to the pros here, You go to a house party you barely know anyone and in the distance in kitchen there's a girl all by herself.

bagman_ · 2026-02-02T16:26:57+00:00

“This the time out corner?”

UnkemptGoose339 · 2026-02-02T16:23:06+00:00

Approach. Stop thinking about this so much and actually go out and approach people.

ChicoBrillo · 2026-02-02T17:44:02+00:00

Walk up to her "UNGHGHH" shit on the floor, walk away

hunterpua · 2026-02-02T16:25:43+00:00

How many times have you actually approached a girl in this situation or have you just been guessing how you think girls are "likely" to react to different things you could say?

FearInoculumTool · 2026-02-02T16:17:23+00:00

Have you tried: “Hey, I’m (insert your name here), what’s your name?”

Pickledsundae · 2026-02-02T16:45:26+00:00

"the voices in my head told me to come over and talk to you"

entremesmains38 · 2026-02-02T17:04:23+00:00

"French fries, or potato wedges?"

RedPillAlphaBigCock · 2026-02-02T19:24:31+00:00

You do NOT need to be a “pro” , you just need to be a normal authentic person . The opener doesn’t matter almost at all . It’s like landing a plane , it’s going to be bumpy . It’s the PERSON you are behind the words . You can just open with almost anything . “ good night ?” , “ do you know anyone here “ , “hi “ .

norwegiandoggo · 2026-02-02T16:57:26+00:00

I would probably go in with an observational opener, and prod her a bit on whether she prefers privacy or if she's not too happy in crowds.

Something like "Did you need some space from the crowd?" If she says "yes" I would go "me too, it can get too loud in there sometimes... I'm NAME"

Then check how she responds before deciding whether to go further or find another girl.

IVIGS · 2026-02-02T19:26:55+00:00

Did you know that the original name for Pac-Man was Puck-Man? You'd think it was because he looks like a hockey puck but it actually comes from the Japanese phrase 'Paku-Paku,' which means to flap one's mouth open and closed.

HypeTekCrew · 2026-02-03T17:59:33+00:00

She's trying to be left alone so she can fart. Give her time

TheBigMan1990 · 2026-02-03T10:30:50+00:00

I’d probably try to get a laugh or a smile before I even approached, like I might make eye contact and pretend to be distracted by her and walk into a wall, but make it exaggerated so it’s obvious that it’s a bit of a show. You said she seems to be vibing to the music… I might loosen up a bit and let myself dance along and then pretend to be embarrassed when I “notice” her there. Then when I approached I’d probably make a funny little quip-like an “is this the cool kids section” or a “hey don’t judge, I like this song”-I’d tend towards keeping it goofy and fun… because that’s who I am. I’d also try to have a bit of a conversation going before I throw out the “hi, my name is ____, what’s your name”.

The most important thing is that you approach in a way that is authentic to you-goofy/funny might not be your vibe, don’t try and do that if that isn’t your vibe. And go in fully open to any experience… maybe she does actually have a boyfriend-doesn’t mean you can’t leave that party without having made a new friend. And being open to whatever happens is also important because if you approach her with only the intention of getting her to come home with you, unless she is very specifically looking for someone to go home with-there is a high probability that you won’t stick the landing.

Sorry-Place6291 · 2026-02-02T18:27:29+00:00

Man, when i was in my hay day all it took was a look. You gotta read energy. I never want to encroach on someone's girl. Say you are at party for 3 hours,I'll start small, be open, but not give away myself or give them validation right away. Literally act like they are just a human in my line of view. Keeping things breif and small and not caring even though i already want it if that makes since.

Being patient lets you escalate slowly, let her judge how you handle situations with the boys and around other males. Make sure you're in her line of sight and have the target of sleeping with her. This natural bravado shit starts happening and you dont need pick up lines, let it all come natural.

Patience pays off when you watch your friends shoot their shot and you just sit back and know it's yours, kind of in an evil way. Yea very manipulative, dark, and confident that time will give me what I want, and bang bang she invites me to sleep with her even though plenty of dudes wanted it. Im not a looker either, pretty retarded looking lmao. But again its this dark thought and foreplay that happens, I think thats seduction... not some gay ass pick up lines.

Sometimes this could go over the course of day weeks months and years. You gotta plant seeds my friends, if you are thirsty go buy a hooker they are better at sex then most woman lmao.

PainKilla17 · 2026-02-02T19:59:31+00:00

“I guess I was in the wrong party all this time.”

gollinho · 2026-02-02T18:42:17+00:00

I would ask: „Hi, my name is [insert name]. Do you know anybody here?“

She says yes -> „Can you introduce me to a few people?“ She says no -> „Let's get to know some people!“

J4mie_ · 2026-02-02T20:05:54+00:00

I'd just walk up and say something stupid like: 'Hola, what are we drinking?' It's not important what you say, but how you say it.

You could also just walk up to her and reach out your arm without saying anything and the right body language, then when she takes your hand you put her arm on your neck and start a conversation.

atomant88 · 2026-02-02T22:55:57+00:00

House parties arent great for the numbers game. But selective approaches are fine.

No-Comment1925 · 2026-02-03T17:09:17+00:00

"Make me a sammich"

SecretComments · 2026-02-04T03:16:46+00:00

Try to catch her gaze with a glance first, then slide over but don't look at her too much. Heavy eye contact to a girl who's alone especially can be too intimidating.

It's okay to make her nervous. But only a little.

Say something cheeky. About her or yourself, just not a strong compliment or a brag. Can be really dumb, if your cadence comes off knowingly.

"Lookin' lonely there. Room for one more?" "I see you're a party animal like myself." "You got a red solo cup too? Shoot, I was hoping for a blue one."

Or if you get a good enough read on her personality and vibe: "Seems like you should have a book and a tree to lean on." "Surprised you don't have giant headphones." "So what's your favorite mid 2000s pop punk band?"

Or a slightly more pointed tease: "Is it more fun in the corner? Surely you're hiding something." "You look so comfy here, I bet you're great on a stage." "Did you accidentally end up here, like a raccoon looking for scraps?"

From there see how she reacts, and just amp the banter. Exaggerate more. Make the very idea of her being there, and especially being sad and lonely, seem preposterous and absurd. Make it sound like she's clearly just gotta take your hand and be led to the music, the drinks, the snacks, anything.

It's not about having the best line, it's about having the best energy. I've made some bad jokes with strangers at parties that didn't land and still got laid because I came across as chill amd goofy and fun.

A girl like that is looking for an escape. Provide one.

CALthe1st · 2026-02-03T05:58:18+00:00

“Hey do you know which cupboard the glasses are in? I need a drink of water”

Moustssein · 2026-02-03T09:25:59+00:00

Some of the guys over here are SLIMY ASF!

aphronono · 2026-02-04T19:50:10+00:00

Hmm, maybe not approach her directly. If you get rejected you're in for a tough night socializing. First make some friends be social and after that talk to the girl. She is probably going to be a lot more open to talk to you and if she is not, you're not the guy noone knows hitting on girls and getting rejected.

ZennedGame · 2026-02-04T20:48:27+00:00

Sounds fun

Slowly approach, observing the house in the process Then say something like

"Life of the party I see" or

"Oh you're here for the snacks too? I like you already"

And see where it goes.

NaiveAd6090 · 2026-02-04T23:05:53+00:00

Ask her what her interests are, who she be with, things that make her smile, what number to dial, is she gonna be here for a while?

SivaRamaKrishna-007 · 2026-02-06T16:42:42+00:00

Just talk shit and leave...... Detach from the outcome.

Capable-Complex-1629 · 2026-02-09T05:05:50+00:00

Introduce myself

Ur_X · 2026-02-02T20:01:55+00:00

I know no one here, do you?

juanet2bonit · 2026-02-02T18:50:58+00:00

Not a pro, not even a beginner, a non practitioner... Just make sure she notices I am alone as well and as some as we get to lock eyes give sinful smirk and look towards where I'll be waiting for her eyes to find my smirk again, ( this way nobody sees us together or has anything to say about it, it is seduction we're trying to accomplish )) once she has found it ,it's game, the hunt for curiosity..( curiosity in my opinion is one of the key factors to seduction I fall for it too often too easy)) this will continue until found ourselves alone then it's all about talk game then or straight action depends of the vibe I guess.. then the rest I leave to you imagination that by now has been slightly seduced by a freaking amatuer!!! Lol jk.. I wouldn't know how to do this.. been single for over 5 years and 0 encounters as proof.. but it was fun entertaining myself writing this.. thanks I guess . I bid y'all a great day!!!

dorothymantooth2 · 2026-02-03T02:50:36+00:00

“Hey they just let anyone in here?! Haha I’m Chad what’s your name?”

EmployedExBoyfriend · 2026-02-03T00:52:12+00:00

“Come around here often or just at my place?”

AccumulatedFilth · 2026-02-02T21:40:07+00:00

Spike her drink.

Just kidding, I'd go up to her and enjoy both each others company, and make it a fun night. We'll date if we click.

Title	to the pros here, You go to a house party you barely know anyone and in the distance in kitchen there's a girl all by herself.
Author	LogicalChart3205
Upvotes	143
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Date	February 2, 2026 4:14 PM UTC (5 months ago)
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