Did you ever have an experience where you’ve encountered a man from your pickme past you’ve had “fun times” with on a porn site?

I did. Not only was this man doing PORN but he was doing gay porn at that! And no, I didn’t have my suspicions and seek it out. His content was SO popular, that it was constantly reposted on Tumblr.

Honestly I wasn’t entirely shocked because he was a bodybuilder with a steroid addiction but that got me wondering. On the outside looking in, he was an extremely muscular and macho looking bodybuilder. He got his fair share of attention from women. There was nothing going on in his neanderthal brain, but at that stage of my life I was driven by pure lust. I didn’t know about this little secret of his.

Men will lie about A N Y T H I N G. The amount of money they make, what they do for work, how many partners they’ve had/are currently sleeping with, and the SEXUALITY of their partners.

Not only are they exposing you to a flurry of STI’s, but they could potentially be exposing you to HIV and other diseases prominent in the gay community.

Looking back that was a WTF moment for real, but it really got me thinking. How many men are actually hiding their sexuality from us? How many men are willing to be “gay for pay”. How many men are actively lying to us about who/what they’re fucking.

This is why it’s absolutely crucial to vet a man and hold out on having sex with him. You’re not only exposing yourself to unwanted diseases and pregnancies, but you’re going to develop some serious mental trauma.

I would rather a man be honest about his sexuality and intentions with me than to foster a lie. I do not date bisexual men. I would not have agreed to that casual fling if I had known what he was doing on the internet for money.