Ring

probebeta · 2024-06-05T23:31:36+00:00

One thing I did right with my ex was to not spend much money on that ring 😅

Emotional_Lettuce251 · 2024-06-04T05:13:44+00:00

You gave it to her as a gift BEFORE you were married. It's hers. You can ask, but the fact remains that it is hers. Besides, it's not worth $3k anymore. At most, somebody might give $500 for it. One of my best friends for the last 30 years owns a couple of pawn shops. Some of the slimiest people you'll ever meet ... lol.

gorillavstiger · 2024-06-03T19:21:03+00:00

I recently sold my ring online, was great to get it out of my house.

Mesothelioma1021 · 2024-06-03T15:37:53+00:00

My ex-wife insisted on keeping and added that as part of our settlement lol. $6k down the tubes; my guess is she hawked it.

BaldieGoose · 2024-06-03T12:16:56+00:00

Dude unfortunately the ring will get you suuuuuch a tiny percentage at resale it's not worth it. I sold my platinum and diamond men's wedding band for less than $1K was the best price I could get

Timely_Froyo1384 · 2024-06-03T11:34:25+00:00

You want the honest truth that ring holds no to little resale value, just like the marriage.

Kreepykev1 · 2024-06-03T08:27:39+00:00

Thanks all for the comments, I'll probably just say fuck it and not worry about it. She's already out so I doubt she'd give it back any way. I'll just keep moving forward!

letsbehavingu · 2024-06-03T08:14:24+00:00

Wait I can sell that piece of shit ring she gave back ?

Tomo201070 · 2024-06-03T06:58:47+00:00

Funnily enough I had a somewhat reversed conversation with my Ex along these lines. I was clearing out the garage in the former family home, and whilst doing so she saw me getting my 2002 1600cc Yamaha Roadstar ready for me to ride to my new place. She started going off at me, about how the motorbike was an asset and needed to be included within the list of communal property BLAH BLAH BLAH.

Now, at this stage in our relationship, I was prone to only giving very short, curt answers and basically trying to stay out of trouble. I really wanted to tell her where to go and how to get there, but I controlled myself. I simply asked

"How did I become the owner of the motorbike?", she responded, very quickly with,

"I bought it for you, for your 40th birthday!", I would like to point out here that I had actually purchased that bike myself whilst she was the SAHM, but I digress. So I then retorted with,

"So it was a gift, from you to me?", She shrilly responded with,

"That doesn't matter, it's still an asset and needs to be noted and the money split between us!", I leaned in close, looking her straight in the eyes, and in a somewhat soft and mellifluous voice, said,

"Then I suggest you go get all the gold and diamond rings, the diamond ear-rings, and the various pearl and gold necklaces that I purchased for you over the last 21 years, out of your jewellery boxes. Get them fully appraised and then place them as communal assets as well!".

There was no mention of my motorbike being a communal asset again.

Zealousideal_Pop_931 · 2024-06-03T06:34:43+00:00

Also even if u get ot back you'll only get 10% of what you bought it for

Zealousideal_Pop_931 · 2024-06-03T06:34:22+00:00

If she's a decent person she'll give it back. If she doesn't, you know the real person she is. Mine gave it back and I didn't ask for it.

DaddyNoBux · 2024-06-03T06:13:28+00:00

Lesson learned mate

Are you going to ask her to give you back the money for all the meals and other gifts you paid for while you were trying to get into her pants?

Exactly

Time to live life mate. Just thinking about this stuff consumes energy that is best required for going out there and kicking ass my man

Nadathug · 2024-06-03T05:46:41+00:00

Take it.

WittyBeautiful7654 · 2024-06-03T05:41:55+00:00

It's gone bro. I'm sorry but that's a dead issue. They don't give em back.

Sir_Creamz_Aloot · 2024-06-03T05:34:29+00:00

Stoicism says "don't do it for honor" Pragmatists say "gimme my shit back" depends on how you roll.

With current feminist trends, cancel culture, anti male court system and precious metal/gem markets I roll with the pragmatist camp.

JurassicParkRanger87 · 2024-06-03T03:31:44+00:00

If its a family heirloom it is polite for it to go back but not if bought.

MidniteOG · 2024-06-03T02:41:46+00:00

Is it not “a gift to the marriage” and thus 50/50?

src670 · 2024-06-03T01:58:59+00:00

If you can catch well, tell her you need it back for you new girlfriend. 73% chance she will throw it at your head. It worked for me.

Strict-Front-2375 · 2024-06-03T01:23:40+00:00

Legally, once she said 'I do' it's hers. You could ask for it back, and if she was decent she might give it, but if she was going to be decent to you, probably wouldn't have done what she did in the first place.

I spent 10k on ours, and she wouldn't even tell me what she did with. I didn't mind her keeping it, just wanted to know what happened, and all I got was the same answer she gave to everything 'I don't have to tell you anything'

If it makes you feel better, they resale for basically nothing, like 10% of what you paid isn't uncommon.

Practical-Island-436 · 2024-06-03T01:09:44+00:00

I messed up with this one it was obvious we were done sh wasn't even wearing her ring anymore and I knew where they were should have snatched it but again was only 3k new from jeweler how much is secondary place gonna give me 300 bucks not worth the hassle she can keep it she started wearing them again a year after she filed

Feisty_Elderberry_96 · 2024-06-03T01:04:27+00:00

Check your jurisdiction / county marital laws. In my county since I gave her the engagement ring as a gift AND we got married, the ring was hers to keep - legally.

If you bought her an engagement and did not get married you, in my county/state (new york) might be able to get it back. But it'd probably take a few bucks via court to do so...

rickyspanish12345 · 2024-06-03T01:01:01+00:00

You might get it back you might not. Personally I wouldn't ask, it's bad form. I know you paid three grand for it but you probably won't get more than 500 for it on resale.

Mister_Vandemar · 2024-06-03T00:53:09+00:00

Good luck.

Melodic-Grapefruit-4 · 2024-06-03T00:24:49+00:00

Hell nah. Ask for it back. In most states it’s considered a conditional gift/ semi-contract. The ring was given with intention of getting and staying married.

Title	Ring
Author	Kreepykev1
Upvotes	15
Comments	41
Date	June 3, 2024 12:17 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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