lines with her), teased her, build some comfort and a bit a attraction and eventually took her number. Immediately she was very receptive and investing a lot (texting first several times, wanting to strike up a conversation, etc.)

  • I proposed coffee and she agreed in an instant. We talked for like 2 hours or so. I went for the kiss and she was receptive. She turned out to be an avid hugger/kisser and she got more and more investing. 2 days later we went out once more and after the date she came to my place and we had sex. We met again last Saturday and she slept over as well. So I had sex 2 times already (3 if you take into account the wake-up fuck as well)

  • I didn't tell her it was my first time, but I wouldn't mind telling her, had she asked.

  • Sex was pretty much what I expected it to be. It was a bit awkward the first time, but overall a great experience! I am not a very experienced in female sexuality, but IMO, she had a great time as well. Well, I consider that soaking up my sheets is a plus, right?

  • Now she is super-investing, texting me good-morning and good-night stuff. She really likes me and she is communicating it in every way. I must admit this is a great feeling considering I was alone all my life! I am planning to keep going as long as it feels good, but I do want to keep experiencing around, because I feel like this is the beginning of my sexual life and not the end. I tried to be pretty clear on this part from my side.

  • The fact that I am not super attracted to her makes me act so much more relaxed. She even told me herself that the most attractive thing on me was/is my confidence and my chill.