What do you do to lead a fulfilling life outside of romantic/sexual relationships?

flapperfemmefatale · 2022-05-01T05:09:58+00:00

I maintain good relationships with friends and family
I maintain my financial independence (no, I couldn't afford the house my husband and I have currently... but I could easily afford a one-bedroom apartment in my area)

7186997326 · 2022-05-01T08:29:55+00:00

Career is # 1, when I get a "win" at work I get this rush of energy that just feels great. Similar feeling when I get a win on fan duel or the stock/crypto market. Exercise is the 3rd thing that makes me feel great. I dread having to lift weights after a long hard day but once I get the work done there is this peaceful feeling and the air just tastes better.

All that said, to be 100% honest with you, if I lost my wife at this point, I would never be the same again. You just get to a certain area where that thing just can't be replaced; but not everyone gets to that point so it's a foreign concept for many.

Coolio_Street_Racer · 2022-05-01T08:51:41+00:00

Friends, Hobbies, Career

PlayfulLawyer · 2022-05-01T05:12:30+00:00

Quality time with friends and family
Made a lot of money ( which was always my goal as soon as I got my scholarship )
Run 4-6 miles everyday
Take up skills and hobbies that interest me, the most recent one being archery
Enjoy the little things
Eat in a healthy way that also makes me happy

microphone_commander · 2022-05-01T07:03:25+00:00

In a relationship but I still do the things I did when i was single that fulfilled me

Maintained close platonic friendships (male and female)

Stack my money so I can vacation 4 times a year to whereever i want, one for each season

Engage in my hobbies (in a hardcore hiphop fan and collect records. Also super into pro wrestling, babe and I go to shows regularly)

chalkandapples · 2022-05-01T08:40:16+00:00

I have good relationships with my friends and family.

I have hobbies that I can spend hours and hours on. I keep learning new hobbies, the amount of stuff that I haven’t learned how to do yet is so huge that I don’t think I’ll ever run out of it.

Have a good and fulfilling job.

So many entertainment options out there really. TV shows, music, video games, movies, restaurants etc.

Life is actually so cool, just go outside, feel the grass and look at the sky, it’s really nice.

spunkystoic · 2022-05-01T09:23:53+00:00

Cars are my biggest passion in life after friends and family 😊

I currently drive a GR Yaris and am saving up for a something like a Supra, but most likely the new Mazda Rx7 that's being rumoured (if they ever actually make it 😂)

social_mule · 2022-05-01T12:35:47+00:00

Travel, martial arts and volunteering for charity.

szclimber · 2022-05-01T16:26:25+00:00

Video games, science, art, and thinking about the big questions of existence.

neolib-cowboy · 2022-05-01T05:51:41+00:00

Literally just move with a purpose. Do things. Don't sit at home all day & just smoke weed and play video games LOL. Have a job, do interesting things outside of work like being outdoors, traveling, having an interesting hobby that you are passionate about.

Don't get me wrong, having these things won't get you pussy, but it will put you above all the other average chuds who just sit at home, smoke weed, and play video games.

BTW! With enough charisma and confidence, that loser sitting at home smoking weed & playing video games can absolutely get pussy. I know a few.

I would say that every man needs to do the following to be "interesting" or above the rest:

Have a job
Be fit. Go to the gym, go running, and eat healthy
Know how to do conversations, tell interesting, funny stories that keep people engaged, and be funny
Have 1 or 2 active hobbies such as hiking, kayaking, things that you do on your feet. Less active hobbies like woodworking are fine too but they won't really elevate you above the rest.
Don't talk to much. Leave certain things to the imagination. Literally leave as much off the table as you can, be like a onion, have layers they have to peel back to get to know you.

2022-05-01T05:10:02+00:00

Workahol

Noodles_R · 2022-05-01T06:06:13+00:00

Have a great career. I work out and lift weights. Have a lot of friends to socialise with. I go to the cinema, shopping, drinking, sightseeing, walking. I’m single but have no trouble filling up my days. At this point a relationship would hold me back.

stats135 · 2022-05-01T05:16:57+00:00

Nothing. I don't need to "do" anything to be fulfilled outside of the sexual context, I already am.

I find fulfillment as a human BEING not as a human DOING. I can be happy and content just BEING in a temperature controlled room, wrapped in a comfy blanket, and a podcast playing in the background. I need not DO anything to feel fulfilled and complete outside of sexual relationships.

mackenzie013_02 · 2022-05-01T05:15:22+00:00

love my work
maintain healthy friendships
money is fun
have a variety of hobbies; running, skiing, tennis
learn new things/acquire new skills

cowfishAreReal · 2022-05-01T05:37:46+00:00

Have friends you regularly go out with, be close to your family, have a job you like, have hobbies, take advantage of all the entertainment out there (videogames, movies, music...), travel, have a pet, treat yourself to good food, if you want you can even adopt a child by yourself. There's a bunch of different ways to have a happy and fulfilling life without romantic/sexual relationships

tired_hillbilly · 2022-05-01T05:30:30+00:00

Nothing I do is very fulfilling. It's all really meaningless.

NockerJoe · 2022-05-01T05:17:35+00:00

I try to get some creative projects in, hang out with friends, and live my life. The big thing is its absolutley not the same kind of fulfillment and anyone who thinks filling up a sketchbook or getting sushi with a friend is the same as an actual loving intimite relationship is lying to get you to stop talking.

JustaGuyinFinance · 2022-05-01T05:48:51+00:00

LBOs

TheRealGgsjags · 2022-05-01T10:40:46+00:00

Concentrate on financial independance. Concentrate on building up your income portfolio. Concentrate on yourself.

Do all the shit you always wanted to do or dreamed off as a child.

Do shit that takes you out of your comfort zone and just have fun. If you do that and always challenge yourself to do new cool things, you'll never even have the time to think about meaningless relationships. And if you really need sexual stuff, hookers are cheaper, better in the act and less complicated.

And here's the thing when you're a dude that has his shit together, you're gonna find someone anyway. The issue at that point is finding someone that is actually worth your time.

Spread-Em-Plz · 2022-05-01T13:48:27+00:00

Here's what I do/have done:

Develop one or two "serious" hobbies
- These are the things you do with active intent to get better at,
Develop one or two "casual" hobbies
- These are just the things you in your spare time for the fun of it, without it mattering too much if you get better at it, or there IS no way to get "better" at it (e;g listening to music or watching documentaries)
Develop a friend circle.
- Maybe they're just work friends who you don't talk to in any other context, maybe they're lifelong friends who you talk to every day, or maybe it's even your family. Either way, have or get people you can talk to and shoot the shit with.
Stay busy in general

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humdf · 2022-05-01T05:57:01+00:00

As i've allways been into one i can't help you.

baresquad · 2022-05-01T06:01:18+00:00

Not revolve my life around relationships. I have so much happiness outside of dating that it effortlessly translates to dating

sarkington · 2022-05-01T06:04:02+00:00

What I can, what I like, and what is good for me

AstronautLoveShack · 2022-05-01T06:44:39+00:00

I love my family. I have a job that I feel honored to do. I have pets I love. I have friends I love. I have an extensive literature collection. I know all the words to the Pixies’ Doolittle, Sgt Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band, and the Rock of Ages soundtrack. I work out, swim, use the weight machines at the gym. I enjoy cooking. And, of course, murder shows.

dbz19 · 2022-05-01T06:52:29+00:00

Try to maintain positive relationships with friends and families (fail at this)

also video games

Substantial_Video560 · 2022-05-01T09:41:44+00:00

Pursuing your hobbies and interests. Their what keep me going in life outside of work.

shockedpikachu123 · 2022-05-01T12:20:57+00:00

Develop my career - including promotions, networking, attending seminars
Traveling has been what has fulfilled me these past few years. I would like to do more before settling down
Making sure my investment portfolio is correct and managing my finances
Maintain connections that are worth keeping
Read/podcasts to educate myself more

1Here4Bach · 2022-05-01T12:33:52+00:00

I like to workout, hang out with friends/family and take care of my plants :)

learn2earn89 · 2022-05-01T14:03:59+00:00

I’ve never been in a romantic relationship/scenario but it’s bothered me much more the last few years. In my early to mid-twenties I didn’t think much about men.

I am close to my immediate family.

I have one best friend, another friend I see once in a while, and I hang out with my coworkers occasionally.

I read a lot of non-fiction but recently was recommended a really good fictional series and I love it.

I spend a lot of time on Reddit and YouTube trying to learn about the world — beauty, philosophy, biology, astronomy etc.

I like to go running and weight lift when my Im not depressed.

Learning music theory right now so I can more easily learn guitar and piano.

Travel overseas when time permits. I love going to Mexico but I’ve enjoyed traveling to Europe and Japan. Looking forward to Switzerland this year.

Thinking about joining an adult sports league.

I_eat_cake999 · 2022-05-01T14:17:44+00:00

Work and try to be a decent human being.

throwaway316stunner · 2022-05-01T14:20:29+00:00

Nothing, as there isn’t anything for me.

whymustveibeenborn · 2022-05-01T14:24:14+00:00

Nothing

cloudsongs_ · 2022-05-01T14:56:08+00:00

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CocoBabeNYC · 2022-05-01T16:12:32+00:00

Men are brainwashed to believe that sex with a hot woman is the most important thing in life and the only thing that can provide happiness. Everything else is in service of this. The money, career, gym body, clothes, watches, sports achievements, etc. This is the most insidious lie but it is very effective in making men work 24/7 so they can afford a hot girlfriend and thus moving society forward wjth their labor and sacrifice.

Society makes sex with a hot woman the ultimate prize. Men should break the pattern and make their enjoyment and pleasure the prize.

Barely-moral · 2022-05-01T21:33:14+00:00

It is a necessity, not to complete me but for me to stay alive. A long time outside a LTR makes me suicidal.

There is no fulfilling life outside of a LTR.

Anything I do outside a LTR is a tool to mantain the LTR I am in. If I am not in a LTR, anything I do is either to get one or to reduce my suicidal toughts for long enough to get a LTR.

ScrawnyWhiteBoy94 · 2022-05-02T05:18:50+00:00

Well I got a lot of hobbies and interests. I like to play music sometimes such as playing the piano and also playing the guitar. I'm also big into exercise such as playing soccer and working out with weights. I edit videos, and sometimes i'll work outside on the farm whether that's planting trees, and last summer, I even built a fish pond which I put a bunch of goldfish and rosy red minnows in.

Title	What do you do to lead a fulfilling life outside of romantic/sexual relationships?
Author	cloudsongs_
Upvotes	19
Comments	75
Date	May 1, 2022 3:25 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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