Too many posts on this subreddit are blatantly anti-male or anti-female. As with most issues, the reality of the relationships between men and women are likely somewhere in the middle (read: somewhere between the 20-yard lines, not necessarily on the 50-yard line).

I’ll start with the plight of men. There is truth that women are more hypergamous as a result of biology (quality over quantity) and this results in a lot of men being left with a deficit of sexual options. This problem is exasperated by the existence dating apps, where the only reliable way for a man to differentiate himself is through his appearance. When men can’t differentiate themselves, women have no choice but to default to attractiveness.

Now, onto women. Most women, at least the ones who want kids, recognize that it’s best for them to settle down in their late 20’s. This is where the cock carousel meme comes into play. On one hand, it makes sense for women to “max-out” their sexual potential while they have it because it’s something that isn’t coming back once it’s gone (this is called a “hedge” in finance). Likewise, it’s understandable that a guy won’t squander his “high-value” years on a woman with declining sexual-value.

Competing interests are why the sex-for-commitment exchange takes place. Women have easy access to sex while men have easy access to commitment. A woman trades the experience of riding a bunch of Chad’s for security to be provided in later years. A man will not make this exchange if she has not held up her side of the bargain.

The misandrists on reddit will say “who cares, a woman can just lie about it and you’ll never know” without realizing that the same can be true for a man. In fact, a man lying about his commitment to a woman is more damning to her than if she were to lie about her sexual past. This doesn’t even take into consideration how miserable you have to be to mistrust everyone you care about in your life.

A women who has sex without commitment is equivalent to a man who commits without receiving sex. This is why the slurs “whore” and “cuck” so clearly articulate the worst qualities of each sex. In both cases, you are a door mat. You are giving yourself freely while demanding nothing in return.

Men: Why should women hold out for you? If you’re not the highest quality man that a woman can attain life-long commitment from, she has no reason to alter her sexual behavior for you. This is where guys get mad because they refuse to believe that a women’s interest can be completely indifferent towards them.

Women: Why should a man accept slutty behavior? It’s neither moral or immoral to prefer relatively chaste women, just as it is neither moral or immoral for women to prefer height or social status. In fact, sexual behavior “is” one of the easiest characteristics to control, unlike things like height.

tldr; Men and women have competing sexual strategies and it’s dumb as fuck to pretend as if one sex is bad or superficial for not acting outside of their best interests.