Definition: A woman who cancels on your scheduled date. Although flaking can occur anytime, for this guide I am going to focus on when a girl cancels on your FIRST date (meaning a time and a place have both been agreed upon by both parties) since this is the most common.

0-30 minutes before a date

Scenario #1: Stood up; no text, no phone call, no e-mail- Biggest sin possible. Your time is too valuable. Never talk to this she-devil woman again. NEVER.

Scenario #2: Cancellation message sent, but no excuse or reschedule- You're seriously considering trying to meet up withl this girl again? NEVER. NEXT. No girl is allowed to treat us like that.

Scenario #3: Cancellation message sent with VALID (and confirmable) excuse: If the excuse is valid (see: death, car accident, shark attack) send a "Hope everything is ok, I'll call you next week" text and gauge her response. Then follow up if you deem her worthy of your presence. Bonus: if she offers the reschedule for you, then you are good to go.

31 minutes - 4 hours before date

Scenario #1: Cancellation message sent, but no excuse or reschedule- Wait..... don't reply to her text for at least 20-30 minutes. Let her mind race... "Did he get the text?" "Did it not go through?" "Does he think the date is still on?" Sometimes she will respond back with a couple of urgent texts (she may provide a valid excuse in her follow up texts). At this point you can reengage based on her response or your own standards. (personally, I would not allow her to cancel on me without a valid excuse).

Scenario #2: Cancellation message sent with VALID excuse: Proceed with caution. Possible serial flake. Allow her to flake ONCE, but that is all she gets. Once again, it s best to wait 20-30 minutes to text her to to let her sweat a bit. It is your judgment if you want to reengage 2 - 4 days later based on your standards (personally, I would allow it giving her the benefit of the doubt).

Scenario #3: Cancellation message sent with reschedule request: Once again, allow her to flake ONCE, but that is all she gets. Accept her reschedule time and work from there.

4 hours - 24 hours before date

Scenario #1: Cancellation message sent, but no excuse or reschedule- You didn't build enough rapport/comfort with her when you # closed. You can try to reengage in 2-4 days, but results will most likely be sub par. Best to move on.

Scenario #2: Cancellation message sent with VALID excuse: She gave you ample time and a valid excuse. It's fine, scheduling conflicts pop up now and then. This is her one free pass. Just don't let her do it to you again. A text, "NP, you owe me one. I'll call you later this week to reschedule" should do the trick.

Scenario #3: Cancellation message sent with reschedule request: It's fine. Tease her, accept her reschedule time and work from there.

24+ before date

Scenario #1: Cancellation message sent, but no excuse or reschedule- You didn't build enough rapport/comfort with her when you # closed. You can try to reengage in 2-4 days, but results will most likely be sub par. Best to move on.

Scenario #2: Cancellation message sent with VALID excuse: You be the judge. It could be a lack of interest in the date or it could be an actual flake. Look for context clues in her message. If it is a valid excuse, reschedule. If it is a flimsy excuse, most likely you didn't build enough rapport/comfort with her when you # closed. Put her on the back burner while you pursue other women.

Scenario #3: Cancellation message sent with reschedule request: It's fine. Tease her, accept her reschedule time and work from there.

IMPORTANT!!! This is just a guide, not a 100% guaranteed sacred text. There are always outliers and exceptions to the rule. This guide should be helpful for the largest part of the bell-curve though. The key is in the context of how she flakes. Did she call? Did she have a VALID excuse? Did she attempt to reschedule? What was the tone of the message? Was it apologetic? Did it really seem like she was sorry she had to cancel? Did she respect your time?

In the end, the choice to pursue a girl who flakes is up to you and how much you respect yourself and your time. The higher value you give yourself, the less likely you are to accept a flake or a flimsy excuse.

I will edit/amend this with help from you guys. If there is anything you would change, let me know.

EDIT 1: removed the word "confirmable" from the portions about her excuse. As pointed out by rondeline- there is no need to "confirm" if her excuse was true or not. Just go with your gut on it. You make the judgement on whether it was valid or not and whether you would like to continue to pursue her.