Men misunderstand the 80/20 rule, and how it applies how men view women aswell.

The 80/20 rule is completely misunderstood by most men here.

First of all, let's not even mention how this ONLY applies to dating apps, and not at all real life. Where men who would never even see a message from a woman online, will actually be able to go as far as getting a relationship or sex from a woman.

Let's talk about what the rule means. It means "wanting the most objectively desireable counterparts".

This however, doesn't mean that most women won't even ever consider most other man (other than the 20%). It simply means that these women ACTIVELY desire only the top 20%, but will definitely give/accept men below that standard throughout their life. Judt because they won't get their IDEAL, doesn't mean they won't be happy in the end.

Same goes for men. I would bet an arm and a leg that most men actively desire only the top 20% of women. That doesn't mean that men won't look at the bottom 80%, it's just that they find the top 20% more desireable in the moment.

Men however, unlike women, are more likely to engage in sex, because men desire sex more than women (in general), with the bottom 80% of women, if given a chance.

The difference is, women in general are selectors. And they view their sexual access as something of value they provide, a.k.a. are not willing to give it to just anyone. So what ends up happening in a lot of cases, is the women are willing to stay single for longer, in order to find a better option.

So in the end, both sexes desire the top % of their counterparts, but men are more likely to engage in sex with ones who AREN'T in their top desired % of women.

Rise up to a woman's most desireable standards in order to gain sexual and relationship access to most, or stay at your level and hope to seem as good enough of a choice for a bottom 80% woman who will eventually deem you good enough.