This sub is so mild and polite compared to some opposing sites and yet I still get insulted for being part of r/MensRights

ScaryIngenuity · 2020-09-20T15:24:34+00:00

Everyone who said anything about you being a member of this subreddit is trying to shame you into stop following your beliefs just because a celebrity or a special person told them that the men's rights activists are misogynistic Nazi pigs or something along those lines. Which is obviously not the case. So the best thing you can do is don't give a damn about others people's name calling or opinion about this sort of subject. I have personally been called and incell and a misogynist for my beliefs but I forgive those who called me those names and then I move on.

dzkrf · 2020-09-20T15:39:48+00:00

Those people are the happiest when they're not happy.

Ody_ssey · 2020-09-20T16:16:26+00:00

MensRights gets lot of pushback because of loud propaganda against them.

waxmybigot · 2020-09-20T17:57:28+00:00

People actively repost content from here to subs like r/inceltears and r/blatantmisogyny but if we complain, we get insulted and mocked for wanting decency. There is a war on men, and a lot of us realized the best way to win is to let the toxic nature of evil people only harm other toxic people until they destroy each other. I got tired of being hated for my skin and sex, so I moved to the middle of nowhere and started building furniture. I was a psychologist.

Mythandros · 2020-09-20T17:59:29+00:00

I have yet to see one of the feminist controlled subs be anything but hateful and toxic. That's feminism for you.

oafsalot · 2020-09-20T18:43:16+00:00

I get banned from places for posting here. I doubt anyone ever read my posts though.

_tofs_ · 2020-09-20T16:36:49+00:00

Don’t worry about the NPCs, they are just following their programming, I’m not even kidding.

Lion_amongst_gods · 2020-09-20T18:14:14+00:00

A couple of days ago I was attacked and called an 'ape' in a feminist sub.

That's called the female privilege. When you project an image of victimhood, you can get away with a lot of things.

FinallyReborn · 2020-09-20T19:42:54+00:00

On every sub I have participated in there is hate towards this Subreddit, there was a post on r/iamatotalpieceofshit about a creepy man saying sexual unwarranted things to a random woman, obviously fucked. The top comment was something like "Post this to r/mensrights and you will get incels and misogynists defending him"

These women (men as well) consider any male-dominated sub, that focuses on gender issues a misogyny cesspool, they obviously haven't scrolled through this sub ever. Are sexist, and get triggered that there is a space for men to talk about gender issues, that aren't related to women. Or gatekeep hard, and see a sexist comment that has -50 downvotes, and relate that comment to the whole community. At least misogynistic comments on this Sub get downvoted, Misandristic comments on any feminist subreddit grants you dozens of upvotes lol.

Then they try and redirect you to r/MensLib, that sub is literally a feminist subreddit, every male issue on there comes down to the patriarchy, blaming men for their own issues, or "woman have it worse, so deal with it" lmao, of course, they would love that Subreddit.

jacksleepshere · 2020-09-20T20:00:39+00:00

The venn diagram of people that have never tried to the understand or even read the opinions and points raised on this sub, and the people that insult the people on this sub; is two circles, the latter inside the former.

zogins · 2020-09-20T18:51:22+00:00

It's kinda funny to think that ape is an insult, humans are apes.

Ogreblack · 2020-09-20T19:37:38+00:00

Well the difference is FDS/pinkpill and the like are hate centered, they congregate to hate. Men’s rights has become increasingly important and necessary as a defense to that hatred. Bullies don’t like to be talked back to so of course they have spun the narrative to try to make us look like the hate group. As far as reddit admin is concerned, anything anti-male is allowed, anything even criticizing a woman is hatred and banable.

Mens_rights_matter2 · 2020-09-20T19:52:56+00:00

Most of reddit seems to be liberal, left and feminist. I get hatred for my username when all I am saying is men’s rights matter too as in men’s rights matter just as much as women’s rights. I get called incel for it. Reddit, for the most part, is not a friendly place. Usually the negativity in this sub comes from trolls. Another great sub is r/menaregood

DizzyDeezler · 2020-09-20T23:08:42+00:00

i was banned for posting a comment in r/ female dating strategy. it was totally harmless, i promise. so when i got banned i DM'd the moderators and asked why i was banned. i was then met with berating insults on how i was a nazi, misogynistic, woman hater and the reason i was banned was that i was a member of this sub, r/ mens rights. so they either have a program, or some woman who is so angry that she scours every comment and post to see if those people are a part of r/ mens rights

cynoclast · 2020-09-20T22:01:21+00:00

Criticism of men is considered virtuous, criticism of men is considered misogyny. Welcome to the matriarchy! You'll be told it's a patriarchy.

2020-09-21T10:23:26+00:00

bUt YoUrE aN iNcEl AnD a MiSoGyNiSt PiEcE oF sHiT. In case it wasn't obvious, /s

XCoolCweepaX · 2020-09-20T20:25:37+00:00

Other subs: men, your opinion mean absolutely fucking nothing. Go kill yourself no one loves you.

People: yessss! You get em girl!

This sub: everyone is welcome and everyone has an opinion

People: FUCK YOU WTF IS WRONG WITH U

_ThankU-next · 2020-09-20T19:19:04+00:00

Women’s right subreddit be like NOOO YOU CANT JUST SUPPORT BOTH GENDERS!!!!11

bumblebuttpotato · 2020-09-20T21:15:39+00:00

I'm a woman and I've come to seriously despise modern feminism for this reason. The lack of accepting different perspectives and immediately shutting people down for an opposing opinion, calling people names, demonizing them, never even considering a discussion, and all while claiming to be an "equal rights" movement. Yeah, sure.

becmckeown · 2020-09-21T01:32:53+00:00

Even actual women get hate on that sub. I was banned from Feminism for pointing how every movement has loud toxic radicals that ruin it for everyone actually affected by the movement. The mods called me a terf because I included TRAs in the statement. What I said wasn't even transphobic.

I'm terrified I can't even speak my mind on a feminist page. Since the rise in TRAs, I get rape and death threats from using women inclusive language, including using the actual word woman. The movement has turned into a shitshow, and I've officially peaked.

iainmf · 2020-09-21T03:28:59+00:00

Virtue: Doing the right thing regardless of what people think

Virtue signalling: Doing something to look righteous to other people without thinking about if it is the right thing to do.

dikbum · 2020-09-20T18:44:20+00:00

Sex is used as a tool by women to control a relationship, good on you for supporting him. Women in feminist subs don't want equality, they use the past as an excuse (even though women have never been oppressed) to push for dominance.

All we seem to be doing is wanting the same rights that women afford we don't need to attack people or silence them to get our message across.

dontpet · 2020-09-20T19:55:51+00:00

I agree with you. I had a friend who you would describe as feminist and very prowomen look at this sub to give me examples of misogyny.

He pointed out that the steady stream of examples of bad behavior by women is the main issue. That and the generalisations often made in discussion here.

I agreed with him to some degree. I expect I'm in the minority here but I'll go on and explain.

I think women and women's advocates do need to come down a peg or two in the assumptions society holds. That women are wonderful effect is real. The men as villain effect is also powerful. Those two combined do a lot of damage.

I expect some of those posts about women behaving badly do activate anger. Hatred would be buried in there as well. We wouldn't be human if that hate didn't link to women in general.

sielnt_assassin · 2020-09-20T20:24:32+00:00

Unlike the other gender based subs we focus more on supporting each other compared to hating and attacking other people. I've seen more supportive and encouraging posts and comments here than toxic hateful ones. This sub gets hate because we talk about serious issues that society laughs and ridicules(male sexual assault and rape victims, and men's mental health) the modern Feminist movement has demonized men and anything supporting them.

FinallyReborn · 2020-09-20T19:22:57+00:00

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ASTRA-LUX · 2020-09-20T20:04:27+00:00

some people seem to think that members of this sub are alt-right radicals.

Don't waste your valuable time with such small, narrow minded individuals. Stay away from their toxicity.

jonnyhaldane · 2020-09-20T21:29:26+00:00

They are trying to shame you into being silent about men’s issues and men’s rights. Call them out on it. Ask them what’s wrong with discussing men’s rights. In my experience they either shut up or expose themselves as bigoted man-haters.

SonnBaz · 2020-09-20T22:07:20+00:00

It's a shaming tactic, always keep facts on hand and challenge them and watch their arguments fall apart when you embrace being a MRA and have facts to back you up.

EverydayEverynight01 · 2020-09-20T22:14:18+00:00

It's amazing how civil this sub is for it's age and numbers. This subreddit doesn't hate women like women/feminist-based subreddits like they hate men.

FuzzyWittleKitty · 2020-09-20T22:54:26+00:00

I don't understand why people investigate others to see what they are subbed to. Why?

If you're partaking in a sub, why investigate you? Why not just have a conversation with you based on what you're saying in that sub? It makes no sense to me. Why do people do that?

I never check to see what subs someone is a part of that I'm having some type of argument or discussion with. What would be the point? So I can generalize? Stereotype?

wsmith79 · 2020-09-20T22:55:25+00:00

^{thats because this sub is heavily moderated and its basically "Mens Rights" lite.}

We can talk about some stuff here , but not all, so it stays pretty quiet as a consequence

DG_GoldenBoy · 2020-09-21T00:01:24+00:00

Don’t let sad pathetic redditors discourage you or belittle you. Most people on this site are dirt bags

bog_deavil13 · 2020-09-21T00:07:15+00:00

Wanna join r/ape brother 😳

KaiserTom · 2020-09-21T02:34:49+00:00

You should know this sub gets targeted by the harassment extension Masstagger. The extension developer claims it's a hate sub so now it's a hate sub to anyone with the extension.

Playfair99999 · 2020-09-21T04:55:50+00:00

The Men's Right movement is seen by them as if the men are trying to diminish or belittle their feminist idealogies. Which is definitely the case. It's only to bring out the injustice and partiality done towards men. Cuz so much for Gender Equality. And if they don't understand that, they never were in their movement for equality to begin with, which was the whole reason of Feminism.

kaunText · 2020-09-21T05:58:54+00:00

I agree. It happened to me once that I was commenting on a sub (I don't remember what that was about, but I think I was siding with men) and someone looked into my profile and replied on my comments things like "Oh nvm, you are an MRA, so you're a huge loser and your opinions don't matter". (They then got trolled by other people).

But honestly, my only takeaway from that interaction was that I am an MRA. I hadn't thought of that before, I mean I had been talking about MR all the time but it was a different experience to be called an MRA by someone based on that. I was kind of happy.

Elfere · 2020-09-21T06:18:55+00:00

Yup. Ive been banned on subs for being on here. I get called a massogonist (sp?) and a... What's the word... Incel.

Like. Seriously? I'm taking care of 2 daughters, a wife, and my mom. And I love it.

How could I possibly be either of those things?

But. You know. Bigots don't listen to facts so I'll banned from half a dozen subs just for being a member here.

DrFateYeet · 2020-09-20T18:40:24+00:00

We're civilized

DanteLivra · 2020-09-20T19:52:05+00:00

Same situation here !

That situation simply shows how close minded those people are, since they didn't even bothered to check if the stereotype is true.

I guess it's another proof that men are stigmatized all the time. Since this sub is simply trying to picture a positive image of what masculinity is, yet it is shamed for being "ridiculous" "hateful" "sexist" etc... by "mainstream" subs.

Don't worry, most people will eventually open up when they see that the hateful minority are just as toxic as the totem they created.

MingSushi · 2020-09-20T21:13:04+00:00

I’m proud to be a MRA because it exposes feminists nature and how shitty society thinks and treats men. It’s eye rolling when they say “Well men created this system” or “You’re just talking about patriarchy” because by their own logic, patriarchy is supposed to hurt women and benefit men but at the same time men can get hurt and women benefit and it’s still patriarchy somehow or how suddenly women have no agency over how they participate in the system/culture keeping men down because “Patriarchy made them do it”

Supernumiphone · 2020-09-20T20:58:02+00:00

There are occasionally guys here who express hostile or negative views towards women. They tend to get downvoted, and often times they get responses clearly indicating that sort of thing is not welcome here. I see it as a very positive sort of self-policing. It doesn't usually take the form of an attack. More of a gentle rebuke, just a "c'mon bro, let's not go there."

I see this as an example of a very positive masculine trait. A positive, inclusive way of self-correcting. And yeah OP, I've noticed the stark contrast between this here, and what I see in opposing subs. The open, bald hate and negativity that is accepted in some of the subs which I suppose I shouldn't name, but some of which are default subs.

To see that going on there, and to know that there are subs that will silence or ban you for posting here...it's baffling and disappointing. It shows how effective the smearing tactics are that are used against this and other subs. People believe what they're told about them without investigating for themselves.

girraween · 2020-09-20T23:55:24+00:00

I was literally ghosted by a girl I went on few dates with because I posted that famous image of men’s issues with their stats (suicide etc) on my insta.

I had done Movember a few times in the past. I do it for the reasons of depression and suicide we see in men. Why those two? I’ve felt depressed and suicidal in the past, but it was really to do with my best mate who committed suicide back in 2011.

So she told me she ghosted me because I seem like an MRA. All because I showed some stats about men on international men’s day, in memory of a friend who died.

What a waste of my time. I don’t understand these people. They say that men are killing themselves because they don’t talk, but here I am, a man, talking about the issues, in memory of a mate, and apparently that’s bad!

What a shitty human being she was.

Edit: this is the link she posted to show me how wrong I was to even talk about men’s issues: https://oxfamblogs.org/fp2p/its-international-mens-day-tomorrow-heres-why-its-a-bad-idea/

So I got a little off course.

hottake_toothache · 2020-09-20T21:30:45+00:00

The left is all about shaming people.

MotherAce · 2020-09-20T20:44:31+00:00

This is my experience too. I'm fed this narrative that this sub is toxic and full of neanderthals, while a more "proper" place for mens right advocacy would be menslib or just shutting the fuck up and listen while the feminists preach.

Kinda reminds me of trying to argue how Pewdiepie is a really decent human being. Against people who have never seen his content, and only heard of him secondhand from the media. What is seemingly evident and obvious, seems somehow murky and nefarious if just enough "media" outlets have been lying about it.

I hate this propaganda cold war. Whatever happened to self-evident truths? No such thing?

chonkycat123 · 2020-09-20T20:14:31+00:00

Facts, my dude

Neveah_Hope_Dreams · 2020-09-20T20:40:16+00:00

Hell yeah!

qizhNotch · 2020-09-20T22:18:03+00:00

How long do you think people would track you down and harm you for being on certain communities?

docb30tn · 2020-09-20T22:51:13+00:00

Women tend to fall hard and lose their sanity after their fertility windows. Men can deal with being alone a lot better than 'those women types'.

gingermadlad2002 · 2020-09-20T22:59:33+00:00

I get shit for being part of r/monarchism but they are one of the few political subs that aren’t a shitshow. They actually have civilised conversation

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megamang83 · 2020-09-20T23:36:50+00:00

They'll never understand or appreciate what supporting each other really is or even means.

omarrr17 · 2020-09-21T00:19:29+00:00

youre right, but its about being better. we always criticize what they do so we shouldn't slip to their level.

noneseriously · 2020-09-21T01:22:21+00:00

Don't worry about it bro, they're in pain. They're gonna call you a lot 'o things, that's the pain talking. Its not you, its them...trust me on that one. Remember, hurt people - hurt people.

Nostradomas · 2020-09-21T01:37:47+00:00

Same.

make_love_not_war_ · 2020-09-21T02:00:07+00:00

Just don’t give in to their anger no matter what they say respond with love and respect be strong enough to take the high road

WillMeatLover · 2020-09-21T02:34:47+00:00

A couple of days ago I was attacked and called an 'ape' in a feminist sub. A man was feeling guilty for doing what is perfectly natural in sex and I tried to reassure him.

I tried to find the post you were talking about, but you post a lot, I'm not sure if I did find it but I found something like that, and I don't have the patience to read through such unbelievably dumb shit like a guy wondering if he is a rapist because he came in his girlfriend during consensual sex after she said she was on the pill. And then all the rabid retard feminists are saying yes he is a rapist.

Yeah, this subreddit definitely isn't as bad as that type of shit. Such fucking stupid and selfish people.

omegaphallic · 2020-09-21T02:58:00+00:00

I've been there, where someone will attack in an unrelated subject thread for being a member of this sub, but they do it from a place of ignorance , because they have this false idea in their minds about what this sub is about.

Charon-VII · 2020-09-23T12:32:39+00:00

If someone insults you or calls you a name for your beliefs you call them a jackass and walk away. There is no use in discussing anything with people who are incapable of providing evidence or using intellect so they resort to name calling.

orbitaldecayed · 2020-10-07T18:27:09+00:00

This sub skews older than most of reddit so were more reasonable. Youngun’s are hepped up on goofballs.

thefudmaster · 2020-09-20T20:26:30+00:00

It is mild compared to others because feminists and radical left folks are completely intolerant while preaching tolerance.

empatheticapathetic · 2020-09-20T21:19:36+00:00

Tells you all you need to know about how fair they are trying to play the game (I.e. not at all).

qtyapa · 2020-09-20T21:25:03+00:00

I was starting to date(only phone calls) this "doctor" and she laughed when I said I am a member of this sub, ofcourse that was the last call i had with her.

sprungchain12 · 2020-09-20T22:17:32+00:00

That's because our rights don't matter.

I have nothing against REAL feminists and my female friends never mind when I point out a sexist thing they said or did but when it's us who slips up it's the biggest deal.

We are expendable we are recyclable and as long as there are enough men to fight in endless wars and do the dirty work it won't be an issue.

elentiyya_ · 2020-09-21T00:26:07+00:00

I joined this sub bc I was attacked by radical feminists for my beliefs, and I decided to join both sides and see for myself. From what I have observed, this sub is much more civil, chill and it brings into attention topics the point of which “you should recognize that this is a problem and potentially start finding ways to fix it” rather than “this men did this disgusting thing, hate men”

Dr_Papernipples · 2020-09-21T01:03:38+00:00

Just hit em with the “you’re probably an overweight insecure self-pitying woman, the closest thing you came to dick was standing next to a dude named Richard and because you don’t take care of yourself people find you unattractive so now you’ve made it your life mission to shame men at every turn and the only love you receive in your life is probably the 7 cats you have in your house but lets be honest they only love you because you feed them 4 times a day because having fat cats makes you feel better about your watermelon body shape.”

2020-09-20T22:32:25+00:00

Which feminist sub?

StevenInTheAM · 2020-09-20T19:37:04+00:00

Honestly seen some comments that give out incel energy

Title	This sub is so mild and polite compared to some opposing sites and yet I still get insulted for being part of r/MensRights
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Date	September 20, 2020 2:31 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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