Has stopping masturbation and porn helped you approach women?

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Shadow__Account · 2026-04-08T14:10:01+00:00

What it did for me is it tilted the scales. There was always a balance between anxiety of approaching on one hand and lets call it hornyness on the other. And most of the time the anxiety was stronger. When I quit porn, the horniness got that much bigger that it outweighed the anxiety and tipped the scale towards action.

So yeah it helped.

Ofcourse the next problem is that it made me approach women that, after sex, i apparently wasnt into 😅

Avanni24 · 2026-04-08T14:47:32+00:00

Still a virgin and a gooner, but I notice that when I don't masturbate for a day or two before going to school or going out I'm more motivated to talk to women, yes.

bananasing · 2026-04-08T12:18:36+00:00

Keep yourself busy. Whether that’s work, school, gym, or all 3 put together, you gain experiences and more confidence in yourself. I still masturbate dude but my mind is so busy that i’d rather talk to a girl when i do get a chance. It’ll take some time but you’ll get there!

pizzatacodog1322 · 2026-04-08T12:54:58+00:00

It made me approach fat chicks

MountainGoatSC · 2026-04-08T17:28:57+00:00

Stopping porn is more important than stopping masturbation

Away_You_3787 · 2026-04-08T12:51:46+00:00

100%. The first 2 weeks you are so horny, that you don't care about rejection.

Acceptable_Ad_6080 · 2026-04-08T15:18:19+00:00

You won't go hunting if you know there is a supermarket where you can buy meat for much less risk and price

Klutzy-Painting885 · 2026-04-08T12:43:23+00:00

Yes. Stop dulling your sexual desire. Also delete dating apps.

GugalNarDaBanbudda · 2026-04-09T05:35:14+00:00

yes, especially since I stopped doing it while approaching them.

KeyTheZebra · 2026-04-08T12:29:03+00:00

Yes it does absolutely help. The reason is because you’re not lusting hard over your sexual desires, you have discipline regarding your sexual presence, so you have a better ability to leave her waiting for your text back and do less simpy stuff. This puts you in control of the situation with her better. Skip porn in the morning and you will be able to go all day without texting her, as your brain is pushing those sexual dopamine signals to the back of your brain. When you finally do text her, you’ll be hit with a refreshing wave of new excitement, which will create a feedback loop and train you to move with more confidence around her because you’ll notice how it pays off. Sounds nuts haha but it’s true!

It’s like someone who is on a diet and is eating right is more likely to go to the gym and skip less days and do the extra rep. They compliment each other like that.

Stopping porn will make you want to approach more and will help you FOCUS your messages and words in hopes that she can eventually replace your porn with her own sexual desires too. It’s a mind trick at that point.

Of course she cannot replace porn, that’s something if you get into a relationship with her might have to be managed (you might watch porn less frequently if you don’t stop forever while you date for example).

NeoTiamat · 2026-04-08T23:33:03+00:00

Stop porn, thats dopamine. Wanking it is statistically natural and healthy.

Aggravating-Menu-751 · 2026-04-09T01:09:41+00:00

Yes! I found out the reason I did it in the first place was to cope with my loneliness and anxiety of women. I felt that, as long as I got my sexual needs met, then there was never a need for me to go out and talk to people. Wrong! In the end I figured that I could never replace the social need that humans need in their lives and honestly it’s WAY better than choking the chicken. I’ll admit that sometimes I fall off and I’ll watch porn but it’ll never be an everyday thing like it used to be for me because of the skills I use now

illFated098230 · 2026-04-08T18:19:22+00:00

You get aura, and they feel it

fcizzle · 2026-04-08T20:32:03+00:00

Not in the slightest

oc974 · 2026-04-09T04:20:18+00:00

Masturbation was more of an ehh for me. Sure I have more libido and energy compared to my compulsive gooner mode, but I became overly desperate in a way where my behavior was unappealing. Something like "I'll drive 2 hours across state lines for a handjob."

Porn? Absolutely. That is a definite nix in my book. The hyper stylization that porn does on both men and women is literally impossible in the real world. The moves are impossible, uncomfortable and I feel like the stuff before and after the sex is sooo skeevy.

crizzero · 2026-04-09T07:47:56+00:00

Masturbating is fun and to a certain degree necessary. Please watch The Wolf of Wall Street for further information.

Confident_Ad_9710 · 2026-04-09T12:27:43+00:00

4 months clean , not big changes. Clear thinking and able to keep eye contact a bit.

PopImmediate232 · 2026-04-09T16:37:15+00:00

It helped me finding more women attractive. And yes after 2 or 3 weeks I somehow always ended up having sex. But right now still back at masturbating and watching porn :D.

Ahmed104 · 2026-04-08T12:11:34+00:00

i want answer too

Fun-Arm3161 · 2026-04-08T13:36:31+00:00

Yes. Do it

Rare-Degree-9596 · 2026-04-10T04:21:36+00:00

I had sex at 16 before I ever really masturbated, and had a solid gf for the next 6 years. I became a door to door salesman in LA, (yeah, it was as awful as it sounds) but fuck did I learn to talk to people.

Porn is too easy of a release. It's too easy to "put off" doing the hard work and meeting real people.

I'm in great shape and started college in my 40's, when you're turning girls heads in their 20's, and you can talk to them without being a creeper. You know you learned a valuable skill.

crtmammal · 2026-04-08T14:28:23+00:00

It will become a problem and your instincts will kick in. In order to crack one off you need to do it with a female. You will get really crafty.

Raudys · 2026-04-08T13:28:39+00:00

Approaching helps you get off porn

ev3rm0r3 · 2026-04-08T16:39:50+00:00

Yeah well with or without porn there are still no women here to meet and talk to or area's to go to TO meet them. So I'm just going to keep watching it and jerking off as much as I can because fi i don't know one else is going to do it for me.

aeturnus95 · 2026-04-08T17:03:46+00:00

Nope. I keep masturbating. It helps keep me focused if anything and less scattered.

Doki_Doki_Doki · 2026-04-08T17:19:37+00:00

stopping porn can help you focus more on real interactions, but it's not a magic fix. approach anxiety often comes from overthinking. work on being decisive and present in the moment. that's where real confidence grows.

d3nnls · 2026-04-08T19:21:20+00:00

Based on my lackey knowledge (not a doctor, got it from doctors), masturbation is healthy. What I mean is, don’t jerk it 5 times a day. If you know you’ll be going out ahead of time where, potentially, a wild woman might appear, then withhold. This worked well for me.

Excellent-Archer-238 · 2026-04-08T15:47:44+00:00

It doesn't matter for that, but it matters when you have sex. I enjoy sex more after not masturbating for days.

VelvetSinclair · 2026-04-08T15:49:44+00:00

It made my balls hurt

adacta777 · 2026-04-08T17:09:22+00:00

Zestyclose-Ease-4319 · 2026-04-08T19:31:41+00:00

Yes, for me

SylAbys · 2026-04-08T22:37:06+00:00

For me, not at all. Masturbation and porn just drilled in my head that women were just sex objects. Which gave me a 1 track mind. Once I learned self-control, I was able to focus and value my dates for who they truly were. Good or bad. And when we did have sex, we had some type of bond that made sex better. Serious or casual.

thedukejck · 2026-04-08T22:42:16+00:00

Of course

WebNew9978 · 2026-04-09T04:47:07+00:00

No not really. It did help ease the pain from being constantly rejected. But it doesn’t do that anymore

i_t_x_s · 2026-04-09T08:05:59+00:00

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Glass-Violinist-8352 · 2026-04-10T14:46:33+00:00

It does not lol

jeevan472 · 2026-04-08T12:17:23+00:00

🤔

Lecture_Good · 2026-04-08T16:42:16+00:00

I think it would help you sexualize women less. In turn you'll be curious and actually want to get to know and find out about them. But if you already lack confidence and it leads to anxiety you should deal with those first. What insecurity leads to anxiety? Practice speaking to people through work. I luckily work with people face to face and lots of women. So my environment I naturally can practice my humor, banter and I'm able to read human behavior and body language through decades of interaction. I believe it will help. Even removing social media from your life. Social media and even reddit has so much sexualization and NSFW communities. Expectations vs Reality. Porn vs real sex and courtship. For me I need an intellectual connection before I am truly attracted. Looks do help. But as they say. A body gets old and a dead conversation is a dead conversation that leads to nowhere.

irrist · 2026-04-09T05:55:28+00:00

yes. Masturbation and porn drain your physical energy and cause lots of brain fog, and decrease your will to do things, including talking to women

haftzabaa · 2026-04-09T07:32:02+00:00

I don't find it really makes any difference either way.

Evilfck · 2026-04-08T16:18:18+00:00

how can it help you? It has no connection

Fdc1210 · 2026-04-08T15:42:02+00:00

Masturbation is okay with NO porn or content whatsoever. It will bring your drive back and you will start to get the urge to look and talk to actual women.

I also recommend you try and switch to 100% frenulum masturbation. What it does is it simulates your male G-spot, except you don’t feel pleasure until you orgasm, and even then it’s full body. What it does is it lets you orgasm and ejaculate (still feels super good and is very intense) except it does not substitute the feeling of intercourse. So you can still have intense and fun orgasms solo, feel sexually satisfied and released, and yet still have the desire and urge to get laid tonight will full sensations of penetration and sex. I started doing this like 2 years ago and my sex life changed for the better. Remember, no porn or content. Keep it natural

Warm-Fun5226 · 2026-04-08T20:19:18+00:00

You get that burst of energy and confidence which does help. I stopped a couple weeks ago and definitely forced me to come out of my shell

Title	Has stopping masturbation and porn helped you approach women?
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Date	April 8, 2026 12:08 PM UTC (3 months ago)
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