I just want to pop in and say that a huge 'thank you' to all of you for being part of this sub, whatever the reason is. I can't thank you enough.

For all of you out there that are anxious about still being a virgin, I have to say: seriously, I realized that it really not a big deal.

Okay, I hear you say: 'It's easy to say now, you just had sex.' But I mean it. The pressure and fear that I felt because of that, it was all in my head. It's all in YOUR head. It's a big deal to you because you make it a big deal. But in the end, if you think about it, it's just skin touching some other skin, nothing fancy. (that doesn't mean it's not fun though!)

Here is what I did to get there:

I came here in a moment of despair, after having little to no relationships with girls for my entire life. I used to think I was ugly because of school bullying when I was young. I had the 'nice guy' syndrome, agreeing with everybody all the time to avoid any confrontation. I had a lot of 'friends' because of that, but nothing very personal because I wouldn't open myself up.

And then about a year and a half ago, after falling for yet another oneitis, I told myself: enough is enough.

I started by reading Mark Manson's Models, which told me exactly what I needed to hear, cutting through bullshit information available everywhere.

Then after that, I started working on my inner game. I realized that the greatest cockblock I had was myself by far. I was so afraid to feel rejected that I never made any move and I threw away every opportunity I had because I was constantly telling me that no girl could possibly find me attractive, so I was probably misreading the Indicators Of Interest.

I started lifting. Nothing huge, twice or three times a week. I'm really not super beef, and I don't care. All I wanted was to stop being a fucking twig, which I did. I developped a lot of confidence because of that; it made me feel handsome for the first time, little by little. I also tried meditation, on and off since then. I'm not a huge praticer, but it gave me an objective view of myself that was really useful to find the flaws I had in order to fix them.

Then, I did the hardest part: I tried to stop being outcome dependant. I went with the flow. If things were not going the way I wanted, I made a very conscious effort to get over it. And shit, that was so hard. I realized that I had such a strong ego to break apart. I won't lie to you, it still comes back every now and then (after all, I'm only human). But now, when it strikes hard, I notice it a lot more quickly and I can shut it down. The best part is, it only gets better with time.

And then one day (in fact, yesterday), after all that hard work came the reward.

So despite all the hate that reddit tends to get sometimes, I'm very grateful that I came across this site, and particularly /r/seduction. You guys helped me become a better man, and I am absolutely happier now. Thank you.

TL;DR: I did it, I'm super happy, but really, don't stress over it too much. All it takes is work on yourself. It will be the single, biggest challenge of your life, but trust me, it is absolutely worth every amout of work that you put in it. You'll be way happier in the end.