Q4M: Would you be receptive to feedback on your appearance from your women?

wtknight · 2025-04-18T14:41:54+00:00

Removed. No posts about looks.

TraditionalPen2076 · 2025-04-18T10:52:08+00:00

Women don't wear makeup for men

It invalidates the time, money, effort, and skill she put in to appear more attractive

Kindly choose one.

Dissentient · 2025-04-18T11:53:59+00:00

If I cared about attracting women, I would follow advice from the kind of women I would want to attract, but unsolicited advice from random women I don't care about wouldn't be welcome.

If I had a partner, I would be willing to change my appearance to match her preferences as long as it's something I don't hate.

But since I'm single and planning to stay single, everything I do to my body or wear is for my own comfort.

Life-Income2986 · 2025-04-18T06:51:15+00:00

If a person is accompanying me out in public their opinion regarding my appearance is solicited.

AssPlay69420 · 2025-04-18T11:12:32+00:00

absolutely

i’m not naturally that gifted at the aesthetics piece, so any pointers are welcome

i even seek them out

codgas · 2025-04-18T12:01:15+00:00

Did you really expect any man to say anything other than "yeah sure, why not?" Lmao.

Personally I don't just "not mind it" I appreciate it when my girlfriend points out something.

Fan_Service_3703 · 2025-04-18T06:53:05+00:00

My girlfriend is very clear she only likes me when I'm clean shaven. It's a non-negotiable for her.

Peter_Andre_IQ · 2025-04-18T06:56:36+00:00

I wouldn't be offended, but my wife(and many women) does not fully get why some things look good on men and other do not :) The answer is - quality, male clothes are simple so the quality (color, fabric, shape) is doing the job, cheap t-shirts(like h&M) lose their form quickly, cheap trousers do not fit etc. My wife knows that something is wrong but she cannot tell why.

Peeloin · 2025-04-18T07:04:02+00:00

Depends on how they say it, there is a way to say something would look better on me that isn't rude. I don't mind receiving advice on my appearance. I mean, I don't have to take it if I really don't want to. I wouldn't be offended if someone said, "I think you'd look better with a beard." I don't have to grow one, and it's subjective. I wouldn't be offended by someone saying something about how they think a particular haircut or shirt would look better on me than what I am currently wearing, especially if it is from a significant other who ideally would be a person who wants the best for me.

Mick427 · 2025-04-18T07:05:42+00:00

Women don't wear makeup for men

If you don't wear it when no men are present, then we might start believing you.

We definitely know that you don't wear it for your partner, that's a provable fact.

No women believes men can tell if a woman has no makeup on or if it's just "natural makeup"

No man cares

So I'm curious, would you be receptive to unsolicited feedback from your SO while you're getting ready to go out? Like if she said you'd look better if you shaved the beard.

Never met a woman who didn't give unsolicited advice on men's looks and grooming standards.

Wouldn't you also be offended?

I honestly don't have time to be constantly offended at what women do or don't do.

Personally I'd just wish you lot would grow the hell up.

A man telling you that you look good without makeup is a damn compliment, take it or leave it, but for the love of God shut up about it!

reallinustorvalds · 2025-04-18T08:41:33+00:00

Women don't wear makeup for men

It's crazy that women still say this shit and expect men to take them seriously. How is it even possible to be this deluded?

You are lying to yourself. Get a grip.

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Downtown_Werewolf_44 · 2025-04-18T07:28:23+00:00

Of course I would, it's always nice to have some feedback. I love when my girlfriend tell me things like "You should wear this outfit tonight, it makes you look so hot". I changed a lot of things about my appearance and my cloths based on my partners feedback.

But not only that; No women believes men can tell if a woman has no makeup on or if it's just "natural makeup"

I think that's a mistake to see it that way. I believe most men aren't that clueless (some definitely are though...). But saying things like "I could have swear you weren't wearing any make-up" is always well received so we kind of play that card (I know I do).

thedarkracer · 2025-04-18T08:11:13+00:00

Yeah I would. But I already know what kinda feedback that will be.

_Hedaox_ · 2025-04-18T08:57:53+00:00

Not really, people wear makeup to appear more attractive that they naturally are. Be it for themselves or for others. If the goal is to be more attractive to men in general, you need to go for natural and minimalistic makeup or no make-up at all. If the goal is to feel better about yourself, you can do whatever you want.
Most men find you more attractive without the heavy makeup, the amount of effort is not relevant on what attracts men. Would you care or find attractive a man just because he paid a lot of money for gym equipment ?
No from most men perspective, you look better without. Forcing them to say that, is forcing them to lie.

I mean if a woman have red lips 💋, you can easily tell. If they have natural makeup, yeah it's harder if done well.

Yes Yes Yes Yes Yes Yes Yes. It can be unsolicited, I don't really care. I appreciate when my partner express their preferences, I want to appear attractive to them. I wouldn't feel offended at all. Doesn't mean I will necessarily do it, but if I agree with them in some degrees, I'm totally open to change. For example beard length, I wouldn't mind at all because I like both. But moustache is not my thing so I wouldn't do that, unless it's a special day and I want to please my partner (the example is something that really happened to me with a partner where I had the moustache for a few days for them).

However, I don't recommend anyone to just go and give unsolicited advice, especially to strangers. That's just being an asshole. Also I wouldn't recommend to do it with a partner that is uncomfortable with that.

Lift_and_Lurk · 2025-04-18T12:59:50+00:00

I always took into consideration, if a person I was with liked a certain thing I wore or a style or grooming habit.

DumbWordsmith · 2025-04-18T13:02:35+00:00

I don't care. I keep myself well-groomed. If they don't like how I look at my best, then they can move on.

Popular-Cabinet-3039 · 2025-04-18T14:04:12+00:00

No, for three reasons:

I don’t cultivate my appearance for women’s benefit.
I interact with women as little as possible.
If I wanted feedback on my appearance, a woman’s would be much less valuable than a man’s.

No-Ground604 · 2025-04-18T14:13:51+00:00

yes, but probably not for the same reasons they’d discount it. i think lot of women view it as a lack of credibility on men’s part in a very literal sense, you have never tried it so you can’t understand it so even if you’re well intentioned you’re too ignorant to say anything meaningful abt it. i think women think themselves to be misunderstood by men broadly from this line of thinking, similar to say that a man shouldn’t have opinions on abortion bc he can’t get pregnant- or the ones that take it a step further and sag a man can’t be a feminist even if he is an ally bc he literally can’t understand the lived experiences.

regardless of the validity that, i don’t think men broadly view themselves of incapable of being misunderstood by women so we wouldn’t answer the same question from the same place. i can say for myself and i believe for a lot of guys, i would value my wife’s opinion on my looks regardless of if she knows what it’s like to be fashionable from a man’s perspective simply bc i value her opinion more than i value “women’s” opinions as a societal concept anyway. so if she tells me i’d look better without a beard, i would respond to the individual and not collective. its not women saying this, its my wife saying it, and i want to look good for her so i am likely to do what she says.

even though i understand women’s logic, what i don’t get is their struggle with categorising. i don’t value women’s opinions broadly on male fashion, especially as a man who is into fashion i think i can say with a high degree of confidence that most women (and men) literally don’t know enough abt fashion to know what makes men’s fashion unique from their own to a high enough degree to offer substantial critique. anything they have to say would ultimately boil down to giving their personal opinions to say i like or don’t like x, which again is meaningless cause i only want to hear those things from my wife and not strangers

so what makes less sense to me is the inverse of that where a woman will be speaking with her man/husband/boyfriend, someone who’s opinion she DOES value insofar as she allows it to affect her personality and behaviours in life, but perceive him saying he doesn’t care abt her wearing makeup as him just performing his gender, and not the genuine thoughts of her boyfriend that may just happen to align with the norm. regardless of why, i think the messenger should always matter more than the message insofar as how you let other ppl’s thoughts affect your life

NockerJoe · 2025-04-18T07:09:06+00:00

My girlfriend comments on how my beard is styled all the time. It doesn't dictate how I do it all the time since her preferred length is a little uncomfortable for me, but I will give it a while to stay that long before a trim fairly often. Likewise sometimes I'll pitch an idea for hair or nails or something and while I don't expect her to necessarily go with it, it may influence her decision sometimes.

In an actual relationship between two adults who try to act like adults there's some understanding that the person you spend all your time around thats attracted to you is going to have an opinion on how you look. They don't get to dictate your look but if you get mad that they're attracted to characteristics they themselves don't possess the literally what the fuck are you doing in a heterosexual relationship?

Psykotyrant · 2025-04-18T07:13:14+00:00

No need to ask for women when the responses will always be some variable flavor of “everything about your appearance is absolute trash, also don’t you dare make the slightest criticism about ME because I’m obviously perfect in every way shape or form”.

Title	Q4M: Would you be receptive to feedback on your appearance from your women?
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Date	April 18, 2025 6:43 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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