GF wants me to me to donate sperm to her. She is freezing eggs, plans to get pregnant within 10 years. What can I say to buy time to effectively think about this without pissing her off and her leaving? What phrases?

Wb22__ · 2021-11-13T01:13:30+00:00

" No I'm not comfortable with doing that " if she doesn't like it that's on her

taytrovert · 2021-11-13T01:21:08+00:00

As a man, your ability to walk away from shitty deals is crucial. Be diligent. Be smart.

VeteranOfDepression · 2021-11-13T01:34:02+00:00

If she gets pissed off when you tell her "no," that's already a red flag.

You're most likely gonna have to pay child support, even if you change your mind and you don't want to let her use it later on and she sues you for it. She's only your girlfriend, maybe wait until marriage to make decisions like this.

CDewfus · 2021-11-13T01:55:11+00:00

"My body my choice."

"I do not consent."

"No means no."

RL_Art · 2021-11-13T01:20:09+00:00

If you can't be honest about it and just say what you think, without her flying off the handle.... Then I think you should probably just drop the relationship sooner rather than later.

Mavgrim · 2021-11-13T01:40:19+00:00

If she gets pissed off, YOU must leave her for your own mental health. Edit: Correct a misspelling.

xTheVyrusx · 2021-11-13T01:51:36+00:00

“My body my choice” say no.

frednoname1 · 2021-11-13T01:59:31+00:00

It is your sperm. You can freeze it but it's yours. Tell her she can't have it if you don't agree, so many things can happen in 10 years.

BreakinLiberty · 2021-11-13T02:02:06+00:00

Her leaving? No you should be the one leaving if she doesn’t respect your authority over your own sperm.

lord_of_memezz · 2021-11-13T01:57:54+00:00

This is a no brainer: "Honey I do not feel right about that and prefer not to do it" if she does not respect you enough to agree with you and still demands it give her the boot... could you imagine being with someone and having a kid with that person not respecting you?

Matreyu13 · 2021-11-13T01:36:01+00:00

Me thinks you're not part of her long term plans. At all. But you'll be on the hook for paying for the child(ren). Best of luck.

terisayles · 2021-11-13T01:59:57+00:00

There is absolutely no reason, unless you have a medical problem that will kill your sperm, like chemotherapy or getting snipped... to furnish her with some frozen baby gravy. What if you freeze it, you two break up and she uses it to get pregnant... Then come after you for child support. Injustices like this have happened. Don't do it. You can simply let her know that there's nothing wrong with your junk and men don't have an expiration date so much with their reproductive organs like women do. When she's ready to get pregnant, then you two can work all that out if you both want it then.

valerian_prann · 2021-11-13T02:18:19+00:00

Lol, this is a huge red flag. Why she need your sperm but not you? Men can produce sperm all life time. If you are there, she can get pregnant with you at anytime. The only explanation is she will leave you, have children, get on with another rich guy and sue you for your child support. Run boy run.

chankletavoladora · 2021-11-13T01:57:12+00:00

The answer is NO bro. Never trust a woman with your sperm. Trust me. You don’t want to find out when it turns ugly for you.

sku11_bit · 2021-11-13T01:53:57+00:00

"No im not comfortable" or else child support

Holy_Salsa · 2021-11-13T02:15:12+00:00

I'll give you a fresh batch when it's time

SuperJack1415 · 2021-11-13T01:51:07+00:00

Do not bother buying time that only makes it worse, like all others I'd suggest saying that you aren't comfortable with that. If she gets pissed or begging then it's time to GTFO.

Enoch_Root19 · 2021-11-13T02:16:39+00:00

“No. I don’t think I will.”

Alternative_Swan4969 · 2021-11-13T01:14:54+00:00

“No.” if she doesn’t respect that right you most definitely shouldn’t have a baby

edit: if you really want to use an excuse a good one is saying you don’t trust your dna with some corporation

YesYesYesVeryGood · 2021-11-13T02:13:06+00:00

"Since we are together, we don't need to waste money or time on that."

Braucifarian · 2021-11-13T02:54:53+00:00

What are you talking about salaries and shit?! Dude for real? What the hell is going on in your relationship for her to even think that bringing this up is appropriate?

Also if she is freezing her eggs I hope to God you are using condoms AND never losing chain of custody of those condoms.

You aren't her fucking sperm donor dude and it sounds like she needs a serious attitude readjustment. If I was in your situation that adjusting would make very clear I am not one to be trifled with and just a donor in her grandiose plans she has daydreamed up in her psychotic mind.

If I were you I'd run, not walk. Also don't use collective terms like "we have the baby". Its not you having the baby--she is having the baby and that's precisely how the court will see it. But YOU will be on the financial hook for it. Sounds like she's got you trained to use collectivist pronouns when talking about her grand plan. Stop that.

Ask yourself--is the sex and other good parts of the relationship with her really worth putting up with the bad parts? Because from the situation you described it sounds like she is leading you around by your dick. You aren't her simp but she seems to assume so now. Run, don't walk.

Regenclan · 2021-11-13T02:01:04+00:00

That you don't want to pay child support. It doesn't matter what she says if she ever gets government assistance they will come after you and go for back pay. She can also at any time just decide she wants child support from you if she gets down on her luck and you are shot out of luck. There are 14 year old boys who got raped by grown women that ended up having to pay child support. If she wants a baby she can go to a sperm bank. There is no paper you can sign other than adoption papers to whomever she is with at the time that can make you not responsible for a child with your sperm your responsibility and I've even read stories where that went wrong with same sex couples.

WestAppointment2484 · 2021-11-13T02:09:09+00:00

Leaving over that?? She doesn’t own your sperm. Hard pass. 🚩

ruutentuuten · 2021-11-13T02:35:16+00:00

"No"

Ok_Research219 · 2021-11-13T01:51:14+00:00

She’s more concerned about being a mother than your wife. But this is not something exclusive to you. This is a majority of women now. Leave, She doesn’t give a damn about you. If you don’t and you follow through with what she wants. I’m a tell you some harsh and real shit. The consequences of those actions will be on you and no one else. Not her, because at that point you made the conscious choice against your better judgement to please her and give in to what she wants.

Don’t buy time, you’ve wasted enough being with her. No more sugar coating shit.

espen1232 · 2021-11-13T01:54:23+00:00

Just say no

MillionWilliam · 2021-11-13T02:27:45+00:00

Don't do it. Store some on your own and if you still want to gift it to her in 10 years you can, but don't give it to her now.

slipkid223 · 2021-11-13T02:58:15+00:00

Just say no. She can and WILL come back after you for child support.

Let her break u with you, plenty of Women out there.

MEiac · 2021-11-13T02:59:36+00:00

The operative word is "no."

You break up, she keeps the sperm, uses it, you're on the hook for child support for how ever many kids she decides, one, five, fifteen. . .

McFeely_Smackup · 2021-11-13T04:29:51+00:00

Wait! Hard stop.

Why is she planning on having your children in 10 years without you?

Either you're still together in 10 years and she can obtain the sperm the old fashioned way, or you're not together in which case no she can't have your sperm.

What's the end game here? What's the upside?

SkullAngel001 · 2021-11-13T02:41:02+00:00

What phrases are good for buying time?

"This relationship is over."

SweatyAdvance · 2021-11-13T01:15:33+00:00

Offer to freeze some for yourself. But don't you dare just fucking give it to her.

Ulferas · 2021-11-13T02:28:49+00:00

There's no guarantee you guys will even be together in 10 years. It seems like she wants a kid, but she's basically saying she is only willing to have it on her time and fuck your opinion on the matter. I'd dump her, but I'm particularly picky when it comes to relationships and am content on my own. Do what you think is best, but do be aware that agreeing to this could seriously fuck up your future.

sicrm · 2021-11-13T02:39:13+00:00

you’d basically be agreeing to be a sperm donor and you’d definitely be on the hook for CS.

just say no. and if she pushes and tries to guilt you into, end the relationship.

okfornothing · 2021-11-13T02:42:06+00:00

Just run bro. I wouldn't do that or have kids man. IMO it's not worth it.

craigske · 2021-11-13T02:52:37+00:00

Freeze your own sperm. Make sure only you have access. Why does she need to own it?

DirtyPartyMan · 2021-11-13T02:55:29+00:00

Your words…they don’t depict an understanding woman who views your sperm as your physical property and right to withhold.

If she leaves because you ask for time….that may be a good thing.

Hedhunta · 2021-11-13T03:08:21+00:00

Dude you need to leave her ASAP.

Gaiinahat · 2021-11-13T03:19:55+00:00

A man can have children all the way up to the grave. There's no need for you to donate until she's ready to unfreeze her eggs. Besides, which would she rather have, some frozen old leftover sperm from out the freezer, or fresh, piping hot sperm right out the oven?

If "no, because I fucking said so" is a deal breaker for her, then there's the fucking door. She does not get to manipulate you into doing something you don't want to. That's not the kind of woman you want as your ride-or-die anyway.

windkirby · 2021-11-13T03:20:05+00:00

"I'm not comfortable committing to being a father right now." If she says you're not committing now and you would talk about it then, then just say that at the time of that future conversation, if you both agree to have a child, then you can donate your sperm then. There's no reason to do it now when you have not committed to having a child. But the fact that you feel rooked into this at all is very concerning that she may not be considering your wants, only hers. And for something as important as parenthood, that could be a bad sign. Given the stories that plague the sub you're on I would definitely think hard about whether you trust this person enough to potentially have a child with them.

cardboardbob99 · 2021-11-13T04:30:03+00:00

she can freeze her eggs, and if you’re still together when you both want kids you’ll still have sperm then. No reason for you to freeze now unless you have other health complications.

nosleepincrooklyn · 2021-11-13T02:03:46+00:00

Piss her off and make her leave

C20H25N3O-C21H30O2 · 2021-11-13T02:14:48+00:00

Dude, you're totally fucked for life if you do this for her. Don't do it! Break up with her if you must but do not be her slave for life! She is /r/NotWorthTheSqueeze

biff64gc · 2021-11-13T02:46:04+00:00

Pretty sure there was a case of an ex using donated sperm from her ex to have a baby and he had to pay child support or something. There was some identify theft involved I think since she got it from a shown bank. Not sure how that all turned out.

Basically just be honest and say you don't feel comfortable or would rather wait until marriage to do something like that.

If it causes a fight then you know the type of person she is. It's a red flag if she tries to guilt trip you or questions your faith in the remainder then you can question if she's the one.

craigske · 2021-11-13T02:54:39+00:00

If this thread doesn’t highlight how disposable men have become in our society, I don’t know what does.

valspare · 2021-11-13T02:57:12+00:00

What can I say to buy time to effectively think about this without pissing her off and her leaving? What phrases?

If you say anything other then "yes" it will be something that pisses her off.

Some food for thought: If she's looking to get pregnant later, why not just impregnate her then? Why as for you to freeze sperm now for later use?

It doesn't past the smell test for me. Sounds more like she wants your sperm and your money (child support), but she doesn't want you.

Do you want to be in that situation? If so then put your balls in her purse and don't complain about it.

If not, then stick up for yourself. Tell her "no", be ready to fight it out. She'll cry, call you names, tell you the you're crushing her dreams, etc. Hold your ground. Your future is in your hands.

VoiceofReason1988 · 2021-11-13T02:57:33+00:00

Let her leave.

silent_thunder1618 · 2021-11-13T03:15:47+00:00

Duuude that's such a huge red flag!!!! Don't you dare to give that woman your sperm, it's like agreeing to a baby trap with anticipation, it's stupid, the sole idea is awful when you decide to have a baby it has to be on your terms and in your time when you are ready to be a father if she decides to freeze her eggs that's her right but she doesn't own your sperm even if you are a couple. Please, don't you see how sketchy this is? Do not give her your sperm.

What you can say is simply that you are not comfortable with it, is wise for her to freeze her eggs but you will decide what to do with your sperm

Good luck my friend, you are going to need it...

delsystem32exe · 2021-11-13T03:16:23+00:00

Azraiel1984 · 2021-11-13T03:18:21+00:00

Say No, your not a baby dispenser, or say yes who gives a fuck.

phead80 · 2021-11-13T03:20:58+00:00

If you're not getting a vasectomy then it's not necessary. That's pretty straightforward.

Wulgard · 2021-11-13T03:21:52+00:00

My sperm, my choice !

CALAMITYFOX · 2021-11-13T03:24:39+00:00

TheChipster91 · 2021-11-13T03:46:28+00:00

Either she respects your boundaries or she doesn't. If it's a deal-breaker for her, it's not meant to be and you're better off.

Trusty_Pigeon · 2021-11-13T03:57:06+00:00

I feel like a lot of these comments are quite knee-jerk, no shit's given about you and your relationship, OP.

The general idea is buried in a bad tone.

You should have an honest conversation with your GF about what both of you want and why.

If you're having anxieties about bringing children in to this world, discuss that with her. If you're anxious about your parental rights, discuss that with her.

Maybe she's having concerns about her fertility and wants you to put in as much insurance as she is; as a gesture of companionship?

It's hard to say. It's a little telling if you're asking a male activists subreddit rather than r/askreddit 🤷

But shit, I don't know you, man.

ShaidarHaran2 · 2021-11-13T04:02:36+00:00

Dude you have to hear this well, your whole premise here is problematic. If you can't express how you feel without fearing her flying off the handle and leaving you it sounds like you're not in a great relationship.

Say exactly how you feel about it. Buying time is just going to end in tears later on. If that's a dealbreaker, well, then you know and didn't waste more of your life.

SunshineMoonLit · 2021-11-13T04:08:16+00:00

"No" comes to mind.

r0wla · 2021-11-13T04:15:20+00:00

"No"

Dry-Rub · 2021-11-13T04:26:17+00:00

"Woah woah woah, we dont do that here." Thatll buy you a few mins.

OctaviaPinfold · 2021-11-13T04:52:22+00:00

Tell her that you don't want to and if she gets pissed off, that's her problem, and if she leaves over this, you dodged a bullet. That would only prove that she wanted to shop around in the next 10 years for the best "match" and forcing somebody, potentially you into paying child support while she can be with whoever else she actually wants to.

a_doom_squirrel · 2021-11-13T05:04:03+00:00

What if she has been secretly gathering the perfect specimens for years. Years later she dumps all the gravy out into the egg dish and it’s a gamble whose it really is. In the end she ends up with someone of her ideal selection receiving child support from. She gets the top most compatible sperm who managed to reproduce with the egg. She can request a test from you all at the same time. Later this child ends up being the equivalent of John Conner. You and all those other men who were duped…

Original_Dankster · 2021-11-13T05:06:16+00:00

No.

That simple

Zeuszoos · 2021-11-13T06:58:14+00:00

Disclaimer: Not medical advice. I'm not a doctor. I'm just an idiot who doesn't have a clue about clues, nor anything else. And where's my feet? Somebody misplaced my kidney stones! I had them right… Oh wait, there they are <ouch> I hate it when I run out of coffee and they wander off! Then I have to let the gerbils out to find them. Oh, by the way, I'm also a liar. Maybe that's why the gerbils hate me and went on strike. I don't know. I'm not in the union.

Anyway, about your question/problem (you trust me, right?)…..

First of all, I think it's just her eggs that are frozen, not sperm. But assuming I'm wrong…

Why are you thinking about it at all? You don't know that you'll be together in 10 years. Why would you want her to be able to put you on the financial hook for 18 years minimum, starting 10 years from now? That's nuts, dude! Seriously.

And here's the thing… if you're not together, I don't care what load of crap she tells you TODAY, because when the time comes, the odds are VERY slim that you'll get to see your kid(s)! To a woman, her negative feelings toward you means that you shouldn't see the kid(s). Every time!

And while you may think she's smart and great at planning for the l0ng term, no offense guy, but the truth is, she's not being very bright about it, or she'd know that even 12 rounds of IVF for about $200K only gives her a 50/50 chance of getting pregnant and the prep for each attempt will be hell on her body! Not only that, but if she's going to be in her 30's or especially in her 40's, the odds of a miscarriage go way up!

Also, if she's already in her 30's when they're harvesting her eggs from her, then it isn't just the number of her eggs that has greatly decreased, but the quality of her eggs as well!

In fact, the percentage of having a child with some sort of birth defect (whether a physical deformity, a permanent medical or psychological issue, etc.), the chance of having one goes as follows, citing age and odds of it (from memory):

30yo = 20% 32yo = 30% 35yo = 50% 37yo = 70% 40yo = 90%

The above may be slightly off, but if it's not dead on, then it should be very close!

Again dude, what the h*ll are you doing even thinking about doing it?! Why would you want somebody else pulling the strings of your life for decades?! She can say anything now! But even judges have broken written agreements about this, "for the good of the child". Please learn that the man is the enemy in Family Court! No one is your friend there and certainly not the judge!

As I said, if she had been doing it smart, she would have known that women should have k9ds by 25yo and at the latest, by 28yo, because it's all downhill from there! And she would have known that the proper order is the following:

1) Finish at least High School. 2) Get married. 3) Have children.

Oh and just a thought…..

"Why is it socially reprehensible for a man to leave a baby fatherless, but courageous, even admirable, for a woman to have a baby whom she knows will be so?" - Penelope Leach

Wish you the best man! And just remember, whenever a woman tells you that, "You need to man up and do 'X'!", it's usually the opposite tbat's the right thing to do. Woman know absolutely nothing about being a man and they just use that line to get you to do what will benefit them, not you.

Ajzdro · 2021-11-13T10:29:17+00:00

Dude your jizz isn’t that special. She can find it elsewhere from some other sucker. If you want children one day fine it but this is Not the way.

RnRsbg · 2021-11-13T02:13:38+00:00

Try this, it’s worked for me countless times over the last decade:

“Just know, I don’t want any children. So if you’re planning on or accidentally get pregnant with my child, you better get rid of it. Because I would rather do 5 years in jail, than a life time in hell with you!”

Which led me to the realization that they had such low morals, that they would still willingly pound my brains out after that.

True stories with an old buck.

Reddit1984Censorship · 2021-11-13T03:09:15+00:00

Dam is it really worth it to live like that im never getting married.

WritingReadingReddit · 2021-11-13T01:51:51+00:00

Based on what you've written, it's apparent to all of us that you don't have any balls anyway.

Tell your wife you're unable to produce any sperm because you don't have any balls.

weldmonkeyweld · 2021-11-13T01:14:56+00:00

Yea... time to jet or put a ring on her.

BooBooGoToBed · 2021-11-13T02:06:32+00:00

Without her knowing go to a different clinic and make your own donation on the sperm bank. (To yourself)

Tell her that you already did it and show her the papers like its was a surprise. That way you do what she wants AND you keep 100% control over your reproductive rights.

If she is mad that she doesn't have control over the sperm start playing your exit strategy cause you know exactly what that means.

Good luck good sir

Dr_Hesp · 2021-11-13T02:32:11+00:00

Simply tell her you need time to think about it. If she leaves you because of that then she ain't the one homie

ChickennDiddle · 2021-11-13T02:44:36+00:00

"I'd like to think that I believe, that. Planet earth turns slowly"

3gm22 · 2021-11-13T02:48:54+00:00

No thank you.
Make a run for it..she wants to have kids in a way that makes the father a sperm donor only. I cant think of a more marginalizing thing, than that.

TheSnowglobeFromHell · 2021-11-13T02:52:23+00:00

Can't you have the sperm stored in the bank and still have control over it?

BrandSpankingNew0069 · 2021-11-13T03:08:42+00:00

Why don’t you just freeze sperm and keep it for yourself? Or is that not how it works…

throwawaybear61 · 2021-11-13T03:08:43+00:00

No. Never. Don’t do this. Just tell her “no”. Short and sweet. If she bails, you’ll know what she was after and that’ll show it wasn’t you!

bouncedeck · 2021-11-13T03:12:39+00:00

Consider this, while this is probably a bad idea to go through with this, the chances of her getting pregnant and carrying it to term is low, especially if she will be late 30s or 40s when she tries.

On the other hand, if you hand over your sperm now she can immediately use it to get pregnant and stick you with the bill for the next 20 or so years and you will have little or no say in things.

As far as phrasing goes, if she is serious about this there is no need to freeze your sperm, tell her you can give it to her when she is ready to actually have the kid. That gives you ten years to decide what you want without being confrontational.

Daisydo847 · 2021-11-13T03:13:32+00:00

Bitches man

bitterbloodorange · 2021-11-13T03:15:55+00:00

Why would you need to donate sperm, unless you’re about to go through chemo you can just donate when she decides to get pregnant.

Spydiggity · 2021-11-13T03:16:17+00:00

Do not, under any circumstances, voluntarily give this woman your sperm. Unless you are direct depositing it into her, after you've established you want a family. And if you think she won't be on board in the long term, move on.

Phrodo_00 · 2021-11-13T03:20:00+00:00

I see you might want to do it. If you think it's a good idea in case anything happens to your sperm, do it on your own and tell her you'll take 10 years to think about it.

AnOldSchoolVGNerd · 2021-11-13T03:29:21+00:00

You're more worried about pissing her off than properly discussing bringing another life into this world.

Think about that, man.

Might want to reconsider that relationship.

fyrie · 2021-11-13T03:31:58+00:00

Make sure you are not financially responsible. You may not even be dating her in a couple of years.

FormerNavyMan · 2021-11-13T03:32:01+00:00

"no"

1790shadow · 2021-11-13T03:33:26+00:00

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

Insidious-Sid · 2021-11-13T03:37:59+00:00

Give her the semen she wants.
Just make sure it's not yours.

Hasso78 · 2021-11-13T03:39:42+00:00

Run!!! Forest, run!!!!!

wwstewart · 2021-11-13T03:41:23+00:00

Good phrase: "No."

Brokepapa321 · 2021-11-13T03:41:34+00:00

This should be an absolute no go. Aside from serious medical issues i can't fathom a reason to do what she is suggesting. If she wants kids within 10 years, and you are both going to remain fertile for that time there is no reason to take the approach she suggests. Check the laws in your area, you may indeed loose rights to the sperm after donation, AND be held liable for child support at any time she chooses to become a parent.

The phrase you will most likely need to use is "NO!"

superstar9976 · 2021-11-13T03:52:06+00:00

Uh.....just say no?

OwnerAndMaster · 2021-11-13T03:56:10+00:00

Tell her it's a fair trade if she donates an egg so you can have a surrogate carry it. That'll get her to see your point REALLY fast if she's a woman with half a virtuous braincell

Jesus_marley · 2021-11-13T03:58:32+00:00

No. Fuck that. Good bye.

Skyrmir · 2021-11-13T04:04:43+00:00

Don't give it to her, freeze it on your own. It's good insurance against testicular cancer, and other accidents. If it had a better success rate you could get a vasectomy right after, and still be able to have kids whenever you want. Not a suggested method of birth control, but certainly possible.

Qwesterly · 2021-11-13T04:09:30+00:00

If you'll always be worried that she'll leave if you don't do what she wants, then it's not going to be a happy union.

She should be working to give YOU a happy life too, so if this makes you uncomfortable, and your telling her it makes you uncomfortable doesn't immediately make her take this off the table, then you are NOT on the path to a happy life with her.

Dude, if we were discussing tractors, and you told me your Dad died in a tractor rollover, I would never bring up tractors again with you, ever, unless you wanted to talk about them. And that's the consideration I give to people I don't even know. Your girlfriend should be exceptionally caring towards you... way more caring than me, because I'm just some Internet guy.

Nerfixion · 2021-11-13T04:19:39+00:00

Why do you need to donate sperm? At you like 60plus? Losing a nut?

Doogie76 · 2021-11-13T04:19:45+00:00

If you tell her no - she might try to have a happy little accident with you. Be very careful and flush your own condoms down the toilet. Don't leave them lying around

CrimsonCapricorn188 · 2021-11-13T04:23:46+00:00

Tell her that you wouldn't be comfortable with it, and that you need time to think about it, and that you'll talk to her about it when you've done the thinking you want to do on the matter

modsarebrainstems · 2021-11-13T04:38:07+00:00

Guys have been successfully sued for child support to pay for babies they never wanted, with women they haven't seen in years thanks to exactly what your girlfriend is asking for. I would remind her that if you're still together in ten years, she shouldn't need frozen sperm.

There was even a guy who got a BJ, she kept the condom (didn't know there was a condom BJ in the first place but okay) impregnated herself with the baby gravy, sued him and ... won (of course) So that's what you're really up against and it gives you an idea of the shit that can be done to you thanks to a blown load you didn't even want.

sexytimeinseattle · 2021-11-13T04:38:27+00:00

The phrase you need to use is exactly this:

"no".

If she's not going to let you have your own opinion of the matter, you don't want to make a baby with her anyway.

2wicky · 2021-11-13T04:48:47+00:00

It's ok to piss her off. If you are not ok with it, she should know now instead of you trying to lead her on with some excuse to buy yourself some time. That's not fair on her either.

If it is a deal breaker for her, you should know as well, and in that case you should probably go your own separate ways if you can't resolve this indifference.

But for as long as you are still together, you need to be extra protective of your sperm. Use your own condoms and make sure she can't tamper with them. Don't just throw used condoms in a bin, dispose of them correctly by washing them out in hot water or other method that ensures she can't gain access to it and still end up freezing it.
You can also consider decreasing your sperm quality by taking long hot baths and wearing tight pants as an extra precaution. And I can't believe I'm advocating this but avoid manspreading ha ha.

What we really need is a contraceptive option for men that is easily reversable like a pill.

DreamTheaterGuy · 2021-11-13T04:56:16+00:00

You shouldn't have to buy time. Tell her you are not comfortable with it and leave it at that. If she gets mad, it's a red flag to RUN.

mr_chanandler_bong_1 · 2021-11-13T04:58:36+00:00

Relationships go to ways, you don't always have to think about the other person. You know you deserve things too, be honest, some women these days don't seem to understand this.

NHS_24 · 2021-11-13T07:38:55+00:00

It's Simple Say No, she can bail and hit you for child support for 18 years. You shouldn't be comfortable doing that. if she doesn't like it that's her problem not yours.

anticitizen2501 · 2021-11-13T10:37:23+00:00

You can donate sperm with your willy when she's ready.

TripppyCryBaby · 2021-11-13T04:27:13+00:00

Whatever you decide. If it comes to the point that you’re willing to deposit sperm into some type of vessel to freeze, keep custody of your sperm. Tell her it’s hers but you’ll just hold it in your own freezer etc.

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