Why Do Guys Think That Beautiful Women Are Harder To Pull Than Average Looking Women?

epimpstyle · 2026-06-15T19:36:16+00:00

- Beautiful women are taken.

- Average looking girls get hit on so much that they start thinking they’re 10s and believe they deserve a better looking guy, they’re delusional.

Better not to overthink it, you won't like how it ends.

jsbach123 · 2026-06-15T19:49:12+00:00

No way. The 9s and 10s definitely get hit on way more than the 5s. Dream on if you think the 5s are getting approached all the time.

Beautiful women are more approachable and friendly because they've had better experiences with men.

The average ones aren't treated as well and don't get as much attention. So they're likelier to see men as adversaries.

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2026-06-15T19:27:53+00:00

I think it's multiple things:

- guy is afriad of rejection and has self esteem issues himself.

- girl gets flirted by so many guys that it feels like you have to compete more for her attention.

- sometimes these women do have inflated ego so you see a hot girl you assume she's got some type of inflated ego.

Basically men just like to assume a bit too much when it ocmes to women (even the average one). And as men, puilling is hard enough so why play it on hard mode when we can play it on medium mode.

So the hot girl that gets approached by most guys, all guys are looking at her, etc. Why go for her when we can go for the girl that is still pretty and we are more comfortable going after?

Again could be a number of things but i think these are assumptions men make.

rayrayrayray · 2026-06-15T20:13:14+00:00

Beautiful women have way more options and attention. Exceptionally hot women get trips, instagram invites onto yacht parties, men willing to take them shopping and pay for their rent etc - just to see them. One of my female friends has a guy buy and deliver her groceries - she told him he is will always be a friend and has no chance, but he still persists.

Average women get hit on more - perhaps, but it's because men have formulated in their mind that they are more likely to say yes to a date. Majority of guys fear rejection from hot women.

Also average women mistake wanting to be fucked by guys as their value on the dating market. Guys just wanna hit - not a relationship with them.

Pedalcrunch · 2026-06-15T19:18:48+00:00

Afraid of rejection, I would think nah she's too good looking.

ExtraordinaryBeetles · 2026-06-15T19:45:36+00:00

You're mistaking harder to pull with harder to approach. Attractive women are harder to pull.

Filthy_Asswipe · 2026-06-16T04:30:34+00:00

I've been rejected by 6 average looking women in a row.

This is sooo true.

Jack26918 · 2026-06-15T22:16:25+00:00

Because they get to pick and choose, PLUS there is added competition (including from the guys who tend to end up with them).

SicParvisMagnaaa · 2026-06-15T19:29:04+00:00

A beautiful woman can have low self esteem and can think that she isn’t that attractive.

Who do you know like that? I've never met a beautiful woman who didn't know she was beautiful that was past high school age.

Do you really think men don't approach beautiful women? I'm sorry but that's extremely naive, beautiful women (and men) get approached a lot. They quite literally have a surplus of attention from people they actually want.

Sad_Drama_6796 · 2026-06-16T04:40:28+00:00

You ever seen a woman with HUGE tits that doesn’t already have a baby? I haven’t lol Something about it guys just can’t help but get to them and release their seed

chips_and_hummus · 2026-06-15T19:54:02+00:00

higher competition = lower chances

they have exponentially more options, and on average more of those options are attractive men

can an average guy pull a beautiful woman sometimes? sure. will it be harder? nearly all the time yes.

if you have game, confidence, and all the things that make you attractive then you improve your chances

but again, all things equal, they have more options for you to compete with which inarguably reduces your individual chances of being chosen

this is also why volume is key. trying with multiple attractive women at once is the way to go, eventually some of them will hit

PositionStandard6089 · 2026-06-15T19:28:55+00:00

probably because men put "beauty" on such a massive pedestal. it's like the single most important thing to a lot of guys.

IslandMan01 · 2026-06-15T19:58:21+00:00

Because they are? In my experience ugly looking girls are desperate and pretty looking ones are way more likely to have higher standards

comacove · 2026-06-15T20:07:05+00:00

better looking means you have more options to choose from, which means you are likelier to have more qualifiers because you know you dont have to settle, or worry about when your next opportunity will arrive. girls who are legit good looking know they are. they get attention like crazy (but as girls know, they can be well below average and still have flocks of guys after them for one reason or another).

guys are gonna go after a wide range of girls on the looks spectrum. but the better looking the girl is, the more of their dream guy they think they deserve or can get. hence, harder to pull if you have fuck all to offer her as a guy.

bmcapers · 2026-06-16T00:19:54+00:00

Because it’s a catch-22; beautiful women know men approach them because they’re beautiful, which lowers their interest in the men. Men have to override this reasoning with something else, which is like asking a fish to not intake water. Anxiety ensues.

OrlandoLasso · 2026-06-15T20:39:53+00:00

I think pretty women get treated differently in general and are used to being put on a pedestal by everyone, and average women mostly get treated as one of the boys or sometimes used as a friends with benefits. I agree their egos can be inflated, but it's definitely a different mentality than someone that experiences pretty privilege 24 7.

Prestigious_Water336 · 2026-06-15T21:40:53+00:00

They make you go through shit tests.

Too many guys fail said shit tests and just accept defeat.

You gotta learn how to play the game.

Also most 9's and 10's are taken. If they are single they don't stay single for long.

You gotta strike while the iron is hot.

No_Loan2533 · 2026-06-16T03:35:26+00:00

Supply and Demand.

DrBarackPendergrass · 2026-06-16T09:46:09+00:00

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xclaner · 2026-06-16T11:32:04+00:00

Where is your source for more attractive women being hit on more often than average ones? Or is that just internet speculation?

Even if so, the frequency of being approached is not the only factor that impacts how selective a woman will be.

More attractive women are more rare and can attract more men and higher quality men. If she has had any dating experience, it’s reasonable to assume her standards are higher.

That’s not to say the scenario you described can’t happen, but it’s probably the exception and thus, reasonably shouldn’t be the expectation.

Realwoujo · 2026-06-16T15:55:02+00:00

Most guys do not have the balls to approach average looking women OR beautiful women, and all their opinions about game are just shit they assume would be true.

norwegiandoggo · 2026-06-16T16:32:30+00:00

Good looking women can choose from a lot of men that don't hit on her in the street. So she has a plethora of options. She can just go on Instagram or Tinder and her inbox will explode. Therefore, she will naturally become picky. It's not just about the number of men cold approaching.

Big_Ear_6754 · 2026-06-15T20:44:00+00:00

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MedicineEastern7500 · 2026-06-15T21:38:44+00:00

I believe they think women who look less attractive (to them) are "easier" because they think that the 'less attractive' women think that they have less options due to their "looks," so the guys choose the "seemingly less hard" but also the "less desirable option," which I think is BS.

mabden · 2026-06-15T23:18:30+00:00

Because they think too much.. too much competition. I.E. hot girls attract lots of guys, thus more options for higher quality guys.

surfershane25 · 2026-06-17T01:01:19+00:00

Average looking women do not get hit on more often on a day to day basis, not even close to

deran6ed · 2026-06-16T16:02:14+00:00

I'm a 6. Never got hit by a 10, but also never got rejected by a 10. So there's that.

atlantaspry · 2026-06-16T19:27:06+00:00

As someone who has only been with beautiful women - this is true.

MeatMarket92 · 2026-06-16T20:45:02+00:00

I actually think it’s the opposite

Hairy-Independence68 · 2026-06-16T21:32:00+00:00

I never approach women tbh. I don’t want to be accused of harassment or labeled a creep

ManaDeus · 2026-06-21T03:33:45+00:00

Yes, many don’t know this

LegacyofaGentleman · 2026-06-21T17:48:19+00:00

A few things are probably going on, and most of them have less to do with actual rejection rates and more to do with perception and psychology.

Perceived competition, not actual competition. Guys assume a beautiful woman has more options, so even if her actual "yes rate" is identical to anyone else's, the imagined odds feel worse. It's less "she'll reject me" and more "she probably has ten guys already in line."

The halo effect. People tend to unconsciously assume attractive people also have other desirable traits, confidence, high standards, and pickiness. Whether or not that's true. So a guy projects "she must be selective" onto her appearance, even if she's just as insecure or approachable as anyone else.

Loss aversion and ego protection. The more "valuable" someone seems, the more a potential rejection feels like it would sting, and the more publicly humiliating it feels if other people are watching. Approaching someone less conventionally attractive feels lower-stakes, so guys do it more freely, which is part of why average-looking women get approached more often, as you pointed out.

Selective memory. A guy who gets shot down by a beautiful woman tends to remember it and talk about it, iit becomes a story. Getting turned down by someone "average" usually doesn't register as a noteworthy event, so it fades from memory. That skews the intuitive sample size in people's heads.

Visibility bias. Stunning women often get hit on by a lot of low-effort guys, so men sometimes mistakenly equate "I will face the most volume of competition" with "she rejects people more."

Worth saying: this is all about perceived odds, not real ones. Plenty of research on attraction and self-esteem backs up your core point, physical attractiveness and confidence/approachability aren't strongly linked, and a lot of "she's intimidating" framing is really about the guy's own anxiety, not anything actually true about her. It's a self-fulfilling story more than an accurate read on reality.

WebNew9978 · 2026-06-15T20:10:40+00:00

Shoot it’s impossible for me to pull any woman.

YetzirahToAhssiah · 2026-06-15T20:12:22+00:00

Because I've been with more average looking women than beautiful women.

drunkenpossum · 2026-06-15T22:09:27+00:00

I keep seeing this myth that average women get hit on more than 9-10s and it’s just not true in my experience .

If you ever spend time around a true 9-10 or talk to one you’ll easily see why. The amount of male attention a true 9-10 gets is overwhelming. We’re talking getting hit on at the bar everytime they go out
(often times multiple times), and oftentimes in public. Instagram DMs full of guys trying to talk to them. 100s of likes per day on the dating apps.

Also I’m a guy who has been with tons of girls in the 6-8 range but only 2-3 in the 9+ range. They are way, way harder to pull and game in my experience (and it often isn’t worth it since their personalities tend to suck). I’d love to visit this mythical land you guys live in where these 9-10s all have low self esteem and fuck average guys

Title	Why Do Guys Think That Beautiful Women Are Harder To Pull Than Average Looking Women?
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Date	June 15, 2026 7:15 PM UTC (1 month ago)
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