What is something that were wrong about ?

Large-Signal-157 · 2024-07-18T00:39:24+00:00

Plenty of times. I won’t go into detail because it will 100% be picked apart especially on PPD, but I’ve eaten crow plenty of times.

LiftSushiDallas · 2024-07-18T00:51:39+00:00

I practice radical self-ownership so when I am wrong I immediately take responsibility and as the concept suggests, own it.

In past relationships I was quick to acknowledge if I was wrong, such as interrupting, making assumptions, being short, etc.

I practice radical self-ownership in ALL areas of my life and it's been freeing as well as productive.

Makuta_Servaela · 2024-07-18T03:45:11+00:00

No one is perfect.

I think the idea of "women have a hard time admitting failures" comes from the high standards thing. It's a meme that if a man fails in most things, he's just considered an individual failure or having individually failed, while if a woman fails, it's used as an excuse as to why women are stupid and useless out of the house, etc, etc.

Mentathiel · 2024-07-18T01:04:56+00:00

Sometimes I accuse people of having bad intentions when they don't. I just feel insecure about something and am interpreting their words as attacking me when they aren't. I do feel remorse and apologize.

I also sometimes avoid confrontation when I shouldn't. Which means I deny people opportunities to improve whatever the thing is, but get angry silently instead. And then I am way more frustrated by the time I do decide to tell them about it, so I communicate the thing more harshly and am somewhat angry they didn't already know.

Those come to mind off the top of my head because I've done them recently to men I care about. I don't want to go into more detail than that though.

I once paid my bff's crush in elementary school to make graffiti for her bday and the only condition was that it's not pink. He had a friend do it instead of him and it was pink. I called him on the phone and was really rude about how awful it was. I was like 13, for some reason I still remember this and cringe lol. Sure, he didn't honor the deal, but there were better ways to communicate frustration. He was one of the only kids in his class who didn't bully me over a crush on his classmate too, which makes it extra bad. Hope that dude is doing okay lol.

half3mptyhalffull · 2024-07-18T02:18:59+00:00

im not good at telling people how i feel unless they ask me. so if my husband is doing/saying something thats really frustrating me or hurting my feelings (generally something thats not objectively wrong), it typically takes me about 2-3 weeks before i tell him, and by then im way more upset than i wouldve been if id just said something the first time.

this really frustrates him because hed much rather me tell him the first time, which is totally valid. its somthing im working on and getting better at, but currently i still handle it poorly about 1/2 the time.

not my only flaw, but definitely the most obvious to me rn.

AngeCruelle · 2024-07-18T02:33:20+00:00

I fully acknowledge that the end of my first relationship was a result of my own irrational insecurity and I spent quite some time working on that before I dated again

ATasteofTx214 · 2024-07-18T01:27:17+00:00

I have no idea what men want, literally never even gave it a thought until manosphere and groups like this. Im extremely self-centered n relationships and figure if he's here, he's happy. And of course, men don't initiate breakups, so who knows how many endured negative emotions that i held against him because he wasn't entertaining and validating me enough.

NothingOrAllLife · 2024-07-18T01:05:10+00:00

Ive been wrong a bunch of times. But If you want a specific example of me being wrong in the context of a relationship.

I once got tickets for something for me and a guy I was seeing. I was hounding him all day because I was sure we needed to leave to beat traffic or else we were going to be late causing us to not be able to get seated.

We left early. Got there wayyyy too early and had to sit and waste about two hours…I apologized, told him he was right and we had a good time.

Queen_BW · 2024-07-18T07:12:19+00:00

I was toxic AF when I was younger. I was in the popular crowd in school and was a mean girl. The three bfs I had were total chads and we had very toxic relationships, I was addicted to drama.

I was pretty and from a well known family in my city. I loved getting my way and pissing people off. I made two guys break up with their gfs and then dumped them for being idiots.

Karma got me in my 30s and after a couple years of severe depression I focused on healing and what I really wanted. I changed most everything about me, made new friends, stopped being so shallow and focused on making healthy connections. Im genuinely happy now :) more than ive ever been.

DreaminInChocolate · 2024-07-18T01:14:02+00:00

Of course, but I can't remember the last time my partner or myself apologized to the other person for anything that mattered. I apologized many times early in our relationship for going straight to screaming and escalating when l felt afraid. Thankfully therapy helped me get rid of that and understand why I was doing it. We're usually both thoughtful about our interactions and agree on nearly everything. We both apologize to our kids multiple times a day over every small mistake and they do the same. It's important to show them that it's okay to say you were wrong or you made a mistake. The last time was probably along the lines of sorry, I didn't mean to interrupt you or sorry I was running late. Polite manners are about as deep as it gets in our home with needing to apologize.

EulenWatcher · 2024-07-18T02:43:12+00:00

Sure. No one is a saint and we all fuck up sometimes. I have mild OCD and I know that it makes it harder to live with me. It's something I try to work on, but I can't go on therapy right now. I don't like the fact that husband has to deal with it with me, but I do appreciate that he's understanding of my problem and that he puts his efforts to help me.

I'm usually pretty level-headed, but I can be cross or rude when I'm really stressed or tired, but I do apologize for these instances.

Sometimes I just forget to do things around the house and it can irritate my husband. I apologize and do whatever I forgot.

januaryphilosopher · 2024-07-18T05:58:19+00:00

Yesterday my husband and I were going to see an art exhibition at my school, but I found out I messed up and it wasn't open to the public that day.

MiddleZealousideal89 · 2024-07-18T07:55:27+00:00

Oh, I've fucked up plenty of times. I've been too clingy, too jealous, didn't give people the benefit of the doubt when they deserved it, I didn't acknowledge my mental health issues and insecurities for a long time. I've apologized to a few people for that stuff, we're good now.

howdoiw0rkthisthing · 2024-07-18T01:56:12+00:00

I think this is kind of ridiculous so what’s your response ?

Yeah, it is

Have you ever done something wrong ?

Of course, probably every day

Did you feel remorse for it ?

Of course

Did you try to make it up to the person you wronged ?

I certainly try, I can’t say my efforts are successful or sufficient.

gloomette · 2024-07-18T00:54:45+00:00

Hmm. Yes. But it wasn’t until years later I realized I was in the wrong. I would apologize but I haven’t seen them in years and I have no way to contact them. I still feel pangs of remorse here and there. Anyway, I think I got my karma in the end.

HighestTierMaslow · 2024-07-18T04:18:39+00:00

There is a terrible question for women to answer. We get so much hate here. My now husband had so much crap on his SM when we first met with his ex fiance but seemed to not want me on his when we been dating awhile. Turns out his ex is SM obsessed, she is it's one of her many ways to show narcissism, and it wasn't a reflection on me.

Planthoe30 · 2024-07-18T05:40:22+00:00

I microwaved some ants once.

SaBahRub · 2024-07-18T00:53:38+00:00

Obviously I have many been wrong many times and apologized for it.

I wouldn’t have friends, an education, jobs or family if I couldn’t, because I am not hot, rich, talented or famous

AutoModerator · 2024-07-18T00:26:53+00:00

Attention!

You can post off topic/jokes/puns as a comment to this Automoderator message.
For "Debate" and "Question for X" Threads: Parent comments that aren't from the target group will be removed, along with their child replies.
If you want to agree with OP instead of challenging their view or if the question is not targeted at you, post it as an answer to this comment.
OP you can choose your own flair according to these guidelines., just press Flair under your post!

Thanks for your cooperation and enjoy the discussion!

I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.

Nearbykingsmourne · 2024-07-18T11:13:34+00:00

Oh yeah, I used to be really homophobic.

I've grown a lot :D

attendquoi · 2024-07-18T14:10:14+00:00

I don't know if I'd call it "wrong"...but I'm both extremely judgmental AND picky about who I associate with. I'm sure I've hurt many people by simply cutting them off, but I just don't have an interest in hanging out second chances when so many people haven't even gotten a first chance with me.

Siukslinis_acc · 2024-07-18T15:51:29+00:00

I realised that I was enabing a friend, thus contributing to the worsening of their mental health. Me not having boundaries and trying to please them (in order to stop their hurt as their hurt was hurting me) made me abandon myself, which over time started to have a toll on my mental health. And that contributed to their mental health as I could not emotionally support them (as my energy was used to stay concious).

As the saying goes "the road to hell is paved in good intentions".

I had ended the friendship for the sake of my own mental health. There is still a want to interact with them (and wanting to help them), but I realise that me trying to help was enabling their bad behaviours, so I think it's better if the friendship is not ressurected.

waffleznstuff30 · 2024-07-18T05:06:41+00:00

A lot of things. I'm not going to get mercilessly dogged on PPD for admitting all my sins. But I have made a lot of mistakes and have been wrong.

And admitted when I am wrong. It's my cross to bare. But mistakes also add growth and that growth is crucial to going forward in life.

Title	What is something that were wrong about ?
Author	IH8YTSGTS
Upvotes	2
Comments	65
Date	July 18, 2024 12:26 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/1e5y0pb/what_is_something_that_were_wrong_about/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/PurplePillDebate/what-is-something-that-were-wrong-about.1524566 https://theredarchive.com/post/1524566

Comments