Been divorced for two years now. Ran into my ex at the post office of all places after no contact for over a year. She’s now engaged to a doctor, she got promoted to a VP role, and she’s enjoying living in the house I found and renovated. She’s also in the best shape of her life.

Meanwhile, I was in an accident and have gained 25 lbs partly due to an injury (doctor said no lifting for at least another 6 mts) as well as just being down, am looking for a new job (gave up my career for her), and dating hasn’t been kind to me (I’m a short Cambodian-American with no hair. My profile doesn’t exactly jump at people I assume).

How do some of you guys cope? I’m 46 and miss physical intimacy. My ex was my best friend until she morphed into a different creature when she got a new job and befriended a bunch of divorcees and cat ladies.

Was overseas to clear my head in Asia, and thinking of going back again, but I feel like I’m just running away from my problems there and kicking the can.

Like many here, it feels surreal still that I’m alone again at this point in my life.