Gentlemen, I'm in a dire need of advice. Recently I wrote a post about mate guarding possibly being a good thing at times. It seems I have been dead wrong.

Background: Married 5yrs. Ltr 10. No kids. We basically grew up together through high school and college. Pre red pill - sex 1 time/week. Lots of drama, spiralling into oblivion.

Wife very emotional, impetuous. 8 when she makes an effort. 0 sex partners before me (well, at least that's what she said).

Lifting 1y+. Red pill apprentice 3rd month in. WISNIFG, NMMNG, PFPFPM done, MMSLP in progress.

Body: Me, wife and mister X work at the same company (Working with wife is wrong, I am aware, pre red pill decision), different departments. Usually don't see her during the day. At the company bash I got drunk and approached X after he's been talking to wife for an hour. Told him I didn't like the way they talked. At the end of the party bumped him, he almost fell. I ranked him at similar SMV to mine but now I think he might be a bit better built, tatoos, hobbies somilar to ms justthenewman. Next day had passionate sex and everything looked exceptionally good compared to my gut feeling.

Next month was a bliss. Wife was really SWEET and I got laid multiple times despite she was sick and then on period (pre red pill 0 sex when she had any excuse). We started experimenting for the first time in years. We had a lot of fun. I had a first unsolicited backrub ever. Lots of compliments all the time (you're now so big, i like your stomach, lots of touching etc). Lots of affection, she comes to cuddle all the time.

Also been out to see boys few times for a night, had a blast. Focused on my career and I expect a promotion. Reading, diet, hobbies on track.

I think I missed some comfort tests but did well on shit tests.

All of a sudden wife starts dressing better. Make up and hairwork. Sex is great. I feel great. She is like a little kitten. I see the light in the tunnel. Life is great.

Then all of a sudden cracks appeared.

  • she took her phone out of my hand when I grabbed it once (we shared them often) nervously
  • noticed she logged out of work mail (never did that) . Being paranoid I tried to login and found out she changed password
  • we play tabble football at work. Collegue invited me once and I came last. X and wife there. Ahe looked shocked and was playing nervously. It was weird.
  • when she was bathing I looked through her phone. Long chat history with X, just got few sentences.

X "wow i didnt make anything to make you upset?" W "not yet"

He proposed to make her a cake. Her reply: "mr newman would kill me if he knew you made me a cake"

Also some personal info. Too much personal info.

I found out they swapped books. She put a piece of paper on his book while it was on her desk at home. At home when i asked what book is that she said she borrowed. Casually asking from who I got uneasy "X"

Today I took a day off because I was giving a lecture. Wife insisted, supposedly so I could prepare.

And guess what. My bro tells me they ate a cake together at caffeteria. Alone. Usually when someone brings cake many people share it.

That's not fucking ending. Employees went out in the evening to play board games. She said she will go with me to the lecture but last minute decided to go gaming. Bro confirms her and X come early and play one on one.

Bonus: Mr X is married, this June apparently.

Even though we spend 95% time together I cannot rule out cheating. Window is small but exists. Last sex 2 days ago, didn't observe decline, she's eager and receptive. Cuddles, talkative, sweet. Does lotta chores.

It seems she is actively trying to spend time with him. Keeps it secret.

I'm preparing to get full chat history and will act based on that. I feel like going nuclear is highly possible.

I don't see how I can save it right now. Maybe you will. Don't know if it's worth it. We don't have kids. I feel like she woke up when I surpassed her SMV. She responded quickly and here we are.

UPDATE

Asked her if anything nice happened in work. She said no and presented detailed review of her day and ommited the cakey-tingly-girly-thingy. I take that as a DIRECT lie in the face. She didn't blink.

UPDATE 2

OP here. Got the logs.

No overt signs of isolation or getting physical, but lots of nasty stuff.

He suggested to drive her back home when I had day off, points out he lives close to us (how does he know where we live? Jesus) . She refused, because I set this up with reliable coworker before.

She wrote she 'had so much hassle to get out of going to my husbands lecture so we could get to play board games', he responds 'for me? I' m flattered'.

One sexual comment about the content of the comic book they swapped. He says that' fucked up stuff gets him going.'

Generally - he pushes, she does not remove herself. Lies, manipulation and flirtiness. Personal details.

Gentlemen, decision has been made. I'm off to see the lawyerino. Will be back.