The strongest resource women possess in the dating market is sex, while the strongest resource men have is commitment. It's no secret that women employ a calculated strategy when it comes to relationships. They tend to prioritize and desire a minority of men they find intensely attractive—the ones they truly lust after. These men, often referred to as "Alpha F*cks" (AF), are showered with quick hookups and eager attention. Conversely, when a woman's perceived value in the dating market declines, she gravitates toward the "Beta Bucks" (BB)—a dependable man who provides stability and resources. Unlike the AF, the BB often had to work harder to gain sexual access because he wasn’t as lusted after. This dual strategy allows women to enjoy the best of both worlds: passion with the AF and security with the BB.

Rather than resenting this approach, men can take a page out of the same playbook. Men should develop their own filtering system: a counterpart to AF/BB that separates casual relationships (the "pump and dump") from those worthy of long-term investment (the "commitment girl").

Why is this so important? The value of being a boyfriend or committing to a relationship has significantly diminished for men, while the costs—time, energy, and resources—remain high. As a result, just as women evaluate men based on their levels of attraction and status, men should evaluate women based on their suitability for a relationship.

The truth is, most women are physically "hookup-able," but only a minority are truly worth the effort of a relationship. Men should date, sleep with, and interact with a variety of women to satisfy their needs and learn from these experiences. However, serious commitment should be reserved for a rare type of woman: the "Hot Stacy."

Hot Stacy is a young, attractive woman with a great physique, glowing skin, and an overall appealing appearance. Beyond her looks, she also brings value by genuinely caring about her partner. Most importantly, her physical beauty makes her less susceptible to Exalted Partner Fixation—an over-attachment to a past romantic partner that interferes with present relationships.

In short, Hot Stacy is a high-value woman who deserves the full package: emotional support, protection, and provision. On the other hand, "Mid Betty"—a woman who is average in appearance and effort—has limited value beyond serving as a temporary outlet for sexual gratification.

If you’re going to take on the role of a boyfriend—a role that has become increasingly high-risk for men—make sure it’s for someone exceptional. Commit to someone who brings undeniable value to your life. And if you can’t attract a Hot Stacy right now, don’t settle for Mid Betty. Instead, work on yourself until you become a high-value man (HVM) capable of attracting a high-value woman (HVW).

By adopting this mindset, men can reclaim their priorities, protect their resources, and ensure their commitment goes to someone who truly deserves it. Don’t waste your time settling—strive for the best and build yourself to match that standard.