Experiences dating conservatives or leftists - which ones were more sensible in character?

Smitten_Squire · 2022-02-17T21:19:54+00:00

Probably conservatives that lean to the center are most grounded and stable

2022-02-17T19:34:26+00:00

You will not get an unbiased answer to this question.

Feisty-Saturn · 2022-02-17T19:31:15+00:00

The issue with PPD is that there’s always an attempt to make a huge generalization. How someone acts is going to have little to do with their political views and more so to do with culture, upbringing, and environment.

januaryphilosopher · 2022-02-17T19:40:25+00:00

The most sensible, stable and decent are those who are able to tolerate other viewpoints and aren't extremists or ideologues. I'd say that you find the less sensible ones at either end of the spectrum, but more towards the extremes. I can't stand those kind of people even when I might otherwise agree with their views.

logiauser · 2022-02-17T19:33:07+00:00

Doesn’t matter as long as they are open minded and respectful.

PlayfulLawyer · 2022-02-17T20:51:34+00:00

You lean too far into either direction and it's going to suck either way, I myself I'm a Libertarian who leans a little more to the right, wife is Center and leans a little more to the left, that's about as far as I would go, I would never date a hyper religious conservative woman the same way that I would never date a hyper woke leftist woman

extrachromozomes · 2022-02-17T22:05:59+00:00

Both suck

Scrimmy_Bingus2 · 2022-02-17T19:43:45+00:00

If I'm being honest, and I say this as a Leftist, apolitical women and moderate-Liberal women have always been the kindest to me. Too many hardcore Leftist women fall victim to "girlboss feminism" where they spend way too much time shitting on men at the bottom (who are just as, if not more oppressed than they are) while they worship the Chads and women on the top who do the oppressing.

Conservative women are just batshit crazy, all around. And I mean actual conservative women, not just attractive livestreamers who pretend to be conservative for donations.

chromie96 · 2022-02-17T21:56:13+00:00

Moderates.

Conservatives were always weird about my sexual history and they were always trying to be edgy but it was always like "40 year old dad on Facebook" edgy.

And the leftists we're weirdly pushy about sex and you couldn't ever make jokes.

They were all triggered so easily. They got so upset when the smallest thing happened. They were close minded. . Moderates are where it's at and libertarians have the best sex

Stunning-Potato-1984 · 2022-02-18T01:57:32+00:00

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rolurk · 2022-02-17T19:46:16+00:00

OP is subbed to r/conservativesocialist.

Let's just start off by saying this is NOT a political sub.

SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-02-17T22:13:50+00:00

My wife is an extreme leftist and it gets tiresome sometimes. Especially since I'm white and she's latina, I have to listen to her trash white men all of the fucking time and then backpeddle "well you're the exception".

Extremism is an issue, it's not that I'm moderate or even right-wing. I am left as well, but if I'm not "left enough" then she'll make it a big deal. If I don't abide by every 'progressive' thing I hear, it's a problem. I like to make ironic jokes about the left because a lot of it rings true. I'm allowed to dislike Biden and still be left. It's like leftists think they're immune to criticism.

But I would still take a sensible leftist woman any day over some brainwashed trump voter. Especially if she can validate her thought process (which trumper-women tend to not be able to do)

DivineDaedra · 2022-02-17T22:36:28+00:00

What’s sensible to me isn’t going to be sensible to everyone. I’ve never been romantically or sexually interested in anyone right of center because of my bias and how much it impacts my perception of people.

No character traits are exclusive to one party. I doubt there are any that can even be proven as significantly more common to either party.

Left leaning people are usually more okay with divorce and are usually more sex positive but that’s pretty much it.

CFinCanada · 2022-02-18T00:08:20+00:00

I dated an Eastern Euro guy who I should probably have guessed was conservative. But I was really young.

After that I no longer dated men who were not born and raised in my country, so that's how that went.

nemma88 · 2022-02-18T00:57:13+00:00

Not much difference, least in the UK - our political spectrum isn't as wide as USA imo though.

I think there are more extreme right winged men and more extreme left winged women though, so I imagine answers here will line up to that.

anonymouscausefuckU · 2022-02-18T05:50:19+00:00

I feel like for Gen Z & millennials there’s incredible pressure to publicly identify as liberal in some form or another whether implicitly or explicitly (ie, everybody posting pro-BLM content during the George Floyd era out of peer pressure) and this confuses this whole question.

I live in a large liberal city so I’m sure that plays a factor here but I honestly don’t even know what “conservative” means anymore. Conservatives themselves don’t even seem to agree on this question. They seem to all be having a bit of an identity crisis in the last few years.

I know a few different couples where one partner is a closet conservative and their partner has no idea. I’ve definitely been in many situations where I almost catch girls saying something vaguely conservative but they save face at the last minute. (I wouldn’t judge them at all as I’m a bit of a “centrist” but I digress).

Idk. Both sides are delusional. The 2 party system is a total parody of itself. This does not answer your question at all cause there is no answer. Sorry lol

goatismycopilot · 2022-02-17T19:50:07+00:00

My ex husband started out as a moderate conservative who was not religious, did not hate the gayz, was not really into the cultural fascism. A combination of talk radio/ internet tubes/ Fox News enhanced his lunatic side and he just turned into somebody I did not recognize. Won't do that again. It happened over a 15 year span so I did not have one WTF moment.

I have dated a few conservative lite types and not really any full out leftists. My experience with liberal men versus conservative men with a few exceptions is that they are not that different from one another in relationships and dating.

Graaarg999 · 2022-02-17T23:03:39+00:00

Conservatives all the way. It's not even a match

RandomRedditGuy322 · 2022-02-17T19:33:38+00:00

Apolitical and intelligent women are always the most stable and have the healthiest lives. That is my current girlfriend as well, and I feel very fortunate to be with someone who is highly intelligent, but not loud mouthed or opinionated.

Outside of this, leftist women are worse because they have feminists and SJWs. Not to mention communists as well.

Not a big fan of right wing religious women, but compared to the leftists they are much better.

HotDogRandy · 2022-02-18T10:28:57+00:00

I have come to learn that it's not so much about what their political beliefs are, but rather the level of privilege they have had in life.

Overly woke Leftists who use their beliefs to make up for the guilt they have about their privileged upbringing are just as a-holes as conservatives who tell people to "pull themselves up by their bootstraps" when their parents are mega wealthy.

On the flip side there are Leftists who have actually experienced the struggles their ideology speaks of, as well as some down to earth working class conservatives.

At the end of the day I am going to identify far more with people who have dealt with the same barriers in life that I have had, regardless of what their political belief ended up being.

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Suspicious-Pie-5356 · 2022-02-17T19:50:04+00:00

I don’t date anyone who calls themselves any of these dumb terms that ultimately only divide our ability to create effective legislation.

C_Sec_Matt · 2022-02-17T20:38:32+00:00

Depends on the conversation.

But like I find MOST people regardless of political view to be even keel.

IRL isn't like the internet.

42nanaimobars · 2022-02-18T02:14:45+00:00

It all depends on the person.

SupermarketFun21 · 2022-02-18T03:15:57+00:00

Once in the span of like a month, I was rejected by one girl for not being feminist, and another girl for not being MAGA.

I've had one LTR with a fairly liberal girl, who had that whole feminist where feminism suits her interests and traditional where that suits her interests thing going on. That was grating after a while. The rest of the girls I've dated have been either moderate or apolitical, which is totally fine.

Basically, the current partisan zeitgeist is absolute poison. I'm only interested in those not so leftist that they buy into woke nonsense, and not so rightist that they love every zany, unfalsifiable conspiracy theory that paints democrats in a bad light.

87AudreyHorne · 2022-02-18T06:00:08+00:00

I come from a very leftist circle (to clarify to americans - pro socialist, socially liberal) and I find people in it to be relatively educated, sensible etc.

But then among leftists there's a divide to old school leftists and the "American-style" woke culture which are not two compatible things.

Stability is more of a temperament thing than beliefs thing, and can be found or lack on both sides.

Here conservativism is often connected with ideas like nationalism but in a psychotic way that is focusing on enemies - xenophobic, homophobic, misogynic etc. Usually these people are either less educated and less intelligent and just grabbing onto something to makes them feel good about themselves, or if they're not from that group then they're usually ones with some grudge or a deep issue who turned to it in anger - a "self determined" conservatives.

There is another conservative circle of Catholics and conservatives who grew up in those circles relatively happily and might be the different type of conservative, but I don't really associate much with that circle because our worldviews are so far apart.

Az_Ams · 2022-02-18T18:55:27+00:00

Fckbuddy or casual dating - I don't care about your values as long as you know how to fuck consensually. When it comes to relationships/marriage/friendships - lefties only.

Gravel_Roads · 2022-02-18T20:56:40+00:00

Most people come up somewhere in the center, and tend to be generally neutral/willing to live and let live as long as you’re not constantly making a scenery or debating with people constantly about it.

I dated people who have gone too far either way. I’m bi, so it’s a little more complicated with a queer slant, but conservatives that have gone too far for me: multiple men have wanted to hide the nature of our relationship out of shame, one conservative woman genuinely expected me to carry her bags for her because “men are stronger”. Leftists can go too far, too tho. Mostly with reflexive scolding and needing to make every conversation turn into a conversation about oppression and how bad the world is.

So I’d say uberconservatives are, predictably, too set in pre-established social expectation and uberprogessives are predictably too eager to challenge your norms.

Regular-Ambassador-3 · 2022-02-18T21:45:57+00:00

I prefer centrists. Anyone that leans 100% to either side being left or right comes off as unstable to me.

prairieboy1996 · 2022-02-19T17:54:14+00:00

Apolitical

masochisticanalwhore · 2022-02-22T17:02:40+00:00

Sensible is subjective. And you will find a variety of personality types in any political group.

Orange_Paisley · 2022-02-17T19:44:59+00:00

Never have or would date a conservative. I did date a few libertarian types. That's probably the most conservative I would go. Nothing wrong with a healthy mistrust of the government.

Title	Experiences dating conservatives or leftists - which ones were more sensible in character?
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