LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD

leosandlattes · 2025-04-06T01:55:32+00:00

Once again, the weekly threads are not places for memes. They are places for serious debate and discussion surrounding the topic and will be moderated as such.

AngeAware · 2025-04-06T19:47:36+00:00

I've discovered that to understand the hype for certain actors' looks you really need to see them in the roles they're most known for. A cursory glance at the first 5 awkward red carpet shots that come up on Google Images doesn't cut it.

Alwaysnthered · 2025-04-06T20:37:49+00:00

Anyone have advice for mitigating facial neotony for men - just having smaller eyes/softer features.

I feel like it's something that is VERY hard to mitigate - even with a good physique / dressing maturely / facial hair.

I've been trying different things but to no avail. I can't seem to kick the "babyfish soft face" appearance. I've gotten down to 10% bf, am very muscular, better haircut, mature clothes, some facial hair (and growth much). I'm half asian - I inhereit good muscle genetics from my dads side (russian), but the babyface from my moms side (phillipino). I basically look like a jacked guy with a soft babyface.

because of this, I feel like I don't pass the "looks threshold" test for the vast vast majority of women. they want someone who looks like a man, not a boy. and that for some reason mostly involves the face (As in having a strong body doesnt make up for it).

willing to DM pics for advice

Muscletov · 2025-04-06T11:21:09+00:00

People often say the attractiveness gap is caused by women putting much more effort into their appearance, but that's just another misconception fueled by the just world fallacy, male hypoagency concept and women-are-wonderful effect.

The three major reasons why women are considered more attractive on average are:

Men are much more flexible and variable in their standards and preferences. You will always find a sizable minority of men being specifically into any type of female trait. Also, men tend to more readily overlook flaws, especially since most men cannot afford to be overly picky nowadays. Male traits are rated a lot more binarily and uniformly by women.
Women have much less to worry about on the genetic side. Their height is largely inconsequential. Balding barely exists. Facial ugliness can be covered by make up. Which brings me to point three:
It's socially acceptable and viable for women to conceal and enhance their natural appearance (make up, spandex, push up, extensions, heels etc.) whereas for men it's largely socially taboo (hair pieces, shoe lifts etc.) because it's considered insecure, dishonest and ridiculous.

There is also a relatively modern cultural aspect:

In recent years, there's been a huge push towards "body positivity" in women and it works, even influencing men's preferences. On the other side, women have been heavily encouraged to be critical and judgemental about men in all aspects and shallowness even to vapid, obnoxious levels, is often sold as female empowerment and just retribution by "rightfully" putting men in their place.

Logos1789 · 2025-04-05T23:31:52+00:00

Looks matter more than one can deduce by assessing the physical attractiveness of couples.

The scarcity of the most attractive people as well as the reality of living in a capitalist society creates incentives that skews from what most people are authentically, preferentially, and uncompromisingly attracted to.

Peter_Andre_IQ · 2025-04-05T19:57:16+00:00

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That is how perfection looks like.

Peter_Andre_IQ · 2025-04-05T20:09:45+00:00

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Peter_Andre_IQ · 2025-04-07T12:03:42+00:00

I've noticed one thing about young men nowadays. They tend to have wide hips - like whole body is normal, but the hips are wide, like girl. When I was in my 20s it wasn't really the case.

Spread-Em-Plz · 2025-04-08T01:38:20+00:00

Is it strange to end up in a situation where you know you’re definitely better looking and definitely get more looks and attention now than you used to, but somehow get less action due to some factor or another?

2025-04-10T21:13:13+00:00

girls and gays: which IASIP character would you bang?

Cjaylyle · 2025-04-11T19:59:26+00:00

There’s a specific subsection of men who get extra frustrated in the dating scene because they genuinely think they’re attractive but the results don’t reflect that.

They tend to be just under 6 foot, dark hair, dark eyes, face looks alright in a generic way and they have a weirdly mid physique that they mistake for decent - either awkwardly slightly fat or the unsexy side of skinny.

It’s the kinda guy whose grandmother genuinely believes is handsome and tells him.

They’re not “ugly” they just have this weird uncanny “looks okish if you squint” quality which they themselves think looks good enough and becomes confusing to them when no woman is attracted because they don’t have the ACTUAL raw immutable traits women actually like.

Height, an exciting or dangerous aura or vibe, distinctly angular facial structure OR a big wide almost antagonistic face, genuinely athletic physique and for a larger section of women than I think most people realise, being mixed race or black

There’s a lot of frustrated Joseph Gordon Levitt type guys out there wondering why they, a “good looking” man is getting almost nothing on the dating market.

Top tip - look at who is making the local girls in your area cry or drive hours to see them at 2am and emulate that guy

PhaseExtra1132 · 2025-04-06T03:38:50+00:00

Looks don’t matter if you have no venue to use them. I’m a decent looking guy. Years ago I posted on rateme subreddit got about an average of 8-9/10. I’m 5-11/6ft depending on posture and have a “cute” (hate this term but is is what it is) face for a dude. A bit younger looking side but not bad looking. Issue is Parents getting on me for not getting married and friends for not dating.

Thing is. I’m an engineer that works with 90% dudes. Everyone’s like “don’t use dating apps meet people in the real world”

What is defined as the real world? Gym is off limits. Work even if it wasn’t off limits is 90% dudes. And the women that are there are as old as my parents. I tried meetup the app and it’s mostly old folks.

Kinda out of ideas so far. College I was busy talking to a girl I ended up not working out with (that was a mess). I don’t drink so clubs and bars are not options. Crowded areas give me claustrophobia and that’s all those venues are.

So everyone obsessed with looks. How do you guys factor in the logistics of finding partners itself?

I think to many folks who obsess over looks forget this. If you have a decent look and in a good setting (like college) you can do way better then someone with good looks in effectively a same-aged-women desert.

Honestly I think half the dating issues and stuff come from the lack of tangible places to meet at and have legitimate interactions rather than women or men having high standards.

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abaxeron · 2025-04-07T11:42:00+00:00

It's been months since I started monitoring my food intake and keeping my weight trend at -200g/week (that's 7 oz for you americans). How long until I snap, binge-eat an entire cake, and gain all the lost weight back? I've been told here multiple times that it always happens.

Electronic-You-1717 · 2025-04-07T15:12:34+00:00

Is instagram important as a man like curating aesthetic highlights and all?like i am shy and had no instagram at all still there were some girls interested me and initiating conversations like that girls had amazing instagram highlights aesthetic stuff going on etc

Patrickstarho · 2025-04-12T03:13:03+00:00

If I didn’t have a sexy asf side profile I would’ve killed myself years ago

MalePsychopath · 2025-04-05T19:07:44+00:00

Visual result of hitting the wall. 😆

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fiftypoundpuppy · 2025-04-09T01:32:27+00:00

I am once again asking how one can objectively determine their "looksmatch," and how this is objectively determined. Same for "percents"

Title	LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD
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Date	April 5, 2025 4:00 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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