My game is literally nonexistent, how would you start from zero?

WeaselRobot · 2024-04-20T11:45:32+00:00

Start from the beginning. Try only saying "hi" the next time you see a girl you like. Then just leave if you don't know what else to say. That's already better than what you are doing now. Do it enough times and it won't feel like a challenge anymore. At that point move on to something just a teeny bit beyond, like noticing something about her clothing and adding a compliment to the hi, then just leaving without asking for anything in return. Once you are comfortable with that, challenge yourself to start short conversations. Then longer ones. Then introduce basic, classic game techniques into your conversations, DHV, negging, push-pull, false disqualifiers. There are more steps but with that you have homework for months (and you'll get your first results). Then you can come back and ask for more.

It's a long process. You're young. Take it one step at a time.

kingofgamesbrah · 2024-04-20T12:08:48+00:00

You're blessed man. You're 6'2, it's a nice physical advantage most guys don't have. I can't go to the gym and get taller.

That said, start with the two things you mentioned. Your mindset and eye contact. One is easier than the other so start with eye contact. For both of these I'd suggest just doing it all the time. When talking to people men or women, look at their eyes. It might feel weird at first but it's something you should be doing anyways. We tend to look at what we're interested in / focused on.

As for your mentality, slowly change that. It will seep into your subconscious and you defeat yourself before you even try. It's easier said then done. As to how, again I'd suggest by talking to more people, men and women. Forget flirting, that will come in general just get comfortable talking to people.

TheSnake1313 · 2024-04-20T12:14:34+00:00

Change your focus man. The vast majority of PUA shit is focused on getting the girl, so you can prove yourself you're a real man. Reality is exactly the other way around. You don't have self esteem. First, love yourself. When you're happy just being you, you just stop thinking about getting a girl to make you happy. And you'll notice that happy people have an easy time attracting people.

I have some friends who are really good at picking girls. The only thing they have in common: they are extremely self confident. Kind of, they'll never doubt about themselves, even when things go wrong, they are absolutely sure they made the best thing possible.

Now the real problem is: some people are naturally self confident, some are not. I am not. You are not. I don't know exactly what causes the difference (a complex mix of genes, early years experiences, education, relationship with parents, I guess...). But we have a real hard time in everything we do, just because we lack self confidence.

Can self confidence be learned? If I was about to sell you some "course", I'd say yes. But the truth is I just don't know. The only thing I can say is: change your focus man. Work on yourself. Not to impress others, not to get girls. But for yourself. Because you deserve your love. Good luck.

V4NC · 2024-04-20T09:20:45+00:00

Just start by trial and error or read a book and practice the things in real life

LovingAwareness888 · 2024-04-20T13:24:06+00:00

if you really have 0 skills then my advice would be to completely disregard the idea of getting a girl to fuck you for at least the next 6 months. try the mindset of literally denying yourself even the thought of "seducing" a girl. instead, set your goal for the time being to befriending a girl. by the time you're good friends with this girl, you'll be in a way better position to actually seducing someone - you have no social skills to leverage right now

the thing you need to focus on right now is de-alienating the entire female gender by spending enough time (platonically) with girls so that you don't put them on the pedestal before you even talk to them (this took me personally around 3 months)

burncushlikewood · 2024-04-20T09:43:21+00:00

You need a full overhaul, personally I was like you, but this was in high school, I turned it around. How? This community, reading books, working out, implementing new techniques, writing field reports after approaching. I was super driven cause I absolutely love women, and I love sex. I will link a free pdf from my favorite Pua at the end of this comment. I basically studied female psychology for 4 years, and when I learned about mystery method I always had good communication skills, but I didn't have the core inner game the patience, and the confidence to approach and close. You're in university so focus on doing well in school, use this time in your life to make new friends and meet new women, ask women around campus out on dates, heck ask if they want to study together, if you help these girls with their schooling it may lead to sex, reminds me of the scene in limitless where Bradley Cooper first takes nzt I'll link the video thought it was cool https://www.academia.edu/26492146/Vin_DiCarlo_The_Attraction_Code_id610645886_size https://youtu.be/2TEAG4Fxhkc?si=S5JQfmIiLwt65oKV

BonjourComeBack · 2024-04-20T10:29:18+00:00

Okay i would Say :

inner game (it ruissle down on the outer game and help with shit test)
teasing and humour
push pull
shit test (women will test how you react to see if you are confident)
escalating (Kino)
women are usually attracted to "powerful" men. Statut, Confidence, physical strength, skill, etc

There are other stuff but that the fundamental Imo.

Focus on one thing at Time.

Tibo_Bones · 2024-04-20T16:05:33+00:00

I will list some of the major points that helped me improve/give results the fastest!

1) Be confident (and assertive): Being confident in yourself and being able to stand up for yourself, call out rude behaviour, being able to make plans without texting for weeks are all important things that will help you in dating but also in general interaction.

2) Look at rejection as a learning experience: It is better to just go ask that number/someone on a date and get rejected than not asking at all. You will learn why people say yes and no and learn to have a good pace.

3) Dress well, smell good, and have good grooming habits.

4) Texting is a tool to set up plans, not to have full conversations: While this might be different for some others. I think that texting should be kept for logistics only (in the beginning of dating someone). Especially if you need to practice your social game.

5) Talk less, listen more: You would be suprised how easy it is to keep a conversation going if you listen to the other person and just ask deeper questions on the topics they are mentioning. If someone says they like music, ask which genre or artist for example and why.

Will add other points if you want, you can dm me as well if you have specific questions! Always nice to help someone out that is starting this journey!

ChoiceTank · 2024-04-20T09:10:19+00:00

It's very simple my friend. What would you do if you didn't know how to ride a bike? you find one and you start trying. But maybe you still don't have the peace of mind to cold approach so what I would do is start working on that mindset and get you to the point to at least start taking action

SoKawaiii · 2024-04-20T14:56:37+00:00

This is so funny because I was JUST like you only a year ago. I'm 6 feet, had never talked to any girls, had never even held a girl's hand at this point. I moved to NYC last year and now I've went on many dates and have two bodies (not a ton but I'm pretty proud), but I did lowkey cheat because I scheduled all my dates through Hinge (so my approach game still needs some work haha).

When I started going on dates, it was terrible. I didn't know what the fuck I was doing. I didn't know how to flirt, how to lead, how to not be boring, shy asf, all that. What helped? Just doing it.

Probably not the advice you wanted to hear, but it's what worked for me. The more dates I went on, the more I was able to up my flirting and seduction game. That + watching some YouTube videos (not the typical crap, there's some actual quality out there) is pretty much it man.

You're 6'2 and you consider yourself above average looking. You're bound to find someone who finds you attractive! So if you're not comfortable with approaching, get on the Hinge my boy. Since you're in a university, it shouldn't be too hard to find some matches.

Good luck out there :)

Kryptomatter · 2024-04-20T16:21:22+00:00

This might seem immoral, but have you considered dating down to get some experience? Shouldn’t be hard for you being 6’2”. Most the time, when you date down, you hold the power in the relationship and the woman will give you plenty of sexual experience, validation, and confidence, especially if she knows your market value is higher or even much higher than hers. Just be clear with her that you’re not looking for anything serious or long term.

Your story sounds almost exactly like mine from my high school and college days. The only way to improve is through practice and experience. The easiest way to become experienced is to stop being so picky. Stop looking for the woman of your dreams and just start somewhere, anywhere. These days (37) I’m a completely different person. Mostly cool and confident around women and the success tends to happen naturally.

You want to be confident and they want you to be confident. With confidence comes all the other traits that are desirable. It all stems from knowing who you are and being secure in it. You’re stuck with yourself forever. If people don’t you accept you, then you move on. They’re not worth your time.

Finally, I suggest the book “Models” my Mark Manson. If you’re an over-analytical thinker like myself and you like simple, intuitive rules and guidelines to follow, rather than pickup lines and surface level nonsense, I highly suggest it. The answers start to seem so obvious. Plenty of “ahhhh” moments in that book.

jonnywishbone · 2024-04-20T14:55:47+00:00

Read The Sex God Method by Dan Rose - not in print any longer but plenty of pdfs of it on google. Totally changed my life with women. Once you're confident at sex, your game will take care of itself.

robml · 2024-04-20T16:48:34+00:00

Prelim questions: are you in a position during your uni to dedicate time/money/energy for dating? A lot of cases usually are because of a lack of one of those 3.

If so, what makes you think you have 0 chance with these girls?

perpetualomerta · 2024-04-21T00:45:57+00:00

the more work you put into yourself, the less work you have put in for women.

can you run? eat right + do cardio to stay lean.

stay well groomed and well dressed while pursuing your dreams. stay well mannered and respectful.

don’t waste your time on bs and don’t waste your semen. and don’t chase.

gradually, the women around will notice and will be drawn to your glow.

Turbulent_Cry3134 · 2024-04-20T20:06:17+00:00

You only need good looks, this pua shit don't work

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-04-20T12:45:13+00:00

You have an advantage. You can start with a clean slate so you ain't dealing with over-information.

Focus on one word: polarity. The physics behind how magnets function that we all learned in 1st grade.

Common poles repel, opposing poles attract. This concept will steer you into what to say and how to behave in a natural way.

Write down the behavioral traits that you value and look for in a woman, and for each trait write down it's opposite. You just wrote down the blueprint for what you have to become. It might seem harsh at first but it will be fun for both you and the girls.

Potential_Virus_8704 · 2024-04-20T17:39:22+00:00

I started a weekend job bouncing. Helped network and flipped the script, had girls approaching me. Great way to earn a bit of extra bob and put yourself In situations where you’re social

ayesee345 · 2024-04-20T22:47:31+00:00

Don’t worry about your game right now. A good strong foundation going forward is the key to anything and everything when it comes to getting into dating/rel/sex w women. First off, you need to change the outlook asap. Don’t be negative, feel bad, or put yourself down bc of where you are and def don’t tell yourself you have no chance w these women. Do the opposite. Find, grow, and take pride in your strengths. Tell yourself you are worth it and deserve companionship & pleasure. Repeat it to yourself in your mind all day, put it in an alarm notification on your phone, or write it on your walls if you have to. This is the start of of focusing on getting over your shyness.

Next, make sure you are eating healthy & exercising. This is the other side of the coin to improving your mental health. Even if for now it’s just moderating or cutting out certain shit foods/drinks and taking a short 30-45 minute walk everyday. Make sure your appearance & hygiene are always the best they can be, esp in public where you’re most likely to be around women. Breath mints & cologne. Keep up w your grooming habits & wardrobe. Always keep a sharp haircut. Dress sharply & w effort regardless of the setting to show you are aware of & care about your appearance. Remember: look good = feel good.

Finally, get over the approach anxiety. You’re in a uniquely advantageous position to practice by being at a university daily. Remember, forget game for now. Right now this is all about conditioning & just getting used to the feeling. Start w going up to women everyday and saying hi, giving them a unique compliment, say that was all and keep walking. You don’t have to stop and make it like you’re going to talk at first, just do it in passing. When you feel comfortable enough, then do it by stopping and introducing yourself. Even then, you don’t have to talk, just add those things but still finish w that was all and walking away. It doesn’t even have to be a woman you’re necessarily attracted to either, it can just be an older woman at the grocery - but def don’t start relying or leaning on this and begin avoiding the ones you are attracted to, they should still be your overall focus.

Start the approaching TODAY/TOMORROW. Day 1 - do this w 1 woman. Day 2 - do it again. Day 3 - do it w 2 women. So on and so forth. You’ll eventually find your own pace & groove. If you fumble some, GOOD, get used to it so you can get over it more quickly and start focusing on why you did & what you can do to improve on it.

That’s it. Do this everyday until you lose count of how many times you’ve approached a woman. Look forward to the screw ups so you can be motivated by them, learn from them, laugh at them, and improve. Remember, when it comes to a lot of things in life, failing continuously is the only way to get good at things. Eventually you’ll be comfortable enough that you can do more than just introduce yourself, give them a simple compliment & walk away. You can elaborate on it, follow it up w questions, introduce humor here & there depending on the circumstance, and the real current goal: hold short small talk. Once you feel you’ve made enough progress with all of this, come back here & start researching how to hone that small talk into more intriguing, humorous & flirtatious directions that also include your own unique personality & style.

Hope this helps. Good luck.

xxBryGuy420xx · 2024-04-20T16:07:55+00:00

I hope this helps- go onto youtube and search, "a.g. hayden" and watch his video about "social anxiety". As a person who also suffers from social anxiety this particular video helped me understand to begin with small steps, such as simply saying "hey how are you" to attractive women and walking on. The concept is called "touch and go" like when an airplane goes to land, grazes the runway, and throttles back up. I started doing this in stores and on the street and it's helped boost my confidence. Next, start watching more of his videos as well as channels, "playing with fire", "todd v dating", "ultimate man project", etc. Also, begin reading books on the subject. I personally use Audible because I can listen whilst doing other activities, and I can absorb more material in less time. Most importantly, push yourself, but only in small doses at a time. Just being able to say anything to an attractive woman was a HUGE step for me and I still get anxiety. I'm trying to desensitize myself to the feeling of panic. Let us know how your journey is going, and disregard any haters, they're just jealous anyway.

sir_coltonius · 2024-04-20T22:35:52+00:00

Work on your style first, join subs or Facebook pages with designated places for people to critique your appearance. Nice cologne as well. This is what the kids these days call “rizz.” Rizz also has to do with how you carry yourself but if you work on your look first it’ll boost your self confidence and put you in the zone. This seems like a mountain but it’s really a molehill. After you get the rizz down join some dating sites and work on text communication. Then you move onto asking girls for their numbers. It’s really not that hard this coming from someone who had low expectations at 27yo coming out of a divorce with two kids. You got this brutha

sumimigaquatchi · 2024-04-20T22:56:27+00:00

Start with daygame or night game?

MaskedXRaider · 2024-04-21T01:30:20+00:00

Let go of being bitchless my brother, embrace your singularity and they will flock to you. Embrace the desire with most content but do not dwell onto what you are now. You’ll attract the right person when you’re doing the right thing for yourself

cgonzalez364 · 2024-04-21T02:26:23+00:00

https://youtube.com/shorts/HyRdhpBN894?si=x7O79Hv7Nt1x4OcT This is best advice you can get. Start with the hi, practice listening or pretending to listen, remember for every step you take 2 back. You want to test that girl if she will meet you at your expectations never let her take walk lead.

dobbs1997 · 2024-04-21T02:50:05+00:00

what’s your definition of “game” ??

BMagic98 · 2024-04-21T04:10:22+00:00

Talk to women and try to learn how to understand women. Understanding women is an art, and once you understand them and your empathy is competent everything will clear up and seducing them becomes a lot easier

bigdawg363 · 2024-04-21T04:56:24+00:00

Read The game and then read The Mystery Method

slaphappypap · 2024-04-21T07:23:09+00:00

This is the hard way imo, but it worked for me. You’re going to have to just be direct with women you like without trying to flirt (since you don’t know what it means to you). Eventually one will give you a chance and you might get to spend a few months or so with her. Through this you will find your flirting style. One day you’ll realize you’re flirting without even trying. That’s how it worked out for me at least. I took my flirting style out into the world and I flirt with almost everyone. I just incorporated that into my personality, and it has worked fairly well for me.

Anxious-Ad-3406 · 2024-04-21T09:13:40+00:00

Sometimes i see some girl that i really like, shes exactly my type then i get really sad because i know that i have 0 chance with her because i dont even know how to talk to her, what to say. Like how do i even get to meet with her without looking like a creep?

See this right here is why you have no ‘game’. You believe you have no chance with this girl because of your social skills, and as a result you give up anyways, but you haven’t even tried to talk to her, and you don’t even know her. For all you know you could’ve been her type, but you will never know that because you didn’t take that leap of faith. The reason why you can’t talk to girls is because you don’t even have faith in yourself, and this negative outlook on yourself will only hold you back more. You need to change your mentality towards women and social interaction.

As for talking to girls, you don’t need any sort of game. Girls are people like you and me. They have their own feelings, unique perspectives and life experiences, so they’re no different than you. When you look at it like this, it makes conversation way easier because you’re putting them on an equal level rather than on a pedestal. Just talk to them normally and it will flow naturally.

Usually when guys say they have trouble talking to girls, they have trouble talking to people in general, and in my experience the guys who told me this were always the shy, soft-spoken ones. If you want to get comfortable with girls, you need to get comfortable with people first, because girls are people as well, and so those skills will translate over. Despite your fears surrounding women, you need to gain real experience talking to them. To do this, you need to put yourself in positions where you can talk to people, like part time jobs, volunteering, clubs, social events. In my case I used to work at a thrift store as a cashier. It sucked in the beginning but over a year the confidence I gained was unreal. I went from not being able to open my mouth to speaking loudly and clearly with customers. There were a lot more female customers than male ones, which also alleviated my anxiety towards them. I had many attractive customers but I got so used to talking to people that I never saw them as ‘attractive’ but only as ‘customers’ first.

I hope this helps

epimpstyle · 2024-04-21T09:35:22+00:00

Just take baby steps, don't bother with concepts and theories that explain how women think and stuff like that because it just creates headaches and every new concept you read is a new obstacle for you. (For example, if you read that women think emotionally and men are logical, it will just make you think what you should talk to them about, but actually is a BS - here is no need to be philosophical and touch their sensibility, also if you read that you should keep eye contact, this is another obstacle because keeping eye contact without talking is another BS.)

Is hard to explain in a few lines what to do, but if you wake up in the morning and walk down the street thinking about your insecurities, your home/job problems, what are the chances of you wanting to talk to a stranger? For this reason, you must feel good (listen to music, dance, sing, laugh with your friends, etc.), because this is how you begin easily. To enter such a state alone is very difficult, is just hard to start.

By talking i mean trying to flirt and stuff like that, i just dont know what to do, what to say

Forget about flirting, because you don't flirt when you barely know someone. The main goal when you talk to a girl is to get her phone number because you need this to set up a date if you want to see her again.

i notice a girl straight up looking at me for some time but i cant hold eye contact

Why do you want to hold eye contact???? Do you want to prove something to you or what? Eye contact without words = you are a weirdo! If you notice the other person looks at you for 2-3 seconds, just start talking and say something.

An approach is an easy thing if you act like a human being and forget 90% of the concepts widely spread in seduction. See this VIDEO talking with two girls in Ukraine, but in the end they were a group of five, however, you will not see PUA concepts here, it's just an innocent talk and building from there All people are friendly, nice and polite. If you are also like that, they like to talk and laugh with you.

jarod544 · 2024-04-21T10:36:06+00:00

Welcome to the modern world of dating young man. My personal cheat code is to read mark mansons book. Models. He goes very en depth with what you are feeling and how our mentality plays 80-90% of our interactions. Remember. Most interactions we have are not verbals. That’s a small % your level of confidence and self confidence plays massive parts of having smooth comfortable interactions. Start with eye contact. Get used to looking at people and knowing that you are there to be a help to them and enjoy each others time. Then slowly move toward speaking genuine compliment. flirt like hey I love your shoes. Or wow that’s a nice that. People love compliments when they are given out of abundance.. Let your creativity shine in the way you show you appreciate people. Let fate and a mutual like for that person guide you after that. And never get in your head that you are bad for finding someone attractive. That’s perfectly normal human behavior. But it tends to haunt us as men if we see opportunities to do something but let fear win. Can’t sit on the sidelines and expect things to get better. Go out! And definitely try to boost your mood with some form of exercise. Best way to regulate your confidence and your feelings is usually tied to body health for men. I’m so sorry about the thyroid. Exercise helps regulates your hormones so a good natural confidence boost is usually in the form of exercise 3-4 times a week. Make mistakes. Be brave and and do good bro.

GetRektJelly · 2024-04-21T10:46:45+00:00

Simple suggestion: In a non weird way, examine what others are doing when they make social interactions with others. Observe body language and if your close enough observe how they the conversation plays out. Who’s leading the convo? What’s the vibe between the two? Are they enjoying each others company? What kind of discussion are they having? Talk to anyone and everyone you perceive as approachable and practice your people skills. It’s gonna be uncomfortable and difficult to do but it’ll help you understand how to handle all kinds of social situations.

Complicated suggestion: Work on yourself. Can’t go to the gym cuz if your doctor suggesting you don’t? Ok, shift your focus onto what you can do. I’d start by figuring out what styles suit you best, and pick out what you like(from the clothing you wear, to the hair style you choose). You’re over 6’0 so you’re already ahead without any effort(head up, shoulders back, chest out will do you wonders, walk with confidence and people will notice). Get a hairstyle that you like and that suits you. Think of all this as self love more than anything. This will help you a ton with self esteem. Oh and btw, thinking you have 0 chance with a girl you see, hate to break it to you but you already lost having that mentality. Think highly of yourself and your energy will change.

I was just like you man, 6’5, skinny and with low self esteem. Once I got a job at 18 I began improving myself, since I had my own money. Bought clothes and found styles and outfits that worked with my body type, found colognes I enjoyed, found a hairstyle that worked for me, after realizing I was becoming who I’ve always wanted to be, my energy changed. I walk with purpose, I talk with confidence, and when I come across a topic I’m unfamiliar with I keep an open mind and listen. Once I understood that not everyone is gonna like me it became so much easier to just be me. I can talk to anyone and not get so nervous anymore. Although I get nervous with pretty girls, I still keep my cool and push thru. Because staying in your comfort zone won’t do you any good. Eye contact is powerful. Master it and you’ll notice so much.

climbingwaffles · 2024-04-21T15:02:33+00:00

Confidence. You might not be everyone's cup of tea but if you be yourself, confidently you'll always win.

Consistent-Rest977 · 2024-04-22T01:13:26+00:00

I'm a 30yo (M), good-looking, hit the gym 4 days a week, use to do modeling and tried hard for 2 years to improve my game but made almost 0 progress, and now I suffer from depression because of all the rejections caused by dating apps. My advice for you is: learn to live with yourself, take care of yourself, find yourself a passion (for me it's singing), adopt a pet from a shelter, and don't look back. You don't have to be in a relationship to be happy.

BravoPUA · 2024-04-20T13:31:42+00:00

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Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2024-04-20T10:26:10+00:00

First steps.
If girls are making eye contact with you then you are attractive and you are nearly there.

Practice on people in the service industry.
Talk to people. Old people love to talk.
Talk to 3 girls a day. Either salespersons or random.
If you do that things will be better.
It takes a lot of effort to become good at this.

norwegiandoggo · 2024-04-20T11:29:00+00:00

You can learn what to do and say from books and this subreddit. Or you can learn from guys who have success with women by observing what they do in real life. But at some point you just have to try.

Agitated-Camel-4983 · 2024-04-20T13:42:49+00:00

Join a social dance class.

Valak191202 · 2024-04-20T16:29:05+00:00

Read “the game” of Neil Strauss or “the secret” of Erick von Markovick (mystery) that books are interesting and would give you a good beginning.

eablokker · 2024-04-20T18:34:57+00:00

When you’re starting from zero there are so many things to work on that you could probably start with anything. I don’t think anyone truly starts from zero, that may be a negative exaggeration, and that my be something to work on right there, is to stop making negative exaggerations about yourself. In order to know where to start you need a truly accurate assessment of where you are now, what your strengths and weaknesses are.

Also how do you know you’re starting from zero? Did you have some experiences that made you feel like a zero? What happened?

So my guess right now is your biggest weakness is inner game. You can work on your beliefs about yourself and your place in the dating world, your negative self talk, and positive visualizations of a series of successful steps towards dating.

But also identify your strengths and lean on them. What are some of your best qualities? What are some things about you that women might find attractive or lovable?

Any_Essay8459 · 2024-04-20T19:53:47+00:00

You are 6'2. You should be fine. The only obstacle is yourself. Little by little focus on taking down your mental barriers. Difficult for tall guys with good mental health and confidence to not get laid.

FluidEnd7479 · 2024-04-20T20:18:12+00:00

An advice I want to give to anyone is the following. It is something so simple yet so powerful to know, and sometimes I forget about it too, wondering why sometimes I feel like the Man and sometimes I seem like a total noob. The thing is, the more you go out, the better you become in social situations. That's it. If you want to have game, like it or not, you have to go out often. Go to parties, grab a beer with a friend... Just stay with people as much as possible, and your social skills will automatically improve. You cannot expect to get any good at game by going out only once in a while. You would just feel awkward and shy and inadequate. This is exactly what I was feeling trap to recently. I personally don't like to go to parties and nights out, and I like to stay by myself. Anyway, I was wondering why it felt so hard to approach girls compared to before. And the sole reason was that previously I was going out much more often. That's it. So, my point is: go out as much as possible, interact with people, and your social pressure and awkwardness will vanish.

d0pey911 · 2024-04-20T10:01:15+00:00

If you really don’t know anything and would like to improve quickly, hire a coach. Somebody credible who can teach you the basics, take you out to do approaches and critique your behavior. Its either that or you can poke around in the dark and hope you improve over time, but if you’re serious, find a good coach who is respected/successful at teaching game and pay them to train you.

ismail22002 · 2024-04-20T19:48:27+00:00

You are 6'2. Aside from your own mental barriers you should be fine.

The_rock_hard · 2024-04-20T11:14:14+00:00

Do you have any male friends?

MJStruven · 2024-04-20T19:06:48+00:00

If nobody likes you, then it's only uphill from here. Just talk to people. Worst case scenario they still don't like you, and ml you're still in your same position.

You'll learn some interpersonal communication and learn about yourself along the way; you'll learn what works and what doesn't. This will build your confidence and give you success over time.

The greatest barrier will be your ego, once you get semi-decent at it, since now you have a ways to fall down. Keep an open mind to getting better, and you will.

Affectionate-Ant4888 · 2024-04-20T19:30:33+00:00

hmm let me guess, computer science or software engineering lol, hmm man, I know the feeling right, but here is the thing, if you are focused and determined you can make great progress in one year, so here how I would do it;
torrent the book from Neil Strauss the game, read that book at least 10 times, believe me, you might want to skip the theory and just go to the nuts and bolts of things, but you 've never even held hands with a girl, so don't skip the theory lol, ignore for the meantime all other stuff out there, there are a ton of coaches and stuff but just go for the best content on the topic, and start with baby steps like other comments say, begin by opening a group of girls, ask for an opinion, then when you are pass that, work on keeping a conversation, then creating value, then dating, then going for the kiss, tada tada, it's a long road ahead but just take action and don't get discouraged.

ThroatFinal5732 · 2024-04-20T20:52:39+00:00

Hey mate, don’t worry we’ve all been there. I’m a guy with Asperger syndrome so believe me, I know. Here’s what worked for me:

Step 1. Self-Love and Happiness: This is the hardest part, but it’s essential as it is the backbone. Focus on being happy with your life as it is now. Be happy to the point where you don’t need women or any external validation. It sounds counter-intuitive, but the less you NEED women, the more you’ll be able to attract them. Start doing things that make you feel good: - If you need it, go to therapy. - Go to the gym. - Do more of the hobbies you like. - Find a goal or dream you’re truly passionate about and begin working on it.

Step 2. Overall Social Skills: I think the reason many people find PUA content unhelpful is that, most authors don’t understand that many of their readers lack the basic social skills, and thus end up saying or doing something cringey when following their advice.

So before focusing on women, focus on being an overrall friendly and likeable person. I always recommend the YouTube channel Charisma on Command. Their videos are short, fun and have practical advice.

By this point, the process should feel fun, and exciting rather than something that gives you the nerves. Because if step 1 was successful, you would already be happy with your life, and all social interactions should feel like a game.

Step 3. Read/Watch Pick-Up advice: By this point, NOW you can focus on women, and with enough social experience you’ll be able to separate the crap from the gold when reading advice.

Teacher_Of_Strength · 2024-04-20T22:12:17+00:00

Go out and socialize. Start small and work your way up.

I'm at the level where I can safely flirt with female co-workers. I don't get to sleep with them though, but I can flirt and get away with it. lol

Just research some funny, popular, Gen-Z jokes and start sharing them with random people everywhere. Do that and then come back to me.

Title	My game is literally nonexistent, how would you start from zero?
Author	idonotcareanymoreq
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Date	April 20, 2024 8:44 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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