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I think you are attracted to the drama.
/r/ExRedPill22/07/26 04:08 AM
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Caveman times.. The alpha man will be possessive over his territory and ofc.. his women! Today? Completely different. You will look like a jealous incel with no options or abundance. Modern couples have plenty of mutual possessiveness for both men and women. Like most people will get suspicious and jealous if their partner flirts with the opposite sex. Couples often expect each other to come home after work and spend time together. This is the norm not the exception. Women do this just as much a…
/r/seduction21/07/26 09:29 PM
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As a guy I struggle to find things say over text and its just kind of boring a lot of the time. I prefer face to face. Maybe thats how she is.
/r/seduction20/07/26 02:11 AM
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Look I've been through the rodeo to know that most of the time if someone seems amazing they are hiding something. Everyone is extremely flawed and you don't actually know her until you've been with her a long time. When I see someone who seems amazing I ask myself okay what is the other side of them they aren't showing? And if you are so into the models book which is all about being extremely authentic then why are you trying to mirror her interest level and texting behavior? I believe that you…
/r/seduction19/07/26 12:24 AM
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What standards did she meet? My point is you don't actually know someone well unless you are with them a long time. People are often married for years and then learn some bad things about each other. You don't actually completely know if she met your standards. Thats why its important to not jump in so quickly and just take things slowly.
/r/seduction19/07/26 12:12 AM
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and acted like a gentleman We live in a far more egalitarian society where both genders are equal so this is extremely outdated. We now assume that women are capable and don't need to be saved and helped constantly. People are far more sexually open now and acting like its 1930 kills the energy. Also its kind of a performance and you aren't being yourself and normal. reflected her interest levels mirror her texting behavior This feels kind of fake, manipulative, and performative. Its better to s…
/r/seduction19/07/26 12:06 AM
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Probably being in the top 10-20% in terms of looks for a start.
/r/seduction18/07/26 07:13 AM
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If you just google "number of sex partners men and women distribution" you find that the percent of men and women who have a high, medium, or low number of sex partners is about the same. This doesn't make any sense if the narrative that women are all hooking up with chad is true. If that was true we'd see the average woman with an extremely high partner count and the average man with extremely low with a few men with a staggering partner count. But thats not what the data shows. Also you'd expe…
/r/ExRedPill18/07/26 05:14 AM
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They are doing that because they are random strangers on the street trying to get somewhere. And guys are doing that too. When they are with friends they are usually nice and warm. I suggest socializing more and meeting women more socially rather than getting mad at total stranger who are just trying to get back home.
/r/seduction17/07/26 04:08 AM
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I think a lot of this red pill stuff is just introverted nerdy guys who often have a lot of social skills and anxiety issues who are trying to compensate by being impressive or looking exceptional.
/r/ExRedPill17/07/26 03:00 AM
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So any tips for Hinge? Lots of average looking guys struggle with online dating so what sets you apart?
/r/seduction14/07/26 12:28 AM
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Kudos to you for being successful. How do you meet women? Like do you use hobby groups, online dating, speed dating, through friends, bars/clubs, school, or cold approach?
/r/seduction13/07/26 12:26 AM
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If Brad Pitt lived on a Desert island he wouldn't get a girlfriend either no matter how attractive he was because he isn't meeting any women. If you rarely meet single women then you might as well live on a desert island when it comes to dating.
/r/ExRedPill12/07/26 10:20 AM
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So most women you have personality interacted with act like them?
/r/seduction12/07/26 02:08 AM
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You should pick up on when people aren't very nice or aren't enjoying the conversation. And if it was completely out of the blue I doubt this one interaction is representative of all women in the US.
/r/seduction12/07/26 01:48 AM
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Read the room better. They probably didn't walk to talk to you and wanted to get rid of you. So they messed with you.
/r/seduction12/07/26 01:30 AM
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You will hear lists of traits but really it boils down to being able to do hard things. Like in hunter gatherer tribes you have to undergo a manhood test where you perform very difficult feats. Men had to be skilled hunters and survivalists which is actually really difficult and takes a lot of fortitude. Masculinity in the modern sense can mean having a good career, being able flirt with women and risk rejection, being a leader, telling people the truth when its not something they want to hear, …
/r/seduction05/07/26 03:36 PM
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Basically extremes are what cause guys issues. Don't flirt and tease to the extent that you become annoying and immature. Its exhausting to be around someone who is just like too much. You want to be seen as someone who is successful, is a leader, and gets respect. Instead of being the troll be the guy who people get approval from.
/r/seduction02/07/26 11:54 PM
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Honestly I don't know. There are just so many weirdo making books about how to get women its hard to find the legit stuff. Maybe avoid reading long books and instead go for smaller guides, book summaries, discussions, reddit, wikihow, or videos and get a variety of perspectives. Maybe even as AI even though its not perfect itself. Like one guy here posted his guide, read that and get his perspective. Get some perspectives from women, from guys who are successful with dating, or guys who turned i…
/r/seduction30/06/26 11:52 PM
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Thanks for the comment. Great take.
/r/seduction30/06/26 11:43 PM
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I think its okay as long as you are only using it to remove issues with the photo like bad lighting, a shirt that makes you look fat, forgetting to smile, or removing someone from the photos. But you shouldn't fake the way you actually look or your lifestyle. Otherwise you are catfishing and she will know when she shows up. This wastes everyone's time.
/r/seduction29/06/26 11:58 PM
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None of the major books are all that great and tend to be written by people with unhealthy mindsets about dating and aren't nearly as good with women as they claim to be. Same goes for YouTube channels.
/r/seduction29/06/26 11:23 PM
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I'm not moving goalposts these are just different examples of how empathy between strangers doesn't always happen. Whether its trying to get help from a receptionist, co-worker, classmate, teacher, stranger on the street, empathy and helpfulness doesn't always happen. And empathy in the form of social conversation doesn't always happen as well. I never accused OP of harassment and I never said that nobody is open to helping or talking to strangers. Only that many people aren't and it depends on …
/r/seduction29/06/26 10:34 PM
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What do you want to have a serious talk about? You are flirting with a stranger and now you want to talk about marriage?
/r/seduction29/06/26 09:39 PM
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Asking for help is actually an even higher burden than simple conversation which has no strings attached. Many people are very busy and stressed about classes and don't want to help a complete stranger. And that person might keep asking for help. We should help people, but in practice we often fall short. I encounter this at work as well where some co-workers don't like helping especially if they don't know you. And I actually see this issue more with men than women. Generally people will be les…
/r/seduction29/06/26 09:32 PM
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Right but my first two points already address that. Not everyone wants to have a social conversation with a person they don't know in class. This happens with me where someone will try to spark a conversation with me and I just am not in the mood. So I give a short response and move on. As for receptionists many of them are low paid, hate their jobs, have bad interactions with customers, or are incredibly busy and aren't really trying that hard anymore. And that goes for male receptionists and e…
/r/seduction29/06/26 08:29 PM
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Typically you are getting that reaction because you still have work to do on your social skills. Also not everyone wants to have conversations with strangers so they will try to end that conversation in some way. Many young women get hit on a lot and had some bad experiences so they are guarded.
/r/seduction29/06/26 06:48 PM
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Ask him directly if he is into the manosphere and look for signs someone is lying. Catching a lie is notoriously hard to do and most of these guys will lie because they know thats a weed out question. RP guys want multiple children. Talk about that if it interests you. Watch how he reacts if you say you don't want kids or only want one. Not necessarily true. Many red pill guys don't want children at all. And many will give a vague answer to match what you want. Ask about hobbies, etc. If they do…
/r/ExRedPill26/06/26 10:44 PM
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Its pretty easy to handle this. Just during the date say some red pill thing and see if they agree. If they are red pill they'll totally fall for it and start going off on all their favorite red pill beliefs.
/r/ExRedPill26/06/26 04:03 PM
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Generally non-needy people are more likely to speak their minds and risk rejection. They are more relaxed and less excited by approval and tend to judge and evaluate and have higher standards. They are more willing to walk away if someone doesn't meet their expectations or doesn't treat them right. They are more comfortable and enjoy themselves more on their own and relationships are more of a cherry on top. When they socialize they do it for enjoyment not getting people to like them. They are l…
/r/seduction26/06/26 03:13 PM
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You are one of those guys who interprets everything as a shit test. Maybe she just isn't interested.
/r/seduction26/06/26 05:30 AM
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I've observed that the women appear more emotional than men on average. But I don't quite buy into it for these reasons: I've also observed that women tend to act more maturely and with more consideration than men do on average. Most violence and violent acts of anger are done by men. Anger is often driven by fear. Its possible socialization is responsible. Basically girls get more positive reactions when they express their emotions than men do, hence that behavior. I see more men who appears to…
/r/ExRedPill25/06/26 11:55 PM
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Well lets look at it from a coding perspective. Lets say you lacked a skillset in programming like CI/CD pipelines. Would you go on reddit and ask people for a written guide in that skillset or would you do extensive research first and then ask targeted questions about things you still didn't understand?
/r/seduction21/06/26 06:38 AM
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Okay do you want to date these men who only want to date barely legal women? You only need to find one decent man, and even even if most men have this preference not all of them do.
/r/ExRedPill21/06/26 12:30 AM
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Hold on. Do you even want to date men who only care about looks, want to date really young barely legal women, and are controlling and want to walk all over you? Rather than worrying about what men like, find the men who are decent and share your values. If all men are like this then don't date at all.
/r/ExRedPill21/06/26 12:25 AM
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Ironically women tend to have more standards than men do so you are right about that.
/r/ExRedPill18/06/26 11:42 PM
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The problem with this mindset is that it doesn't account for quality. Plenty of guys get into relationships but these aren't quality relationships. I'd argue that bad relationship are worse than your situation where you are single. So not nearly as many guys are "ahead" of you as you think. This idea that you need a woman to be masculine is a very needy desperate definition of masculinity that pedestalizes women, and doesn't sound very masculine to me. I thought masculinity was about having stan…
/r/ExRedPill16/06/26 02:22 PM
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You aren't quite getting it yet. Just like you want her to enjoy spending time with you. She wants someone who enjoys spending time with her. And not just for her body, also for the things she has to say. She wants a partner who actually enjoys the topics she is discussing and isn't just pretending to enjoy them to get sex. What I'm getting at is you need to have topics that you actually want to talk about with women that you'd really enjoy because you find them inherently enjoyable not just get…
/r/seduction15/06/26 01:11 AM
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I never claimed any of that about you. What I'm saying is that women shouldn't just be sex toys and we should have an intellectual connection with common interests and things we actually want to talk about. And you aren't being social just so she likes you and will have sex with you. You authentically enjoy the things she is saying. You aren't just asking her about her interests, where she likes to eat, to get her to like you and have sex with you. You aren't just being a fake friend tricking he…
/r/seduction15/06/26 12:39 AM
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We should treat women like people with thoughts and ideas worth engaging with and not just sex toys. If you agree what do you want to talk about with this person you respect for their mind?
/r/seduction15/06/26 12:27 AM
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The #1 thing you can do is really sit down and think about the types of activities you want to do with your friends and the types of things you want to talk about. Friendship is supposed to be enjoyable and fun for you, and if its not and you are just trying to make people like you, its going to show and its going to be work and suck.
/r/seduction15/06/26 12:04 AM
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The best approach is to work on the basics first. If you aren't a social person then start by making male friends. Once you got that figured out then move on to female friends. To avoid interview mode ask questions about topics you are actually interested in so when they respond you are actually interested in their response and have something to say about it. Now if nothing they say is interesting to you, then maybe they don't have a lot in common with you and you should talk to someone else.
/r/seduction14/06/26 11:57 PM
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Its totally normal to want your partner to find you attractive and prefer that other people find you attractive. If I walked out the door and the ladies were noting me that would certainly make my day. But what is very unhealthy is the demand that strangers give you all this validation. This sounds like anxious attachment look up attachment theory and people with narcissistic personality have it too (not saying you have that). Like 90% of men don't get this kind of attention and over 90% of both…
/r/ExRedPill13/06/26 02:54 AM
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That desire doesn't sound so bad to me. A relationships where you are into them and they aren't excited about you sounds kind of painful honestly. I want my partner to find me attractive and desire me not to think I'm ugly or not particularly appealing. So your feelings are normal. What is not as normal is desiring complete strangers to be gazing at you with desire and admiration at your presence. In fact I'd start getting really tired of all that attention even if it would be cool at first. Or …
/r/ExRedPill05/06/26 04:05 AM
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Its not unreasonable to want validation and be seen as attractive because obviously there are a ton of benefits. The problem is when this desire is so great that you make yourself miserable when you can't get it. Like there is a difference between feeling that something is desirable and going about your day if you can't have it, and absolutely yearning for it when its not possible. Even guys with those looks eventually lose them as they age many in their 30s. Its not best to be overly attached t…
/r/ExRedPill04/06/26 10:45 PM
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My best guess is that the root of your problem wasn't actually red pill. This is often caused by deeper issues. Its caused by an issue with anger. Maybe you got into the red pill because you were angry. And then when you realized that was wrong you turned the anger toward yourself. So when you start hating yourself for your past realize that its the hating itself that is the root of the problem and you are just continuing the cycle. You have to put the hate and the anger away if you truly want t…
/r/ExRedPill04/06/26 07:29 PM
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I want to get out of this, but I don't see how, because a lot of the things feel true to me (unfortunately). What red pill claims do you think have some merit? I've come to accept that women are selfish and manipulative You are basically living in a bubble. You had bad experiences and click on content from people with bad experiences. And people with bad experiences tend to be the most vocal. So now the algorithm is feeding you just that content convincing you this is true for everyone when its …
/r/ExRedPill04/06/26 06:40 PM
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11% of single people date once a month or more, which would fit with this woman having 100 dates in ten years. 1: This is the top 11% who are dating the most far from the average which backs my point really. Very few people are going on a ton of first dates. 2: They aren't necessarily doing this consistently for 10 years. We know that about 10% of population has a more promiscuous lifestyle. Obviously not saying that dating once a month or more means that they are necessarily promiscuous but tha…
/r/ExRedPill31/05/26 08:52 AM
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How do you figure that? If she has spent the past 10 years primarily single and dating rather than in a long term relationship, that would average about 10 dates per year, or less than one a month. The average person has been on 1-15 dates in their lives with 15 being on the high end. 100 dates is far outside the norm. https://yougov.com/en-us/articles/51519-how-often-do-americans-go-on-dates Most women are not into hook up culture, not actively trying to get a high “body count”. I never claimed…
/r/ExRedPill31/05/26 06:45 AM
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Her sexual history includes a "body count" of 20 (mine is 11). I feel an irrational resentment that I didn't sleep around more myself, even though I intentionally chose to prioritize emotional connection over promiscuity. The average body count is 7 and both of you are higher, but not ludicrously higher. I just don't see where 11 is fine but 20 isn't. She mentions that she has been on roughly 100 first dates That is a lot and makes me wonder if she had lied about her body count. When I got back,…
/r/ExRedPill29/05/26 01:16 AM
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Things like me needing to "be better" than others. Make more money, be stronger, have more skills, etc to be loved. The issue is, the red pill mindset kinda worked. I make 2x more than my mom and abt 10x more than people my age. I am a 19M and have done looksmaxxing, and have gotten treated better and overal boost in life. Well if all this worked and you are happy and having an amazing life with fulfilling relationships with women then why are you making this post at all? Are you actually living…
/r/ExRedPill24/05/26 11:23 PM
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He is definitely a red piller, but I think his is more rooted in insecurity, neediness for female validation, and distrust of women and how they could hurt him. Its less focused on being actively abusive or controlling. He is more fearful than anything else. With that said I'd break up with him if I were in your shoes because people don't change and if he has massively conflicting beliefs thats just never going to work out.
/r/ExRedPill21/05/26 05:48 AM
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Because of blackpill thoughts, i wanted to have sex only in the dark, because i didnt wanted her to see some fat or some body hair. I never let her touch my penis (well, one time but i stopped after 20 seconds) because i was scared she finds it too small (i am 5'5 inches) and i was self conscious of the odor (im always clean but i cant help but feel oddly uncomfrotable). She said that i basically destroyed my relationship, because of my blackpill thoughts (that she calls body dysmorphia, which i…
/r/ExRedPill16/05/26 07:50 AM
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Your first step is to live an extroverted lifestyle where you naturally meet and talk to women. I don't see a lot of extroverts on here complaining about dating.
/r/seduction11/05/26 05:01 AM
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I bet you've had crushes and found women attractive but you probably didn't even tell most them because you felt they'd not take it well and you'd be embarrassed. Women are the same way and are afraid of getting that negative reaction. So sadly 99% of positive impression go completely unspoken.
/r/ExRedPill10/05/26 10:08 PM
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Its just nature of things that women tend to get more attention than men do. Men often deal with a lack of attention while women deal with excessive unwanted sometimes dangerous attention. Even those attractive guys who are getting a lot of attention are often unhappy that they are only getting it because of how they look not who they are on the inside. And both attractive men and women lose that attention as they age and often really miss it. The solution is to not be so driven by the shallow v…
/r/ExRedPill10/05/26 09:55 PM
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A lot of guys are afraid of the chase and don't want to come off as needy or offend people. The best way to act like a player is to really enjoy chasing women. These guys will spend a lot of time on their looks, and a lot of time hitting on women, and figuring out how to get the hookup. And the thing about loving the chase is that when the chase is over and she like you, then now its boring and you move on.
/r/seduction07/05/26 03:27 AM
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Do you think you maybe have a bit of a savior complex and are attracted to broken people? Like you are attracted to him because of his flaws and makes you want to help him? And when he goes down this path that you just want to fix him rather than leave?
/r/ExRedPill30/04/26 01:59 AM
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You have to do hard and uncomfortable things to find success in life. You aren't going to be young and good looking forever. If you avoid discomfort when you are older you are really going to regret your inaction when you had the chance.
/r/seduction28/04/26 04:14 AM
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I think people are increasingly online and not socializing and thats causing them to become incels. Back then fewer people were terminally online, now its a lot more. Now a lot more people are struggling to date. And now we are seeing a lot more radicalization and just just red pill specifically.
/r/ExRedPill22/04/26 04:46 AM
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The problem isn't what you think it is. Your fundamental problem isn't a red pill problem. Thats just a side effect. Its an anxious thinking problem. Your judgement is clouded by anxious biases which causes you to have paranoids thoughts about this law putting you at risk of going to jail. Its this anxiety that causes you to be afraid of talking women, or fearful you will be false assusations. The red pill is wrong that women are the problem. The real problem is this fearful person inside your h…
/r/ExRedPill20/04/26 04:06 PM
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Basically your problem is that you buy into hyperbolic online content that is trying to get clicks and make money by delivering shock value through exaggeration. Now this law is controversial and I myself and skeptical but your characterization of this law is based more on alarmist claims than actual facts. This law defined misogyny is "hatred, contempt, or aversion to women based on their gender" or the "belief in male supremacy." There is literally nothing in this law that says that simply dis…
/r/ExRedPill20/04/26 05:36 AM
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I feel like maybe there’s so middle ground I could find where I do this on occasion, but focus on selecting spots where it seems the most appropriate and likely to work?? Thats gonna be like night life, parties, parties or other social gatherings where its more okay for strangers to talk to each other. Or where it seems natural like if you are in line together. You can maybe do your approach in a way that seems more natural. Some people think it’s impressive and brave. Others think it’s a little…
/r/ExRedPill31/03/26 01:10 AM
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Talking to a woman you don't know isn't inherently red pill. If it works occasionally then keep doing it. When you lose weight don't focus so much on what your body looks like, focus on your health. Try to save the snacks for social occasions and eat healthy day to day. Looking your best will have a very positive impact. Also taking the proper steps for your mental health is important too.
/r/ExRedPill30/03/26 10:35 PM
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I think you are being pretty reasonable about your situation. You understand you got unlucky with your height. You have accepted your height and moved on. You understand your feelings of resentment aren't reasonable. But the one thing you haven't accepted are your emotional reactions. Its just natural for the emotional brain to be a little irrational and to feel resentful. You aren't ever going to be able to turn that off. You can look into mindfulness and meditation which helps you live with an…
/r/ExRedPill25/03/26 04:37 AM
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App Fatigue: Many users report burnout with dating apps, reducing engagement rates Most of the articles about app fatigue are about women. In the US 3/4 of dating app users are men. Women leaving the apps does not help men. And most men are leaving the apps because the women on them aren't interested in them. Women are losing nothing by these men leaving. Cost of Living Crisis: Dating, drinks, restaurants, and housing are expensive. Disposable income is falling, reducing consumer activity in the…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 12:28 AM
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Trying to predict the future is really hard even for expert so its really a waste of time for you to speculate so much about hypotheticals. Instead focus on the here and how and building skills that help you whether you are single or not. For example reducing social anxiety and improving social skills. Working on these issues for their own reason because this improves your quality of life.
/r/ExRedPill12/03/26 02:06 AM
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The fashion of this subculture expresses that you care more about self-expression of how you feel over what society thinks or what is conventionally attractive with often serious real world consequences. If you care too much what people think or what is attractive in a conventional sense then maybe you don't truly share the values and attitude of this subculture of the women you are trying to date. You are only part of this subculture when its is convenient, but you aren't truly and not willing …
/r/ExRedPill01/02/26 06:59 PM
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Do you have friends and a social life? If you struggle with the basics of socializing its best to focus on that first and maybe bring in a dating coach later.
/r/seduction01/02/26 09:12 AM
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So how can a person like me make it work if I don't like any of those? I can pretend very well and even look extroverted but I get tired of it. It's too much effort. You completely missed the point of his book. The point is for you to be authentic so you can find people who are compatible with you and have common interests. You talk about your interests to people, and engage in subjects you enjoy. If the other person doesn't like it, then talk to someone else until you find someone who also like…
/r/seduction01/02/26 09:06 AM
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You said, "Just never really felt comfortable repping it. It never looked flattering on me and my body." So this lack of desire to dress alternatively and not seeing the fashion is for you, appears to be rooted in being uncomfortable being seen in it and being insecure about how your body looks with it.
/r/ExRedPill01/02/26 08:56 AM
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There you go with your assumptions. Being attracted to someone sexually partly because of their looks, isn't about "measuring their worth". Its just finding them hot, and feeling chemistry. Also personality matters too and is a part of chemistry.
/r/ExRedPill01/02/26 08:53 AM
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To end up with a hot influencer woman, the easiest way is to be a hot influencer man, or at least a very attractive man with a successful career. Being a hot guy isn't an absolute requirement but its a lot easier if you are around their age and are financially successful especially as an influencer. And if you aren't very successful then you better be hot.
/r/seduction01/02/26 08:25 AM
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Then by your definition of "superficial", 95% of the population is "superficial". Nearly everyone has a type physically. A big part of relationships is sex, and the visual aspect of sex is important to many people. And just because someone has looks preferences doesn't mean they don't care about personality, or don't find someone conventionally less attractive people appealing.
/r/ExRedPill01/02/26 08:21 AM
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The internet has has caused people to radicalize politically and that includes gender politics. We are seeing more women in radical male ideology groups like red or black pill, and more women with radical misandrist views.
/r/ExRedPill01/02/26 08:13 AM
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Your true problem is your insecurity. You are attracted to women who belong to an alternative subculture, you consume its media, yet you feel too insecure to dress and truly be a part of this subculture you like. This causes you to not appear compatible with these women and maybe they can even sense some of this insecurity and not being quite grounded in who you are.
/r/ExRedPill01/02/26 08:10 AM
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You are basically doing everything right. You are expressing your point of view when he expresses his. As long as you aren't being over the top he has no right to be upset. If he can express his opinion, you can express yours. When someone is resistant its important to avoid trying to change their minds even though it sounds extremely counter-intuitive. It doesn't work because it makes you biased against their view and not fair minded, they can sense you are trying to control their views, it can…
/r/ExRedPill28/01/26 08:06 PM
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I'd say whenever he brings up red pill points then express your opinion. And if your GF's twin brings up her relationship maybe express your opinions about that. Its really hard to change people's minds so don't come in with high hopes. Just see it as expressing your views in hopes he will be reasonable not controlling what he believes. And maybe he'll see your perspective.
/r/ExRedPill28/01/26 04:11 PM
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Hey I'm sorry people here are so mean to you. I know that part of you has these red pill beliefs and part of you doesn't. And to express those beliefs to evaluate them gets a lot of criticism unfortunately. But as you can tell from the responses of women here many don't like the bad boy type at all. Everyone has their thing. And there are some men out there who like bad women. In fact some women believe that they need to create a little drama to keep their men interested. The truth is some peopl…
/r/ExRedPill24/01/26 03:49 PM
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What about the bad boy do many women like that they don't see in you?
/r/ExRedPill24/01/26 06:08 AM
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What red pill beliefs do you find most addicting?
/r/ExRedPill23/01/26 08:20 PM
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Maybe think about your interests and then buy shirts you like that reflect those interests.
/r/seduction23/01/26 06:48 AM
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I have always been an average person both physically and mainly I am a shit thanks to my appearance. but I was lucky enough to be "handsome, so to speak." That's why women have taken the initiative with me as I've already said before all the girls I've been with have looked for me because I'm a cagon. They've asked me for Instagram several times, people tell me frequent compliments, I even shaved and they told me that I looked good. I have a good gym product, a height of 180 cm at 16 years old, …
/r/ExRedPill19/01/26 06:01 AM
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Interesting. So what is your opinion on that advice? How true is it?
/r/ExRedPill18/01/26 05:38 PM
4

Like what stuff did he say that reminded you of RP?
/r/ExRedPill18/01/26 05:16 PM
4

What are his views on women and dealing with women?
/r/ExRedPill18/01/26 04:37 PM
2

Why do you think you are consuming blackpill if you view it as stupid and not reality? Or maybe you don't entirely discount blackpill?
/r/ExRedPill18/01/26 04:34 PM
1

I suggest reading some good books about being a therapist.
/r/seduction18/01/26 05:16 AM
1

So has your preference for women who need therapy caused any issues in dating?
/r/seduction18/01/26 12:46 AM
1

If you have turned other people's lives around, what about your own life? Is it going well?
/r/seduction18/01/26 12:26 AM
1

I'm curious how many women have you actually helped turn their lives around?
/r/seduction17/01/26 09:12 AM
1

Step 1 is have an active social life. If you make friends easily that will make approaching a lot easier.
/r/seduction17/01/26 12:40 AM
12

Are there any specific reasons you are still angry at women?
/r/ExRedPill15/01/26 07:50 PM
1

Sadly looks do matter and they will affect your success rate. The best thing you can do is accept that fact and some women won't be into you. Rather than seeing it in terms of how attractive you are see it in terms of girls in your league and girls out of your league. Girls out of your league will always be tougher no matter how attractive you are.
/r/seduction14/01/26 08:23 PM
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The answer is that there is just no clear answer. Women tend to peak far more consistently but men are far less consistent. It all depends on variables such as how well you age, are you balding, how is your style, are you gaining wait, do you have a social life, are you mentally healthy, and what is your career like. Men are all over the place on these metrics. Peak SMV is between 18 and 40 depending on the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 03:10 AM
2

If you are successful with women then I suggest not investing so much time chatting and set up a date more quickly. If they aren't interested move on because you got other dating options anyway.
/r/seduction12/01/26 12:58 AM
2

I think there is a balance to be struck between social success and career success. Don't overinvest in your career to the point that it destroys your social life completely. But also don't neglect your studies to party all the time.
/r/seduction12/01/26 12:01 AM
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The problem is that procedure is unlikely to significantly improve your looks and from the front its hard to see any difference. Your issue like likely autism and mental health and looking a little better is likely to change that.
/r/ExRedPill07/01/26 02:05 AM
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The jealousy is a good thing because it motivates you to get for yourself what people have assuming you react to your jealousy correctly. If you just sit around and nothing and stew thats not a great way to handle it. Typically guys aren't able to date because of mental health or personality issues.
/r/seduction04/01/26 06:54 PM
3

So when you read this argument are you extremely convinced by it without a shadow of a doubt? Or maybe your mind has some counter arguments to this and isn't 100% sold and has some objections. Like she chose what was right at the time, but was it actually right? She was making relationships but was it way too many and did she hook up a lot too?
/r/ExRedPill31/12/25 02:15 AM
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What is your counter-argument to the idea that she is is somehow bad for her sexual choices? You need good counter arguments if you want to start fighting these thoughts.
/r/ExRedPill30/12/25 11:03 PM
1

Its more like you aren't sold on people before you even get to know them. Like why would you care what someone's opinion is without really knowing them or verifying their opinion is even a good idea? Why try to impress some women you don't even know who might not be a good partner for you? You can find a woman interesting but don't be sold from the very beginning.
/r/seduction28/12/25 10:15 PM
3

I suggest you put real effort into eating healthier because exercise has a limited impact on weight loss. GLP can help with weight loss but for some people it doesn't help much and you have to keep taking it. Try to develop the skill of making new friends easily. Cold approach can be a part of that but shouldn't be the entire thing. Try improving your pics and paying for the apps if you haven't already. But I totally get that the dating apps are tough. Bingo. Doing warmer approaches where talkin…
/r/ExRedPill25/12/25 07:37 PM
6

From your post it sounds like talking to women has really been beneficial to your life and I suggest you keep doing it. Here are some suggestions for improvement: Work on looking your best. When you are approaching women first impressions mean a lot. Approaching women shouldn't be your entire social life. Make sure you have an active social life where you are meeting women organically as well. Give online dating a try. Its tough but its undeniable its a big part of dating. Having good pics and k…
/r/ExRedPill25/12/25 07:07 PM
1

Have you actually been successful doing this?
/r/seduction23/12/25 05:49 AM
3

pay attention to how you dress Paying too much attention to how you dress as a guy can make you come off as performative, overdressed, and actually a bit feminine. look like you try with your photos The gender ratio is horrible on online dating apps and its pretty common for guys to try with their photos and still fail. and have at least one hobby you are passionate about Your hobby will have zero impact on your dating. It isn't like most women want to hear about your hobby that much anyway. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 06:26 AM
3

They obviously aren't asking because they actually want to know your age. Its an expression that they aren't interested in dating someone significantly older. I'd just be very casual and funny about it while not acting apologetic or trying too hard to get their approval. So a joke like I'm 98 or I'm 18 but I spent too much time in the sun. Or jokingly say that its rude to ask someone their age. And if they have still not warmed up (which is likely) then just make an excuse to end the conversatio…
/r/seduction18/11/25 05:49 AM
2

I think his red pill beliefs actually make sense. He was married for a long time and had some stability. Now he is dating in the digital age and its pretty crazy and he is frustrated. He has been in several relationships but they haven't lasted and he's probably had some bad experiences. I think the best thing he can do is figure out why his relationships aren't lasting. Is he consistently picking the wrong type of person? Why is he doing that? Is he part of the problem?
/r/ExRedPill17/10/25 06:12 AM
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That women always prefer bad boys, whether they're bad guys,or guys who are just awful, psychologically abusive, etc. There is actually this belief among some women that men prefer women who force them to chase constantly and create drama. This is because men want what they can't have, drama makes relationships interesting, and he constantly has to keep chasing her in the relationship, and often believes he is at fault. Do you believe this claim that men prefer bad girls? One of the most common …
/r/ExRedPill14/10/25 01:20 AM
2

Well if you plan to remain in a relationship with him you both have to agree not to talk about politics or gender issues in any way. So no more comments from either of you because it doesn't end well. I personally have friends with very different political views than me and the way we do it is we don't talk about politics. Maybe deep down you want to change him, and he wants to change you, but realistically that isn't happening.
/r/ExRedPill12/10/25 04:53 PM
3

How does this channel suggest you treat the women you date? How does it represent women?
/r/ExRedPill12/10/25 04:35 PM
1

I guess I'm asking how does self-respect result in you being okay with being single long term and not getting very lonely without companionship long term? Haven't you been lonely when you were single at times?
/r/ExRedPill05/10/25 05:09 PM
1

Self respect doesn’t teach you, you don’t need relationships self respect will teach you to BE OK WITH BEING ALONE and that you don’t need anybody You appear to be contradicting yourself. it’ll teach you to be content without one meaning that if one doesn’t serve you it’s ok to look for the next or be alone for a period of time. A couple points here. First off if a relationship doesn't serve you and end its quite normal for someone to go through the stages of grief post-breakup where they defini…
/r/ExRedPill05/10/25 03:51 PM
3

self respect will teach you to BE OK WITH BEING ALONE and that you don’t need anybody Its really about how long you are alone. Like 1-2 years sure. But 20 years, thats really hard on some people no matter how much self-respect they have. Humans have an innate need for companionship. In fact telling yourself you don't need relationships and you are fine being alone long term can be a sign of avoidant attachment issues. Maybe not active avoidance but passive where you try to deny your desires for …
/r/ExRedPill05/10/25 05:08 AM
1

You got five wonderful choices (not necessarily exclusive): Try to become an English teacher somewhere. Work on your career so you aren't broke. Go to therapy and/or get medication. Accept this is the life you have and make the best of it. Make the worst of your situation and make yourself as miserable as you possibly can.
/r/ExRedPill28/09/25 07:45 AM
2

Assuming you were definitely going to be single for the next 5 years and then drop dead from something what would you do with those years you had left?
/r/ExRedPill28/09/25 07:42 AM
2

If you don't want to do therapy then your second option is you go through some kind of personal journey were you have some cool experiences and transform as a person. Like travelling or something. You gotta shake off this shitty attitude.
/r/ExRedPill28/09/25 07:37 AM
1

Given your responses that tend to be defensive and argumentative I strongly doubt that deep down you are here for solutions. You are just here to vent. Maybe see a therapist. Your problem is you want to fix the stuff on the outside like your social skills or looks, but you have deeper issues you haven't resolved.
/r/ExRedPill28/09/25 07:23 AM
1

My point is that despite me putting in above and beyond effort into my appearance Well the men they go for do what I do, just better. They dress better, they have clearer skin, they're thin enough yet also not sickly, they have better hair I'm confused how you put so much effort into your appearance when random guys who aren't trying that hard dress better and generally have a better maintained appearance. and social skills to the point of micro managing. I'm still at square one. Socializing hap…
/r/ExRedPill28/09/25 06:12 AM
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Hmmm I suggest you don't come off like you are trying too hard to convince him. It could make him stubborn (middle age man here lol). Instead play it off like you find what he says a little humorous and hard to believe. You could even tease him a bit like comparing him to Andrew Tate. Its about taking that idealized view of men he has and poking fun at it. Like one approach is to mention counter-examples. Like a friend whose boyfriend is super selfish and shes always the one doing things for him…
/r/ExRedPill27/09/25 10:07 PM
2

Are there specific claims that he is making? Maybe I can give you some good counter-arguments. Like more details into how he thinks women are entitled.
/r/ExRedPill27/09/25 06:42 PM
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What you want to do is take a little bit of truth from every perspective. The red pillers have a point that status, money, and gym can help in dating and that women can be terrible. The black pillers are right that looks matters a lot more in dating than a lot of people think. The pickup artists are right that certain ways of communicating can generate attraction. And the blue pillers are right that having a good connection, being a decent person, and having good mental health can be attractive …
/r/ExRedPill11/04/25 07:31 PM
2

I know going up to a stranger is anxiety inducting so kudos for actually trying. So the mistake you made was you just handed her your number when you should have made some comment about her and started a conversation. You should have exchanged numbers after extending an invite so that it feels natural rather than needy.
/r/seduction09/04/25 06:05 PM
3

Didn't expect things to turn in this direction.
/r/seduction09/04/25 03:43 AM
8

One last thing I forgot to say. If you don't want to wait for the number, say "Do you want my number?" rather than asking him for his number. This makes you come off as less needy and puts the burden on him to initiate. Also make sure you are teasing and evaluating him a little so you don't come off as needy plus you shouldn't be sold on someone you don't know.
/r/seduction08/04/25 11:41 PM
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Guys have never really approached me, even before this new wave of men not wanting to focus on women (which I think is great, not judging the movement). This is blown way of proportion. Most men want to be in relationships and often they aren't approaching because they don't want negative consequences. Any general advice for finding a good guy, how to seduce is greatly appreciated. Make some excuse to talk to them like asking for workout advice and be very friendly hinting that you want to meet …
/r/seduction08/04/25 11:19 PM
1

As great as it is to have women poverty really sucks and its really nice to have money. Even if you are wealthy with no game you can still find a long term partner and do okay.
/r/seduction07/04/25 03:25 PM
5

The truth is some women are more loyal than others. Here are some reasons why many don't leave. You are about as attractive as each other or maybe you are a bit more attractive. So someone more attractive than you could do better than her and won't want a relationship with her. She has a value system of loyalty and commitment based on her upbringing and value system. And women with unstable families may be more likely to cheat. Like generally party girls are more likely to cheat. You mentioned m…
/r/ExRedPill07/04/25 02:59 PM
2

"Bet you’ve gotten lost at least once" That can work well depending on the situation as a tease. If its done wrong it can upset her. Its all about calibration. Love the cold read + DHV combo. Do you have a go to example? Cold read might be "you seem shy". That might get her to qualify. Or like "I bet you eat salads every day" in response to her talking about gym and if she looks fit. Or like "Your strike me an an Italian girl." DHV is tricky but you can indirectly mention friends, girls, or some…
/r/seduction02/04/25 07:34 PM
4

Even RSD and Models are outdated at this point but still valuable perspectives. To avoid the interview trap balance questions with comments. Like saying something about what she said, a tease, cold read, a comment, and talking about yourself maybe with a little DHV.
/r/seduction02/04/25 06:40 PM
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I Quit Using Pickup Lines This was abandoned when RSD came onto the scene. Instead its best to have some normal conversation starters if you can't think of something to say. I started asking questions about them instead of rehearsing stories about myself. Example: “What’s something you’re weirdly passionate about?” Long DHV stories were also abandoned when RSD came onto the scene. Its still useful to indirectly DHV and have some stories ready, just don't over-rely on them or drag them out. And y…
/r/seduction02/04/25 05:28 PM
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The problem as you said is you are acting too introverted. Maybe you only socialize to ask women out so your social skills are really rusty. I bet it can be lonely sometimes being single and I bet your life would be a lot better with amazing friends. Also I bet you'd really benefit from doing a little research into how to talk to women. You can succeed in dating apps but the guys who do tend to be guys who can succeed in real life as well. I strongly suggest you start by limiting your screen tim…
/r/seduction02/04/25 04:59 PM
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Yeah it annoys me when people demand that you should do things out of zero desire for dating or sex when thats just not possible. However just make sure you don't believe you are entitled to anything and you also have some altruistic motives too and its not just about sex.
/r/ExRedPill31/03/25 07:21 PM
2

The best ways to adopt a bad boy persona are: Look the part. Actually do "bad boy" thinks and live that life. If this truly isn't who you are its better to find an attractive archetype that is more compatible with your personality and values.
/r/seduction31/03/25 05:39 PM
1

Based on what experience because I've seen that happen. The truth is women aren't a monolith and don't all have the same preferences. Many women are attracted to that kind of guy, many aren't. And many women who enjoy hooking up and often put that short term excitement over long term connection will prefer that exciting guy.
/r/ExRedPill30/03/25 05:58 PM
2

I have to agree with ChatGPT here. But keep in mind that these questions are specifically about hookups not long term relationships. But even from my time with the pickup community comfort building is very important for attraction. So this shows that emotional connection connection cannot be ignored. WOmen still want to feel safe and connected with the men they hook up with.
/r/ExRedPill30/03/25 05:44 PM
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Its better to consume free content that coaches have provided and get plenty of experience talking to women. These courses don't have anything you can't find online for free. What is super helpful is to find someone who can see you in action and give you valuable third person feedback. So find a wing. After all this the one case a coach can really help is if you hit a rut, you found a coach you like and have a good reputation, and they can observe you in action and give you pointers.
/r/seduction30/03/25 04:40 AM
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No its actually a great small talk question for finding common interests that are fun. You guys really need to stop calling everything a shit test. It means she is invested and trying to get to know you and displays neediness on her part.
/r/seduction29/03/25 06:10 AM
1

Improv comedy, night life, or travel.
/r/seduction28/03/25 04:39 PM
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Models. Of course the best seduction material isn't books.
/r/seduction28/03/25 12:06 AM
1

I suggest going indirect with your approach, like making a comment about something they are buying, or asking the employee a question and trying to get a convo started. If you overdo approaching you can get kicked out.
/r/seduction27/03/25 11:26 PM
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Most seduction mostly focus on inner game or are way out of date or from coaches without good infield.
/r/seduction27/03/25 04:54 PM
2

Thats not a shit test. A shit test is where she will be mean to you to test if you handle it well. She is just expressing insecurity and thats all it really is.
/r/seduction26/03/25 05:41 PM
5

She might be saying this out of insecurity. She is insecure about her belly so she hides it in her pics. But she is afraid that if she meets you, she might be rejected because she doesn't look like her pics. So she tells you first to see if you accept her anyway. What you should do is decide whether you still want to date her given this information. Everyone here who is saying this is a shit test calls everything shit tests.
/r/seduction26/03/25 05:05 PM
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The sad truth is its hard to change our partners and often the harder we try to harder they resist. You can try talking to him and change his mind. But if that doesn't work you will have to accept he will be this way for a while. And then you will have to decide whether you want to be in a relationship with a red piller. If you are about to leave him because of his red pill beliefs that might actually cause him to try to justify himself to you and possibly be open to change.
/r/ExRedPill24/03/25 11:29 PM
8

This guy below has a lot of video on the dual mating hypothesis any why it doesn't work. The evidence against it are women typically fall in love with their affair partners and typically aren't happy in their relationships when they cheat. This is inconsistent with the idea that they are in okay relationships but cheat for better genes. It is more consistent with the idea that they are cheating to find another partner or the mate switching hypothesis. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ByHauVncElw …
/r/ExRedPill21/03/25 03:03 PM
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Thats why you do your research first. A lot of women will give guys second chances because sex isn't the biggest reason they are dating.
/r/seduction18/03/25 01:12 AM
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You look up some sex tips online and keep having sex with her.
/r/seduction18/03/25 01:00 AM
1

Its either emotional energy or looks.
/r/seduction17/03/25 04:13 AM
4

but when kids come into the picture, balancing that time cannot be easy. Several solutions to this. Have a couple kids about the same age so they can play together. Will be a lot of work when they are babies but they will be lower maintenance later on. Use the jobs to pay for fulltime daycare and preschool. Have one parent work remote, part time, or take a break from their career. If possible have a family member like a grandma and aunt help with the kids. Maybe paying them. Have an arrangement …
/r/ExRedPill14/03/25 03:13 PM
2

How is she supposed to know its cheap?
/r/seduction14/03/25 04:26 AM
2

Its not actually good to be too nice because you are holding back negative opinions and emotions which is inherently inauthentic. Negative emotions have a role and aren't all bad. Anger can motivate you to defend yourself and make changes. A fight with a partner can get you to communicate a problem you are holding back. Women respect men who can express negative things. This lack of authenticity of being too nice is often rooted in being a needy people pleaser because you didn't get the acceptan…
/r/ExRedPill14/03/25 03:00 AM
1

We all should be. We all should have standards and evaluate people based on those standards. So when two people are sitting across each other on a date they should both be the choosers and if they choose each other then that really means something.
/r/seduction13/03/25 07:12 AM
0

Yeah its a bad approach to tease too hard, make her qualify too much, escalate sexually, or brag in too overt of a way especially if its all unearned and too early in the interaction. Its turns interactions into conflicts and then the PUA thinks she is shit testing him when he brought that on himself.
/r/seduction13/03/25 06:32 AM
1

Agreed. It would be really big turnoff to be approached by a stranger who then starts acting really arrogant and cocky.
/r/seduction13/03/25 05:00 AM
3

You want to approach with the mindset that you are interested but not sold and he will have to do the work to sell himself to you. If hes acting super weird and thats turning you off, then don't talk to him anymore, because you are the chooser and he didn't impress you.
/r/seduction13/03/25 02:32 AM
1

Many girls don't know me (unfortunately,) so I can't just slide into DMs without any reason as I am a stranger to them, or if you know how enlighten me. Again what did all this research you did tell you how to handle sliding into DMs? I'm starting to think you didn't do very good research. I know that already but most women in my area (i live in a small town) are taken or ugly or they simply are dry texters. You said most not all. If you are a very attractive person then you will find someone ju…
/r/seduction10/03/25 08:05 PM
9

Generally the channels you want to pick are ones where: You can see the guy and his vibe to see if he has game. Some infield where he is talking to girls. Recommendations from other people. His advice is often specific and practical and you can tell it came from actual experience not just broad theory. He recognizes the importance of looks, social skills, and mental health too because inner game is important. Has more modern content and isn't just spouting off theory from 20 years ago. Has been …
/r/seduction10/03/25 06:50 PM
2

I have a lot of female friends, and I can talk to them easily, but when I’m talking to my crush, I just can’t seem to find the right words. One thing that might help is rehearse some lines for starting conversations, small talk, questions, stories about yourself, and funny things. Focus on platonic conversation first before moving on to showing intent. I’m not good enough for her, What makes you not good enough? ‘she’s probably in a relationship,’ ‘she won’t fall for me,’ These two statements ar…
/r/seduction10/03/25 05:27 PM
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I watched and heard a lot about getting girls but my problem isn't talking to them. So what is your approach to talking to a girl you are interested in? Currently I don't text with any girl I used to chat with and because I wanted to avoid online-dating. Texting a girl isn't online dating. Online dating only refers to dating apps not regular texting. The world is increasingly online so if you are avoiding it then you are seriously shooting yourself in the foot. I don't know how to initiate a con…
/r/seduction10/03/25 05:19 PM
2

I think a mindfulness and CBT approach might be helpful to these OCD ticks you are having so you can see them as just emotions and thoughts that aren't connected to reality.
/r/ExRedPill10/03/25 02:30 AM
8

I think you are being a little perfectionist about your dates. And this is ironic when you yourself aren't perfect and have OCD. Honestly the best way to start is to keep going to therapy and also use online resources for your OCD too.
/r/ExRedPill10/03/25 01:35 AM
2

I'm a fan of DHV told indirectly because it does positively improve her perception of you. I will agree that the way you communicate and carry yourself will communicate your value and DHVs can't be too on the nose. Also if you are going for that fboy vibe then too much DHVs can make women perceive you as a provider and want to date before having sex. What I'm exaggerating isn't the DHV itself but the emotions of it being an interview and I'm qualifying because its the emotions that matter the mo…
/r/seduction09/03/25 09:27 PM
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Correct me if this is cringe but maybe another way is to exaggerate her frame and DHV. So in a playful overly serious way, "I see this is an interview. I have a great sense of humor, a cool social circle, in good shape, have a good career, etc. Here is a story about how I successfully resolved a conflict at work..."
/r/seduction09/03/25 08:44 PM
13

Maybe a takeaway like "Honestly didn't take you for the flaky type."
/r/seduction09/03/25 08:03 PM
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So there are two variation of this term. The type you are talking about is mostly a humorous exaggerated term and thats pretty innocent. But there is a second version where a person becomes absolutely fixated with a celebrity. Like one redditor described that his girlfriend has a celebrity crush on Chris Brown. She talks about him constantly and is constantly praising him and listening to his music. And she would defend Chris Brown to tears. My grandma had a celebrity crush on Elvis Presley. Obc…
/r/ExRedPill07/03/25 02:40 AM
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A conversation is basically improv because its unplanned and is very similar to improv comedy. Improv improves your sense of humor, reduces social anxiety, makes your conversations more fun and spontaneous, and you tend to think about the other person more in conversations because thats important for improv. Plus you will meet and bond with cool people which will improve social skills.
/r/seduction07/03/25 02:13 AM
-1

Actually that can happen. Its called a celebrity crush.
/r/ExRedPill07/03/25 02:09 AM
132

The truth is you are overpaying for a lot of these things. Quality wardrobe basics from reliable brands ($2000) Getting a decent wardrobe should be way cheaper. I have a really great t-shirt that was $10. Skincare regimen and dermatologist visit ($500) Not really worth it unless you have skin issues. Professional photography for dating profiles ($400) Good investment. Make sure you pick a photographer who does dating apps. Cooking classes ($500) You can learn to cook for free. Invest that money …
/r/seduction07/03/25 01:29 AM
-4

Yes it is. "Emotional cheating is when someone develops a deep, intimate emotional connection with someone other than their romantic partner"
/r/ExRedPill07/03/25 01:19 AM
-6

Normalizing emotional cheating is the red flag.
/r/ExRedPill07/03/25 12:51 AM
-9

I'm with the red pillers on this one. I don't want to date someone who is crushing on someone else.
/r/ExRedPill06/03/25 10:52 PM
29

So all the guys who say stuff like this also say that guys are naturally polygamous and want to have sex with more women than just their wives to spread their genes and are only limited by their dating options. And if they become high value then their wives should just let them because its better to be part of a high value guy's harem. Also guys want to date hot women in their early 20s and will secretly prefer these women to their older wives because they are more fertile. Do you fit this gener…
/r/ExRedPill06/03/25 06:35 AM
1

I guess we have to define what we mean by "forcing masculine traits". But yeah agree with this.
/r/ExRedPill06/03/25 05:05 AM
1

What is true?
/r/ExRedPill06/03/25 05:04 AM
-5

Your problem is you aren't that good at talking to women and you lack standards because you are needy. So you put in all this excessive effort to chase women and the desperation shows. You also seem to have emotional issues partly stemming from the obviously bad partner you picked because you were so desperate. Some people have it way easier than everyone else but thats really true for anything. You need to work on your looks, mental health, and talking to women.
/r/seduction05/03/25 03:47 PM
9

Its pretty simple. Claims require evidence to believe. You should only believe the red pill if it has evidence and you have objectively looked at counter-argument. The reason you aren't being objective is because belief is an emotion and is that feeling of truth when you hear something that you resonate with because it speaks to your emotional personal experience. So practice mindful meditation and get good at spotting that feeling when you think things that don't actually have good evidence and…
/r/ExRedPill04/03/25 11:35 PM
2

No the highest value thing is if other girls are interested in you but you aren't really interested in them because they don't meet your standards. Being interested in other girls implies that you didn't have the courage to ask them out or they aren't interested back which is low value. Having female friends can be high value if they are attracted to you but you aren't attracted to them.
/r/seduction03/03/25 11:42 PM
1

A pair of girls is the hardest because the other one can potentially feel left out by you flirting with your friend or by trying to take her home. With a group at least the other girls have each other to talk to. With a group you need to engage the whole group and make friends with them.
/r/seduction03/03/25 07:26 PM
1

Todd V, UMP, Coach Kyle, Zerkha, Playing with Fire, Karisma King, A.G. Hayden, Kenzia Noble, RSD torrents, Austen Summers, and Honest Signalz.
/r/seduction03/03/25 07:17 PM
1

Here are some possibilities: She was just being polite in person but was actually not interested. You didn't run the text convo well. After the conversation she had a negative impression of what happened after thinking about it. She was just in a different emotional state after the conversation. Your IG isn't that impressive. Also is it okay to cold approach girls in gym or in university in general? You have to be careful because it can affect your reputation. Its better to do this sparingly and…
/r/seduction03/03/25 07:11 PM
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And if you talk to a lot of women you will hear a lot of horror stories too. That man vs bear meme didn't come from nowhere. The truth is there are good people and bad people of both genders. Relationships are messy.
/r/ExRedPill02/03/25 11:22 PM
2

I even asked if I was wasting her time, and she said I wasn’t. This is a bad question because it exposes insecurity. You want to assume rapport and calibrate to discomfort in her body language. Also many people will lie when directly asked. Since she’s tall, I also asked if she was into sports, but she said no. Better if that had been a cold read or a tease. When I saw her again, I tried to make eye contact, but she lowered her head and walked away (idk if she was uncomfortable or maybe she didn…
/r/seduction01/03/25 03:48 PM
2

You should be able to know if she had fun during sex while you are having sex and how she is behaving after sex. Thats actually a far better indicator of her actual interest than some polite text.
/r/seduction01/03/25 06:46 AM
13

Are you actually sure you are ugly? Or do you have body dysmorphia like half the people who call themselves ugly? The truth is that both self-improvement and looks can have a big impact on dating and a bit of both are ideal. Don't need to be perfect though.
/r/ExRedPill01/03/25 06:23 AM
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Sex is the ultimate investment. I'm just not understanding how you think she isn't investing if she is having sex with you and agreeing to all your plans.
/r/seduction01/03/25 06:19 AM
1

The truth is there is no "real you". We are all just a collection of sub-processes in the brain that interact with sub-processes in the body. For example you can be at odds with your own emotional desires which is another part of "you". Our brain states and emotions vary wildly throughout the day and we can be very different people at different times. As we age all our cells get replaced and we become very different from what we were. Environment plays a massive role in the people we become and …
/r/seduction28/02/25 11:21 PM
1

Agreed, we have to be calibrated. I think the key is to be a bit more sexual than her.
/r/seduction28/02/25 09:23 PM
1

This idea that authenticity requires stagnation is simply incorrect. Part of being authentic is growing as we get older and becoming better versions of ourselves. Its okay to fake it till you make it as long as the goal isn't completely incompatible with what you will ever be.
/r/seduction28/02/25 09:22 PM
2

Why don't you go sexual sooner if thats what you are after?
/r/seduction28/02/25 09:19 PM
2

Yeah the latter is more of a white lie which everyone does.
/r/seduction28/02/25 07:34 PM
3

Its okay to leave out negative things and maybe embellish the positive a little. We all do that to a certain extent.
/r/seduction28/02/25 07:33 PM
13

Lying without any boundaries to seduce her. Pretending to be some super high value guy you aren't means she isn't attracted to the real you.
/r/seduction28/02/25 07:21 PM
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You show her in indirect ways. Guys who just want hookups have a certain playful mannerism and look. They don't dhv directly because they aren't trying to show they would make good partners. Maybe even indirectly hint that you've been with many women. And appear not completely sold on her so she knows you aren't looking for a relationship with her. And generally talk about adventure being open and having fun.
/r/seduction28/02/25 07:16 PM
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Don't think just jump in and introduce yourself. The more you think the more you will mess things up. Its also the best way to get into a cold pool.
/r/seduction28/02/25 06:26 PM
1

This sounds like the Dialectical Behavioral Therapy strategy of opposite action. Basically when you have a dysfunctional emotion do the opposite of that emotion and actively resist it.
/r/seduction28/02/25 04:38 PM
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Thats probably the loudest involuntary celibate men tend to be right-wing misogynists. And part of human nature is we tend to generalize and like to categorize.
/r/ExRedPill27/02/25 06:03 PM
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Never chase. Actually many women like men who chase. The issue is chasing too hard and being too needy. Always escalate and be polarizing. Be careful with that at work or social circle. Also some girls want you to take things slow. Don’t embrace the friend frame If she just isn't attracted to you then that is an acceptable frame. Don’t save her, she don’t wanna be saved. Many women are looking for a provider and saving her can create attraction. Pay attention to what women do, not what they say.…
/r/seduction26/02/25 06:43 PM
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I just can't take someone seriously who constantly complains about women in his car and wears sunglasses in every video. Discount Coach Corey Wayne.
/r/ExRedPill26/02/25 05:57 PM
1

What games are they playing?
/r/seduction25/02/25 07:14 PM
2

If you aren't good at playing social/dating games you shouldn't be cold approaching period. Cold approach is very advanced.
/r/seduction25/02/25 06:44 PM
5

Typically a problem with your looks, verbals, emotional energy, or texting. Hard to know without more details. To be fair cold approach is difficult so see your success as doing better than you did before and moving things further.
/r/seduction25/02/25 06:22 PM
1

Might help if you find someone to go out with you can give you constructive feedback. Might be your looks, energy, no dhv, and no teasing.
/r/seduction25/02/25 06:17 PM
2

Make a habit of doing things people don't like that are right. Adopt a mindset that doing the right thing and living your best life is more important than other people's dumb opinions. Mine included.
/r/seduction25/02/25 06:13 PM
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You need professional help. People often invent identities based on their past actions and emotions. And they are often very triggered when that identity is threatened.
/r/ExRedPill25/02/25 03:53 PM
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it feels like women have an abundance of options through Tinder Men outnumber women 3 to 1 on online dating in general and the truth is most women don't use and don't like online dating. I’ve had one short-lived “relationship” where the girl lost interest and left me (after I grew my hair and became more authentic to myself), which reinforced my belief that women are primarily drawn to looks and status. Or maybe you pretended to be someone you weren't and attracted someone who liked that fake pe…
/r/ExRedPill25/02/25 01:33 AM
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Good then do the rest. Like one problem is you are asking permission too much and being overly logical with her. When the time was right you should have gone 90% for the kiss.
/r/seduction21/02/25 06:47 PM
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To do that you lead, disagree, tease, disqualify, make her qualify, flirt, and escalate touching.
/r/seduction21/02/25 06:43 PM
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Yes you need her father's approval to hook up with her lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 01:51 AM
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Be physically attractive, very social, and be good at talking to women. Or move to Thailand.
/r/seduction19/02/25 06:09 PM
1

If she is texting slower that isn't necessarily a mind game on her part and maybe its just in your head. As long as you have compliance from her and she goes out with you then if she is texting slower then you can text slower too.
/r/seduction17/02/25 05:54 PM
1

That inner confidence comes after a lot of cold approaching not before. I suggest you take Manson's advice and start small like asking where something is and leaving.
/r/seduction17/02/25 04:33 PM
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Just use texting for setting up meetups. As long as she is complying with you over text then its actually great you don't have to text anything fancy.
/r/seduction16/02/25 07:03 AM
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Looks do matter but for an initial impression, beyond the approach it's sole game. There is just a certain threshold of non-unattractiveness you have to pass Yes but the initial impression is very important and dictates whether they will continue the interaction with you. That threshold depends on the girl and what her preferences are. A drop dead gorgeous women isn't thinking 'Why is this 4/10 guy talking to me, I'm a 9-10/10'. Right but a lot of this is subconscious or indirect. For example if…
/r/seduction16/02/25 07:02 AM
2

but if he fires it off once and crashes then it won't be too terrible. That really depends on whether she talks about it or not. If the other girls hear about it that reduces the chance they will accept his date request. It can also make things awkward with the other girls. If he really screws up flirting and really upsets someone it can end friendships. One way to think about this is while there is risk sometimes we should take those risks. But lets not pretend those aren't risks instead we sho…
/r/seduction16/02/25 06:16 AM
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One problem might be that you didn't demonstrate provider value to her so she sees you as a partner. Or you are attracting women who just want hookups. Or you are pushing the attraction too hard and not creating enough comfort or giving her space to pursue you. Teasing and getting her to qualify can help her see you as the prize too.
/r/seduction16/02/25 02:57 AM
1

To live comfortably in Thailand you need 1,000 to 1,600 a month and that cost is rising. If you want to retire in Thailand for 40 years you will need over $600,000 dollars. Also the cost of living in Thailand is rising rapidly as wages go up and more westerners are going there so the real number is actually in the millions. No way you can save up for that in 5 years. And given the cost of living most people are living paycheck to paycheck.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 06:00 PM
1

To live in Thailand on a western salary.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 04:45 PM
1

Most people don't have that option.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 04:24 PM
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Have you seen the price of a house or eggs recently? Having two large incomes will give you the dying American dream. Also shows she is intelligent and got it together.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 01:28 PM
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A better approach is to find some way to indirectly brag about your sexual performance by maybe complaining about a woman who was too into having sex with you. It is tricky to pull off. And yes short guys date too its just a lot harder and you will get less attractive women.
/r/seduction12/02/25 01:27 PM
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Here's my take on this; As soon as you realize you're attracted, send it. Ask her out in some way. Put the intentions out there. I say this for a few reasons. No first assess if there is any actual sign of interest or whether she is in your league. If its a maybe then flirt with her to build attraction and if she responds well then ask her out. If it doesn't work out, don't be weird about it and keep talking as normal. You won't be too hurt and she'll be more comfortable around you because you'r…
/r/seduction12/02/25 01:25 PM
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Give her an amused suggestive look. "I'd date someone like you. We should find two people just like us and set them up." You want to assume the best and that she said that because she is interested and wants to know if you are interested. So by saying you would date her that shows intent and you are interested. But this could be too needy or mess things up if she isn't interested. Hence the playful misinterpretation that downgrades the interest in a funny way. Saying something like, "I'd date me…
/r/seduction12/02/25 12:44 PM
0

Really depends on where in Europe you are at. Spanish girls are different than Swedish, and they are different from Russian.
/r/seduction11/02/25 09:31 PM
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Being brown means you will have challenges dating where you live. But women don't have uniform preferences and its best to view yourself as niche and you will attract a certain type of women who are into guys from a different culture. I suggest you work on getting better at talking to women which will set you apart from the reserved white guys and help you on those dates. Take approaching women gradually so you can best find the approach that doesn't get you in any trouble. Look your best and im…
/r/seduction11/02/25 05:35 PM
1

Thats good news for the guys are who are approaching.
/r/seduction11/02/25 04:07 PM
1

Try playfully disagreeing with them and teasing them more when you first talk to them. Make assumption about them like emotions they are expressing and then tease them for it.
/r/seduction09/02/25 06:58 PM
3

I suggest you be really picky who you marry then. Otherwise sounds like a terrible deal.
/r/ExRedPill08/02/25 06:09 AM
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But even in your society men will stay married to their wives even when they get older. And I'm sure there are plenty good marriages where the older husband loves his older wife. Do you even want to marry a guy who had misogynistic views of women and views her as worthless because she is 30? Also its simply not true that men gain dating "value" as they age. Especially with younger generations the age gap is diminishing and younger women tend to prefer younger guys even when they don't have as mu…
/r/ExRedPill07/02/25 07:45 PM
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I thought according to Islam that your virtue is what determines your real value. The truth is there is no objective measure of value whether its intelligence, career, virtue, spirituality, family, looks, popularity, or whatever you are passionate about. There is also no evidence of any objective right or wrong, its all subjective. There is also no singular "you" who has or lacks value. We are all a collection of subsystems that work together. You might think your body is "you", but if your brai…
/r/ExRedPill07/02/25 04:22 PM
1

I ask people to hang out, "Nah, man, no time, I'm only here for this." You need to research social and dating skills and keep practicing. Whats helpful is to talk to people about what each of you do for fun, and if the connection is great with them then ask them to do that with them. Emotional energy is important and you have to say this in a way that its not a big deal and going to be fun. Very important to not come off as needy and demonstrate high value. I understand day game, I can get decen…
/r/seduction04/02/25 06:14 PM
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If you really think the cheesy skit in porn videos is "good game" then you definitely need this subreddit.
/r/seduction03/02/25 05:51 PM
13

Second of all, women should be treated better and not sexualized in adult media such as movies or games and the entertainment industry does influence people's behaviors so with this it could help reduce mysoginy. I don't think sexualization in all cases is a horrible thing. Like some people both men and women intentionally present themselves in a way to be sexualized because they like the attention and profit. Sexuality is a part of people's identity and to exclude it takes a lot of fun out of l…
/r/ExRedPill03/02/25 05:27 AM
0

I began to view women in a healthier way and educated myself on feminism and what it's like to grow up as a woman in today's world. Unfortunately, I am still very much having to deprogram myself from incel like views. Feminism won't really help you date and there is some truth to red pill and incel views. Its just that these ideologies exaggerate and generalize things. I still fall in love with women who I have never dated, but became obsessed with. I still get major depressive episodes about be…
/r/ExRedPill03/02/25 04:17 AM
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The problem with that book is it suggests being overly honest about your problems and treating the girl like your therapist who you will open up to way too fast and vent too. The truth is you shouldn't be completely non-needy and its healthy to care what people think to a certain extent.
/r/seduction30/01/25 05:40 PM
5

Not at Planet Fitness.
/r/seduction29/01/25 10:43 PM
2

The human brain is made to become less stimulated by something as it keeps getting it over and over again. That is true for drugs, food, and also dating. Enough is when you stop crushing so hard on every girl and that feeling of the "girl of your dreams" is gone. The reality is when you are with someone long enough things settle down and the vast majority of people break up, divorce, or the relationship goes dry.
/r/seduction27/01/25 06:46 PM
8

What you actually need to do is meet enough girls so that you desensitize and stop believing every girl you meet is the girl of your dreams. You need to start seeing women as the flawed humans they are.
/r/seduction27/01/25 06:05 PM
1

Yes but you got some practice flirting with women. Its a win win.
/r/seduction27/01/25 05:07 PM
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The women who reject you don't actually know you. They are only reacting to an impression of you and their own issues.
/r/seduction24/01/25 07:57 PM
1

You absolutely shouldn't be playing these games where you intentionally wait to text. This might make her think you aren't interested, are playing games, she might lose that feeling for you, or she will text another guy. Instead just don't text her immediately like you are hanging on her every text. Texting tends to happen in bursts so if she is texting fast and the conversation is popping then text fast too. And if it slows down its okay to text slower too plus you should have things to do anyw…
/r/seduction24/01/25 07:39 PM
2

If you define nice as never doing anything edgy, never expressing an authentic risky opinion, avoiding the chance of anyone possibly feeling upset, getting caught up in following a long list of moral rules, and being overly serious and triggered then this is just a terrible way of being nice. You can be a nice person while not being a goody two shoes.
/r/seduction24/01/25 07:26 PM
1

A lot of guys next women out of anger from being rejected and a fear of being friendzoned. But as a result they may struggle to meet women organically because knowing women is the best way to get to know other women. When rejection happens its important to remember that women are naturally picky and they have a right to reject. Consider whether a female friendship would be beneficial to you. Also remind yourself over and over that its extremely unlikely she will want a relationship.
/r/seduction24/01/25 06:52 PM
2

I don't think there is just one path for everyone. Some people may still feel very lonely while doing all this working out and some random hobby. They may hear a lot of nice things from chat gpt but that doesn't translate into anything. Another way to work on inner game is to read dating books on inner game with a dating focus.
/r/seduction24/01/25 06:34 AM
5

One way is to fake it while going to therapy.
/r/seduction24/01/25 06:07 AM
2

I think being like 5'3 is a really big disadvantage in dating but if you are 5'7 you are only two inches below average so your height is only a moderate disadvantage. Everyone has some flaw that gives them some kind of disadvantage. And there are things you can do to negate this. Like you can wear shoes with 3 inch soles, get a haircut that adds to your height, have confident body language, have an assertive personality, or hit the gym. The vast majority of people are able to date and that even …
/r/ExRedPill24/01/25 01:23 AM
1

"We learn more from things going badly so its actually good." "The number 1 death bed regret is people didn't do what they really wanted because of fear of disapproval. Don't be that guy." "Some people will like me, some won't because they are incompatible. Start with the assumption they do and you will find them."
/r/seduction23/01/25 07:24 PM
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If she was attracted to you, she wouldn't ask "why" if you asked for her number. She would be very eager to give it to you. So if you end the conversation right there, she is unlikely to respond when you text. So try to keep talking a little and build that attraction so when you do text she is more likely to respond. And in general its better to talk a little bit after asking for the number. This is so it doesn't seem like you only talked to her to get the date. It also means asking for the numb…
/r/seduction23/01/25 07:05 PM
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Good point. And I'd also suggest talking to her further because obviously she doesn't want to hang out yet. Otherwise it will be a dead number.
/r/seduction23/01/25 05:39 PM
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I see where you are coming from, filter for women with similar interests. But there are some issues. Many women aren't comfortable going to some guy's house when they just met on the street. Also pizza and switch is basically netflix and chill which often makes many women feel slutty for agreeing to or lacking romance which is why it has a mixed reputation. And finally making that suggestion could stereotype you as that gamer addict who just eats pizza all the time with no life. One thing you ca…
/r/seduction23/01/25 05:23 PM
4

Well these may not be the best date ideas for a lot of women but hey if it works then why stop?
/r/seduction23/01/25 04:36 PM
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So what you want to do is show some intent in some way even non-verbally so she understands you are interested in her. Also towards the end suggest an activity to do together. So when you ask for the number it actually completely makes sense.
/r/seduction23/01/25 04:13 PM
1

When you are in your feelings thinking you aren't good enough, this is a dysfunctional version of planning. So do it right, think of the ways that you suspect you aren't good enough. Then critically question them to make sure you aren't being a perfectionist, exaggerating how bad things are, or being overly dependent on external opinions. Make sure you have your values figured out and are using them in this evaluation. If you find areas where you legitimately need to improve, understand we are a…
/r/seduction23/01/25 03:42 AM
1

Are you actually getting likes and comments on your memes?
/r/seduction21/01/25 10:47 PM
2

Mark Manson has a channel and a podcast. He has also written other books that might be interesting. Charisma on Command is pretty good for social skills. HealthyGamerGG is good for mindfulness and mental health.
/r/ExRedPill21/01/25 10:39 PM
7

What points do you agree with? The first step is to logically evaluate whether their points are reasonable. The second is the understand your emotional reasons for being attracted to their views.
/r/ExRedPill21/01/25 10:34 PM
4

Psychologists are wrong all the time. A good example is Orion Taraban.
/r/ExRedPill17/01/25 11:36 PM
1

You will get that positive tone from any non-red pilled dating coach and the pickup community in general. What pickup line did he use? As for text game you will get pretty similar advice from other pickup channels. What did you like about his text game?
/r/ExRedPill17/01/25 04:15 PM
2

He seems to be more a part of the pickup community than red pill because most of his content is oriented to attracting girls not complaining about them. However it doesn't seem he does a lot of cold approach and relies on his looks to get good reactions. His advice seems to be watered down pickup that is copied from other sources with good marketing which has gotten him a big channel. Just curious what positive advice have you heard from him? And what do you disagree with?
/r/ExRedPill16/01/25 05:32 AM
1

The truth is its difficult for nearly every guy to approach a woman he likes. You just have to accept its hard and you are going to be afraid of being rejected, but you jump in anyway. If you want to reduce that fear, question fearful mindsets you have, get a lot of experience approaching women, learn how to do it properly, look your best, and warm up.
/r/seduction16/01/25 05:26 AM
1

If something is common sense typically a lot of people believe it because its obvious. Using common sense I think people who cheat tend to meet in real life and use a secret account to communicate like with Signal or Telegram. The dumb ones probably text. Also using common sense most people don't accept follows or messages from people online they don't know in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 05:43 PM
4

How is it common sense when nobody I know believes that?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 04:40 PM
7

How do you know its the number one avenue for infidelity?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 04:21 PM
6

Online doesn't mean online dating. Half of people who meet online meet through social media. So even by your own graph that more than three quarters who don't meet on the apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 04:14 PM
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I'd point out that the vast majority of straight people also disagree with the blackpill too. Since you are gay you know what its like to be attracted to a man and its not all about looks, even though guys are stereotypically focused on looks. Point out too that you have been around straight couples and seen a lot of counter examples. The truth is many of these pilled people are autistic. They struggle because of autism not looks or feminists or whatever. And autistic people tend to not understa…
/r/ExRedPill15/01/25 04:10 PM
1

You have to get her to want you to be her boyfriend. So the first thing is to express that you want to have plenty of time with her before making it official. Basically mirroring her own hesitance. Like maybe one of your reasons you want to wait is you notice she doesn't open up and trust easy and want to see if she is able to do that before you commit. Next get her to open up about past relationships and how she has gotten hurt. And then finding ways to slip in that you are different than these…
/r/seduction14/01/25 10:37 PM
1

As others have said warmup sets can be very helpful. Even better just do the warmup sets and maybe just go out and ask where something is or give a compliment. Accept that the only way to truly stop giving a fuck is to approach enough that you get desensitized. The three second rule of just approach within three seconds or don't at all can help you jump in the water. Practice mindfulness and be in the moment focusing on people's faces rather than getting too much into the emotional highs or lows…
/r/seduction12/01/25 11:02 PM
1

Real Social Dynamics.
/r/seduction10/01/25 11:31 PM
1

Probably your best reference is look at RSD.
/r/seduction10/01/25 11:02 PM
3

Your problem is you are trying to impress which is needy. Instead learn how to vibe and attract people with your authentic energy of just having a good time.
/r/seduction10/01/25 07:54 PM
2

We'd have to define what we mean by toxic. Very broad term here. But yes you could do those things and not be toxic and will be very good with women. But toxic people are more likely to be doing them than nice guys are.
/r/ExRedPill10/01/25 04:32 AM
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The reason many women are with toxic guys is they are just a lot more fun to be around, are a lot more assertive, are chill, make moves, and playfully evaluate women rather than being needy. I personally would rather hang out with a toxic person than some boring nice guy. We have to get out of this "good" vs "bad" thinking and instead see all emotions as useful in their own way. In my opinion we all have this shadow we are trying to suppress and maturing means learning how to integrate it.
/r/ExRedPill10/01/25 02:48 AM
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I would argue most people already know that internally.And I would not call the things you said that were positive like selfishness There is a reason we evolved selfishness and we see this trait in all species and most people. This is because people with some degree of selfishness prioritized themselves and this improved their survival chances. If you are completely selfless you get taken advantage of and live a terrible life in sacrifice to giving other people undeserved free lunches. No emotio…
/r/ExRedPill10/01/25 02:25 AM
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Because a nice guy genuinely is more honest and authentic. No to be nice you have to avoid saying mean things because you don't want to hurt their feelings. But that isn't honest or authentic. People who are overly nice are fake. Coming from. The hood The culture in the hood does idealize "bad boys" (at least in the movies) but the hood doesn't reflect the entire world. I remember I went out with a girl who told me if I grow my dread locks back and get tattoos.I would have all the b****** That h…
/r/ExRedPill09/01/25 09:22 PM
2

Not everyone wants to get with hoes. And if they had game they wouldn't have issues with dating in the first place.
/r/seduction09/01/25 05:06 AM
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You can observe her for a few seconds and see if the boyfriend is around the corner. Its pretty unlikely her boyfriend will be walking far behind her.
/r/seduction09/01/25 04:06 AM
1

I suggest you start by working on your social skills in platonic settings like in your social circle and social events.
/r/seduction09/01/25 03:11 AM
3

The key is to understand that emotional state comes first. He needs to feel comfortable and in an open attitude with you. So you need to get him into that state first and back off if he leaves that state. Try to make it more of a constructive blending of minds, don't directly attack him, ask open ended questions, get yeses or nos, give compliments, say that this is just your opinion and you are open to the idea you are wrong, listen and let him get his thoughts out, etc.
/r/ExRedPill08/01/25 11:46 PM
3

I think you have this entitlement to sex that you believe you deserve it for just existing. The truth is girls want certain things and so do guys and there is nothing wrong with girls wanting guys who are attractive. Also if you do self-improvement this says a lot about your character and how good of a partner you will be.
/r/seduction05/01/25 04:29 PM
1

There is a difference between a shit test and a total boundary violation. The problem with being worried about responding to shit tests right is it comes from a place of trying to say the right thing to pass the test and impress her. Instead you need to have standards of your own and if she is violating your standards you need to be willing to walk away. I would have texted, "I don't want to date women in relationships. Are you in a relationship with this guy?" And then "Its disrespectful to sen…
/r/seduction05/01/25 04:26 PM
2

Its the anxiety man. Might try cold approaching again and desensitizing. Social skills is a muscle you have to use or you will lose.
/r/seduction05/01/25 05:20 AM
3

I'd try actually teasing her for how shy she is. And then saying we are only getting close if she can loosen up and I like romance with passion.
/r/seduction04/01/25 11:02 PM
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There are two forms of compliments. Pedestalizing and commendation. Pedestalizing is when you are trying to get her approval and compliment as a form of worship. Commendation is when she is trying to get your approval and after work on her part she wins it. Its okay to open with a compliment but make it a soft compliment and have an evaluation teasing frame in the conversation. Instead of calling those girls amazing maybe call them cute or compliment something one of them is wearing. But then do…
/r/seduction04/01/25 10:58 PM
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You've only been single 4 months and been getting laid in this period so I don't see why you are freaking out. Work on having more to offer as a partner, meeting higher quality women outside of night game, getting better at talking to women, and working on your mental health/needy mindset.
/r/seduction01/01/25 11:25 PM
3

Its possible she is embarrassed she hit on you so hard and felt you just kind of went along with it. Your mistake was saying it didn't happen which implies to her that you are trying to forget the part where you two had the romantic connection. You should have said, "I love it when you are intense. I like how cheesy you can be." If she says lets forget everything you should say, "I really enjoyed last night and seeing that new side of you. I like you more when you open up like that."
/r/seduction30/12/24 10:15 PM
1

You can actually see this as a positive. This challenge is also happening to single guys too and if you learn really good dating skills that puts you ahead of the pack. Also many women deep down are lonely with their guards up making them more open to romance and a lot less competition.
/r/seduction30/12/24 04:42 PM
1

Here are a few practical exercises for fixing this issue once and for all: Take an improv class. Improv is about creating an impromptu act with another person for comedic effect and is all about creatively building a story together much like a conversation. Spend 15 minutes a day doing a fake podcast where you just talk about whatever is on your mind and fill up that time. Practice linking. That is where you take a word or sentence and expand on that or link it to another idea even if the connec…
/r/seduction30/12/24 05:52 AM
1

When you are building on what she said its important to do it in a way that includes humor, cold readers, opinions, emotions, mystery, common interests, teasing, evaluation, we frame, and imagined stories.
/r/seduction30/12/24 12:51 AM
1

Its best to offer a couple specific days. If is busy on those times then ask her what times would work for her.
/r/seduction30/12/24 12:47 AM
4

Lack of confidence isn't necessarily a bad thing and there is a reason we have evolved to have it. When I'm just starting something it can sometimes be helpful to be cautious and take things which will help me avoid damaging mistakes and notice areas I'm messing up. I think its just important to avoid overthinking and getting dragged into the worry to the point I can't even learn it. As long as I understand that I'm going to work on it and I know that I am going to be good at it and will be conf…
/r/seduction26/12/24 06:47 PM
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This post is basically "just be confident bro". But many people just can't fool themselves and many women will see through delusional confidence. Instead people should work on their issues so they can earn their own confidence. Confidence doesn't come first, its a natural biproduct of competence.
/r/seduction26/12/24 03:41 PM
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50% of new grads can't find jobs in the fields they studied for and many people live with tens of thousands of dollars of student debt. The fact you would pick a major just to seduce women and ignore your career goals shows just how needy you are.
/r/seduction23/12/24 05:58 PM
1

If the conversation is sexual and she likes it then you should be physically escalating at that point. Maybe escalate the sexual conversation from just being about dating, to being romantic, to being indirectly sexual, to then being directly sexual. You can also sprinkle in the sexuality into regular conversations like playful misinterpretation or finding a link between the topics. Make the sexuality like a rising and falling wave that is gradually rising more and more.
/r/seduction23/12/24 12:40 AM
1

Thats like saying does anger still exist. Of course love exists and it always has despite some people claiming it was a recent invention by the modern romanization of love. Its a basic human emotions we have all felt many times.
/r/seduction23/12/24 12:35 AM
1

You can give her a one handed social hug that friends tend to give each other. You should calibrate this to her comfort level and that hug doesn't just come out of nowhere for no reason. I'm not saying you should do this on every date but that sometimes its a thing you can do depending on the situation.
/r/seduction20/12/24 09:21 PM
2

Its a game where people ask each other personal questions until each person has asked 10 questions.
/r/seduction20/12/24 06:07 PM
48

Simple tip is to call her cute when you meet her. You can work your way up to sexual topics. Like start talking about dating in general. Use your body language like eye contact, physical proximity, a smirk, or talking slowly. Give her compliments, assumptions, and teases. Evaluate her and show part of you likes her but another part isn't completely solid and make her qualify herself to you. Slip in some good things about you in your stories. Give her a little hug or touching her shoulder. Frame …
/r/seduction19/12/24 05:12 PM
3

The best you can do is ask him open ended questions and put the burden of proof on him and get him convincing you. Also focus on his emotional issues since those are driving his beliefs. Accept that sometimes we can't change people's minds and they have a right to believe what they want.
/r/ExRedPill18/12/24 02:15 PM
3

Definitely play that game in the middle of class. Makes it more interesting.
/r/seduction17/12/24 04:41 AM
2

Try playing 20 questions and throwing in some flirty questions.
/r/seduction16/12/24 08:13 PM
6

Maybe you should try reading these romantic novels. The men in these novels tend to be very handsome, physically strong, popular among women, rich, powerful, and/or good at fighting. These are high value men but they have some flaw usually emotional like they have trouble opening up because of some past trauma. You have a good point but have taken it too far.
/r/seduction15/12/24 05:12 PM
3

You said it yourself your social life is non-existent. The gender ratio on dating apps is pretty bad so the cutish girls you are seeing is the natural consequence. Another thing you can try is taking some incredible pictures for your profile.
/r/seduction12/12/24 11:00 PM
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There are many abusive or neglectful men. From most of the divorces I've seen the guy totally had it coming. Women tend to want more from a relationship while many men stay in bad relationships because they find dating challenging. There is a science to successful relationships but unfortunately most people aren't informed or too lazy to actually apply it. Most people don't make logical dating decisions and don't always choose good or compatible partners. After the honeymoon period is over thing…
/r/ExRedPill10/12/24 04:13 PM
2

I think you need to focus on your anxiety which is preventing you from expressing your romantic desires. You need to not care so much what people think of you and instead live life to its fullest. So every day either start a conversation, extend an invite, ask a favor, disagree, show romantic interest, or express a controversial opinion you believe.
/r/seduction08/12/24 10:56 PM
1

He said that you shouldn’t double text, Generally true and really just don't be super needy. If you are just talking to someone, they didn't respond to a bad text, then its better to double text because otherwise you will likely lose contact with her. Or maybe you are typing really fast and forgot to include everything in your first text so just do a part 2. Generally its better to wait before double texting rather than letting her go forever. said that she needs to be the one to come to you mos…
/r/ExRedPill05/12/24 10:08 PM
2

The #1 mistake redpillers make is assuming their personal experiences reflects billions of people. What they miss is we tend to attract certain types of people based on our personalities and isn't a random sample. There is a selection bias as well where more dramatic or confirming cases get noticed more. Our sample tends to have a similar location, social class, and age as us and isn't reflective of the total population. And our sample tends to be far too small to be statistically valid. A quarr…
/r/ExRedPill05/12/24 07:15 PM
1

Practice having normal conversations with women first.
/r/seduction04/12/24 10:58 PM
11

How many people have you met well enough to know their marriages? Maybe you are just noticing the couples who fight a lot, or just happen to know some emotionally immature people. Not even close to 90% of the couple I know fight a lot. Conflict is a necessary part of relationships and a relationships where its just positive emotions all the time is boring and often real issues are being swept under the rug. When you live with family members and are truly communicating and invested in each other'…
/r/ExRedPill04/12/24 07:12 PM
1

Men should work on themselves in terms of career, mental health, social skills, looks, and dating skill if they are struggling in dating. Can apply to women too. If women or men keep getting with toxic people they should seek therapy and learn how to set boundaries and look for positive qualities. If people are struggling in relationships they should look at the advice by relationship therapists like the Gottmans.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 12:51 AM
1

Again there is no basis for claiming women have no limits. And they have no basis for claiming men have no options. All they know is they don't have options.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 10:28 PM
1

Confidence is more important than mirroring in dating so go with that. In fact if you are constantly thinking about mirroring your date you aren't in the moment vibing with her.
/r/seduction22/11/24 09:50 PM
1

I have never seen any actual evidence for widespread chad harems. Its only something I hear about from incels. And no women only have limitless options for hookups and low quality partners. Technically I could have limitless options with desperate 300 pound women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 09:49 PM
1

No in my example the population of men to women are 1 to 1. It doesn't matter if every guy spams all the women if he settles with one. All the spamming does is create the illusion of options. Yet women are actually more unhappy with online dating than men are despite having all these "options."
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 09:43 PM
0

I will revise my opinion that its possible OP has a lot of anger given what I'm seeing in his post. "From anyone else other than my Republican stepdad and his republican stepdad. They both hate me and I hate them both. I just like shitting on the patriarchy. I also love attacking the patriarchy and blaming it for everything wrong with society."
/r/ExRedPill22/11/24 09:40 PM
2

Yes but eventually the journey reaches the end. Don't lose sight of the destination.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 06:18 PM
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No excessive amounts of anger is damaging to your mind, your body, and others. What is healthy or legitimate is having some anger but not too much and actually taking action to make the world a better place.
/r/ExRedPill22/11/24 06:16 PM
4

Yes but women aren't looking for dates they are looking for relationships and quality guys who are willing to commit isn't always easy for them to find. When I go shopping or look at other young parents most are mid people together.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 05:45 PM
2

Okay so if we have 100 men and 100 women and these 100 men spam all 100 women do women have 100 times the options? Often times many men who spam aren't looking at who they are messaging carefully or actually want a relationship. And no matter how many people you message you only get in a relationship with one person. The real ratio is what is the relative desire for a relationship among these men compared to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 05:43 PM
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How can mid girls have 10x the options if above average men chase the top 10% of women? The ratio of mid girls to mid guys should be 1 to 1.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 02:49 PM
1

I was a decently happy child (despite verbal and physical abuse, bullying and sa) but always had suicidal thoughts. and never had dreams. Maybe you were repressing negative emotions because it doesn't sound like you were very happy. Maybe you tell yourself you don't have desires or ambitions as a way to cope with your situation. I never expected to do well in life Why not? and had the same crush for 5 years between 13 and 18. I kept following her on Insta and SC and snapped with her a few times …
/r/ExRedPill22/11/24 02:39 PM
2

I see men hanging out with their dogs all the time. Even the guys with cats aren't getting all the judgement you think. I don't think its healthy to start fights with family members over politics. Attacking and blaming the patriarchy is unhealthy if its a way for you to procrastinate taking real action in your life to make it better.
/r/ExRedPill22/11/24 12:41 AM
1

Probably get drunk in a party environment and find women who have sex easily.
/r/seduction20/11/24 09:56 PM
2

Better to talk to her in person and then DM her as an extension of the in person conversation.
/r/seduction18/11/24 11:13 PM
1

The problem with the red pill is many guys tend to carry a lot of anger toward women which prevents them from relaxing and just having fun with girls. They also tend to spend far too much time in the gym or at work rather than actually talking to girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 06:33 PM
1

What might help guys here the most is explaining how you build that attraction naturally.
/r/seduction18/11/24 06:17 PM
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The one flaw with this approach is the physical escalation may come off as a bit sudden if you suddenly start doing a bunch toward the end after doing nothing for most of the date. I think its best to gradually escalate throughout the date while calibrating to her mood and not being too pushy. Your advice might work best if she is reserved and may actually fail at the end if she is still not ready for anything physical.
/r/seduction18/11/24 05:13 PM
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Problem is women often don't take the initiative even when they are interested. The fact she is accepting your offers and reacting well to you on the dates is her show of interest. But when you are on the date you don't want to be pushing too hard and you want to give her space to chase you a little.
/r/seduction18/11/24 04:56 PM
1

You can’t read someone’s mind 🤦🏾‍♀️ which is precisely the argument that RPers make for routine paternity tests. It’s always gambling even with “properly assessing”. Maybe what you struggle with is accepting imperfection in yourself, others, and your relationships. And also you don't handle loss well and don't do the stages of grief in a healthy way. And maybe some of that comes from self-esteem issues so you feel men could easily do better. And maybe you also struggle with anxiety and you tend …
/r/ExRedPill16/11/24 06:21 PM
1

I just know it’s gonna be tough to find an exception. There are a bunch right here: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/1fts10z/men_who_prefer_younger_women_what_happens_if_you/ That’s the thing, I don’t. And gambling makes me uncomfortable. Instead of either gambling or avoiding what about properly assessing the people you are dating? Idk, I don’t keep up with celebrities. Most male celebrities get into long term relationships with other celebrities about the same age as them. The stereoty…
/r/ExRedPill16/11/24 04:39 PM
1

Right but how do you know this is true for all guys and isn't just an average? And how do you know this preference overpowers the emotional connection and commitment of being with a long term partner? And how do you explain all the male celebrities who have been in long term relationships with older women? Why is Leonardo DiCaprio the exception not the norm?
/r/ExRedPill16/11/24 03:32 PM
1

Their words and actions How do you know this is representative of all men? Bc he can’t lol, only rich men can realistically find someone younger. Nearly all guys I know with younger women aren't rich they are middle class. Not just opinions, there are studies. With studies you need to make sure they are replicated, have decent effect sizes, and be mindful of the standard deviation of results. You also need to do an objective meta-analysis of relevant studies rather than cherry picking the ones t…
/r/ExRedPill16/11/24 05:14 AM
1

Call her with something work related and veer the conversation personal and ask her out and tease her for flaking.
/r/seduction16/11/24 12:03 AM
1

You should improve your looks if you want more attractive women. Also you need to do more teasing and not looking needy.
/r/seduction15/11/24 11:43 PM
1

Getting defensive with commenters might not be the best way for you to turn your dating issues around lol. If you have no standards then at the very least learn how to fake it because its very unattractive. The problem with me explaining how to apply every concept in dating is it will be a massive post. Do you have a specific question?
/r/seduction13/11/24 06:41 PM
1

The best thing you can do is contact his parents and ask them to place parental controls on the content he is consuming.
/r/ExRedPill13/11/24 07:57 AM
1

I don't see how leadership, teasing, and compliments are confusing concepts. Many people do these things to manipulate women into dating them. But these things work because healthy successful men do them naturally and you should aim to do the same. For #6 you should have standards too and should be evaluating her and willing to walk away. Disqualifying is when you express some honest skepticism toward her and the relationship because you haven't made up your mind yet because you have standards. …
/r/seduction13/11/24 07:05 AM
2

Been reading and consuming red pill material for over 15 years now since I was a teenager. I remember being a kid basically and having a complete breakdown over my worldview of finding a partner, falling in love, being completely thrashed. Pretty unusual for a woman to go down this rabbit hole. Why you? "He doesnt actually love you" How do you know men don't love women? "He's only into you now, wait until you get older and he starts to resent being with you and crave the attention of younger pre…
/r/ExRedPill13/11/24 06:35 AM
0

There are several aspects to this: Having good charisma and humor in platonic conversations. Demonstrating value by indirectly showing off good things about you and not think that make you look bad. Avoiding being needy, overeager, overly agreeable, approval seeking, and anxious. Be a leader. Give her light teases and compliments. Disqualify her (why you aren't sure about her) and make her qualify (show what is good about her). Talk about things in terms of you and her and your romantic story. S…
/r/seduction11/11/24 05:37 AM
5

You can often tell the guys who are good with women from the guys who aren't by their body language and vocal tonality so thats important. For humor and teasing see how comedians talk and the vibe they give off. Everyone gets a little in their head around girls sometimes but its important to be able to relax and chill. Being overly disagreeable can also turn off girls if its done too seriously instead of bantering. And most importantly women are looking for guys with their lives together so bein…
/r/ExRedPill10/11/24 02:09 PM
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If you haven't messaged them much then they actually have a good point. Otherwise you need to talk more with them about what you two do for fun and build better comfort and attraction before asking to do that fun thing. Also understand many girls won't want to meet you because they just aren't into you.
/r/seduction10/11/24 01:37 PM
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If you don't know what you are doing wrong then maybe do some research into dating skills. Like maybe you could improve your look, have bad body language, bad vocal tonality, anxiety issues, overly platonic, lack of humor/teasing, overly serious/tense, overly agreeable, overly conscientious, don't express negative opinions, don't properly banter with negative statements, or don't sell yourself at all.
/r/ExRedPill10/11/24 01:35 PM
1

I think you need to work on your game for the lack of a better word. Its great that you can have platonic conversations but now you need to create attraction as well.
/r/seduction10/11/24 05:37 AM
2

Women who view you as a creep aren't going to date you so just stop interacting with them and talk to women who don't view you as a creep.
/r/seduction08/11/24 05:20 AM
1

If you are claiming that you are a regular viewer of his content and deny he has any red pill beliefs then you are just trolling and acting in bad faith. Let me know when you actually care what the truth is and not just trying to win the debate by denying as much as you can.
/r/ExRedPill07/11/24 11:00 PM
1

What do you like about his style? I have trouble believing that you are a viewer of his content and are unaware of his red pill beliefs.
/r/ExRedPill07/11/24 08:09 AM
7

So I let her talk a lot but some girls told me that I don't talk about myself too much. But like how?? All she does is yap and never ask questions to me.. Say something that relates to something she said. You want to be saying things that show high status, making jokes, showing confidence, flirting, and teasing. She should be doing most of the talking but you should be making these little high impact statements. After we meet again, I now try the escalations. Try to touch her hand, flirt a bit h…
/r/seduction05/11/24 11:51 PM
3

Women aren't a monolith and while we see very common preferences there are women who date short guys. I suggest doing things that make up for your height like hitting the gym, a hairstyle that adds height, thick sole shoes, good career, and an assertive personality.
/r/ExRedPill05/11/24 04:54 PM
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I'm not understanding how someone in college working on their career while working a job is a loser.
/r/ExRedPill05/11/24 04:52 PM
1

Those are points that people universally agree on and aren't specifically red pill. You can find them in any self-help resource so you don't need Casey Zander. What people disagree with are his actual red pill beliefs not just his delivery.
/r/ExRedPill05/11/24 03:24 PM
1

Like what?
/r/ExRedPill05/11/24 12:59 AM
23

You atone by being a better person and putting out good into the world.
/r/ExRedPill04/11/24 05:54 AM
2

What are you curious about the other person? Then ask them about it.
/r/seduction04/11/24 12:25 AM
1

There is a youtube channel called fluid social who makes cold approach look really natural. It also helps to look your absolute best.
/r/seduction01/11/24 04:21 PM
0

I suggest you learn some dating skills most of which are all about not coming off as too needy while showing interest and moving things forward. But learn about them in context with your anxiety and what they mean on a deeper level. You have to be very mindful of your anxiety so it doesn't take over and mess things up for you.
/r/seduction30/10/24 06:15 PM
1

Depends on whether you want a relationship and what your social skills are like. If you struggle with the basics then just pursue connection.
/r/seduction30/10/24 02:36 PM
7

We have no way of knowing what you are doing wrong without seeing your text, profile, and interactions. But yeah if what you are doing is failing 100% of the time then you are doing something very wrong. I have no way of knowing if you are super desperate so can't tell you.
/r/seduction29/10/24 07:47 PM
1

Every time I want to approach a girl my first thought it’s “I’ll make her feel uncomfortable” You actually want a little discomfort its called tension and keeps things from being boring and platonic. Notice how romance movies always focus on the awkward moments where a couple first meets, where there is some conflict, and its unknown how things will turn out. or “I don’t what to say or a good opener” Then come up with some default openers and run with them. What you say is just an excuse to have…
/r/seduction25/10/24 09:52 PM
2

I suggest you look your best and work on your accent. "Where did you get that from" comes out of nowhere. Maybe make a surprised look and then ask that question in a humorous way. If you are balding consider a hair transplant.
/r/seduction25/10/24 05:10 PM
4

She pulls away because its typically desperate less attractive men who are more likely to get really attached quickly. And the more invested you are in her the less you are invested in having a life of your own and improving it. More attractive men have a lot more options and are slower to get invested in a woman and their relationships are less of a dominating focus in their lives. So I suggest you strike a balance here and have things to do outside of dating and don't be completely sold on som…
/r/seduction25/10/24 03:06 AM
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I never said the balance was equal. Every relationship is different in that respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 06:14 PM
5

One way is where a woman won't take the initiate and let the man do all the planning. Or they will ask the man for his opinion rather than taking the initiative. The benefit of following is you can kind of relax and let the other person have the responsibility of leading. As a guy I do this too because its nice when your partner has it handled.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 05:14 PM
0

The problem with sending your pic like that is it could come off as needy. It would be better to have her give her phone to you and you save yourself under your name and then send your phone a text with her phone. Or if she is giving you her number you text her on the spot so she knows your number. Or you can also exchange IGs as well and if you have a good IG that can help attract her.
/r/seduction24/10/24 04:33 PM
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Therapy is great for everyone because we all have our issues and I suggest you give it a try for its own sake. You can also try socializing more and improving your basic social skills. Looking your best helps a lot too.
/r/ExRedPill23/10/24 08:03 PM
3

I will say that warmer approaches where its more natural to talk to the girl like chatting with that girl in the bar is better than cold approach. Your problem with cold approach is simply anxiety. So make a goal to approach one woman and then give yourself a reward when you try, even if she ignores you.
/r/seduction23/10/24 08:02 PM
1

Agreed. And languages only really help if you are travelling.
/r/seduction23/10/24 07:15 PM
6

Looks are important but you need to have communication skills too. I suggest mostly focusing on social circle but doing a bit of cold approach as well. Also have some ambitions for your life and work toward your career path while meeting people at school.
/r/seduction23/10/24 05:45 PM
1

The problem is may people who want something poly get into monogamous relationships because the partner they were attracted to insisted on it, and secretly cheated. In many of these cases they got STDs and passed those STDs to their partners. You can find many stories about people who got STDs from their cheating partners. I think people just need to be honest.
/r/ExRedPill23/10/24 12:18 AM
1

Most research finds a positive correlation between number of past sex partners and chances of cheating. With that said people should be assessed on an individual level. https://ifstudies.org/blog/the-road-to-infidelity-passes-through-multiple-sexual-partners While for many STDs condoms are close to 100% effective there are many cases where that isn't true. For example for HSV-2 condoms are only 65% effective from women to men. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4725379/
/r/ExRedPill22/10/24 03:28 PM
1

And there are women on here saying that all men cheat and all men are abusers. When the reality is maybe thats what these women are attracted to or the type of person who is attracted to them. Before you can say women are toxic fix the toxicity within yourself and be the kind of person non-toxic women would want to be with and socialize in spaces where they are around.
/r/seduction21/10/24 08:17 PM
3

Well I think leadership by role based on who is qualified in that role. So if the mother is far better at child rearing she should lead that. And if the man is best at yard maintenance then he should lead that. I don't see the need to appoint one person in the relationship as the benevolent dictator over everything. Plus few people would even agree to their partner being their boss anyway.
/r/ExRedPill21/10/24 07:26 PM
5

Every ship has a cook and a navigator. Let the cook be the authority on cooking and the navigator be the authority on navigation. A single body of authority is more necessary when you have an organization with hundreds of people with their own roles and expertise. But a relationship is just two people.
/r/ExRedPill21/10/24 06:15 PM
1

Good point that many people don't know. Before dating people should make sure they are getting the proper vaccines. Yes I understand herpes isn't a big deal. Problem is its impacts on dating.
/r/ExRedPill21/10/24 05:49 PM
-2

Many are curable but many aren't like herpes or HPV. Yes the symptoms are typically minor but there is a massive stigma that can impact ones dating life. Condoms do reduce STD spread but aren't anywhere close to a guarantee. The closest thing is to require a recent STD test before having sex and to avoid partners who are more likely to cheat like having a promiscuous past.
/r/ExRedPill21/10/24 05:43 PM
1

Yes and in the case of herpes a condom reduces the risk by only 30% and HPV by 70%. If you have sex with enough people you odds of getting an STD are very high. As a result the best course of action is to require a STD test before having sex and to only have sex with someone monogamously and hopefully isn't cheating.
/r/ExRedPill21/10/24 05:38 PM
1

Many people have chronic STDs like HPV or herpes. So with your example its like being sick for your entire life and not ever able to go to that D&D night.
/r/ExRedPill21/10/24 05:31 PM
-1

Most people don't want an illness from having sex. Its ethical to reveal your STDs before having sex and it usually results in a rejection.
/r/ExRedPill21/10/24 05:07 PM
3

Personally I believe in domains of leadership. Different people have different skills and preferences so match them up with what they are passionate and good at. It makes no sense to put the woman in charge of everything for example when the guy is much better at handling house maintenance. I also believe that couples need to learn good collaborative communication skills, acting selflessly, and managing their emotions.
/r/ExRedPill21/10/24 04:49 PM
-2

Do they all talk about their STDs? We know that about 10-20% of the population is promiscuous and a large percent have STDs and its typically them. Are you envious of their herpes? Also condom sex with strangers isn't the best.
/r/ExRedPill21/10/24 03:47 AM
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This isn't the first time I did that lol, let me give it another try. Its important to take your career seriously and work toward living independently. Women will often give out a number just to be polite or may lose the feeling after giving the number. And no matter how good your game is you will get dead numbers. You can reduce this by building better attraction and comfort. Looking your best and working on social skills can help.
/r/seduction21/10/24 12:52 AM
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Maybe the normal nice girl isn't as rare as you think. People tend to attract who they are so you just attract toxic women because you are toxic yourself. Work on yourself and be a normal well adjusted person yourself and you will attract those kinds of women.
/r/seduction20/10/24 08:32 PM
2

Yes women often do reject attractive men when its boring because it requires emotions to build that attraction. Women can reject guys because of lack of physical attractiveness, low compatibility, or lack of basic social or dating skills.
/r/seduction20/10/24 08:30 PM
1

You said it yourself you are lacking in communication and dating style. And that might be linked to your mindset and emotional state.
/r/seduction20/10/24 08:29 PM
1

I suggest utilizing every mental health resource at your university as much as possible until you get that health insurance and then immediately start therapy. There are also online and in person mental health support groups that are completely free.
/r/ExRedPill20/10/24 08:25 PM
1

Unfortunately the truth is emotionally you will always give a fuck but you can control your beliefs so you can be self-aware and question needy distorted thoughts and choose to act differently. In terms of seduction pulling back completely will reduce your chances of success as will being overly pushy. The best approach is to make some attempt to engage with her but if that doesn't work then any extra effort is useless and its probably over. Additionally you should have abundance in dating so if…
/r/seduction20/10/24 08:23 PM
1

The number one thing that can help you is therapy. It will help you process your childhood trauma with your father and help you with your thoughts of self-harm. It will help you question distorted emotional thinking behind your social anxiety and bitterness. But maybe you are one of those guys who will do anything to improve their mental health expect actually go therapy.
/r/ExRedPill20/10/24 08:18 PM
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I think both perspectives are wrong. I don't think men should just passively let other people lead or steamroll women. I don't think dads should be out of touch or running the house like a dictator. Like is there any room to collaborative lead where you are strong at and let others lead where they are strong at? I find that people who get too focused on masculinity chase this label and lose touch with what actually produces good outcomes in life.
/r/ExRedPill19/10/24 07:06 PM
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or do I just live a chill life and settle down with a long term partner when I’m older, but have this lingering thought about how things could’ve been if I was born slightly taller and slightly more attractive… The vast majority of people get into long term relationships and only a small minority are highly promiscuous. The truth is only the most attractive guys can pull off the casual sex lifestyle and this is very difficult for the majority of guys. You and I would have to be a lot more attrac…
/r/ExRedPill19/10/24 01:09 PM
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Sexual frustration isn't a bad thing see it as motivating you to get those desires met.
/r/seduction18/10/24 06:08 PM
2

If you are sexually frustrated then get social and talk to girls. Hit the gym, learn some dating skills, jerk off if you need to.
/r/seduction18/10/24 03:14 PM
1

Another factor is environment. If you are in a city with few women, in a life situation where you aren't around women, or in a place where you aren't very attractive then you will struggle a lot more.
/r/ExRedPill18/10/24 06:30 AM
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You need to think about your career beyond retail and then move where you can get the proper education. You can rent a room and find a retail job.
/r/seduction18/10/24 03:54 AM
3

Its easier to make friends than get a girlfriend. So keep focusing on making friends because that will make you feel better. Plus making friends will make it a lot easier to date.
/r/seduction18/10/24 03:35 AM
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You need to focus on your life and move to a better place with much better dating options.
/r/seduction18/10/24 03:33 AM
7

I think you need to join more social events than just clubs. Do you have friends at college?
/r/seduction17/10/24 11:18 PM
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Spend 15 minutes a day learning about it from googling, youtube, podcasts, wikihow, reddit, etc. Use google to find social events or look into social events where you are typically at. Try to initiate with a certain number of people every week and increase that when you feel comfortable.
/r/ExRedPill16/10/24 10:52 PM
1

Work on your social skills if you are quiet. Improve your looks in ways you can control. Like consider hair transplants, shoes with thick soles, hats, or beard with bald head if possible. Have good clothes and work out. And find someone about as attractive as yourself. Question this value system you have thats based on aspects of looks people can't control.
/r/ExRedPill16/10/24 06:18 PM
2

What makes you bottom of the barrel?
/r/ExRedPill16/10/24 06:09 PM
1

Yeah I see the problem. Maybe if it doesn't seem like they are enjoying sex and only doing it to keep you around then have a direct conversation with them about it. Tell them that a committed relationship isn't ever going to happen at any point and if they won't enjoy the sex they should decline.
/r/seduction15/10/24 05:01 AM
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If you are trying to be very ethical, which is commendable, then the solution is to make it very clear you aren't looking for long term. So these women are less likely to have sex purely to keep you around.
/r/seduction15/10/24 04:52 AM
2

Most guys on the apps are lying about their height. It okay to add one or two inches. One inch is really hard to detect. And if you do the hair and shoe stuff I recommend it will be hard to catch.
/r/seduction14/10/24 03:41 AM
1

Girls vary widely in their preferences so you aren't believe what a single girl thinks about your attractiveness. Also girls will lie in order to not make your feel bad or pump you up too much. If you have zero game do some research and learn it. If you are shy do gradual exposure. What evidence do you have that Indians can't get into relationships.
/r/seduction13/10/24 05:00 PM
3

How can you know someone with a single conversation?
/r/seduction11/10/24 10:19 PM
3

Sure but why commit in the first place to someone you don't know at all?
/r/seduction11/10/24 10:06 PM
4

Why would you commit to a total stranger you don't even know?
/r/seduction11/10/24 09:57 PM
2

No disrespecting women's feelings isn't the reason these men are successful. Its just what they do because they don't want to commit.
/r/seduction11/10/24 09:56 PM
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The "fuckbois" or "men who are successful in dating" are the ones who are actually putting in the right effort. You are the one who isn't. Do what they are doing.
/r/seduction11/10/24 09:36 PM
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Add a couple inches to your height in your profile, everyone is doing it lol. Buy shoes with thick soles. Get a hairstyle that adds height. Improve your looks in general. Improve your social and dating skills. Add profile pics that make you look tall like using an upward angle or having shorter people with you.
/r/seduction11/10/24 04:42 PM
3

The best thing you can do is have an active social life so you are happier as a single person and meeting women. Also improve the way you are using dating apps and focus on quality over quantity.
/r/seduction09/10/24 08:44 PM
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I suggest you get better at critical thinking. When you hear an opinion online don't just accept it without any evidence. Watch out for black and white generalizations about women because life is usually more complicated than that.
/r/ExRedPill09/10/24 04:34 PM
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You seem very vulnerable to the mind reading cognitive distortion. This is where you make emotionally driven assumptions about what people are thinking without proper evidence. Mind reading is one way people jump to conclusions without proper evidence. When you have these thoughts again demand evidence from them. Get better at critical thinking.
/r/ExRedPill09/10/24 04:31 PM
7

If we are going to think in terms of masculinity then we have to precisely define what that means. And then decide how that behavior can be implemented in a way that actually benefits your life. I'll do that below. I’m highly sensitive(have adhd) Part is living with ADHD is learning how to manage sensory issues if its not best for your to leave that environment. While ive never been in bad shape and started working out more regularly, I’m pretty skinny and maybe a little underweight. Most skinny…
/r/ExRedPill09/10/24 04:06 AM
1

You probably should represent your conversation better otherwise our comments won't be helpful.
/r/seduction08/10/24 04:07 PM
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She wasn't using the table to do stuff, so I asked her if she was writing a secret. You really have to say that in a humorous way in order to not come off weird. I asked her if is from Latin and told her she looked exotic. Oh my God no. That sounds like there is a bit of a fetish. Call her cute. Complement her on her clothes or something she wasn't born with. i asked her about the beverage she had and she mentioned she regularly had beverages from dunkins and I replied saying no wonder she is so…
/r/seduction07/10/24 11:39 PM
2

Time to learn that second language then or considering getting a degree that gets you a better job. 40K isn't much for living in the city today.
/r/seduction07/10/24 11:01 PM
1

Great comments by other people. Do you have any career ambitions so you can earn more and improve your financial stability and afford a higher quality of life?
/r/seduction07/10/24 10:57 PM
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The key isn't to frame this logically. You want to make this like the Titanic movie where the girl picked the guy she actually loved over the guy with money. Many women will pick guys with a very high potential over guys with more money right now but less potential because they aren't stupid. But there are women who is just chasing money right now, and they simply aren't in your dating pool.
/r/seduction06/10/24 03:50 PM
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It depends on how he says it really. If he says it very casually and confidently it can show he is high status and picky and make the woman not want to be shallow.
/r/seduction06/10/24 02:45 AM
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He could even say "I like I don't have disposable income for dates. It will show who is only with me for the money. And when I'm earning a lot of money I will share my life with someone who wanted me before I had money."
/r/seduction05/10/24 06:36 PM
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Last date I want on I blew $200 and my date still made me feel poor, Simply don't spend that much money on dates if you can't afford it. Had some lady ASK ME OUT last night, she was like “dw we can split the Uber to the bar, shots are a dollar :)”. I had to ghost her cause I don’t have $30 😭 it’s a special type of agony. Or you could have said I'm in med school and have no disposable income at all. And then recommend a more affordable idea.
/r/seduction05/10/24 04:08 PM
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and the study on how single women are happier than married women The interpretations of that study are hotly contested and there are other studies that show the opposite. The truth is it really depends on the person. https://psychcentral.com/blog/single-at-heart/2019/06/is-it-true-that-single-women-with-no-kids-are-the-happiest#3 Why would a woman want to be in a relationship with me if they're happier single? If all women are happier single than being with you then you need to think through wha…
/r/ExRedPill29/09/24 11:11 PM
1

Look we don't actually disagree as much as you think. I've made exactly the same point you have because its a good point. It really depends on how you define "sexual abundance". I defined it as the ability to have a bunch of sex when you want even if you don't want that sex. While you define it as the ability to have sex you actually want. Its like if you had a Netflix account but wasn't really interested in any of the shows. Do you have an abundance of shows? Technically you do have a ton of sh…
/r/ExRedPill28/09/24 03:06 PM
1

And how successful has that approach been to getting girls attracted to you?
/r/seduction28/09/24 04:27 AM
13

No you have mastered platonic social skills but have not mastered dating social skills. There is plenty of content for basic dating skills.
/r/seduction27/09/24 09:54 PM
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You need to work on your basic social skills and how you come across visually.
/r/seduction27/09/24 07:30 PM
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I disagree. Most women can easily find sex by going onto a bar or making a dating profile. But they find challenging is abundance of high quality partners who want to commit to a long term relationship.
/r/ExRedPill27/09/24 04:46 PM
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The vast majority of men don't have "sexual abundance". It isn't like we have women throwing themselves at us. Finding someone we are attracted to who is also attracted to us is somewhat difficult and can take years sometimes. Rather than focusing on sexual abundance focus on sexual security. That means finding a long term partner who finds you attractive.
/r/ExRedPill27/09/24 03:58 AM
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I have autism myself. Unfortunately it is a spectrum and those who are dating are typically higher functioning. OP struggles with employment, lives with his parents, struggles with basic friendships, and hasn't been able to date at 27. He may be at a place on the spectrum where dating probably isn't going to happen and that comes from personal experience with people similar to him. But I could be wrong which is why I said "may never be able to date".
/r/ExRedPill26/09/24 07:30 PM
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Women love guys who are rude/unkind. My Mom is that type of woman. What I noticed is her partners started out as very nice and only become rude after she already become attached to them. If you go up and be rude to a woman she is probably going to be really offended and reject you, not be attracted to you. What they say about monkey branching. There are certainly some women who get into a lot of sorter relationships and move on to the next one quickly. But I also see women who have been with the…
/r/ExRedPill26/09/24 05:02 AM
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Couples tend to adore each other during the honeymoon phase. But eventually things cool down and we start seeing our partners more realistically flaws and all. But older relationships still have those emotional spikes of adoration and passion but it not around all the time. Relationships follow the dopamine curve where more stimulation causes desensitization. This is why psychologists consider humans to be serial monogamists or many long term relationships instead of purely monogamous. The vast …
/r/ExRedPill25/09/24 07:13 PM
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You won't get laid. Work on your career. Work on your social skills. Move to a later town. Lose weight. Work on your dating skills. Limit your screen time. See a therapist.
/r/seduction23/09/24 06:19 PM
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The red pill is true! ... for some women.
/r/ExRedPill12/09/24 03:51 AM
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Online people think I’m boasting and point to the average statistic being 7-9 prior partners or something and that doesn’t make any sense to me. I know the majority of my female peers are well beyond 10 at this point. And during all this time during your 20s working on yourself or in a bad period of life, they were getting picked up by the hottest guys on tinder and getting smashed every weekend. You are assuming that the world reflects your narrow personal experience. Your female peels is a ver…
/r/ExRedPill06/09/24 07:07 PM
2

Lets assume you want to stay with him. Instead of fighting with him about his red pill beliefs mention that you disagree, avoid discussing these topics, or ask open ended questions when he does bring up something red pill to shift the dynamic from you convincing him to him convincing you. If he acts inappropriately because of his red pill beliefs express you don't share his views, he needs to accept and respect that, and not violate your boundaries.
/r/ExRedPill06/09/24 08:14 AM
4

Every man is a looks digger.....
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 10:30 PM
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You need to understand what guilt is for. Guilt isn't for people to forever beat up on themselves. Its for people to learn from their mistakes and change. Its also for people to atone to wrong done to other individuals. Once you have done those things this emotion has served its purpose and its maladaptive if its still there. If its still there practice meditation and mindfulness to create distance from it.
/r/ExRedPill04/09/24 09:02 PM
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but I think it's a bit of a leap to go from what OP said to the conclusion that they have attachment issues I didn't say they did. I said they might have because I don't know them personally. and want to control what people think. He is obviously putting in a lot of effort to change his cousin's mind about Andrew Tate and the red pill. This is an attempt to change in other words control. This is a kid they seem to have contact with rarely, so I find it hard to imagine they're emotionally investe…
/r/ExRedPill04/09/24 03:11 PM
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You're not violating somebody's independence by arguing with them, they're completely free to not change their mind. I never claimed that. I claimed that trying to control someone's beliefs does violate their independence and autonomy. Its okay to share your beliefs or try to give someone the best information that you have so they can come to their own decision. And when you discuss these topics in a way that respects their autonomy they are more likely to change their minds.
/r/ExRedPill04/09/24 02:51 PM
1

Tell me this: how do you tell the difference between someone presenting their point of view with the hope of changing someone's mind, and someone presenting their point of view without that hope? All of us can tell when someone is trying to make us do or believe something or if they are just expressing their opinion. Are they persisting in trying to persuade you even when you aren't budging? They might be rude or very aggressive in trying to refute you. They might be trying to do all the talking…
/r/ExRedPill03/09/24 08:11 PM
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Minors aren't adults with the same right to autonomy. But you need to be in the right role to supervise them like a teacher or parent. If you aren't a child's teacher or parent you don't have a right to control what that child believes. For example its wrong to try to change a child's religious beliefs if you aren't their parent. I think we can present information to people because we sincerely want the best for them and hope they can use some of this information to their benefit. But trying to …
/r/ExRedPill03/09/24 07:22 PM
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Yes believing wrong things is part of being independent. I have a right to make bad choices and fall for scammers, and so do you, and everyone else. Everyone has a right to autonomy and to believe what they want. When you try to make people believe what you do you are violating their right to autonomy, and people are naturally defensive and stubborn when you try to do that. A better alternative is to share information with them and recognize their right to make up their own minds about it. Its a…
/r/ExRedPill03/09/24 06:50 PM
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You are trying to control a part of his life: His beliefs about dating. People have a natural need for independence which is a good thing and you trying to control his beliefs is a bad thing. It also shows a neediness on your part on what other people think. We see this neediness with people who have anxiety and will either act needy or even avoidant. In this case its coming out as a desire to control what other people think. Instead if he expresses a red pill belief then express your own belief…
/r/ExRedPill03/09/24 06:12 PM
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Unfortunately you can't control what people believe and arguing with them often makes them feel controlled and they have a natural desire for independence. Your cousin's life is his responsibility not yours and the fact you want to control it means you might have some entanglement/attachment issues. Rather than trying to fix your cousin this is a good opportunity for you to fix yourself for example practicing being unattached to other people's life choices. Raising your cousin is his parent's re…
/r/ExRedPill03/09/24 05:58 PM
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Basically you have to easily refute these red pill beliefs. If you just don't believe them but the refutation is somewhat weak then that makes you vulnerable to emotional beliefs. And also don't have an agenda to refute them because you know its biased. The strongest refutation is when you are being fair to the belief and are still able to easily refute it. So lets evaluate some of these beliefs: I've mentally resigned myself to the idea of dating older men because in my mind 26 year Olds don't …
/r/ExRedPill03/09/24 03:04 PM
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Here is your solution (with the understanding you are doing some of this already): Stop looking at porn and just masturbate without it. Improve your looks at much as possible. Learn how to communicate really effectively with women. Be really socially active and around a lot of women. Work on your career and showing your financial success.
/r/ExRedPill27/08/24 07:56 PM
6

My bad. But notice how you keep ignoring the part about changing the content you consume. Sometimes the issue isn't you don't have the solution to the problem. You just don't like the solution and are looking for alternatives that don't actually work.
/r/ExRedPill27/08/24 07:46 PM
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I don't think that. I'm just giving general advice for fixing the problem. You might be doing some of this stuff already, I don't know you personally so I have no way to know whether or not you are already doing it. Listen to what I'm saying about the content with distorted body images. If you are only attracted to models there is a good chance you are consuming that content and may be ignoring my advice because you don't want to stop consuming it.
/r/ExRedPill27/08/24 07:03 PM
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No you need to try everything I'm suggesting. No more porn, movies, shows, tiktoks, or ig with a lot of distorted body images. Limit your screen time and interact with real women with real bodies.
/r/ExRedPill27/08/24 06:52 PM
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If you are only attracted to models you have consumed a lot of media with disproportionate body standards. Stop consuming this media and make friends with real women with real bodies. Try to focus on personality in your partner and why that is important rather than just looks.
/r/ExRedPill27/08/24 05:59 PM
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Don't tell yourself positive affirmations that are lies. Maybe you really have no reason to believe in yourself right now because you haven't proven to yourself that you should. So right now your job is to do the work so you can believe in yourself in the future.
/r/ExRedPill27/08/24 04:18 PM
1

Any way you can do your job remotely from another country even for half the money?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 10:56 PM
11

What behavior did you relapse to and what caused you do to it?
/r/ExRedPill23/08/24 04:30 PM
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Nature provides a model for a woman's love for a man, that of a mother's love, which he expects as a standard from all women, later in his life. A man desires to be loved like a child, without realizing that such love is reserved ONLY for children. Speak for yourself bro. Not everyone has mommy issues. Having established this You didn't... at all...
/r/ExRedPill21/08/24 05:11 PM
2

Yeah you definitely aren't being emotional right now lol. It really doesn't take a psychoanalyst to see you are upset.
/r/ExRedPill12/08/24 03:14 PM
4

Good theory except I actually provided a counter argument and you didn't actually address it directly.
/r/ExRedPill12/08/24 03:12 PM
3

My "psychoanalysis" (hopefully you understand those quotes now) is probably correct. Your attack was clearly a misrepresentation of my post and your response didn't actually refute the substance of my rebuttal. Which means you are probably acting very emotionally. And now you are refusing to admit you are wrong because of your ego.
/r/ExRedPill12/08/24 03:06 PM
3

Did you see that I clearly put reality in quotes? That is to emphasize that this is not necessarily objective fact and is just someone's debatable option. I think my statement upset you because it appeared sympathetic to red pill views so you tried to find something wrong with it when there really wasn't.
/r/ExRedPill12/08/24 02:37 PM
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The point of the red pill is to point out the negative "reality" about women and dating in general. So by that definition the belief in leagues is a red pill belief. But one red pill belief alone like believing in leagues doesn't make you a red piller. I think there is some truth to some red pill beliefs because dating isn't all good. Red pill just exaggerates the negative.
/r/ExRedPill12/08/24 06:36 AM
2

You can pick your environment with things called legs. Today the vast majority of people survive so there is very little natural selection. So actually we live in an environment where bad genes are flourishing.
/r/ExRedPill11/08/24 06:57 PM
1

we know from the experience of most men how hard it is to get a woman to even look at a guy That may be your experience but it isn't mine. then we have uncountable threads here on reddit of women talking how ugly all men are, and how rare it is to see an attractiv guy I haven't seen any of these threads. Maybe since you keep clicking on them the algorithm is cherry picking that for you. then we have dating app stats, that confirm both of there, women aren't interested in most men Men outnumber w…
/r/ExRedPill11/08/24 06:55 PM
1

So how do you know women are all lying?
/r/ExRedPill11/08/24 02:49 PM
1

No the most important thing is actual outcomes. And outcomes are about 50% genetics and 50% environment.
/r/ExRedPill11/08/24 02:48 PM
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Why is there always so much pushback to young men who claim that the reason they can’t get a date is 100% the way they look? Because typically when these people actually do show a picture of themselves they aren't bad looking at all. And when you dig deeper you learn they have a bunch of mental health issues. I am 100% certain that the thing limiting me is the way I look. I am sure of this because I have no issue developing relationships of any other level of intimacy with any person of any gend…
/r/ExRedPill04/08/24 04:02 PM
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I myself have slept with around 15 people and I’m 28. Which I consider “normal” or even “high” for around my age. Most people have slept with 4-10 partners in their entire lives. So your partner count is a little high but not crazy. However I go on the internet and see women treating dating apps like window shopping and just sleeping with the most attractive most available option only to get dumped. So around 10% of the population is highly promiscuous and has a far higher partner count than mos…
/r/ExRedPill03/08/24 04:43 PM
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I'm not exactly sure what situation you are asking about. Nobody is perfect and everyone has flaws that make them not perfectly attractive. Most anxious people eventually do get into relationships and many find people who like their personality flaws and all. I'd say don't work on anxiety to improve dating but instead work on it to improve the general quality of your life and happiness. And yes your therapist is right that anxiety issues aren't usually completely fixed and this is just your pers…
/r/ExRedPill03/08/24 04:29 PM
8

That incels issue isn’t actually the way they look but they are just vile people to be around and have vile ideas about women, but if they drop all of that they would be able to find a girl. I mean I’ve been told that I would be doing better with women if I simply “read more feminist literature”. Most incels only developed these toxic ideals well after their struggles with women began so dropping them probably won't fix the problem. However I do think these toxic ideas do make things worse for i…
/r/ExRedPill03/08/24 04:25 PM
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One aspect of assertiveness is boundary setting. You have the same rights as everyone else and if others are crossing a line they shouldn't you have a right to politely communicate your boundary. Or if you just aren't enjoying a conversation topic or activity you have a right to do something else because your enjoyment matters just as much as the other person's. If someone else isn't being treated fairly stand up for them. Being assertive also means taking a co-leadership role when you could ben…
/r/ExRedPill03/08/24 01:06 AM
9

I'm open to re-evaluating my ideas. What specifically about it do you consider red pill?
/r/ExRedPill03/08/24 12:59 AM
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My friends are moderately attractive. Like On a scale of 1-10 maybe like 7s. to 8. An 8 isn't moderately attractive thats really attractive. I am ugly. Like a 3 at best, and I am constantly on the sidelines of their dating life and see and hear about it a lot. So many people here say that but when they show their pic they are actually average looking. So I can't trust what you are saying. I will say that there are ways to improve your looks and most less attractive people get into relationships.…
/r/ExRedPill02/08/24 09:39 PM
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From what I see, in real life, not on social media, men around me are dating women that seem to not be as attractive as them. The amount of in shape or even just average built men I see dating fat women is exponentially more than the inverse. From what I see in real life I see a lot of attractive women dating average men and average women dating below average men. I only really ever see attractive women dating average or ugly guys on social media and the majority of time the guy isn’t unattracti…
/r/ExRedPill02/08/24 04:00 PM
2

Maybe you feel more jealous of men who date is because that is something you lack. Not being able to date is a lot more painful than not being rich or famous. So maybe the jealousy is actually a good thing and motivates you to get something you are lacking but everyone else has. Its not the jealousy that is toxic, its when you sit around, be a victim, and do nothing about it. So maybe you need to deconstruct the lies this avoidance is based on.
/r/ExRedPill28/07/24 04:43 PM
5

Are you jealous of geniuses who were born with the ability to discover amazing things, incredible athletes, famous singers and actors, world leaders, and people who were born rich? What about those people who are naturally entrepreneurial and got rich with a little luck too?
/r/ExRedPill28/07/24 03:03 PM
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Any woman I am with will have slept with hot guys in the past and have had casual sex and partied and dated a fair bit How do you know every woman has dated multiple hot guys, partied, and had casual sex? Many women have only dated average guys. Many don't believe in partying because they are religious or stuck to their careers. Many women have only been in relationships. A few have never dated before. Some were tricked into hookups. There's a very commong advice "everyone has a past; get over i…
/r/ExRedPill28/07/24 02:31 PM
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The percent of marriages that end in divorce AND is initiated by the woman AND the man did nothing wrong appears to be very small. Go ahead and never get married. But your argument doesn't make any sense.
/r/ExRedPill27/07/24 02:49 AM
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No about 40% of marriages end in divorce. And 70% of those are ended by women. So its actually 28% of all marriages that are ended by the woman. And from my own personal experience most of these divorces happened for very good reason and the guy was actually behaving poorly.
/r/ExRedPill27/07/24 01:43 AM
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Do one thing a week that caused you to defeat your social anxiety. That can include attending a social event, starting a conversation, extending an invitation, exchanging contact info, saying no, expressing an opinion, disagreeing, or setting a boundary. If it doesn't give you anxiety to do it doesn't count, and the win is if you say no to your anxiety not if you actually get the desired outcome.
/r/ExRedPill26/07/24 11:02 PM
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So by your reasoning the vast majority of relationships and marriages should be ended by the woman relatively quickly but I don't see that happening. Is there any evidence for this happening? How do you know this isn't a temporary feeling and these women are actually leaving their boyfriends when the tiktok is over? How do you know some of this content isn't staged or dramatized for views? And how do you know these teenage influencers actually represent all women?
/r/ExRedPill26/07/24 03:12 PM
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Insecurities with my own self worth. That I’m not good enough What do you think comprises someone's worth? What makes someone good enough? and no woman is going to want to be with me etc. So we see regular guys walking down the street with a partner all the time (including me). What about you will repel every woman from wanting to be with you? 100% yes I received only conditional love from my mother. Moreover, from an attachment theory perspective, I definitely have anxious attachment strategy. …
/r/ExRedPill23/07/24 10:05 PM
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And this is why I said it is to sooth my insecurity. What insecurities do you have? However, when I entered relationships I started to loose friends and only focus on getting happiness from the relationship (clearly I have problems with women lmao) It sounds like you might have anxious (needy) attachment. These kinds of people tend to be needy, clingy, approval seeking, people pleasers, and/or lack of boundaries. Would you say you didn't get unconditional love from your parents or peers as a kid…
/r/ExRedPill23/07/24 07:30 PM
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To borrow from the PUA community, do you think you should be focusing more on inner gamer rather than outer game? So focusing more on your purpose, friends, health, and mental health. Basically being a "high value" person that women are actually attracted to rather than pretending to be a high value person who has to trick women into liking him.
/r/ExRedPill23/07/24 07:06 PM
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Don't feel too bad most guys lie on dating apps but you have to decide whether honesty or results on dating apps is more important to you. And 5'10 is actually average not short so these women are objectively wrong.
/r/ExRedPill23/07/24 03:23 PM
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Stop trying to meet people exclusively for a relationship and instead focus on living your best single life. And chances are that isn't staying in your room all day.
/r/ExRedPill21/07/24 09:24 PM
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It maybe not be that they aren't into similarly attractive guys, they just aren't into you. Maybe you are doing something wrong in other areas. Also try to look your best.
/r/ExRedPill21/07/24 04:40 PM
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Figure out if your quietness is based on irrational fears and address that. Find a woman who likes what you are all about. Quiet men get into relationships too.
/r/ExRedPill29/06/24 09:47 PM
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It sounds like you are a scientifically minded person so lets just evaluate the evidence for your beliefs: It's the belief that genetics determine everything in Life and you're "rank" in the social hierarchy. Twin studies have shown that outcomes are about half genetics and half environment and it is the scientific consensus that outcomes are a combination of the two. What evidence do you have that its 100% genetics and genetics determine outcomes rather than influencing them? I'm worried that I…
/r/ExRedPill27/06/24 08:26 PM
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You said those not me lol. I mean improving mental health, building social skills, learning how to date, and becoming financially stable.
/r/ExRedPill26/06/24 05:46 PM
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It is a bad thing because deep down these guys know the truth that they are being rejected. Its better that they know the truth and make the necessary changes so they can date and find happiness in that.
/r/ExRedPill25/06/24 04:29 PM
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Frustration. When things are going badly its normal to start feeling frustrated. When you feel frustrated you start looking for something to blame for your problems. Some people will direct their frustration at themselves and wallow in self-hatred. Others will direct that frustration on other people and place the blame on them and wallow in a victim mindset.
/r/ExRedPill19/06/24 07:58 PM
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So this subreddit has some extreme fringe beliefs and is about gender conflicts and dealing with those fringe beliefs. I personally have encountered a lot more red pill extreme beliefs than feminist. If you find a post upsetting then you can downvote it, respond to it, or in some cases report it.
/r/ExRedPill17/06/24 05:10 PM
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Are these just a few posts out of thousands? Can you link me an example because I've never seen that anywhere here.
/r/ExRedPill17/06/24 04:38 PM
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Can you give an example of this happening?
/r/ExRedPill17/06/24 04:04 PM
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People typically don't date others they aren't physically attracted to. Maybe its time to stop wasting both of your times.
/r/ExRedPill17/06/24 02:51 PM
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This content you are stumbling on isn't real feminism, its misandry. Feminism is about equality of the sexes while misandry is about hatred of men. Misandry is women's version of the red pill and has dug itself pretty deep into regular feminist content.
/r/ExRedPill17/06/24 04:19 AM
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How am I supposed to love myself when no one loves me? Do you have parents, family, or at least one friend? I'm sure someone loves you. I think you are assuming all love is romantic. I really don’t have any achievements Everyone has achieved at least something even if its small. or positive traits worth celebrating otherwise I wouldn’t be in this situation And everyone has positive traits. Even Hitler made laws to protect animals. People say to get hobbies, well I have hobbies and they don’t bri…
/r/ExRedPill14/06/24 02:23 PM
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Most people don't base all their self-esteem on female validation. Tt is fallacious because popular opinion isn't the yardstick of right and wrong. And its super stressful and exhausting to go around trying to impress women all the time. Most people including women just do what they enjoy and have other values and find this really needy, try-hard, and weird. You should have a values system about how society should be, you should treat others, and how you should conduct your life outside of datin…
/r/ExRedPill14/06/24 12:39 AM
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Correlation is not causation. You find attractive men attractive. Attractive men also happen to be well dressed. Put an unattractive man in better clothes and you’ve changed nothing. My main points are that women say they find that attractive, and looks matter and clothes has a big impact on looks. No attractive men who dress well are more attractive. Unattractive men who dress men are more attractive than otherwise. And a big reason for decent clothes is to avoid killing attraction by dressing …
/r/ExRedPill14/06/24 12:22 AM
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I’m decently fit for my age. Recently started new hair products and bought proper clothes for winter. I strongly believe that clothes don’t matter for attraction though. And many women will disagree with you a lot on that. They often very much do look at what a man wears. And when you look at men who are successful with women they are decently dressed. Looks matters and your clothes is a part of how you look. None, I’ve found it a waste of time honestly. I think my problems are environmental and…
/r/ExRedPill13/06/24 10:02 PM
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I’ve been going to the gym for one year What kind of results have you gotten from the gym? Also how have you improved you looks aside from the gym like with clothes or hair? therapy for longer There was one person I really feel for and they were willing to give it a go but that ended after a week due to mental stuff. I’m an absolute cretinous failure. How much have your mental health issues been resulted with therapy? It sounds like you still have mental health and self-talk issues to work on. I…
/r/ExRedPill13/06/24 02:50 PM
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I cannot escalate with women, I feel if I attempt to make a relationship overtly sexual then I feel like it makes every interaction and deed I did beforehand as selfish and no longer altruistic, as a goal to get in their pants, like grooming someone This is black and white thinking. Either you are completely selfish or completely altruistic. You can be selfish, want to pleasure yourself with someone's body, but also care about them, bond with them emotionally, respect them, and/or want something…
/r/ExRedPill12/06/24 08:44 AM
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Yeah there is no shame in going to a professional. Just make sure you use proper protection and do it with someone who is less likely to have STDs. Also don't get into the habit of doing this because the goal is to get a girlfriend. You also need to think about why you struggled with dating in college and address those issues.
/r/ExRedPill11/06/24 05:05 PM
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Getting laid three times in college isn't bad. After college you will have to put real effort to socialize because its no longer landed to you on a silver platter. You can start by browsing meetup.com.
/r/seduction11/06/24 05:04 PM
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Women on the apps are absolutely slammed with options so unfortunately if you want best results you do have to carry the conversation at first. Not only does that include asking her questions but also talking about yourself. She needs to know enough about you to invest in you enough to even care to ask a question. With that said this isn't an excuse to be super needy.
/r/seduction09/06/24 05:43 PM
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A boring nice guy can be attractive if he has status or looks. WIthout these things then he isn't broadly attractive but there will be women who find him attractive.
/r/seduction08/06/24 03:49 PM
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Sounds good. Also the belief that dating will never work out for you is the fortune telling cognitive distortion. This is where you make predictions about the distant future without sufficient evidence. The vast majority of people get into relationships even those who aren't conventionally attractive.
/r/seduction07/06/24 05:04 PM
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but I automatically assume that every woman on the planet finds me hideous and wants nothing to do with me Take a look at a list of cognitive distortions: https://psychcentral.com/lib/cognitive-distortions-negative-thinking#list-and-examples I'm seeing the generalization cognitive distortion. This is where you assume everyone of a group is a monolith and are the same. Here you assume that all women have the exact same view about your face. I also see the black and white thinking distortion. This…
/r/seduction07/06/24 04:40 PM
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I guess I ask myself if I'm living my own values. And then I also question my values as well.
/r/seduction07/06/24 01:41 AM
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Your solution is: Start listing out the positive things about yourself. Start questioning the negative beliefs about yourself. Start questioning the negative beliefs about what would happen if you pursued women. Change your mindset about yourself from perfectionistic to unconditional love like a parent would have. Use gradual exposure to address anxiety. If the above is too much for you do it with a therapist.
/r/seduction06/06/24 07:09 PM
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Actually I'm sure a fish would have some amazing advice for catching a fish. Assuming the fish was being honest it could tell you the bait fish really like and where fish like to go and exactly how fish make that choice to go for the bait. Sure women don't know what its like to be a man dating and sometimes women are just being nice. But a lot of women really are telling you what has made them attracted to men in the past and this is valuable information. So the female perspective is valuable ju…
/r/ExRedPill06/06/24 06:58 PM
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So from the people you see in real life who are in relationships, are they giving this advice? And how do you know these people online giving pilled online are very successful in dating? The sites you use will give you content you click on. So if you click on this pilled advice then thats all you see. I tend to not click on it so I usually get other perspectives like perspectives from guys who have gotten into relationships, psychology, and from women. So why do you think these pillers are right…
/r/ExRedPill06/06/24 06:42 PM
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and the reason is most of people tell me to be an alpha male and bad boy they mentioned and see lots of stories about this came from women which makes me feel so sad Who are "most people"? Are these people online? If these are people you know in real life how many people are they? Are they successful in dating themselves?
/r/ExRedPill06/06/24 06:35 PM
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Always suffered from really bad self esteem What do you not like about yourself besides your looks? and social anxiety Probably stems from your low self-esteem. What bad things will happen if people reject you? and thought I was too ugly to date. Do you still believe this? What features are you insecure about? I'd had girls randomly walk up to me in clubs and start kissing me. Thats unlikely to happen if you were ugly. What did you do when this happened? I'm currently making a point of getting m…
/r/seduction06/06/24 05:55 PM
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Its amazing advice. Assuming you've done the work to be the best version of yourself.
/r/seduction06/06/24 05:36 PM
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One reason you might struggle to pick up on social cues is you are always in your head. So therapy might be the central solution that fixes everything. It might give you the motivation to just move. It might help you feel less depressed and do better socially and pick up on those social cues. It might help reduce that performance anxiety that is causing your ED.
/r/ExRedPill04/06/24 08:29 PM
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Society deems men approaching women in public as “creepy and harassment” so I never approach girls in public You need good social skills to make that work. But when you do you can get dates from cold approach if you don't care too much what society thinks. I can’t pick up on social cues. Here is your problem. So spend 10 minutes a day researching body language and social skills. Also go see that therapist for your anxiety. And your social issues might cause your dates to not have much of an emot…
/r/ExRedPill04/06/24 08:03 PM
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Viagra only takes 30 minutes to take effect so with a little planning you can easily make it work. Also maybe question whether you are into highly sexual women or need to meet women in other places. Plenty of women want to wait before having sex and sex isn't the most important part of the relationship.
/r/ExRedPill04/06/24 07:33 PM
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Okay you could still have a biological issue even if doctors can't identify it. Did these psychiatrists give you SSRIs because you actually have mental health issues like anxiety or self-esteem issues. You should go to a therapist instead. One thing that will work is find a girl who is okay with your ED if you use viagra. Be with her for a while until you feel comfortable and safe with her that she won't leave you. Then suggest that your ED might be caused by performance anxiety and if you both …
/r/ExRedPill04/06/24 06:07 PM
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One thing you can do is only agree to sex when its scheduled. Or really connect with someone and tell them you have erectile issues and you have to use pills. Also try to diagnose the cause of these issues. Is this a biological issue or psychological?
/r/ExRedPill04/06/24 05:43 PM
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Yes the digital age does have fewer opportunities to socialize you have made a great point that I was thinking about myself a while back. But that is only half the problem. The digital age compensates for the lack of socialization with an immense amount of entertainment. This creates a problem that screen time is increasing and most people who are lonely aren't even trying that hard to meet people. The digital age also brings us apps to better take advantage of the social activities like we neve…
/r/ExRedPill03/06/24 04:37 PM
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The key is to only apply one thing at a time or else you will overwhelm yourself and not be very natural. Even if you can't apply something in every situation you can apply it in some situations. The key is repetition until it becomes second nature. And you example of not making your eyes too wide is a great example of doing this properly. Sometimes these little behavior ticks are because of underlying issues. For example not keeping eye contact might be the result of anxiety and discomfort so a…
/r/ExRedPill02/06/24 06:49 PM
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but I never really figures out how to “play the game” when it comes to dating. Well first you have to learn the "game". So do a bunch of research online into how dating works. Make sure you aren't getting all your information from pickup artists and get the female and psychology perspectives too. I tried various hobbies/meetups/volunteering but that was all old people and men. Bars people stick to their groups of friends and aren’t willing to talk to new people as much (at least in my area). Kee…
/r/ExRedPill02/06/24 06:18 PM
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I think that love and respect are easier when they happen together. Its easier to love when you respect someone. And it easier to respect when you love someone. And we really need to talk about what respect even means. I don't respect a baby in that I don't think this baby is an authority or I look up to it. But I respect it in that it deserves human dignity and its feelings are valid and should be listened to. So there is a basic respect and an admiring respect. I think its very difficult to lo…
/r/ExRedPill31/05/24 06:33 PM
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While from the quote it may seem Frye means that, she's pretty clear in "The Politics of Reality" that she's not confusing sexual love for love or diminishing men's ability to form profound bonds with other men. She is using "shocking" language to say "real respect isn't what men show women, it's what they show other men". I really wish she didn't use shocking language because its just toxic to call male respect homoerotic and contributes to male isolation. If she and other feminists stuck to mo…
/r/ExRedPill31/05/24 06:00 PM
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I think this quote is absolute nonsense but may apply to some men. The people whom they admire, respect, adore, revere, honor, whom they imitate, whom they are willing to teach and from whom they are willing to learn, and whose respect, admiration, recognition, honor, reverence Frye is confusing love with admiration. You can love a baby and not admire it because it hasn't accomplished anything of note yet and still developing. She is also doing a bit of mindreading and assumes men have never adm…
/r/ExRedPill31/05/24 04:43 PM
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People struggle with dating because of issues in mental health, social skills, social isolation, or dating skills. Being a dick or manipulate can get you results but you need the stuff I listed to pull that off correctly. And if you have the stuff I listed you can get a girlfriend while being a decent person anyway. If you think you are ugly but everyone else is saying you aren't then you might have body dysmorphia which indicates issues with mental health. Half the people at 18 are virgins and …
/r/ExRedPill31/05/24 03:17 PM
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it’s not very easy for me to do something like that because I have a pretty limited perspective: my own perspective. Do you want a perspective that is limited or do you want a perspective that is accurate and perceives reality exactly for what it is? I feel like from my perspective, I’m not having my needs fulfilled but others are So the cognitive distortions here are mind reading, generalization, and black and white thinking. Everyone is different and aren't having their needs met exactly the s…
/r/ExRedPill31/05/24 02:56 PM
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I suggest when you have these thoughts you write them down in your phone. Then when you've collected enough of them now its time to go through them. Have a list of cognitive distortions handy.(https://psychcentral.com/lib/cognitive-distortions-negative-thinking). I'll evaluate the accuracy of your thoughts to show you how its done. When you understand why these thoughts are inaccurate then they have far less power over you. Recently, someone I follow on Instagram (I follow people in my city who …
/r/ExRedPill31/05/24 02:00 AM
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I'm not exactly sure how many people would ditch their relationship for their favorite celebrity but I'm sure its a lot. And I don't think it would be an immediate decision. I think people would be conflicted a lot but then give in to their desires because of that deep bond they have with their partners. You might lose faith in people because of this but realize that we'd all do horrible things given the right scenario. People aren't perfect and its our environment that helps keep us relatively …
/r/ExRedPill30/05/24 04:20 PM
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No most relationships have a very deep bond at least for a while. But most relationships end because most people aren't very good at managing conflict or picking compatible partners so these bonds are eventually broken or feelings are lost a lot of the time. And this is a big reason why people "trade up". Most women are very disgusted by cheating and simply won't entertain someone hitting on them when they are in a relationship but it really depends on the woman. Now with that said a dark truth …
/r/ExRedPill30/05/24 03:19 PM
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Women are picky in that most are only attracted to a small minority of men. But some women are open to dating more men, and women don't agree on what is attractive because its very emotionally driven. Most women will find most but not all conventionally attractive men attractive but also some average or below average men because of unique preferences which is how average guys get into relationships. But something really important to women is they require that emotional connection and shared time…
/r/ExRedPill30/05/24 02:53 PM
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The red pill overemphasizes the roles of status, leadership, and physical strength in mating. The truth is being physically attractive and healthy matter a lot too (blackpill). Also being a mate who will stick around, you are compatible with, leads collaboratively, is emotionally stable, handles conflict well, is kind to you and your children, will help with the children, etc will also greatly improve survival chances.
/r/ExRedPill30/05/24 02:36 PM
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Your problem isn't that you lack some specific tricks and tips. Its that you lack the emotions. When you feel flirty, sexual, teasing, and/or romantic you will do those things automatically. But maybe right now you feel anxious, low self-esteem and needy for approval. Other emotions that are useful are self-amusing, fun loving, humorous, thrill seeking, confident, and assertive. In the past I've used standup comedy clips to prime myself for social interactions. It wasn't the specific jokes that …
/r/seduction30/05/24 02:33 PM
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A leftist youtuber said that most species only evolve when there's been a recent change in their environment. Get your info from actual scientists not YouTubers. But I think this is correct. We know evolution happens with punctuated equilibrium probably caused by an environmental change. Basically, it doesn't make sense for there to be any evolutionary based pickyness when humans choose partners because our species isn't currently evolving anyway. This is absolutely wrong. While the biggest leap…
/r/ExRedPill30/05/24 02:24 PM
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Stop posting to change people's minds. People will sense you are trying to control them and resist you. Isn't it kind of weird to be spending all this time trying to convince strangers on the internet about how to improve their lives? I think this is linked to ego and wanting to be the wise person who is above everyone and admired which certainly is true for me. Focusing too much on improving others might take away energy to improve yourself and might be a form of procrastination. Instead post f…
/r/ExRedPill29/05/24 04:11 PM
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Socialize more and improve your social skills. Look your best. Be more assertive. Relax and just have fun and connect.
/r/seduction29/05/24 02:13 PM
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So are these men telling the women they are interested in that if she refuses to have his kids and quit her job to raise them she is worthless? Do they tell their dates that they don't trust liberal women because of false rape accusations, women are worse drivers, women are dumber than men, and women shouldn't be in positions of leadership? I bet these men are keeping their views to themselves while dating and doing what is actually effective in dating. They are successful because they don't res…
/r/ExRedPill29/05/24 01:57 PM
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I feel like when it comes to genuine physical/sexual attraction, men feel that for most women and women don't for most men. Agreeing with you so far. The cost of reproduction for women is much higher than for men because women give birth and are the primary caregivers for children. As a result women are a lot more selective about their mates than men are. There's a reason why the majority of hookups are being had by a small percentage of men. Its also unclear how many of these men are just avera…
/r/ExRedPill29/05/24 04:47 AM
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Many people feel a bit uncomfortable with a stranger talking to them so its natural to be on the quiet site. So its you as the initiator who is responsible for carrying the conversation. Just be super talkative and try to figure out what they do for fun and invite them to do that with you.
/r/seduction29/05/24 01:53 AM
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Why is it wrong to want to be a chad? I know people here will say that chads don't exist but I have seen it with my own eyes and it feels more like people say that to try to talk guys here off a ledge. I see people say it's misogynistic to want to have options and the ability to date around and I don't get it. I don't get why it's wrong to be able to get the romantic/sexual interactions you desire. Are there people here saying this stuff I'm confused? Obviously there are people who are attractiv…
/r/ExRedPill29/05/24 01:42 AM
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Okay the best thing you can do is stop worrying so much about being threatening to women. When you worry about it so much you will come off as a little off which will make you more threatening to women. Just chill out and connect with people.
/r/ExRedPill28/05/24 05:29 AM
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Basically you want to use talking back to cognitive distortions in cognitive behavior psychology. What if it goes badly What is likely to happen in a date that doesn't work out? or the girls thinks I’m ugly or unattractive (since we started talking off of hinge) Did she see your pics? If she thought you weren't attractive enough to date, she wouldn't have agreed to the date in the first place. I Feel insecure and scared about going on dates Is your insecurity about yourself only about the way yo…
/r/seduction25/05/24 12:35 AM
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Thats great you want to help. I strongly recommend you learn a lot about mental health so you can understand their issues and tools therapists use to help troubled people change.
/r/ExRedPill20/05/24 04:32 AM
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One reality about the gym is most of those muscular people we see in the media are on steroids and that type of body is unattainable for most people. Depending on your body type you might not be able to attain enough muscle mass to be that noticeable especially when you are wearing more clothes. Another harsh reality is most women prefer the leaner athletic build to the muscular build anyway and a lot of women even prefer the dad bod. So as long as you look fit and athletic you are doing great. …
/r/ExRedPill20/05/24 04:30 AM
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If socializing is really the only thing that makes or breaks a guy dating No its not. Looks, dating skills, mental health, and status matter too. looks don't matter as much as incels think they do. Personality matters more Its more like the combination of mental health, social skills, dating skills, and confidence matters more than looks. Looks matters but its more about determining how attractive the partner you can get than a minimum threshold for dating at all. dating isn't as superficial as …
/r/ExRedPill18/05/24 04:50 AM
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Yeah thanks I enjoyed writing it because it helped me collect some thoughts I had about the matter.
/r/ExRedPill17/05/24 09:10 PM
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Here are some things you can try: Learn dating skills and actually use them. If looks is your insecurity do what you can to improve them. You might be trying too hard to the point you are desperate. Cut that out. You might have some mental health issues and maybe need to try out a therapy session. Find someone about as physically attractive as yourself. Look for women who uniquely find you attractive. I want to clarify my last point because you've debated people here before about it. Women have …
/r/ExRedPill17/05/24 07:20 PM
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Struggling reading social cues can get you into trouble which is why you probably lack confidence and for good reason. Being confident when you can't read someone can result in you offending them. For reading social cues look into body language, psychology, mindfulness, and empathy. Body language is important since those cues use body language. Psychology can help you understand how people's emotions work which will give you emotional intelligence. This can help you predict how they will react t…
/r/ExRedPill16/05/24 08:42 PM
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Have you considered that your lack of confidence is warranted and isn't a problem at all. Since you have autism maybe you should be a little anxious about making a good impression and not that confident since you aren't good at socializing. If you are confident when you shouldn't be you will end up saying some stuff you shouldn't. To build true confidence you need to learn social skills and practice them until you get comfortable. And then then you will actually be confident .
/r/ExRedPill16/05/24 07:46 PM
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How did getting proposed to ruin her life? I don't see how its a horrible thing to feel uncomfortable. There is no need to feel guilty but the real problem is that you are very needy.
/r/seduction16/05/24 01:08 PM
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Do you think you just did short term relationships, not showing too much interest, shallow conversations, and sex without commitment because you are afraid of getting hurt? Like if you where authentic with a girl and developed strong feelings for her then she'd not like what she saw and reject you?
/r/seduction15/05/24 10:23 PM
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Sure: Hit the gym and clean up your diet. Look into better clothes and hairstyle. Consider therapy if you got some issues. Be socially active and deal with social issues. Look into dating tips from a variety of perspectives. Invest in your future and yourself out of self-love.
/r/ExRedPill13/05/24 08:59 PM
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Its likely you got teased because of your autism and kids just came up with things to tease you about. The average dick size is 5 inches erect and if you are at least 4 inches then you aren't small. You probably don't have a sense of humor because you constantly in a vigilant state and need to learn how to relax and have fun. It sounds like you have a lot of trauma from your childhood and could really benefit from some therapy.
/r/seduction10/05/24 02:26 PM
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The red pill is all about cognitive biases because of bad experiences with women and reading a bunch of stuff online that confirms it all.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 04:40 AM
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Its more likely you are falling for generalization, confirmation bias, and maximizing the negative.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 04:25 AM
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Or maybe thats your interpretation of their conversation since you don't have a very good opinion of women's rationality to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 04:14 AM
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You have completely missed the point of the bear vs man question. Its not about perceived strength, bears obviously win. Its about their belief that men are more likely to attack than a bear is. So being more terrifying than a bear is nothing to brag about. Moral of the story: Men should stop assaulting women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 12:10 AM
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Just disagree with the claim itself. Like if she says all men are jerks, say you disagree and can't generalize all men like that.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/04/24 10:17 PM
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Like if a woman was online posting about how every guy she meets pumps and dumps her or some other issue of pursing men who end up rejecting her and I was like, "Well maybe you need to lower your standards and pursue a man who's less attractive" I would be seen as a misogynistic incel. Thats depends on why men are doing this to her. Maybe she is exclusively attracted to people far more attractive than herself, but rather than lowering her standards she should shift her standards somewhat from lo…
/r/ExRedPill30/04/24 09:35 PM
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The biggest flaw with this book is it suggests we be a little too non-needy and honest. Like it seems like Manson is suggesting we use women we are dating like therapists rather than just going to an actual therapist.
/r/seduction30/04/24 07:49 PM
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I consider myself to be kind, empathetic and emotionally sensitive and try to encourage my male friends to be so as well, I have no issues being vulnerable or showing emotion. or playing match maker for my friends. I talked to my girl friends, I spoke to therapists about it All the above are far more likely to be seen in women than men even if this is all good stuff. And it kind of gives off gay best friend vibes maybe to most women. lots of women like non-masculine men, so I doubt that's the pr…
/r/ExRedPill28/04/24 07:56 PM
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Maybe it is the way you look but there are so many people with body dysmorphia on here I can't say for sure without seeing what you look like. If you only recently "discovered" you aren't good looking that doesn't make any sense because people usually know early on. Also how do you explain those unattractive people in relationships we see every day when we go shopping? I consider myself to be kind, empathetic and emotionally sensitive and try to encourage my male friends to be so as well, I have…
/r/ExRedPill28/04/24 02:55 PM
1

Maybe start by making extroverted friends and talking to women if the opportunity arises.
/r/seduction25/04/24 09:09 PM
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Reading through the comments on this sub I think its pretty evenly split between men and women. Women don't know what its like to be a guy but they do understand what they find attractive and unattractive which can be helpful sometimes.
/r/ExRedPill24/04/24 04:57 AM
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The stereotypical expert is the software developer. I don't think software developers are killing it in dating. In my opinion you need a combination of social skills and status.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 08:01 PM
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Honestly just read articles about dating from wikihow. You will get 80% of your results from very obvious stuff like social skills, humor, mental health, looks, basic flirting, and not being needy. Once you are solid on this stuff then focus on the advanced stuff.
/r/seduction23/04/24 02:21 AM
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See cold approach as rejection practice to help you get over your fear of rejection.
/r/seduction23/04/24 12:47 AM
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I think this idea of the guy who's desired by women being secretly empty and lonely is not really all that common. Thats not what I said. I'm talking about the guys who spent their lives pursuing women and eventually became desired by women. They aren't necessarily empty and lonely but they are driven by female validation and without that they feel empty. For some this desire happened because they had a domineering mother they were constantly trying to get approval from. Now I have the track rec…
/r/ExRedPill23/04/24 12:32 AM
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The problem with this approach is the guy wakes up from his purely sexual encounter and the woman and all her validation are now gone. Unless she is willing to keep having sex with him again, he is going to need sexual validation from another woman. And practically speaking that is going to be hard to find. One sexual encounter isn't going to fix a lifetime of low self-esteem, anxiety, and negativity. Many of these guys will assume they got laid out of luck and it will take repeated success to c…
/r/ExRedPill22/04/24 11:11 PM
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Most people who try to do the basic PUA thing have social, looks, or mental health issues. Its best to address these foundational issues rather than jumping into the advanced stuff. As for dating just do the basics like learn what most people do on dates and how to flirt.
/r/seduction22/04/24 04:39 PM
1

Take an improv class if you are having trouble keeping up with conversations on the spot. These classes are literally about quick witted and playful banter.
/r/seduction20/04/24 11:31 PM
1

I think it can be entitlement if a guy believes he is good enough and wonders why he isn't getting any women, and then becomes very upset at women for it. But I think most men when they lack success with women just assume they aren't good enough and turn that anger on themselves. Also many guys get upset with women not because they feel entitled, but because they thought they were doing everything right and then they see women go for bad men so they feel women don't make good dating choices and …
/r/ExRedPill17/04/24 08:07 PM
2

Well I'm not sure most boys are really getting a consistent message that they are entitled to a partner. But I do get the message that their success with women is a measure of their status and self-worth which often turns into objectification. We see many young men who get mocked because of a lack of success in dating and not being able to "get some".
/r/ExRedPill17/04/24 07:27 PM
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The point I was trying to make here was not that a high sex drive entitles someone for sex and excuses sexual assault. It was that this sex drive when not satisfied can lead to emotional problems which can then lead someone to develop toxic ideas about their situation.
/r/ExRedPill17/04/24 07:16 PM
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As opposed to “real” sex which permanently eliminates sex drive? lol, I have no idea what your argument is here. I don't see any evidence that real sex eliminates sex drive. It isn't like men become asexual after sex and are no longer attracted to women. Or even if that is the case that this lasts very long. Not sure what that proves? Just because most men expect their partner to cook for them doesn’t mean food is connected to sex. The difference is that only some men expect their partners to co…
/r/ExRedPill17/04/24 04:08 PM
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Yes, of course. But desire for connection and intimacy has nothing to do with sex drive. I simply have to disagree with this. If this was true then people wouldn't seek out intimacy and connection from the sex that they are sexually attracted to. Sex drive can be satisfied entirely by masturbation (or paying sex workers for men without ethics). So clearly the real issue is not sex. For many men masturbation doesn't completely satisfy men's sex drive because it isn't the same thing as sex. Also f…
/r/ExRedPill17/04/24 03:03 PM
2

Of course looks alone don't explain everything but "pretty privilege" exists for men too in dating. The harsh truth is physically unattractive men are a lot more likely to struggle in dating than attractive men.
/r/ExRedPill17/04/24 02:19 PM
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I find this argument odd when masturbation is always an option. That’s how I handled my drive in my youth. There was no need to seek out women and get upset from rejection. The rejection and upset comes not from frustrated sex drive but from frustrated validation. Sex is about validation as should be obvious by now. And I did the same thing but it doesn't eliminate one's sex drive or desires for connection and emotional intimacy. But you do have a point about validation. I think part of one's se…
/r/ExRedPill17/04/24 02:14 PM
1

Many men report that they are often treated with caution when they try to connect with women and seen as unattractive when they are vulnerable during dating and relationships. So its worth noting that women also perpetuate this as well, but many women are cautious because of safety concerns. There is this damsel in distress attitude that when a women is having trouble she gets empathy and help. But when it happens to a man its his fault and he needs to work on himself and fix it. And I think tha…
/r/ExRedPill17/04/24 06:50 AM
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We are primarily emotionally driven but there are plenty of great strategies out there for managing our emotions and of course the vast majority of people can prevent themselves from doing horrible things to others because of their emotions. It is sad that women are more socialized to repress their sexuality and be highly restrained. Its also worth noting that many men are socialized to be gentlemen and not express their sexuality either. I think these attempts are ultimately impossible and our …
/r/ExRedPill17/04/24 06:36 AM
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Yes but research has shown that we are primarily emotionally driven creatures rather than logically driven. This idea that humans are these rational creatures far separated from the animals is absolutely false. I don't know if you fully understand what its like to be a young man with this constant aching sex drive where you are often willing to hump anything. And its incredibly discouraging when this drive cannot be satisfied and you are faced with universal rejection. I agree that patriarchy ex…
/r/ExRedPill17/04/24 06:18 AM
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I think there is a lot of truth to this. Many guys just expect relationships to just happen even when they do very little work on themselves, due in part to this entitlement. And we certainly see this mindset of girls being prizes to be won as a source of validation. I think its also important to remember that young men do have a very high sex drive which can naturally lead them to objectify women to satisfy their sexual desires. Its actually quite natural to have sexual and relationship desires…
/r/ExRedPill17/04/24 06:00 AM
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I think you are correct which is why I've never said that personally. I think these guys struggle with dating because of a combination of looks, mental health, and communication issues. However misogyny can make these guys even worse and mess them up further.
/r/ExRedPill17/04/24 04:03 AM
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Be social, look your best, and learn some tips for talking to the ladies.
/r/seduction16/04/24 11:16 PM
1

I'd say all the reaction channels to red pill content. They are quite entertaining.
/r/ExRedPill16/04/24 09:00 PM
2

It depends on what you are using it for. Are you using agree and amplify for a social situation to liven things up? Then its okay. Are you using fogging for a toxic person you just have to deal with? Then its okay? Are you using these techniques to deflect from real concerns someone is having? Then its not okay. False niceties is when you say nice sounding things that are untrue to improve the mood. None of these techniques are really that. Agree and amplify isn't actually saying nice things its…
/r/ExRedPill16/04/24 07:55 PM
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Agree and amplify works because it changes the emotional attitude from serious to comical through exaggeration and make it seem less serious. This can be toxic when the accusation should be seriously addressed and has legitimacy. Amused mastery works because it shows your self-esteem is so high you aren't even troubled by someone's attack to the point you find it a bit comical and ridiculous. This can be toxic when again the attack was legitimate. But sometimes when someone has seriously insulte…
/r/ExRedPill16/04/24 06:48 PM
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Then ask questions like how was you day, how was your week, do anything fun lately? Also remember things that happen to you over the week and talk about them when you are with her.
/r/seduction16/04/24 06:03 PM
1

What do you do for fun?
/r/seduction16/04/24 05:59 PM
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Not necessary it can also be a sign of a lack of empathy.
/r/seduction16/04/24 04:01 AM
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Well as long are you aren't able to move out of that remote town you probably won't be dating then and should focus on other things.
/r/seduction15/04/24 09:05 PM
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Lying to create social proof, signs of status, or interesting stuff to talk about.
/r/seduction15/04/24 08:59 PM
3

Do you mean that emotions don't have an impact or that you don't have a problem there?
/r/ExRedPill15/04/24 04:06 PM
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Don't try to look super seductive or you will just weird and try-hard. Look at how guys your age who are able to date dress and copy what fits you.
/r/seduction15/04/24 08:03 AM
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If you are still unable to date, you aren't 90% of things right. You probably have some issues with your mental health, neglect of your looks, or communication skills that you haven't dealt with. I don't know you personally so I can't say anything for sure though.
/r/ExRedPill15/04/24 07:58 AM
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My logic was, "why don't incels just work harder to become a high value desirable man" and thats what I did. I was always working towards being better, had a direct goal for my ambition and thought that maybe eventually my hard work would pay off. The problem is most of these guys do all this self-improvement in their careers for years and years but their dating lives don't change at all. And it looks like you might have fallen into this. Turns out that mental health and communication skills are…
/r/ExRedPill15/04/24 07:56 AM
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There might actually be a difference you didn't consider. They might have more self-esteem, less neediness, and less anxiety. This kind of emotional stuff has a huge impact on communication.
/r/ExRedPill15/04/24 01:59 AM
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Obviously being good looking is a huge advantage but surely you can learn some things from them. For example how they dress, do they work out, and how they talk to girls.
/r/ExRedPill15/04/24 12:15 AM
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It sounds like these friends are your best chance to meet girls and learn how to talk to them. Not hanging out with them will just make things worse. Maybe be open with them that you struggle with girls and try to get their help.
/r/ExRedPill14/04/24 07:04 PM
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In most cases a woman hitting you isn't much of a threat. And she can also make false accusations so we have to be careful. Just leave that relationship if she becomes violent.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 10:28 PM
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You are right that people with mental health issues are often judged rather than understood and we as a society should work on that. I'm curious how ADHD affects how people treat you? Also might you have social anxiety or depression as well? The way you are being treated is partially out of your control but some of it is in your control too. Like if you worked on your mental health, social skills, or fashion choices you can change how you are perceived.
/r/ExRedPill13/04/24 10:04 PM
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You know your experience better than I do and I'm sure racial bias is a factor. But are you sure it explains everything? There is also gender and mental health. Mental health issues can affect your demeanor and make you seem less safe. Or maybe you are perceiving people to think of you worse than they really are. I say this because I notice that people with social anxiety often run into these kinds of issues.
/r/ExRedPill13/04/24 09:49 PM
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Racial bias sure plays a role and I hear about black guys who try really hard not to make white women uncomfortable. However a big one is gender bias. Women are often quite social and open with other women. But they treat men with more cation because there are safety concerns and he could be romantically interested. Of course you can try to seem as safe as possible but you might come off as the "gay best friend". I think we just have to accept that friendships between genders tend to be more cha…
/r/ExRedPill13/04/24 08:44 PM
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Sure like here. It is worth nothing that the actual amount of gender difference in empathy is up for debate and some studies claim its much smaller. Also its very possible any difference in empathy may be cultural and socialized. Its also worth nothing that there is a lot of individual variation in empathy and the exceptions are much greater than the averages. Also there may be variability in who they have empathy toward and may show more empathy toward other women than men of color. https://www…
/r/ExRedPill13/04/24 07:34 PM
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Redpillers keep saying women are solipsistic Not true, research has shown women rate higher than empathy in men and this helps them with childcare. and don't love a man for what he is etc Research also shows that the vast majority of women love their partners. But that doesn't mean they accept their partners because women typically are pickier. However maybe that lack of acceptance is for good reason in a lot of cases. but openly say how men don't care about a womans career or education and only…
/r/ExRedPill13/04/24 06:47 PM
3

Can you go into more detail into the criminal activity involved in these trafficking rings?
/r/ExRedPill12/04/24 10:16 PM
2

You are too conscientious. Time to relax, have fun, break a few rules, and just connect.
/r/seduction12/04/24 07:57 PM
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I call this the try-hard paradox. If you try too hard at something you actually start getting worse. If you try too hard to sleep your sleep will get worse. If you try too hard to get people to like you then you will come off as clingy. If you try too hard to play a musical instrument well then you will play worse. I think this is true because performance requires flow state where you allow your brain to just do its things. If you try to micromanage yourself too much you interrupt that natural p…
/r/seduction12/04/24 04:08 PM
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I think the main one that sticks out to me is that you shouldn’t chase women. Even that isn't entirely true. Many women want to be courted as part of the dating process and want to be pursued. What are some redpill ideas that you do think are valid? That women aren't necessarily perfect.
/r/ExRedPill12/04/24 01:50 AM
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So when it comes to dating, it seems like the only trait that matters is confidence No a very large number of traits are involved with dating and different women have different preferences. For example looks, flirting, sense of humor, etc. But I will agree that confidence is an important trait. My question is, why do other positive traits cease to exist if you lack “confidence”, whereas any negative trait can be “ignored” if you have confidence? Would you buy a product from a salesman when he do…
/r/ExRedPill11/04/24 08:44 PM
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You might want to look at the list of cognitive distortion. It sounds like you are doing the mind reading distortion. Thats where you jump to assumptions about people based on very little real evidence. But out of curiosity why does part of you suspect these women don't love their boyfriends?
/r/ExRedPill11/04/24 08:37 PM
1

Do you live in the Himalayas or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 03:24 AM
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The vast majority of guys get into relationships so rather than seeing it as being good enough, its about finding someone at your level. Your real issue is you don't know any girls which prevents you from getting into any relationships.
/r/ExRedPill09/04/24 08:53 PM
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The next part of this is emotional state. It really helps when you feel sexual, horny, or flirtatious because you will make moves naturally. If this is outweighed by anxiety that you might creep someone out then you end up being awkward and overly platonic.
/r/ExRedPill09/04/24 04:26 PM
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And I didn't mean attractive/unattractive to purely mean looks either, people date in their league. Most of these Dads aren't horrible partners they are just kind of lazy and mediocre. Yeah women could do a better job picking their partners but then they'd be even pickier which isn't good for men. Also it isn't like men are picking their partners based on wholesome traits either.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 06:14 AM
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I know a lot of dads and to be honest most men struggle being good partners in long term relationships. Of course less attractive men have to settle for less attractive women, its called staying in their league.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 06:04 AM
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You just generalized women. The truth is women vary a lot in their preferences and the vast majority of men get into relationships especially if they touch grass.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 05:49 AM
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I'd have to give an edge to the average woman. She can make a tinder offer sex and get it ASAP from dozens of people. Dating is easy for a male celebrity but its not that easy. However the male celebrity has far more options to get a fulfilling long term relationship which is what women actually care about.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 04:35 AM
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The best dating advice for you is to socialize more and learn how to read subtle hints and cues. People often think this is about body language. But its really about empathy and emotional intelligence. Its really hard to read body language when you don't understand human behavior.
/r/ExRedPill09/04/24 04:16 AM
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Okay I'm going to assume your issue is purely your looks and not anything else. Here are some things you can try: Find a location or career that makes dating a lot easier. Improve your looks as much as you can. Date people in your league. Get really good at charisma and dating skills to make up for your looks.
/r/ExRedPill09/04/24 04:14 AM
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No its figure out exactly what your problem is and fix it. If you are trying too hard then tone it down.
/r/ExRedPill09/04/24 04:10 AM
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And do you think most men make good partners themselves. Women don't seem too happy about their own dating options lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 04:07 AM
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56% of young women have tattoos and about 50% have a body piecing and I'm just having a hard time believing they all have a body count above 50 (especially since the average body count for women is nowhere close to that), can't be good wives and mothers, and are bad people. https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2023/08/15/32-of-americans-have-a-tattoo-including-22-who-have-more-than-one/ https://gitnux.org/body-piercings-statistics
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 02:16 AM
1

The biggest impact of feminism is on divorce rates and rates of voluntary female singleness as a response to high rates of sexual, physical, and emotional abuse by men. But its important to remember the impact of birth control and how it made it easier to have sex outside of marriage. This caused the normalization of sex outside of marriage and the decline of marriage. Then we have the rise of obesity, social isolation because of screen time, which made people less attractive in general and less…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 04:14 PM
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Like if you take all women and ask them what's more attractive, a 6'0 man vs a 5'5 man. If they were to answer honestly, the overwhelming majority would not say the 5'5 man. Overwhelming majority assumes there is a minority that thinks differently, which is our entire point. Also just because the 6'0 guy is more attractive doesn't mean they don't find the 5'5 guy attractive at all especially shorter women. Another problem is the context of asking a woman a question is different from dating. Ofte…
/r/ExRedPill07/04/24 05:02 AM
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I think evolutionary psychology can be valid but it requires a lot more evidence than its theories typically have. Its definitely not a mature field.
/r/ExRedPill05/04/24 10:58 PM
1

Start with just being socially active and meeting women naturally.
/r/seduction05/04/24 02:28 PM
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Okay you have proven that beauty bias exists. There are hot people with all these privileges and doing all this stuff you I can't. But this also means you and I ourselves have our own beauty biases. The best we can do is recognizing that bias and making the best of the level of privilege we have. The world is unfair and that is frustrating but lying down and playing the victim all the time isn't the answer. Also you treat people as a monolith. If someone views you as creepy simply because of how…
/r/ExRedPill04/04/24 12:10 AM
1

I'm diagnosed with ADHD, OCD, and I suspect some ASD. You are calling this "slightly neurodivergent"?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 06:26 AM
9

Maybe its the trying that is causing failure. Someone who had tried everything to sleep is trying too hard. Connecting is about not trying and just having fun.
/r/ExRedPill01/04/24 09:29 PM
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I suggest you have a conversation about it and help her feel better about having sex.
/r/seduction01/04/24 07:46 PM
2

Recently, she had a guy-friend over to her house who she says she went on a single date with and in the past he's been a bit touchy with her and she's had to fend off his advances before. She also admitted to me during this conversation that she's had a few guy friends over to her house in the past that have made her uncomfortable so I don't know why she would want to invite them over again. I'd start by having a serious conversation about inviting over guy friends who have made sexual advances …
/r/ExRedPill01/04/24 05:39 PM
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Having friendly conversations with a stranger doesn't at all guarantee a friendship, this is true for everyone. I don't see why this mean you will never have a woman friend again. Are you going to therapy to fix your mental health?
/r/ExRedPill01/04/24 05:35 PM
1

Why not? What are you afraid they will see? How may they react to it? How have others reacted when you were vulnerable in the past?
/r/ExRedPill01/04/24 05:31 PM
3

Why do you feel gross and weird about opening up? Any thoughts or beliefs come to mind?
/r/ExRedPill01/04/24 07:23 AM
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What study did this come from? Sample size? Has other studies come to similar results? About half of these kinds of studies fail to be replicated so this matters. Also how well does stated height preference in a survey match actual dating choices when meeting people?
/r/ExRedPill29/03/24 10:27 PM
2

Yes definitely time consuming but definitely in a good way. And if you are busy for a while you can talk to her about it and work with your schedule.
/r/ExRedPill29/03/24 04:55 AM
1

Make friends and have an active social life. You might even meet some girls from that alone.
/r/seduction28/03/24 07:16 PM
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Just be a misandrist against red pillers not the rest of us lol. On a serious note most redpillers are typically men with mental health issues who struggle with social skills and dating. I think the best approach is to treat them with compassion not hate.
/r/ExRedPill26/03/24 02:54 PM
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Sure: https://nuancepill.com/ https://www.youtube.com/@alex.datepsych
/r/ExRedPill25/03/24 06:28 PM
2

Maybe people with issues like yourself tend to attract toxic women which makes them think all women are like that. It does seem like you fell for her a little fast so maybe you have some attachment issues?
/r/ExRedPill23/03/24 04:41 AM
1

I mean social acitivities outside your house not literally outdoors in some random park or something. Generally women expect men to initiate and won't be flashing choosing signals at guys they find attractive all the time.
/r/seduction20/03/24 06:24 PM
1

Women definitely don't prefer soyboy friends lol. You just need to be more socially active and get out of the house and meet women.
/r/seduction20/03/24 06:05 PM
1

Friends aren't your problem but female friends are. Make female friends and acquaintences.
/r/seduction20/03/24 05:57 PM
1

Maybe try socializing and making friends. It sounds like do a lot of things on your own.
/r/seduction20/03/24 04:55 PM
1

Stop caring so much if people like you. Just be yourself and say what you want, with a little social calibration of course. Trying to micromanage your body language will only stifle you. Just be authentic and let your emotions and mind do the work on their own.
/r/seduction18/03/24 04:29 PM
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Many of our problems could be fixed by having the bravery to have a difficult conversation. For some people its a conversation with their boss about a raise, or a promotion, or with their partner about what they really want to do. It sounds like for you the difficult conversation is with you parents about how they shamed you (be nice) and whether it would be okay to bring girls home. That sounds scary but thats the nature of difficult conversations. If you are a real man you have the bravery to …
/r/seduction18/03/24 04:25 PM
2

Why aren't you able to insert emotions? Do you feel emotions? Are you afraid to express them? Do you feel like emotions aren't worth expressing like logic? Do you try to bury your emotions?
/r/seduction18/03/24 03:39 PM
1

Find social events and start conversations with people of both genders.
/r/seduction18/03/24 04:44 AM
2

Good point and probably comes from the little red piller in me. Edited.
/r/ExRedPill17/03/24 09:29 PM
1

Knowing that women aren't actually physically interested in average men How did you come to this conclusion? and average men can never be a woman's first choice has made me want to opt out of dating since I'll always be a consolation prize that any woman who's with me is only taking because she can't get a hotter, richer, better guy and that when that guy comes along she'll probably choose him over me Lets say you finally got that girlfriend you always wanted. Will she ever be your first choice …
/r/ExRedPill17/03/24 08:33 PM
1

Make female friends or acquaintances. You have to walk before you can run.
/r/seduction17/03/24 05:31 AM
3

So if you were with an average girl and really liked her personality would you be constantly thinking about the hot girls you really wanted?
/r/ExRedPill17/03/24 01:41 AM
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So you are obviously struggling with dating so I'm assuming you'd be okay with dating average women and you aren't demanding the hottest, richest, most charming women. So does that mean you couldn't get the woman you actually wanted, and if the opportunity arose you'd leave me for someone better. Would she be your second choice?
/r/ExRedPill16/03/24 02:05 PM
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Many of the greatest people in history weren't necessarily lady's men. In fact if you think about the people you love and admire the most most probably aren't killing it with the opposite sex. Some people just aren't so good at the dating thing but their strengths are in their ideas, spirituality and impact on the world. So start by building an amazing single life for yourself without the assumption that a relationship will or will not happen. And that might be what makes you appealing to women.
/r/ExRedPill16/03/24 02:06 AM
2

The reason you are sensitive is because you are insecure and afraid of being judged or unwanted. Perhaps this was caused by the way your parents, other people, and women specifically treated you. I think fixing this may involve some self-improvement to fix what you are insecure about. But also realize you are only human and imperfect and thats okay. You can find people who like you warts and all and its okay if some people don't like you. Since you are insecure you have trouble handling a shit t…
/r/seduction15/03/24 09:51 PM
1

I'm pretty sure most men still prefer slim girls, and the ones who like thick girls didn't necessarily do it because of media. Maybe they are thick themselves and are being realistic. I see media encouraging women to marry nerdy less attractive guys. Just look at all the movies and shows with less attractive male protagonists, many of them short.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 06:06 PM
3

Sometimes its just useful to relax and just see if there is a connection or not and not overthink. I actually think your desire to mess with their heads may have led you down this unhealthy path of trying too hard to get their approval.
/r/seduction15/03/24 04:44 PM
7

Are you having emotional issues lately thats affecting your vibe? Are you a little anxious and trying too hard lately when talking to women?
/r/seduction15/03/24 04:32 PM
0

The vast majority of guys don't have a skin care routine and do just fine. Its not basic hygiene unless you have a skin issue.
/r/seduction15/03/24 12:11 PM
5

I am an ugly, Eat healthy, hit the gym, get better clothes, get a better haircut. rude human being. That is completely within your control to fix. I don't even have anyone to talk, I don't even have anyone to come with me to watch films to go to restaurants, to go on long late night walks. Everyday morning when I check out my phone I wish someone would have texted me or there should be a someone whom I should text. While you are single maybe make some friends you can do this with or do this with…
/r/seduction14/03/24 07:10 PM
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You have no understanding of dating if you think its all about lines. Its about the way you say it, the emotions you express, how you look, your body language, and your status. Two guys can say the exact same thing but get completely different reactions. Sure it might be helpful to pick up some cool things to say but you need that foundation.
/r/seduction14/03/24 03:28 PM
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Isn't asking for consent to start a conversation itself starting a conversation? If you want to get better with women you have to not listen to your discomfort with burdening or bothering others. You have to accept that sometimes you are going to upset other people but both of you are going to survive it and do just fine. Also you don't have to go around starting conversations with strangers all the time. Just be socially active and friendlier than most people.
/r/seduction14/03/24 06:53 AM
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The PUA tactics are about acting like a high value guy. This book is about being a high value guy. When you are actually a high value guy you do the PUA tactics by instinct. For example you naturally neg because you aren't trying to hard to be liked. Being yourself will actually be the best way to get girls because you are such a cool person naturally.
/r/seduction14/03/24 04:53 AM
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Sounds like you have a huge crush on Cilian Murphy and you should ask him out lol. I just don't hear about the scarecrow as a sex symbol. The only reason someone might is because he is very physically attractive very successful lawyer. Otherwise his stuff with the fear gas, the scarecrow mask, and the mental hospital doesn't really turn anyone on. It is true that psychopaths are more successful with dating. A big reason is they are manipulative and deceptive and will do or say anything to get ah…
/r/ExRedPill11/03/24 04:16 PM
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Its really about the division of labor being evenly divided. If one person is being more overworked than the other than its time to rebalance things.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 04:14 AM
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Yes I was bringing up a new point. But going back to my last point if you can't trust a person financially you shouldn't get married to them. However even though there is a 50% chance of divorce its still reasonable to get married for a lot of people. I trust my wife with money more than even myself, she is that responsible. Making a secret bank account would be completely useless and idiotic and break our trust. But its reasonable to have a prenup in case we fall out of love with each other whi…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 04:10 AM
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I mean there are similarities. They are both measures taken in case things go bad. But one is deception and the other isn't. Thats a pretty big difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 04:00 AM
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Of course I expect everyone in the world to follow my orders.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 03:50 AM
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Not really. Prenups are just recognizing that half of marriages end and its normal for many people to fall out of love. So why not have an arrangement if that happens? But its not normal to be married to someone you can't trust your money with.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 03:49 AM
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Its a bad thing because you shouldn't be married to someone you can't trust your money with. Being married means you are very vulnerable to them but physically and financially. So don't marry someone you have to hide your money from.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 02:17 AM
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You care too much what people think which is a very non-masculine trait. As a result you get into all these arguments, are afraid of standing up for yourself, try to hard to charm women, and overthink social interactions. You are afraid of rejection of any kind but being a man means being brave and being able to endure pain. Getting rejected is a good thing because it teaches you lessons and shows you who isn't compatible. Caring too much what people think comes off as very needy and is often wh…
/r/seduction11/03/24 02:16 AM
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If you have to hide your money from someone don't marry them in the first place. Prenups are a good idea because half of marriages end.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 02:06 AM
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The best way to be extremely social is to stop caring so much about people acting negative toward you. When you do this you will naturally talk to new people more, and not feel stifled because you have filtered yourself so much. You will find people who are naturally compatible with you rather than trying to make everyone like you.
/r/seduction10/03/24 05:05 PM
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Make a joke out of the fact you smelled bad because of a medical issue. This actually makes for a great story that makes you relatable.
/r/seduction09/03/24 04:27 PM
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Yeah I spent years trying to emulate tv characters when I was young as struggling socially. For me it was Mr. Spock. So cringe lol.
/r/ExRedPill09/03/24 04:00 PM
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When she found out I had never been in a relationship before she stopped dating me. She also laughed at me for it. It hurts even more with the fact that the last time I saw "Her" she made fun of me for being unable to get laid. It didn't help that I didn't have a good support system at the time. Most of the "friends" I had would make fun of me for never being in a relationship. There were very few people I could trust. Yikes, she sounds like a horrible person honestly. You should have broken up …
/r/ExRedPill09/03/24 01:50 AM
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Actually the mate switching hypothesis has a lot more evidence than the dual mating hypothesis. This is because only a tiny number of children are covertly some other guys, women tend to fall in love with men they cheat with, cheating tends to happen when there are relationship problems, and they tend to look for similar traits in hookups and relationships. This YouTube channel is full of information about this. https://www.youtube.com/@alex.datepsych
/r/seduction05/03/24 03:51 PM
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I was just poking a little fun bro. And yeah since its on instagram thats so much more reliable lol. Okay so the lesson here is content creators will often pay people for fake reactions and will do a bunch of reactions and cherry pick the most extreme ones.
/r/ExRedPill05/03/24 03:37 PM
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You seem like the type of guy who believes prank videos. You have no idea if these people were cherry picked or even staged. Don't believe everything you see on TikTok.
/r/ExRedPill05/03/24 04:47 AM
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If its serious trauma then see a therapist. Otherwise then explore and understand it in a healthy and rational way.
/r/ExRedPill04/03/24 05:15 AM
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Yes some average people go to clubs but clubs definitely attract more of a certain type of person who is more free spirited, young, attractive, etc. Every activity has its type of person who is more geared towards it.
/r/ExRedPill04/03/24 05:07 AM
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I didn't mean ALL the women in the office, but a good amount of them did flirt and it was with the same guy, yeah. What percent of women in relationships obviously flirted with him? And exactly how many? If your sample size is 3 women thats very small. Most studies require a same of hundreds of randomly selected participants and even then many are still off. Also didn't claim that they left their boyfriends for them, but two of them have hooked up/been in short relationships with him after they …
/r/ExRedPill03/03/24 03:26 PM
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Workplaces tend to have a certain culture and attract a certain type of person. Also luck and chance causes many people's experiences to deviate from the average so maybe your workplace is unusual. The vast majority of people aren't in a workplace where all the women are flirting with one guy and this is the first time I'm hearing about this. So are you sure the women at your workplace actually represent the average woman? Are you sure its actually most women at your workplace who flirted with t…
/r/ExRedPill03/03/24 02:57 PM
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You are making an assumption about everyone just because you personally don't connect with women. Women can be platonic far more easily so the trouble usually comes from men. But even for men we will find plenty of women we aren't sexually attracted to because of their looks, age, or they are related. If we share common interests and personalities with them than we can be friends. I suggest you get to know women you aren't attracted to and see if there is any friendship connection. If you litera…
/r/seduction02/03/24 04:23 PM
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Sure understanding dating from a logical standpoint definitely helps. In the same way reading books about playing the piano helps a lot too. But ultimately your real skill comes from experience and learning lessons from experience. Most guys who are good with women haven't read a lot of theory online, they just kind of picked it up. In fact reading too much theory can confuse some people and cause them to overthink.
/r/seduction02/03/24 04:15 PM
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Just because you can logically explain something doesn't make you good at it. Logically explaining music theory doesn't make you any better at playing Mozart.
/r/seduction02/03/24 08:05 AM
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Why?
/r/seduction02/03/24 08:00 AM
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Stop overthinking and just connect with women and see where it goes. Being too picky means you will end up alone. Attraction isn't a logical process where you compute your perfect soul mate.
/r/seduction02/03/24 07:57 AM
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I think she had some very negative experiences with men which has created an emotional bias where she blames men for everything. So getting into a debate with her about gender is just counter-produce and you are better off avoiding that topic entirely.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/02/24 05:17 AM
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My question is where did he get all this math from? What experience does he have that makes him an expert? Otherwise he is a guy on youtube with a bunch of theories that may or may not work.
/r/ExRedPill24/02/24 06:22 AM
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I'm just telling you what many people feel about potential partners with high partner counts. I'm just the messenger here. There is this negative emotional reaction when your date tells you he has been with 100 women. And it bring up a lot of doubts over whether he will be a good partner. And I'm sorry but it is true that most men care about looks a lot and value education in a partner less than most women. I'm sorry but in the real world people don't always behave according to your feminist ide…
/r/ExRedPill22/02/24 06:45 AM
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The guys who take the pickup artist courses aren't pickup artists, they are incels who are being taken advantage of. They think that they can fix all their dating problems in a weekend of awkwardly asking out a few dozen strangers.
/r/ExRedPill22/02/24 01:12 AM
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This is an interesting analysis but the limitation is you are only looking at divorce rates not infidelity, mental health, or relationship satisfaction. You might say that people with these issues are more likely to get divorced so its a good measure to use. But divorces aren't just about how bad the relationship is, some people don't divorce as easily as others. Maybe the woman with 3-9 partners in a bad relationship might be less likely to divorce for some reason other than the relationship qu…
/r/ExRedPill22/02/24 01:07 AM
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I've been on both sides of this gender war and honestly the best side is the don't care side. I also have that radical in me that wants to believe extreme things. But I think that stuff is due to some emotional issues I have. I try to take a nuanced objective look at these issues and remember that I need to turn all this energy on myself rather than playing a victim.
/r/ExRedPill21/02/24 07:56 AM
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Thanks I'm honestly purple pill and actually see some truth in red pill and critiques of feminism. Maybe, but is still a fact that men are lonelier than women. Agreed but from what I heard thats because women have larger social circles than men and maybe a sign men need to socialize more. The mental health crisis is a rabbit hole, a masculinist would say is fault of the masculinity problem, but on realith nobody really know why is happening. We see increasing mental health issues in modern locat…
/r/ExRedPill20/02/24 06:25 AM
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Women have now too high standards, so most men struggle to find a partner. Society rewards individualism. My belief is the quality of both genders have gone down as well. We see this with rising obesity, increased screen time, more social isolation, and the mental health crisis. Being unattractive doesn't mean you suddenly find other unattractive people attractive people. So now all these people are aiming out of their league when 50 years ago their preferences would be normal. Feminist theorist…
/r/ExRedPill20/02/24 05:52 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 05:22 AM
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I truly believe on the problems modern men are facing, being unable to have a healthy relationship with women (for many reasons). Can you elaborate in what ways men are unable to have a healthy relationship with women? I believe feminism (actual one, because i like some feminist ideas too) has damaged men and masculinity. How has feminism damaged men? I believe on men loneliness problem. I believe on men existential crisis. I believe these are problems too. What are the biggest causes?
/r/ExRedPill20/02/24 05:14 AM
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And there's no way to know but I seriously doubt she would've gotten with a balding fat guy when she was the age she started dating him. Exactly there is no way to know so thats pure speculation on your part. You aren't an armchair expert in their relationship. You are just trying to mansplain away a woman's clear physical attraction to her partner even when she says, "Still the sexiest man alive with the nicest ass. Can't resist touching his butt." Maybe she wouldn't have dated him if he was ba…
/r/ExRedPill19/02/24 09:13 PM
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Do you know how many options in the era of online dating below average women have ? How do you know most women are even using online dating? How do you know the attractive men messaging her want anything more than a tinder hookup? And how do you know most of these matches aren't low quality profiles and messages? He wants to find someone on his attractiveness level but the problem the other person don't want that But I keep hearing from you guys that the top 20% of men are getting the top 80% of…
/r/ExRedPill19/02/24 07:52 PM
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Actually for the average partner there are two comments literally saying he is not hot but he makes me laugh which is okay also sexual attraction is part of attraction. Okay so a small minority of women aren't physically attracted to their partners and its emotional attraction behind their desire for their partner. Very different than men. Maybe these women are sapiosexual or demisexual. For your last point those women majority of them are having partners form 7-9 on attractiveness scale. How do…
/r/ExRedPill19/02/24 07:20 PM
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So you only want the hottest possible woman? You don't take into account her personality , lifestyle or values?
/r/ExRedPill19/02/24 07:08 PM
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How do you know a majority of women have dated lots of men? Even according to you some women haven't dated a lot of men so its possible they are attracted to average partners. How does dating lots of men mean she only finds high attractive men attractive?
/r/ExRedPill19/02/24 07:06 PM
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Okay so if a woman says she finds her partner attractive then you assume he is conventionally attractive. If she doesn't find her partner physically attractive then you assume she is only with him for emotional/financial reasons? Either way you confirm your negative view that women don't physically desire average men.
/r/ExRedPill19/02/24 06:58 PM
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From what I've seen in this sub and others like this, that's what most women are choosing to do. Choosing to be with a guy she doesn't physically desire but lets the emotion she feels for him help her to sleep with him. You seem to be separating physical and emotional desire which is a very male perspective but these two are very interconnected for women. And when I see this question asked of women the vast majority claim they are physically attracted to their partner. Do you have any evidence m…
/r/ExRedPill19/02/24 06:35 PM
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Yes obviously we are talking about dating not long term relationship advice.
/r/ExRedPill19/02/24 06:08 AM
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No the black pill is that looks is the only thing that matters in dating and that for a lot of guys they are just screwed and can't fix their situation. That is radically different than understanding that looks matters to dating for a certain extent. I mean women understand that which is why they put on makeup. Looks definitely matters more than personality because most of personality like being nice really has no impact on dating success. Its only certain personality characteristics like confid…
/r/ExRedPill19/02/24 05:44 AM
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Goods news none of what you said is particularly red pill. Its common knowledge that looks plays a big role in dating and in fact psychology has found it plays major roles outside dating which is called beauty bias. Its also common knowledge that women tend to be more picky and building their attraction is a lot more complicated than with men which results in them having more dating options. But its when you take these beliefs to an extreme and begin forming a misogynistic ideology that we get r…
/r/ExRedPill19/02/24 05:23 AM
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The types of men who I see do the best with women aren't the men with the best personalities, the men who care the most about feminism, the men who have read feminist literature or anything. Actually I saw a study on this. They found that the men women found most attractive were the ones who didn't care so much about these gender debates. Like the people here say. The men who do the best are the most physically attractive. The tall conventionally attractive broad men with hunter eyes, a strong j…
/r/ExRedPill19/02/24 12:35 AM
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We are told we are not fully human or capable of authentic emotion. Can you give me an example of someone actually claiming this? I've been a part of these discussions for years and never heard anyone ever claim this.
/r/ExRedPill14/02/24 06:31 PM
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Thats a decent book. Another good book is No more Mr. Nice Guy is another good book written by Dr. Glover a psychologist that Manson recommends. He also wrote a book called Dating Essentials for Men: The Only Dating Guide You Will Ever Need that maybe you can try out. Another decent book is Mate Become the Man who women want. Its written by a former pickup artist and a psychologist. You can also find some good dating and social tips of Wikihow. A good channel for dating and social skills is char…
/r/seduction07/02/24 10:46 PM
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The problem with these books is they suggest you be very scripted, but you eventually run out of lines. Also people with dating typically have deeper issues with social skills, mental health, career issues, and neglecting their looks.
/r/seduction07/02/24 09:04 PM
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Just because someone has misogynistic thoughts doesn't make him a misogynist. We'd all be pretty uncomfortable with someone reading our thoughts because we think some crazy stuff pretty regularly. If this is an elderly guy then he was probably brought up with conservatives values and some of those ideas still come to his mind. Looking at his behavior he is a feminist and has defended women. But I do think that both men and women all have at least some misogynistic (or misandrist) beliefs, assump…
/r/ExRedPill06/02/24 01:47 AM
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I was in high school, i can confirm that "being yourself" does not work. The adult world is very different from high school and authenticity is a lot more valued. If you are putting on an act eventually its going to slip when she spends a lot of time with you. The real answer is you should become a better version of yourself. be honest, be open" and other feel good advice. You don't want to be revealing every embarrassing secret about yourself on the first date but opening up does promote emotio…
/r/ExRedPill29/01/24 04:03 PM
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Its sounds like you have some attachment issues that you need work on if you are clingy. You are better off learning how to relate to people in a secured way and look into the experiences and beliefs behind your insecure attachment.
/r/seduction26/01/24 07:01 PM
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Interestingly enough studies find that women are most likely to cheat and break up when the relationship is going poorly. Your toxic behavior in your relationship may create the heartbreak you are so afraid of in the first place. I've actually seen this with a red pill guy I know.
/r/ExRedPill24/01/24 06:15 PM
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Do women abroad in traditionalistic countries have better morals than women in the west? The same question could be asked of men. The downside of traditional women is they aren't as independent and don't typically have good careers. This is a problem if you are trying to afford the cost of living in the US. And she will be relying on you to do all the leadership and decision making in the house. She will also be expecting to have a large family and for you to support them. It can get exhausting.…
/r/ExRedPill23/01/24 01:01 AM
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I know a lot of "high value" guys and none of them want to date a woman in her early 20s. They admit these women are more attractive but they are also a lot less mature and aren't earning very much. With prices being where they are two good incomes are becoming more important for men. About 3/4 of the population is overweight or obese and this makes men in their 30s and 40s a lot less physically attractive. Additionally many men at this age are starting to bald and are neglecting their style. Al…
/r/ExRedPill18/01/24 06:58 PM
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Absolutely I get it. By the way the Alex Datepsych channel is a great resource for a more objective view of the evidence. What red pill beliefs do you have?
/r/ExRedPill18/01/24 06:38 PM
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Yeah maybe check your mindset about labelling people as enemies its a little dramatic. As for your family or unpleasant people you meet, just avoid them and call them out when they mistreat you.
/r/ExRedPill18/01/24 01:41 AM
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I’m scared my enemies You have enemies? What an exciting life. If you are making enemies then maybe work on your social skills or rethink who you are hanging out with. Can a woman or man guess accurately a mans sexual/relationship experience/current status, even if he keeps his mouth shut about the topic , but asks random questions on the subject? They can piece it together if you come off as really socially awkward, not very physically attractive, and/or seem very innocent on sexual matters.
/r/ExRedPill18/01/24 01:31 AM
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Surveys show that both men and women prefer (but not require) someone who had a lower number of sexual partners in their past but not zero. People with zero partners are more likely to have fundamentalist religious beliefs, low sex drive, have mental health issues, social issues, and not be very good at sex. The exceptions to this are teenagers because so many are virgins at this age and fundamentalist communities.
/r/ExRedPill18/01/24 01:28 AM
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Its sounds like deep down you are afraid of getting hurt. You are afraid of going on dates and her not feeling it. You are afraid of getting into a relationship and then she falls out of love. You are afraid of being imperfect and hurting your relationships. You are afraid of being madly in love with someone and needy for her but she doesn't feel the same. As a result you avoid anyone who likes you which as you pointed out is avoidant attachment. The reality is that we improve and attain happine…
/r/ExRedPill18/01/24 12:15 AM
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And I'm saying that if you did what the average guy did in the 50s you would meet this threshold. You would be in shape, well dressed, have an active social life, and have good social skills. Yeah career is stressed too much and notice how I'm focusing on social skills and looks here.
/r/ExRedPill15/01/24 05:58 AM
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Okay men outnumber women 3 to 1 or more on the dating apps so of course the standards for men on there are insane. And of course women will find certain men cute, and men will find certain women cute. Its been that way since the dawn of time.
/r/ExRedPill15/01/24 05:53 AM
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Maybe the standards aren't actually that much higher, instead everyone is worse. Maybe food and excessive screen time have caused obesity, lack of social skills, and lack of social connection.
/r/ExRedPill15/01/24 05:24 AM
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When you try to manipulate them into doing it or hide your intentions.
/r/ExRedPill14/01/24 07:22 PM
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Sure.
/r/ExRedPill10/01/24 08:34 PM
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Okay same here. If you are in the US that is super common and body weight isn't the sole indicator of social status or value. You can also try eating healthier if that bothers you.
/r/ExRedPill10/01/24 08:32 PM
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What are you below average in? Very few people are in dream shape to be a fighter. In fact trying to do that puts you at risk of injury. Few people have high social status its literally in the word. Most people are average looking and have average social status. In fact caring too much about having high social status is really needy and will reduce your social status.
/r/ExRedPill10/01/24 08:28 PM
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Heard that it does happen, and that was before being redpilled. Yeah it does happen because this is an imperfect world. But how do you know its likely to happen like the red pill claims? Overall, yes, but I was never in a relationship with them to know for sure. People behave differently around coworkers they are friendly with vs romantic partners. If you are around people long enough you will start seeing their true nature come out because people can't fake it forever and they don't want to eit…
/r/ExRedPill09/01/24 07:29 PM
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Stop looking for pickup artist books. Pickup by its very nature is unethical because its about finding ways to get people to have a hookup with you. Instead read up on how dating typically works, basic social skills, and the foundations of successful relationships. But the best book about dating is real life itself and actually going out and meeting women.
/r/ExRedPill09/01/24 07:06 PM
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Basically now I am scared that if I get into a relationship with a woman, I will either be cheated on and/or left for a man who's richer/more attractive, showing emotion/vulnerability/tears will result in her losing respect and attraction towards me (especially nasty for me because I am a rather sensitive guy), if I lose my job she will leave me, if I am very affectionate she will think that I'm clingy and get the ick, if I don't take her through the full spectrum of emotion (basically, making h…
/r/ExRedPill09/01/24 07:02 PM
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Referring to a group as "they" isn't lumping them together. Like in many of my posts I've referred to women as a group because its just convenient. But that is different than claiming they all have the same behavior and preferences. Heck I even said that there is some truth to what red pillers are saying. And yes I understand that there is a variety of perspectives among red pillers.
/r/ExRedPill08/01/24 05:57 PM
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Seduction skills are based on basic social skills. In fact most of the conversation between two lovers is normal regular platonic conversation. So you need that foundation of good conversation skills with both men and women. Then throw in seduction and flirting. There needs to be a natural push pull when dating and you don't want to be aloof all the time. There should be moments of flirting and connection too. Rather than trying to calculate when to push and when to pull, just be chill, relaxed,…
/r/seduction07/01/24 10:11 PM
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If all the girls are leaving the date early you may be trying too hard and turning them off. Maybe make some female friends and learn how to just be chill and just have a conversation with them. If she has asked you out, you don't really have to do much, just be a normal chill person and kiss her at the end of the date.
/r/seduction07/01/24 06:27 PM
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I agree that redpills do have some truth to them which is why they appeal to so many people but they get a lot of things wrong. What things do you think they are right about?
/r/ExRedPill07/01/24 02:45 PM
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Reading 4 hours a day of romance novels sounds like a lot and may be interfering with her relationship, kids, or career. I think maybe her marriage now lacks the passion she wants and maybe they should talk about bringing that passion back and cutting back on the novels a bit.
/r/ExRedPill06/01/24 07:46 AM
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Yeah kind of. People who don't have the maturity to handle other people not doing what they want like an adult.
/r/ExRedPill01/01/24 06:20 AM
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I'd say the person you are describing is someone with anger management issues. Most people have been broken up with at least once and they don't go to jail because they were attacking people. I'm also glad this person was broken up with because this would probably turn into an abusive relationship if wasn't already. I also suspect they are just claiming this to guilt trip into taking them back.
/r/ExRedPill01/01/24 06:05 AM
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talking to you I don’t feel anything anymore it’s like void Why did you lose your passion? I feel like a robot following an invisible book of how a man should be and it’s turning my life blank. Why did you get into red pill content?
/r/ExRedPill31/12/23 06:18 AM
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That's why we have therapists. But I have no money and even tho the healthcare in my country is great and free the waiting times are massive 1+ years. You might have some free mental health resources at your school so check them out. Even if waiting times for mental health is a year, a year can go by quickly so apply now. Late is better than never. You can also look into in person or online mental health support groups. But that made me realise that a factual, reasonable and intellectual solutio…
/r/ExRedPill28/12/23 12:09 AM
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I know that a lack of intimacy in marriage can be extremely frustrating and I admire your commitment to your marriage. I think you have been an amazing husband and she is lucky to have you. You can't really change people and you need to accept that your marriage to her won't be physically intimate. Don't fall into a victim mindset because you have chosen to stay so you have chosen this kind of relationship. You are just going to have to be asking for and initiating sex more and you will have to …
/r/ExRedPill21/12/23 05:24 PM
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Developing social skills takes years, and you can see that with kids. I think your next step is to deepen your social skills to a more natural level. That can be done with experience, mindfulness, self-amusing, empathy, and mental health. If you want to work toward being non-platonic maybe work on humor since thats really important for flirting.
/r/ExRedPill19/12/23 11:31 PM
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The reason you seem off is because you have autism. This isn't something that is going away any time soon. You can decrease that over time by looking into mental health, social skills, getting practice, and all that. But you will just have to find people who are okay with your weirdness that makes you who you are. Confidence comes through positive experiences so don't worry about that too much. You can question perfectionist thoughts you have that might be ruining your confidence. Anybody why is…
/r/ExRedPill19/12/23 09:20 PM
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Try walking and think about every movement to do it perfectly and you will notice it will look very awkward. If you overthink or focus too much about outcomes you destroy flow and come off as awkward. Maybe don't micromanage your voice, sounding serious all the time is going to make you seem boring. You may have trouble understanding other's emotions because you are too focused on how you are coming off. Happens to the best of us. Here are some things that can help. You don't have to do all of t…
/r/ExRedPill19/12/23 09:00 PM
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Okay you are only perceived that way. Well again social anxiety can cause you to avoid anything too edgy so you are perceived as innocent. Or when you try to be a little edgy your anxiety messes it up. Its also possible you have some emotional disconnection so you aren't even aware of your anxiety and may have trouble understanding other people's emotions during conversations. If you don't have problems in these areas, then maybe watch those standup comedy tiktoks to figure out how comedy is don…
/r/ExRedPill19/12/23 08:32 PM
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Maybe your innocence, awkwardness, niceness, and platonicness have nothing to do with autism. Maybe these behaviors are linked to anxiety because of bad past experiences. If you want to improve your sense of humor watch some standup comedy tiktoks. Humor is an attitude not just words so maybe your anxiety is messing that up too.
/r/ExRedPill19/12/23 08:26 PM
3

At that stage I probably did. I had veins all over my chest, arms and abs. Okay so most women don't find that look the most attractive but there are some who do. And also most women don't find overweight guys the most attractive but still date them. So how do you know this gross comment actually reflects the opinion of most women and your body today? Also have you taken hgh, test, or roids? No, I don't think it's a compliment. Feeling desired is a compliment, making others feel insecure is the c…
/r/ExRedPill17/12/23 09:38 PM
2

I was called fat beforehand, then gross because apparently I "took it too far". The goal posts always seem to move. Have you taken it too far? We do know that most women don't like their men too muscular. Or is this the unique view of one single person? With the others, I don't even mention it. They've just come out and said they find me intimidating and when asking why, they then elaborate. But isn't that kind of a compliment? Like you are in such good shape that they feel insecure and find you…
/r/ExRedPill17/12/23 09:24 PM
-2

No, but its unhealthy to pursue a hookup lifestyle. Many with this lifestyle suffered severe rejection from the opposite sex in the past or had an overbearing mother. As a result they desperately desire validation from the opposite sex but want to avoid getting hurt. Hence the hookup lifestyle.
/r/seduction17/12/23 07:00 PM
1

My partner wouldn't like it if I went out trying to meet women.
/r/seduction17/12/23 06:13 PM
2

I think you are about feeling validated by women but not getting hurt because you have all these women interested in you but you don't get too attached to one person.
/r/seduction17/12/23 05:48 PM
2

Are you pursuing a long term relationship or do you just want hookups?
/r/seduction17/12/23 05:08 PM
11

I notice that you are very detached from women. Is it because you are afraid of getting hurt?
/r/seduction17/12/23 05:00 PM
2

It was "gross" in relation to achieving a fat loss goal. I became quite lean (around 9%) after years of being overweight. I don't see how losing weight is gross. Or were you called gross before losing weight? I'm not seeing how this comment has anything to do with your body. The intimidating comment has been followed up by a few girls who've went on to say that my focus in the gym makes them feel insecure about their own bodies. You should only be talking about the gym a lot to someone who is al…
/r/ExRedPill17/12/23 02:34 PM
4

Fair point. Although I have been called "gross" That comment may have happened for several reasons: That specific individual finds your look gross, but that doesn't mean everybody does. You could work on your grooming, style and being healthy. They didn't find you gross, they just found you less attractive. They called you that to hurt you. You are hitting on people a lot more attractive than yourself so you may get some shallow comments about your looks. Or maybe you objectively look gross but …
/r/ExRedPill17/12/23 04:27 AM
14

So my question is, if all the data proves that it's bullshit yet my reality has been identical to black pill thought, how can I not agree with it? Because you don't have a basis for saying your looks are completely responsible for your dating troubles. You need to factor in whether your mental health and its impact on your demeanor, communication, and body image might be playing a role as well.
/r/ExRedPill16/12/23 11:05 PM
22

Maybe by charging $30 per minute for some bullshit phone call.
/r/ExRedPill16/12/23 08:07 PM
2

I've known many bad boys without an extremely pronounced mandible and maxilla. But I can't deny this trait helps a lot.
/r/ExRedPill16/12/23 05:00 PM
1

Alex datepsych. He does seem to confirm a bit of the red pill but he is far more balanced and uses a lot of research that shows the nuance in dating.
/r/ExRedPill16/12/23 04:57 PM
0

To add to your point many nice guys are nice as a way to compensate for their looks. While I agree looks plays a big factor as it always does its not the only factor. Many bad boys are about average looking or are only attractive because they work out or their style. Dating is a social activity so social skills are still important to do it properly.
/r/ExRedPill16/12/23 04:53 PM
-3

If you are claiming that being a bad boy is correlated with physical attractiveness I have to agree. There tends to be the bad boy look, which tends to be physically attractive.
/r/ExRedPill16/12/23 04:44 PM
3

Thats a great point. To add to this I think guys who are successful with women are less likely to commit than they would have been if they weren't successful. This lack of commitment is seen as bad boy behavior and often leads from being successful in the first place.
/r/ExRedPill16/12/23 04:43 PM
21

There are some women who are attracted to ex-cons, famous killers, or abusive men but they are in the minority and their issues can be traced back to childhood trauma. Bad boys tend to be more physically attractive. So being physically attractive may make someone more likely to be bad, or seen as bad, or bad boys are more likely to focus on their looks. Most bad boys aren't bad to women when they start dating and are often very nice. Bad boys are more narcissistic which can come off as confident…
/r/ExRedPill16/12/23 07:40 AM
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If the only evidence you have for your argument is tiktok then maybe get off tiktok.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 04:33 AM
1

Well yeah a lot of people who are ex red pill have been very affected by the PUA community obviously. And no I don't hear normal people using the terms red pill much less white pill. Being ex red pill means you don't identify with these pills that incels made up.
/r/ExRedPill13/12/23 01:41 AM
2

Focus on the basics like social skills and mental health. When they have red pill ideas put the burden of proof on then and ask them why their claims are true. Try to link their beliefs to their emotional issues.
/r/ExRedPill12/12/23 05:14 PM
3

Try it out and see if it ends well.
/r/ExRedPill12/12/23 04:00 PM
1

Honestly you won't be able to help her. Its hard enough for us to change ourselves, just look at the success rate of new years resolutions. Changing other people is next to impossible. The only person who could help her is a therapist and only partially. But its extremely unlikely a sociopath will get therapy. Put all this energy you are using to help her to help yourself and get yourself a better partner.
/r/ExRedPill11/12/23 09:48 PM
5

Maybe she admits her behavior to you because she doesn't have a sense of shame and maybe even takes pride into admitting her manipulations. Her sociopathy may have resulted from a bad childhood and a protection mechanism for her. But deep down she is an insecure child with low self-esteem and desperately needs it from others. Honestly what she desperately needs is therapy, and a lot of it. And you need to ask yourself why are you with someone who doesn't care about you and emotionally abuses you…
/r/ExRedPill11/12/23 09:03 PM
1

The whole world needs to stop using pill terminology with dating. Normal people think its super weird. You completely misused the term "white pill". This term is used by pickup artists to mean that they recognize how much looks matter that the black pill does. But they believe men can still improve their looks and use game to be successful in dating which is why its white and not black to indicate hope. Thats just PUA with a looks spin.
/r/ExRedPill05/12/23 05:18 AM
2

The white pill was invented by some pickup artist and is just pickup. The proper term to use here is no pill.
/r/ExRedPill04/12/23 10:25 PM
22

I don't think the claim can be "easily" refuted by research. We know that both men and women can lie about this and they frequently do. These surveys are anonymous even from the interviewers so thats not really a problem. There's also many online interviews of women saying they think the average body count for women around this age is 20-50. I want to address this one again. Online surveys are famous for not being properly randomized and may not have decent sample sizes. They may be projecting t…
/r/ExRedPill28/11/23 10:39 PM
60

I've tried questioning the validity of my beliefs, but the thoughts don't go away. Trying to make these thoughts go away is like trying to not think of a pink elephant. Practice mindful meditation and just be aware of these thoughts floating in and out of your head. You can write down the refutations to common thoughts you have and go through them when the thoughts occur. The main thing that bothers me is this common talking point that when women are in their late 20s and looking for a guy to se…
/r/ExRedPill28/11/23 05:24 AM
11

Okay what parts of red pill have helped you that are actually red pill and not just general self-help? And how can these ideas help you in a long term relationship? How has leaving the red pill made your life better? I don't have this underlying defensiveness towards women anymore and can actually be completely comfortable with them. What is your strategy now? Put in effort into my relationships. And what were you doing while consuming the red pill that made it uncomfortable or detrimental to yo…
/r/ExRedPill27/11/23 05:30 AM
1

Mental health issues?
/r/ExRedPill21/11/23 08:53 AM
1

Probably because lack of empathy is a huge problem for raising children.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 08:00 PM
3

Other women are "good fucks" too. Why her?
/r/seduction15/11/23 07:23 PM
1

Self-improvement like improving your looks and dating skills is the best thing you can do. And then re-engage with them again and it should be obvious that you have changed a lot. But to bring in a sales analogy its bad practice to keep trying to sell to someone who has already said no. Instead sell to people who are open to buying.
/r/seduction15/11/23 07:22 PM
1

For me to agree that virginity does not matter is to agree the past 8 years of my life have been for nothing Sounds like we've got ourselves a sunk cost fallacy. I want her to feel special. I want her to feel like I have been waiting for her my whole life. I want her to know she is the best sexual partner for me. I want her to 100% know that I am never missing another sexual past cause there was never in the first place. Did you know that a lot of women actually don't want to date someone with n…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 01:01 AM
1

Those feminists are just as responsible for building the world that they live as much as the guy. That is true but men are more likely to be in jobs where they are building something. The real rebuttal is that people should be judged on an individual basis so these red pill gurus saying this didn't build anything either.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/11/23 10:21 PM
2

Because the guys with this experience are in the bottom 20% in mental health.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 09:07 PM
18

If I get famous like him I'm sure I could.
/r/AllPillDebate10/11/23 05:33 PM
1

It is truly brutal hearing this from a woman who was supposed to love me for me. And if she wasn't hot would you be with her? Come on bro. I'm a white guy, went to Asia as part of a nightclub band and met my girlfriend So you are basing your entire view of what women want from this shallow nightclub girl. Wow.
/r/AllPillDebate10/11/23 04:04 AM
26

Do you guys think it's weird if the woman is a bit older than the guy in a relationship? Would you date a woman a couple of years older? What we think doesn't matter. What you and this guy thinks is what matters.
/r/ExRedPill08/11/23 09:04 PM
2

Maybe 130 IQ guys are overthinking everything like you black pillers.
/r/AllPillDebate08/11/23 05:07 PM
2

This is the same kind of stuff you hear from redpillers. The redpillers aren't wrong about everything. They have some legitimately good advice that gets a lot of guys into their community. But then they have all this toxic stuff like how bad women are and how they should mistreat them. Doing all of that. The problem is shit genetics. Going to the gym made me hate my body so much. Yeah a lot of guys develop body dysmorphia from the gym lol. I'd say your look is already athletic and attractive. Do…
/r/ExRedPill08/11/23 03:43 PM
3

This is my biggest issue. And the problem is that this also what the redpill recommends. I mean positive masculinity not toxic masculinity which isn't unique to men in any way. So this includes: Assertiveness and leadership. Having boundaries. Not being overly risk or edginess averse. Not being too needy and approval seeking. Not prioritizing emotions over truth too much. Emotional mastery through mindfulness. Discipline. Being ambitious and competitive and pursuing success and strength. Caring …
/r/ExRedPill08/11/23 03:33 PM
2

If therapy isn't working try another therapist or discuss how things are going with your therapist. Make some friends with guys and develop those masculine traits. Hit the gym and improve your grooming and style.
/r/ExRedPill08/11/23 02:56 PM
2

I wonder what they were after.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 04:18 AM
2

You talk like Warren Buffet is a sex icon lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 02:39 AM
8

When he meets women how are they supposed to know he is worth 7 figures? What they will see is his looks, social skills, and confidence. Once you go past a middle class income you get diminishing returns in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 02:23 AM
0

Ditto
/r/AllPillDebate01/11/23 10:43 PM
-2

Maybe your insecurity about your acne and not standing up for yourself contributed to your bullying.
/r/AllPillDebate01/11/23 07:14 PM
0

Lots of people here have social anxiety and paranoia is often a part of it. I can't say you are for sure I'm just throwing it out there. If you are actually being harassed then contact the proper authorities to get it stopped.
/r/AllPillDebate01/11/23 05:14 PM
-4

You may have severe social anxiety and paranoia. If you are actually being harassed then please contact your school to put an end to it.
/r/AllPillDebate01/11/23 04:58 PM
1

The best you can do is ask him open ended questions and put the burden of proof on him. Frame it as you are trying to see if his perspective is true but you need properly evaluate his claims and address issues that you see before believing him. This will make the conversation about persuading you than trying to control his opinion.
/r/ExRedPill01/11/23 04:21 PM
2

A man's value doesn't decrease by having multiple sexual partners. Actually most women don't want to date a guy with 100 past partners. In fact, the DNA from her previous partners can stay in her body for up to 7 years. And did you know there are billions of screepy looking microbes living on every person? Why do you care so much about microscopic things in people's bodies that are harmless? So, if she gets pregnant during that time, the genetic information of every man she was with before can l…
/r/ExRedPill01/11/23 04:18 PM
4

Sure, they have to shift through many profiles, but that doesn't change the fact that they can get most attractive guys to go out with them. The vast majority of men do only want a hookup in OLD, however it's unfair to think all men do, and a significant minority do want more than just sex. It's up to the woman to sort through them, but most won't lower their standards and will only chase after attractive men. Practically speaking there are far more women who want a hot guy than hot guys who act…
/r/ExRedPill01/11/23 02:38 PM
1

Your main problem isn't your looks. Its that you see female validation as the only reason to live or do anything.
/r/AllPillDebate25/10/23 05:33 PM
5

Do you believe that women get into relationships purely based on penis size? They don't consider anything else? And how would they know how big these other men are?
/r/ExRedPill24/10/23 02:42 PM
3

Well thats the red pill concept of the mainstream. In reality the mainstream has some negative perceptions of many women.
/r/ExRedPill24/10/23 05:01 AM
4

The core message of the red pill is that women aren't angelic or good which the mainstream apparently believes, and instead they are actually quite "toxic" in dating and relationships. Self-improvement is the red pill's tool for dealing with this supposed reality. You become as high value as possible so you can theoretically attract women easily but yet don't commit to them because they are supposedly toxic.
/r/ExRedPill23/10/23 07:51 PM
6

I've noticed that when someone just isn't into something they will make up reasons why its bad. Like people who don't enjoy gaming will exaggerate how bad it is for people when the reality is a lot more nuanced. I think casual sex can be harmful and does have risks. But its important to lay these out objectively rather than catastrophizing.
/r/ExRedPill23/10/23 04:06 PM
8

Well, first of all, I don´t want to say it cause this is ex-redpill and it could stirr up paranoia but I´ve even seen some feminists say that too much sex can damage women´s ability to pairbond. That´s the harm I am talking about. Don´t take my word for it, I know nothing about it. Just heard about it. Don´t know on what level that is true, just heard it, wondered if anyone here maybe mentions it. So if you don't know if this claim is true then why are you using it? Do you have any research evid…
/r/ExRedPill23/10/23 03:26 PM
5

Like you have the right to sleep with whoever you want but... I personally think it's irresponsible and shallow to have casual sex. Whats wrong with being shallow? We all do shallow things to enjoy ourselves like a little bit of gaming or partying and there is nothing wrong with that in moderation. but because of the damn health problems it comes with Do you mean STDs? You really need to clarify that. The vast majority of STDs aren't that harmful. Like herpes are just blisters which isn't ideal …
/r/ExRedPill23/10/23 02:42 PM
0

You are moving the goalposts. You claimed that all women become single at 30 but it turns out that in fact a lot fewer are single. Yes more young men are unpartnered but thats partially because women prefer older guys. The best way to handle this is to get your life together, financially stable, and become relationship material because thats why they like older guys.
/r/AllPillDebate23/10/23 02:19 PM
5

Mental ideologies lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 07:17 AM
5

I'd respect it more if he just said he just likes jerking off to porn even if he knows its bad for him. We all do that with something. Instead hes trying to rationalize what he enjoys.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 02:03 AM
2

How can you even establish that the pros outweight the cons when you don't even say what the cons are? There is nothing to compare the pros to. To establish that P > C you need to know the values of both of them not just P.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 01:59 AM
5

You are saying all this stuff about arguments against porn but you never actually bring them up specifically and prove them wrong. You just generally claim the pros outweigh the cons without actually going into any detail into what the cons even are.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 01:22 AM
8

If you aren't trying to convince people then why did you post all these arguments to persuade them porn is good?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 12:23 AM
40

You basically go into zero detail addressing the specific arguments against porn. So you aren't very convincing to someone who is against porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 12:09 AM
-1

So then why did you say the chad needed a big bank account and two phds? Its almost like you don't know what you are talking about.
/r/AllPillDebate22/10/23 06:41 PM
16

Men are more horny and more violent by both nature and nurture. But we can't be cavemen and need to control our impulses.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 06:34 PM
2

If you think an extremely attractive guy without these things is screwed then you've never been on Tinder lol.
/r/AllPillDebate22/10/23 06:28 PM
0

Incorrect. About 32% of younger women are single compared to 19% of middle aged. Maybe get your information from actual studies rather than Andrew Tate. https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2020/08/20/a-profile-of-single-americans/
/r/AllPillDebate22/10/23 04:47 PM
-1

Sounds like great news for single guys.
/r/AllPillDebate22/10/23 03:16 PM
0

You are overly thinking all of this. Just make some friends and have an active social life. Meet women naturally like everyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 11:05 PM
1

The truth is that both men and women prefer the top 20%. But the top 80% are still able to date. Its the bottom 20% of men who can't date and the bottom 20% of women can't get into long term relationships.
/r/AllPillDebate20/10/23 07:16 PM
2

Okay thats fair.
/r/ExRedPill20/10/23 03:18 PM
1

These guys are nowhere near as ugly as Quasimodo. Yes if you are Quasimodo then you probably are going to be single a while.
/r/AllPillDebate20/10/23 04:30 AM
1

Quasimodo is in the bottom 1% in looks. Most incels are actually average looking.
/r/AllPillDebate20/10/23 12:02 AM
1

Most of them don't actually take care of their looks. And there are women out there who look as attractive as them.
/r/AllPillDebate19/10/23 10:55 PM
2

Which proves that you don't need a bunch of money to date. And no you can earn a decent income by pursuing a good career path without an Ivy School.
/r/ExRedPill19/10/23 10:53 PM
0

No all measures of value or worth are inherently emotional and subjective. So the only reason they think they are garbage is because of their emotions and the values they have which are based on experiences they had. These beliefs are relatively easy to deconstruct.
/r/AllPillDebate19/10/23 04:51 AM
0

Maybe its the fact they think that about themselves that is the problem. Maybe they need to get with a therapist and break down the emotions, past experiences, and beliefs that are behind this belief.
/r/AllPillDebate19/10/23 04:32 AM
0

Now keep something in mind that even though this study found therapy wasn't effective for anxiety disorders other studies may contradict this one. Social studies on their own aren't particularly reliable especially when it comes to these small details. I think the best thing you can do is try therapy and give it your best effort and see if it works for you. The biggest mistake most people here make is they only see one therapist and give up when they don't get results quick enough. If therapy do…
/r/AllPillDebate19/10/23 04:01 AM
0

A big reason therapy doesn't work as well as it could is cost and how our system rations it. Also many patients fail to find a new therapist if their current one isn't working out. Many also don't apply what they learn in therapy as well or quit therapy way too soon. Therapy is also a lot more effective when it is combined with something else like self-improvement, meditation, exercise, finding online resources, support groups, group therapy, and/or medication. Also all the research I have seen …
/r/AllPillDebate19/10/23 03:44 AM
3

It might not just be empathy behind this. Trying to change people is also a form of control and egoism. You really believe you are right and you want to make people do the right thing for their good. But for healthy relationships its important that people feel accepted and that they are liked for who they are right now. And we need to give them the right to autonomy and to make lots of bad choices. Just like you I really wish I could change people. So first they need to do most of the work. I sh…
/r/ExRedPill19/10/23 12:29 AM
4

and my parents are good Your parents can be good and still make mistakes like everyone. But parents aren't always behind this kind of stuff. I'm a really empathetic person, and I think I got drawn in by these emotions because I cared about how they were feeling. You really need to think hard about what experiences you had that led you to be so empathetic to the point that you hurt yourself sometimes. but I have now read that this is a manipulation tactic certain people use to exploit very empath…
/r/ExRedPill18/10/23 11:17 PM
1

The few women you talked to aren't a good sample of all women and may be atypical. Maybe these women were more comfortable talking about their physical preferences than personality preferences. And most people's stated preferences don't completely match their actual behavior, which is a black pill point. The degree looks matter to women relative to other factors really can't be determined from your example. And even if looks matter a lot to women that doesn't mean nearly all men don't have at le…
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/23 04:34 PM
8

I'm going to give you the real red pill. Maybe you actually choose manipulative or uncaring partners because you had an uncaring parent or you had a very needy parent and are looking for the opposite. Or you had trouble with your peers and have low standards for the personalities of your partners. Maybe its manipulative or uncaring people who choose you. Maybe you are overly nice to people and lack boundaries and become a target of these kinds of people. And maybe these issues you have along wit…
/r/ExRedPill18/10/23 03:16 PM
1

Rule number one of psychology is to never trust self reported data. No that study showed that some self reported data is wrong but not all. If a friend self-reports that he feels upset about something he is probably telling you the truth. Humans lie as easily and seamlessly as breathing to the point that people do it automatically without even noticing it. The subjects in that experiment weren't lying. They just didn't understand how they'd react in that very extreme situation. True blackpillers…
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/23 02:34 PM
0

Thats because they typically life with social anxiety of have too much screen time. These two issues can be fixed.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 02:27 PM
1

I disagree that people see their attractiveness perfectly and exactly how the opposite sex sees them. I have seen too many incels why are average or above average looking who believe they are ugly to believe what you are saying is true. Body dysmorphia is a real mental health condition and is ignorant to deny it.
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/23 02:24 PM
1

Everyone prefers a partner who is ideally very physically attractive but only some people of both genders demands that.
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/23 02:22 PM
1

Okay you are right. There are no biological differences between men and women that have anything to do with violence. I just can't think of any...
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/23 07:11 AM
-2

Again no biological basis for any of these claims.
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/23 07:05 AM
1

Concerts, a park opening, and a meetup at a brewery.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 06:57 AM
0

Go to a local Walmart and you will see unattractive people in relationships. It will change your world.
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/23 06:55 AM
6

You don't always meet women by directly going to social events and talking to them. You go to social events and just naturally make friends with people and hang out with them at other times and naturally bump into someone they know or get invited to a party and meet someone. Its super random. I have like 13 friends and a lot of ex friends I've not talked to in a while. So 2 are from Facebook marketplace, 2 are neighbors, 4 I met at social events, 2 are from work, and 3 are ex-classmates. And yes…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 06:54 AM
2

Anywhere. Literally anywhere there are people. Heck I recently made some friends buying a bed off of Facebook marketplace. You can make friends with your neighbors.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 06:41 AM
2

Actually body dysmorphia is in your head.
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/23 06:38 AM
2

So in your world nobody makes any new friends after college except work friends. That is incredibly delusional and most friends I have now weren't made that way. Stop living your life on the internet and just meet people socially and be normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 06:37 AM
2

Who did you quote?
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/23 06:11 AM
-2

Maybe there was something off about your demeanor. The emotions you show matter a lot.
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/23 06:11 AM
-7

Thats because you are hunchbacks in your minds. You have mental health issues.
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/23 04:34 AM
-6

Yes but there is no proven biological basis for this difference. The Vikings were pretty violent back in the day but modern Scandinavian countries have the lowest crime rates in the world so obviously culture plays a huge role. And racial differences in violence are nothing compared to gender differences. 99.99% of sexual assaults on women are done by men. You won't find this kind of statistic for race.
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/23 04:24 AM
2

Lots of reactions from women right here: https://www.newsweek.com/jada-pinkett-smith-will-smith-separation-celebrities-1834457
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/23 03:58 AM
0

Unlike with gender we don't have the vast majority of killings or violent crimes committed by one race. We also don't have a biological basis for racial differences in crime rates. Bad bad analogy. And I do think its okay to discriminate against women when it biologically matters. Its perfectly fine to turn away female sperm donors or have special forces almost exclusively comprise of men.
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/23 03:52 AM
1

Its crazy to me that people have sex after just 2-3 dates. You barely know this person or whether they have STDs.
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/23 03:49 AM
3

The vast majority of people don't like her. We watch it happen because it isn't like we can go in and stop her.
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/23 03:47 AM
1

Physical differences can be taken into account when they are relevant to the scenario. For example football and strength. Rape and harassment happens to a lot of women and its men doing it to them 99.99% of the time and men are far more able to win fight so yeah they kind of do have a reason to be more cautious around men.
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/23 03:37 AM
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Then find groups that don't have a crazy skewed gender ratio.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 03:29 AM
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It it okay to discriminate based on the way people didn't choose to be born when picking football players? Physical differences do matter and have an impact.
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/23 03:28 AM
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We no longer need a man to provide for us, since we can work with equal wages. Most men also insist in us providing 50/50 anyway. Have you seen the cost of rent? Me and my partner combining our incomes means we can afford a good house and invest a lot. sadly, most men are still too emotionally stunted or focused on their own needs to provide the same level of emotional support and care women provide them continuously without getting any of it back. You aren't dating most men. Find a man who meet…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 03:23 AM
1

I think people should stop demanding instant attraction and just be friends for a while and sometimes that friendship will turn into something more.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 03:15 AM
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Most of you guys are normal looking with body dysmorphia. Stop comparing yourselves to this fictional character.
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/23 03:01 AM
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The reason incels are controversial is that women actively deny they are all primarily driven by looks and only want chads. So when incels tell women what they find attractive they are mansplaining and being a misogynists. Also there is a lot of hateful comments against by incels which really is just pure misogyny. When 95% of their comments are an attack on women its just undeniable there is hate. Incels also tend to cherry pick studies and not take a broad look at all the research to arrive at…
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/23 02:54 AM
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And under the woman's list you might be stereotyped as: > Misogynistic incel who is clearly troubled and doesn't get out of the house. Stop stereotyping the other gender.
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/23 02:48 AM
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We actually have evidence that there is a biological basis for men being more violent. No such things exists for race.
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/23 02:46 AM
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Why are you so against people who are struggling coping with their situation and feeling a little better? Would you rather that they feel like shit and rope? Have some compassion bro.
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/23 02:26 AM
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You are so delusional if you think that a therapist will agree with your incel beliefs. So laughable lol. Have you considered that getting shit off your chest and getting a little validation might actually help you? Also therapists do question your shit and help you deconstruct your emotions.
/r/AllPillDebate17/10/23 09:54 PM
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No its just you who improves in hopes of getting laid. I'm in a relationship and getting laid and I'm improving. Where do I get the motivation? Its okay for girls to be part of your motivation but it shouldn't be the whole thing.
/r/AllPillDebate17/10/23 09:52 PM
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Richard ramirez probably didn't have your social anxiety bro. Being moral and being good at dating isn't necessarily the same any more than being good at football. And yeah a hot guy can make up for his mental illnesses because hes hot but that doesn't mean being mentally ill is fine for dating which is stupid.
/r/AllPillDebate17/10/23 09:51 PM
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Well whats the point of being sad and angry all the time if nothing changes? At some point you either try to fix the problem or accept your reality and chill out. And for some people taking a pill helps, and is better than drinking themselves to death.
/r/AllPillDebate17/10/23 09:36 PM
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You guys are so set against coping its ridiculous. Like if someone has lung cancer and has 6 months left to live are you going to yell at them for enjoying themselves to cope with their reality? Its like you want to be miserable. If you can't ever find a gf then therapy is even more necessary to cope and live as happily as possible given the circumstances.
/r/AllPillDebate17/10/23 09:34 PM
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The truth triggers people like you far more than lies ever will. Maybe if you struggle with women you should listen to their advice sometimes bro.
/r/AllPillDebate17/10/23 09:32 PM
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A therapist will actually help you understand your emotions, issues with your thinking, and help you manage your emotions better. Talking alone can help but there needs to be a dialog. You clearly don't understand mental health.
/r/AllPillDebate17/10/23 09:31 PM
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DONT DO THERAPY TO IMPRESS WOMEN. DO IT FOR YOU!
/r/AllPillDebate17/10/23 09:30 PM
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Actually a minimum wage guy could learn a trade and earn way more. Terrible example lol. You shouldn't improve just to impress women, you should do it for yourself and every little bit helps.
/r/AllPillDebate17/10/23 09:25 PM
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Nope they just don't have mental health issues that stop them from dating. You guys have a bunch of social anxiety shit while they have other shit.
/r/AllPillDebate17/10/23 09:24 PM
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He's probably disagree with everything you are saying lol.
/r/AllPillDebate17/10/23 09:23 PM
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Nope it goes two ways. Being mentally ill causes dating issues and dating issues cause mental illness. Most incels had issues starting as kids where they were socially awkward and that didn't get fixed.
/r/AllPillDebate17/10/23 09:22 PM
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95% of you guys are clearly mentally ill or disturbed and can't date. Interesting how you don't see there might be a connection here.
/r/AllPillDebate17/10/23 08:54 PM
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Some people benefit from anti-depressants, some people have adverse reactions but if they stop then it goes away, and many people have no change from them. Just try it out and see what happens. Stop being a pussy. How does talking to a therapist mess anyone up? Like people are so soft nowadays they think they are being damaged by talking to someone.
/r/AllPillDebate17/10/23 08:48 PM
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Uncle Ted is an idiot who obviously doesn't know anything about this. Mental health is about managing your emotions and making rational choices and not just following what society tells you.
/r/AllPillDebate17/10/23 08:47 PM
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Therapy helps you understand yourself better and why you act the way you do and question your emotional decisions. It helps you not be a zombie. You are just scared of opening up to someone.
/r/AllPillDebate17/10/23 08:15 PM
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Find a male therapist. Do meditation. Try out anti-depressants and if they don't work thats fine then just stop like with any other medication. You are being a bitch by being scared of therapists.
/r/AllPillDebate17/10/23 08:07 PM
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Fix your mental health issues and you can have relationships too bro. See a therapist.
/r/AllPillDebate17/10/23 08:03 PM
1

This study never said the top 5% have sex with 66% of women. Remember "top" means most permiscuous so of course the most permiscuous people will have a lot of partners and thats never not been true. For all you know the 10% most permiscuous people are mostly having sex with each other spreading around those STDs.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 02:23 PM
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The vast majority of people attend college at some point. Also many guys outside college still go to parties and stuff like that. It really depends on how much of an effort you make to be social.
/r/ExRedPill16/10/23 03:25 PM
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Thats only because you are a man and have male emotions. But if I turn down your desire for casual sex, turn up your pickiness, and turn up your desire for long term relationships you will find yourself in a completely different version of hell.
/r/AllPillDebate14/10/23 11:46 PM
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I see unattractive people in relationships with younger couples too. My cousin is literally deformed and has been in a couple of relationships despite a whole heap of mental health issues and living with his parents. If you actually go out and be around normal people you will know this. My wife was 24, body count was 2.
/r/AllPillDebate14/10/23 11:19 PM
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No its weird guys who have systematized dating not women. Social skills is an art not a science and you get good by getting out there and learning through experience. And no there never a 100% chance of success or that she is interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 09:53 PM
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How are you defining beta bux relationship? Women are earning more and more so if anything thats becoming more rare. Like for me I'm a software dev and my partner is a nurse and we have two kids and I'm not proud to say that she does most of the work. Where is the beta bux in that?
/r/AllPillDebate14/10/23 09:09 PM
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I've seen my share of studies but haven't found any consensus that proves what you believe. Maybe you are cherry picking the studies that confirm your biases.
/r/AllPillDebate14/10/23 08:40 PM
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Its not about how much of a problem it is, its about how they feel when they can't get their needs met. A woman who is being used for sex and can't get a long term relationship feels just as bad as an incel because men and women have different priorities.
/r/AllPillDebate14/10/23 06:01 PM
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Well women don't enjoy casual sex that much compared to men and enjoy long term relationships a lot more, so for them its just as bad. And its very painful when they get exploited for sex and treated like they don't matter by someone they deeply love and opened up to in the most intimate ways.
/r/AllPillDebate14/10/23 05:09 PM
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I've done all those things and never found any evidence all women cheat. Maybe you live right beside a whorehouse and spend all your time on onlyfans.
/r/AllPillDebate14/10/23 05:02 PM
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The sky is blue is obvious and I don't need to prove it, therefore my <insert crazy conspiracy theory here> is obvious and I don't need to prove it.
/r/AllPillDebate14/10/23 04:48 PM
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Calling something a fact without showing its actually true is an assumption my dude.
/r/AllPillDebate14/10/23 04:36 PM
3

Again assuming all women cheat which is nonsense.
/r/AllPillDebate14/10/23 04:25 PM
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I see low income guys in relationships all the time in my local Walmart. In fact many incels complain about how they have great careers yet women go for these deadbeat guys. Here is what you need to do: Get yourself on a decent career path. Compensate for your lack of money with looking your best and communication skills. Its this rural town with no single people thats killing you. Move out!
/r/ExRedPill14/10/23 03:45 PM
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If you are constantly having your partners cheat on you, pick better partners.
/r/AllPillDebate14/10/23 03:36 PM
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Women's main struggle is getting long-term commitment from a guy who takes the relationship seriously.
/r/AllPillDebate14/10/23 03:34 PM
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Then how do most guys have their best dating lives in college?
/r/ExRedPill14/10/23 03:31 PM
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There is a replication problem with social sciences studies. So if you are relying on just one study, you are doing it wrong.
/r/AllPillDebate14/10/23 03:30 PM
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It exaggerates how much looks matter and how many men can't get into relationships. A simple stroll through Walmart refutes it very easily.
/r/AllPillDebate14/10/23 04:00 AM
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Most women want a partner who is financially stable and has a decent life. Whats so wrong with that?
/r/AllPillDebate12/10/23 01:33 AM
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You have to be rich to date.
/r/ExRedPill12/10/23 01:22 AM
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but at the end being old with a small younger population will suck. Yeah but its only temporary as the population declines. You need to think long term here. The number of people is not the problem for the environment, because the West is smaller than the Third world and yet per capita the west is more wasteful. But in total the third and second worlds have a far larger environmental impact than the west because of their population and preferring cheat dirty energy. Technology also allows us to …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 12:47 AM
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No its that you don't understand how neediness is cringe which means you don't understand basic social skills. Maybe get off the internet and socialize more to understand this.
/r/AllPillDebate11/10/23 04:16 PM
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I'm all for industry and technology but we need strike a balance between this and the environment. We can't lean too extremely in one direction. No the answer to overpopulation is birth control and reducing birth rates which is already happening as your post has pointed out. Reducing populations isn't the only solution and we also need to reduce our environmental impact as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 04:13 PM
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Your neediness comes off in your body language, how you react to other's responses, and the types of jokes you make. You become that guy that everyone can tell is trying to be funny and is a bit cringe and annoying. Like when people just want to talk about something serious you just have to insert some joke to impress people. If you truly don't understand this then maybe take an autism test bro.
/r/AllPillDebate11/10/23 04:04 PM
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We don't have a moral obligation to a rock but we need this rock to survive so we should take care of it. The planet will benefit because fewer people means smaller environmental impact.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 03:15 PM
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There is a difference between trying to be funny so people think you are funny and laugh at your jokes than saying things that you find funny because you just want to have a good time.
/r/AllPillDebate11/10/23 03:14 PM
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Going to a local Walmart and looking at the couples disproves sub8 theory.
/r/AllPillDebate11/10/23 03:13 PM
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Nope you are just in dental that you are needy and women can see that when you try to be funny.
/r/AllPillDebate10/10/23 02:41 PM
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People also are more likely to laugh at jokes of those they know well and like. Obviously liking and attraction are factors in humor. A good comedians knows that if he gets the audience to like him or in a humorous mood they are far more likely to laugh at his jokes.
/r/AllPillDebate10/10/23 03:02 AM
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There are guys who’s waists are wider than their shoulders, I don’t care if he benches 3x his body weight he will never have a “v taper”. Those guys are definitely in the minority. Most guys will NEVER get a 6 pack no matter how much they train Good point just listing out stuff women like. Again these are all genetic factors, I think men should hit the gym but to do so to feel good (you feel better physically when working out because you’re physically stronger than your natural self) but to do s…
/r/AllPillDebate10/10/23 02:58 AM
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Do you have no social skills whatsoever? They get giggly because they are nervous and humor is a way to handle nervousness. If the hot guy is super autistic and awkward any existing attraction will probably die and they won't be giggling long. If he does have social skills they will find his jokes more funny than they actually are but the humor still helps.
/r/AllPillDebate09/10/23 04:51 PM
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Just imagine thinking “working out” helps attract women..how many women do you think are attracted to the juiced bodybuilder look? They are attracted to the athletic build on average. The truth is women may* be attracted to a man’s physique based on several aesthetic features, such as shoulder width to waist ratio, muscle symmetry, natural ability to hold maximum muscle mass with minimal body fat etc. These are ALL genetic variables that have little to do with how much you “work out”. Many women…
/r/AllPillDebate09/10/23 04:48 PM
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And my stance is that different women have different threshholds for face and height and what they even consider a good face, how much they care about all this looks stuff to begin with, and how much they care about face or height compared to physique.
/r/AllPillDebate09/10/23 04:22 PM
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Lots of those guys have the wrong sense of humor. Like the try hard kind.
/r/AllPillDebate09/10/23 04:18 PM
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Truth is that humor enhances existing attraction and helps develop it further. Views that humor can create attraction all by itself or that humor attraction is a placebo because of looks are both nonsense.
/r/AllPillDebate09/10/23 04:17 PM
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Yeah those guys haven't even heard of black pill.
/r/AllPillDebate09/10/23 04:13 PM
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How do you know that? I see short guys in relationships literally all the time. Thats just your depression talking bro.
/r/AllPillDebate09/10/23 04:12 PM
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There are so many examples of other guys who work out who have attested that women found them far more attractive after working out. You have to know these guys exist right since you work out with them. So obviously the answer to your lack of success isn't that no women cares about physique at all.
/r/AllPillDebate09/10/23 04:09 PM
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I think about them because they are the vast majority You aren't going to be dating the majority of women. 80% of women don't find me attractive at all yet I date just fine. therefore the vast majority of my dating pool is as far off as our neighbouring solar system. Women who fundamentally aren't into you aren't in your dating pool because you are never ever ever going to date them. I am more likely to meet them then someone who doesn’t care. I'm more likely to meet people who will never be my …
/r/AllPillDebate09/10/23 06:54 AM
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The honest truth is you have to find a balance with authenticity. You don't want too much or too little.
/r/seduction09/10/23 06:16 AM
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So basically this sub is guys who don't have their lives together and socially awkward tech guys.
/r/AllPillDebate09/10/23 06:14 AM
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That’s true for the standard guy but I’m 5’5. A lot of women would consider that a deal breaker regardless of my other attributes. And some women don't see your height as a deal breaker. The women who care about height aren't ever going to be in your dating pool so its pointless to think about them. Idk it doesn’t sit right with me that I would probably get the “he’s short but he has X”. Women don't make analytical strategic decisions like this when getting into relationships. They just fall in …
/r/AllPillDebate09/10/23 06:10 AM
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I personally think social skills, looks, status, and good environment matter about equally for dating success.
/r/AllPillDebate09/10/23 04:55 AM
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"Just make money bro" Impossible unless your parents are rich or you study and work for 20+ years What? There are plenty of jobs with decent incomes often right out of school. "Find some hobbies" There's no time for hobbies if you are doing step 1, even then, picking up hobbies is a waste of time If you are doing a full time job while a full time student then yeah you are right. But otherwise no. "Just work out bro" Working out doesn't impress women at all, if anything, it only impresses other m…
/r/AllPillDebate09/10/23 04:53 AM
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Some of these guys need to stop lying and admit they hate women lol. No way only 33% of this sub hates women.
/r/AllPillDebate09/10/23 04:42 AM
0

You are certainly right that being blackpill prevents you from having healthy relationships.
/r/AllPillDebate09/10/23 04:41 AM
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I'll give you an accurate analysis of what most men believe as an average guy. Single mothers are garbage Most men don't believe this and were raised by single moms. But many don't want kids or more kids but thats also a problem for single dads too. The younger the woman, the more desirable Hate to say this but most men do believe this. But we see it as more of an average. Men see teenagers as ideal sexual beings Most men are disgusted by the idea of having sex with a teenager from a moral stand…
/r/ExRedPill09/10/23 04:36 AM
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Women just won't commit to you thats the problem. Go talk to shrink or something to fix that. Most guys have the opposite problem where they have trouble maintaining casual relationships because women catch feelings and want to settle down.
/r/AllPillDebate09/10/23 04:19 AM
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All you do is go on the internet and complain about how women like hot men. Well men like hot women too so just stop it already.
/r/AllPillDebate09/10/23 12:38 AM
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Bro women want to commit more than men. If a woman doesn't want to commit to you, you've got issues. And being a blackpiller is proof of that.
/r/AllPillDebate09/10/23 12:36 AM
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What things does he say that you disagree with?
/r/ExRedPill09/10/23 12:12 AM
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Okay you are tall and attractive. So why are you here complaining and not getting laid?
/r/AllPillDebate08/10/23 09:52 PM
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I'm sure the Indian janitor would find it hilarious that you think you have it as hard as him. Stop larping ask a lookscel.
/r/AllPillDebate08/10/23 09:27 PM
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It will probably increase due to all the screen time everyone is engaging in.
/r/AllPillDebate08/10/23 06:24 PM
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No only the the types of girls you are into are like this. Stop simping.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 03:31 PM
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I disagree. Even manosphere people like you say that nice guys get friendzoned. Which means women aren't actively repelled by them and want their friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 02:20 AM
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Sex drive is like hunger for food. Once you eat you don't feel nearly the same amount of craving for it. But after a while you will be hungry again. So constant masturbation is like constantly eating. You are going to be full a lot.
/r/AllPillDebate07/10/23 11:39 PM
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Our planet is overpopulated as it is so we would greatly benefit from a population decline. Now there will be short term issues as you pointed out. But it will be so much better in the end for the planet and we will have a lot more to go around which means higher individual wealth.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 04:08 AM
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Maybe its time for you two to take a break from your relationship and just be friends for a while. You can try to talk to help him with his issues as a friend. And maybe when he is in a better place you can get back together assuming you don't find someone else.
/r/ExRedPill06/10/23 08:25 PM
1

Some are. Some aren't.
/r/AllPillDebate06/10/23 02:36 PM
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Naah I see a lot of 30s overweight millenial couples out there too.
/r/AllPillDebate06/10/23 02:36 PM
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Lets be real the vast majority of these incels have a very unhealthy amount of screen time. Its how they found out about the incel community to begin with. Gaming is fine in moderation.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 04:32 AM
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These guys would be getting laid if they stopped gaming so much and maybe got some therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 04:24 AM
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All the guys with partners in Walmart will say otherwise lol
/r/AllPillDebate06/10/23 04:23 AM
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No average looking is only not good enough for them because they are mentally ill and have body dysmorphia.
/r/AllPillDebate06/10/23 02:33 AM
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Personally I think short starts at 5'7 personally not 5'9. 5'9 is the average height in the US.
/r/AllPillDebate06/10/23 02:32 AM
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Rich Cooper is friends with Rollo Tommassi the fellow misogynist who started the redpill. This guy is about as red pill as you can get. He had some severe burns as a kid so he probably developed some insecurities from that. Maybe he struggled with bullying, friendships, and girls early on because of it. And this has translated to trouble in his relationships where he may be overly accommodating to single mothers he is with, got taken advantage of, and became very resentful. As a result he has ad…
/r/ExRedPill05/10/23 10:24 PM
1

Maybe you need to talk to your therapist about the stuff you've been posting here.
/r/AllPillDebate04/10/23 07:10 PM
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Men 18-20 are basically teenagers. Of course half of them are virgins. How do you know the guys you know who struggle to get into a relationship reflect all young guys or maybe you attract people like you. Also do these guys have issues with weight, screen time, or finances?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 07:00 PM
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The red pill is actually somewhat true and you will find women who behave poorly. Where it messes up is it generalizes and exaggerates this stuff. So when you are starting to think all/most women do X because of a few examples and some YouTube video stop yourself and critically question that.
/r/ExRedPill04/10/23 06:46 PM
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As a guy I don't want to have sex every day. Eventually it does get boring.
/r/ExRedPill04/10/23 06:37 PM
1

Yeah these guys all have social anxiety, depression, and body dysmorphia. I think that life can only be happy if you have a sense of purpose. And thats only possible if you aren't giving up on everything. I'd rather try and fail than give up and lose any reason to live.
/r/AllPillDebate04/10/23 06:35 PM
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I don't think you've ever had sex or jerked off before. After you release your desire for release plunges for a while and gradually returns. This exists to prevent you from constantly jerking off all day.
/r/AllPillDebate04/10/23 06:32 PM
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Or therapy. But maybe you'd rather die than actually get real help.
/r/AllPillDebate04/10/23 06:29 PM
0

Yup constant masturbation reducing sex drive is nonsense on your planet lol
/r/AllPillDebate03/10/23 09:44 PM
1

Yeah but a computer screen can't completely replace the real thing.
/r/AllPillDebate03/10/23 09:27 PM
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Theory: All that porn and masturbation is reducing their sex drive far more than a bit of low T.
/r/AllPillDebate03/10/23 07:30 PM
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Sex/touch. Emotional support. A second income. Balancing out your weaknesses. Family.
/r/AllPillDebate03/10/23 07:29 PM
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Bro if women are your only reason for living maybe you are an incel because you are incredibly needy.
/r/AllPillDebate03/10/23 03:04 PM
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Its pretty hard for women to be more shallow than men because us men are up there. So no.
/r/AllPillDebate29/09/23 04:32 PM
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No getting professional help is the best solution for someone with clinical depression. Simply trying to adopt a better mindset isn't going to help much. But stoicism along with therapy, maybe medication, exercise, mindfulness, and meditation can help a lot.
/r/AllPillDebate28/09/23 01:01 PM
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Thats because you are just avoidant. Its just a way that many people cope with a lack of success. They convince themselves that they don't have any interest and accept a less happy life.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 06:56 PM
1

Obviously it would make women a lot more desiring of a relationship and probably increase mental health issues for both men and women. Birth rates would start plunging and there would be fears that social security won't be viable. There would be a lot of anger on both sides about the lack of dating and a lot of news on the gender wars.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 06:54 PM
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1 - Most couples met each other through work. This remains true even at this age when dating apps are everywhere. No people meet in a ton of ways and only about 10% meet through work.
/r/ExRedPill27/09/23 04:09 PM
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Nobody meets with each other in person anymore. Dating apps are the only viable way to date. Try looking up some dating statistics. If I recall the last numbers I saw is a bit more than half are still meeting irl and half the people online are meeting through social media of some kind not dating apps. Because of dating apps and social media, the majority of women now chase only the top-tier guys, whilst easily rejecting even moderately attractive and successful men. Men outnumber women 1 to 4 so…
/r/ExRedPill27/09/23 03:27 PM
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He is a mix of black pill and red pill and comes off as autistic with some major body dysmorphia. I wonder if he is being honest about his views since this is a revenue source for him. I once heard him say that you don't date the bottom 50% less attractive women. So his view that women are all about looks is pure projection.
/r/ExRedPill26/09/23 10:28 PM
1

So what about men who just lack sexual partners and get called incel? Incel does mean involuntary celibate so it technically is an accurate description even though its mean. Having a higher partner count doesn't make you a whore because that involves getting paid for sex. Or men who get called incel becsuse a woman simply disagrees with the them And usually its because they are saying some incel or red pill shit. Still sexist.
/r/AllPillDebate26/09/23 10:09 PM
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Having a larger number of sexual partners doesn't make you a bad person. But being part of an anti-woman hate group does so they deserve the label.
/r/AllPillDebate26/09/23 06:16 AM
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The fact that you call a woman with a larger number of past sexual partners a whore proves you are a misogynist. Congrats.
/r/AllPillDebate26/09/23 03:39 AM
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I can tell you from personal experience as a man that isn't true. Believe what you want and womansplain to me how I experience love.
/r/AllPillDebate26/09/23 03:25 AM
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Its just you. Most people haven't even heard of blackpill and would probably think its super weird and cringe if they did.
/r/AllPillDebate26/09/23 03:22 AM
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There is more to life than women. What is causing you the most misery is your unhappiness about not finding a partner. Once you go through the stages of grief and truly accept it you can finally find happiness in life that doesn't involve relationships. This can include gaming, travel, movies, tv, friends, comedy, food, hobbies, meditation, exercise, charity, etc.
/r/AllPillDebate26/09/23 03:21 AM
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You incels are just the male version of the radical feminists who think men are pigs. Most of you are misogynists because all you do is complain about women and mansplain to women that they are super shallow and only care about looks and abusive men. Being treated like shit as a kid will often cause mental health issues so go get therapy instead of joining radical internet ideologies.
/r/AllPillDebate25/09/23 04:26 AM
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Thanks for being cool and open minded about my critique. Our society is heading toward most people living in VR falling in love with AI characters. But I don't think everyone will chose to live like that and we all can decide how much we want to use technology. Digital technology is relatively new and we are still in an age of playing with the new shiny devices too much. Hopefully we will find some balance and a generation will come along that rebels from this technology addiction.
/r/AllPillDebate25/09/23 03:39 AM
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Maybe because of how he used her for sex now she wants to wait until marriage. The fact she is giving you oral means she is really sexually attracted but is holding herself back. If you had a little "game" you could probably have sex with her. The biggest mistake guys make is they interpret what women say too literally and logically rather than being an expression of how she feels at the moment, which can easily change.
/r/AllPillDebate25/09/23 03:29 AM
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When you guys go on and on about why women suck and mistreat men all the time it just doesn't make a good impression on normal people. The incel community is basically a bunch of socially anxious misogynists with depression and body dysmorphia who probably got bullied growing up.
/r/AllPillDebate25/09/23 03:25 AM
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I heard somewhere 66% of men are single and haven’t had sex in the last year. No this only claims that 66% of young men are single not that they are all sexless and other surveys have put the number at 57%. You really fumbled this one. I wish we had a world where all of our posts were liked equally and fairly. So you want social media communism? Boring posts shouldn't get the same content great posts. Also making posts purely for likes and validation is so shallow. It’s what’s inside you that co…
/r/AllPillDebate25/09/23 03:11 AM
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Wrong because men also care about looks a lot too so the overly picky men remove themselves from the dating pool as well. It all balances itself out in the end.
/r/AllPillDebate24/09/23 08:33 PM
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Women simply don't have the pure lookism that you claim they do. Sure they care about looks but not to the extent you claim they do.
/r/AllPillDebate24/09/23 03:48 PM
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I keep hearing bullshit that “women are born high value” “A women’s value comes from her beauty and being beautiful opens you up for more success in life” Being attractive is often an advantage and many attractive women have it easier in some ways. But looks aren't everything and you won't get a tech job at Google just being attractive. Success requires intelligence, education, work ethic, strategy, and communication skills. And I keep reading guys on social media saying they are trying to “esca…
/r/ExRedPill23/09/23 12:09 AM
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Most red pillers are toxically disgusting and mean to women and most aren't able to get into a relationship which is what drew them to that community.
/r/ExRedPill21/09/23 10:00 PM
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I'm pretty sure the vast majority of women don't find the cast of To Catch a Predator hot lol. Delusional post.
/r/AllPillDebate21/09/23 05:10 AM
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Lets just say that I'm confident that most guys would describe these women as average looking for even a bit below.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 03:03 AM
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You need therapy bro
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 03:01 AM
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According to these same studies 92% of likes are going to women in the top 50 percentile. And lets be real that much of that 8% are men who are just auto-swiping everyone or just want them for hookups. So by the same reasoning most men aren't looking for women at their level. According to surveys 60% of people meet irl, 40% meet online. But out of the online portion only 50% meet on the dating apps, and the other 50% meet through social media or related.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 02:58 AM
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That’s the thing, it’s selection bias. In the real world virtually all women get into relationships so its not selection bias. Eventually some women get tired and pair off, ending up with someone at their same attraction and social level. Most not some women have long term relationships starting in their teens or twenties. A staggering number remain single and continue the futile chase for men out of their league, clogging up the dating pool. Only a tiny minority of women remain forever single c…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 02:55 AM
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How to get therapy? I'm sure google it can help you.
/r/AllPillDebate21/09/23 02:50 AM
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Honestly not me and a lot of other people. I had crushes on girls about as attractive as myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 06:47 PM
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Well in your case it is true thankfully.
/r/AllPillDebate20/09/23 05:18 PM
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I absolutely believe you won't get therapy. You are the kind of self-destructive person who will refuse to take the simple steps to fix his problems. So you deserve the consequences of your choices. You will live a very angry and lonely life.
/r/AllPillDebate20/09/23 04:54 PM
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If you didn't help a person in need then you have a bad personality. Go get therapy. You won't do it of course but at least you heard the truth.
/r/AllPillDebate20/09/23 04:46 PM
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There was no reason to believe what you said was sarcasm especially on a subreddit like this. If you didn't actually do this then you don't necessarily have a bad personality. You are just going through a hard time and need some support. Get the help you need whether or not thats therapy.
/r/AllPillDebate20/09/23 04:34 PM
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Lets rephrase this in gender neutral terms. "After doing some grocery shopping yesterday, I left the store. There was a young person walking to their car in front of me when they tripped and kissed the pavement. I walked past them without a glance because they are not entitled to my help." Does that sound like respect to you? Yes you have a bad personality. Get therapy.
/r/AllPillDebate20/09/23 04:21 PM
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Most women I see are in relationships with guys about as attractive as they are and many are with guys two are less attractive. So you just can't be right that all women demand someone more attractive than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:19 PM
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If there are problems that men face, (like circumcision, the male draft, unfair custody etc.) men have the power to legally change them. These men's rights issues aren't really related to male loneliness. It's not women's fault if men are worse at creating support networks. People tend to be a lot friendlier to women than the men and its a lot easier for women to make friends. So maybe don't prejudge someone as dangerous or wanting to date you just because he is a man. Also if a man opens up and…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 05:22 PM
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Because of the misogyny. Claiming that women only care about looks even when women insist from their own personal experience that isn't true is mansplaining and misogyny. Bring on the downvotes.
/r/AllPillDebate19/09/23 05:07 PM
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I hope thats a joke lol
/r/ExRedPill17/09/23 03:00 PM
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Your video portrays being dominant and powerful as winning arguments online by being rude. People with actual power see these spats between these people on the internet as incredibly immature. Actually being powerful requires getting into politics or getting into business or management. Real life managers aren't immature and rude when they debate.
/r/ExRedPill17/09/23 01:06 AM
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I can completely relate to you not being able to being yourself to end a relationship even though there is a good case for it. But at the same thing you can't let it keep draining you like this. So maybe rather than trying to change him which isn't working, be more assertive and set boundaries by call out and discourage toxic behavior every time it happens. Flip the script from having to convince him of everything to him having to defend his behavior.
/r/ExRedPill15/09/23 09:29 PM
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