If you are already a self-confident person and rarely have insecurities about the way you look then this post isn’t for you. I am mainly writing this for the guys who believe that the reason they are not having success is because they are unattractive.

The truth is that a lot of guys focus way too much on whether they are attractive or not. This is amplified in the modern day because guys are constantly comparing themselves to other attractive guys on social media. Social media is very superficial. Also there are ideologies like incels and black-pill, which basically cause men to blame all their unhappiness and lack of success with women on things outside of their control.

A lot of guys fail to realize their potential because they focus on things outside of their control, instead of things in their control. Most guys have the ability to attract women, but they shoot themselves in the foot by being insecure and having an extremely negative mindset. The truth is that the most unattractive thing about a man is not his appearance, but his insecurity. Women can smell insecurity from a mile away, and it doesn’t matter how attractive you are physically. If you are insecure then you can say goodbye to 95% of women. Most guys simply need to be more confident.

Additionally, most guys come off as super needy and people pleasers. These are the traits of the stereotypical “nice guy”. Most men lack the abundance mindset, not realizing that there are multiple female options all over the world. When you think that there are little to none women out there for you then not only do you subconsciously set yourself up to see less opportunities, but women also pick up on your desperation and neediness, so it repels them.

Most guys also care way too much about how they need to act, what they need to say, and how need to look to attract women. The untold truth is that you just need to be yourself. You just need to be confident with who you are. Women love that shit. Stop thinking so much about the outcome. Stop trying to “avoid rejection”. The chance of rejection is always there, but the reason the girl rejects you generally has nothing to do with you, so don’t take it personally. If you get rejected, even multiple times, it’s not a big deal. Just move on. Instead of focusing on impressing the girl, focus on enjoying the moment and playing off of her feminine energy. Feel the sexual tension. Each time you talk to a girl you are getting better at flirting. So every time you talk to a girl is a win, even if she rejects you. You only lose when you don’t make your move.

You only live once, so make the most of it while you are here. Instead of being a loser who consistently blames everything outside his control for his lack of success, be the charismatic god that women want to be around. Eventually, you will have the skills to wheel in most girls of your choice.