Again, I find myself reacting to some "how to" advice that appeared on Seddit, giving some people helpful advice about how to pass their days as pleasantly as possible while they're dating a harpy.

My question is, why are you dating this kind of woman?

This ultimately goes back to the concept of the shit test.

See, there's a lot of advice here about shit tests and how to pass them. The advice, by itself, isn't bad. Most of it is about having a backbone, maintaining frame, not letting another person's actions affect who you are, and always having the will and wisdom to walk away from a bad deal.

See, that last part is what everyone forgets, because they get so invested in "winning" the shit test that they don't realize that it's a shitty game, and the prize at the end is that you get to spend even more time with an unbearable succubus.

You get into a relationship with an HB8.5, and suddenly the rules go out the window. Suddenly, you're making excuses for her behavior, because you don't wanna lose her.

We have a word for that. It's called oneitis. And passing shit tests doesn't cure it.

Without the will to walk away from a bad deal, just because she looks pretty or does that thing you like with the bacon grease and the three-pronged dildo, you've lost in LIFE.

And the worst thing about oneitis is that it becomes how you operate in your whole life. You understand that? That it no longer extends to just you and this woman?

That there is something wrong with your LIFE if you let ANYONE mistreat you like this and you just stand there and take it?

If you're the kind of guy who thinks "how do I pass this shit test," you need to ask yourself first "is this woman even worth it?"

Just because you let someone peg you on "your terms" doesn't mean you're not getting fucked in the ass. Don't ever forget that.