Did you ever make a man cry? Did you lose respect for him?

SmurfESmurferson · 2019-06-17T21:10:26+00:00

I’ve seen every man I’ve ever been involved with cry. Sometimes, I was the cause

I didn’t lose respect for any of them

Ofourkind · 2019-06-17T21:08:23+00:00

I've seen all my boyfriends cry, and I've of course seen my husband cry. Sometimes directly related to me/our relationship, others for unrelated life struggles

I can only think of one time I lost respect for a guy because he cried. He threw a tantrum over something dumb. Definitely dumped him.

sublimemongrel · 2019-06-17T21:40:02+00:00

Of course I’ve made a man cry I’m an adult woman who has been in relationships, been in love and had men be in love with me.

No I didn’t lose respect for him. It’s not some switch that instantly goes on and off.

flamingoinghome · 2019-06-17T22:50:47+00:00

The only time I ever saw my ex cry was when I was about to board a plane for another country.

I loved him so much in that moment it hurt in my whole body.

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2019-06-17T21:12:21+00:00

my ex cried when i broke up with him. it wasnt a shit test, we were finished

ive seen my h cry on several occasions not caused by me, no respect lost, it was death of stepdad, family pets and movies

Lyanina · 2019-06-17T21:18:46+00:00

I've made a couple men cry yeah. Didn't lose respect for them. Tended to end up crying with them; it's contagious like that.

I've made my boyfriend cry several times. I'm amazed he puts up with me mostly.

i_have_a_semicolon · 2019-06-17T22:35:28+00:00

I did make my man cry. It was kind of a shit test I guess. I was feeling a bit bored and underwhelmed by our sex life at the time. It make him insecure. I did not lose respect. I felt horrible for my phrasing and comforted him. Since then he's brought his A game to the bedroom and those doubts dissapeared. I also realized my desire for novelty can be satiated with vacations and travel, not dick, so that also helped as we decided to go on more adventures together as a result.

edit: By shit test, i dont mean a "are u alpha enough" test but i was curious to see his reaction. What i did learn is any insinuation that he is not satisfying me should not be taken lightly in conversation, that it means a lot to him that he makes me happy. Being "not enough" is obviously a fear of his so i found out. But not since then, since then i make sure he knows he is way more than enough.

wotsittoyou · 2019-06-18T10:18:26+00:00

I made him cry BECAUSE I had lost respect for him.

GridReXX · 2019-06-17T21:32:35+00:00

They have all cried. One actually broke up with me and had the nerve to ball his eyes out throughout the conversation. Just dramatic.

Men be crying yo!!

Orange_Paisley · 2019-06-17T23:20:50+00:00

I have had men cry when I broke up with them, but I didn't lose respect for them. I cry when people break up with me, too.

I've seen my fiancé cry from time to time, but I don't think I was ever the cause of it. He cried when we had to have our dog put down, he cried when someone gave him a substantial financial gift, he's cried talking about his dead parents. I didn't lose respect for him; I felt honored that he was able to open up to me and be vulnerable with me.

philomexa · 2019-06-17T21:31:21+00:00

I've seen my husband cry 4 times; once was life or death concern for me, the other was his father's death, and the remaining two were the death of our cats. I'm sure there will be more instances of him crying now that we have a child.

I can't imagine losing respect for him in any of those scenarios, much less shit testing him. I don't even know why or how I'd make him cry as a means of testing him. This literally doesn't compute.

lefactorybebe · 2019-06-17T21:12:22+00:00

Saw my ex cry a million times, made him cry a few times. The crying never made me lost respect for him.

Seen my current boyfriend cry a few times, haven't lost respect.

Never crossed my mind that any of it was ever a shit test? That's weird.

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PennnyLame · 2019-06-18T01:05:20+00:00

Yes, I have made a man cry when I rejected him. I was already 1000% sure I wasn’t into him, the crying had zero impact. I was more shocked than anything.

All that said, my husband cries all the time. It’s a non-issue. I think it’s adorable when he cries about family or our dogs or Meryl Streep playing Julia Child. He has cried a few times when we fight but I cry during every fight so I can hardly hold that against him. He deals with my inability to hold in tears really well, him crying out of frustration never makes me respect him less.

planejane · 2019-06-18T03:48:37+00:00

My ex cried when I left him. Felt badly about it at the time but he had plenty of opportunity to fix some things and didn't.

My SO is my "Big Squish" when it comes to movies or especially emotional moments between the two of us. Still love him all the same.

I've seen male friends cry before from time to time. Generally it's with good reason and understandable; as such it has no impact on my respect for them.

J_Milton_Jr · 2019-06-18T07:07:55+00:00

Did you ever make a man cry?

yes

Did you lose respect for him?

yes, but I dont know if I have lost respect for him before, or if the crying was the trigger

I still feel bad about it, but we were 15-16 and stupid

Willow-girl · 2019-06-18T17:13:48+00:00

Did you ever make a man cry?

No, but I've made a few holler "Jesus!"

poppy_blu · 2019-06-19T00:15:41+00:00

I’ve made men who report to me at work cry

Tealllane · 2019-06-19T01:29:37+00:00

My ex would make fun of me and call me a pussy because I was upset over my friend committing suicide when I felt responsible.

Some people are evil cunts, men and women who take pleasure to causing others pain.

lilacluna548 · 2019-06-21T07:40:38+00:00

I didnt do it on purpose but Ive seen my boyfriend cry. It didnt make me lose respect, I dont think theres anything wrong with men crying.

kandyapplez · 2019-06-18T00:02:42+00:00

my boyfriend has been crying off and on for a week because he knows were breaking up lol

no i don't lose respect for him because he's still my baby and i luv him and it makes me sad

shoup88 · 2019-06-17T22:03:01+00:00

I made my husband cry once, back when we were dating. I did not lose respect for him - it kind of brought us closer together because it showed me that he really cared. It wasn’t a shit test. It’s not like I set out trying to make him cry.

SweetLikeTupeloHoney · 2019-06-18T00:09:16+00:00

Twice. Once I was breaking up and leaving. Nothing was going to change my mind. Other time a guy slapped me off a chair. Several guys grabbed him kicked him out of the bar. Not sure if he was crying over me or getting kicked out the bar. Either way, my respect was lost way before either started to cry.

TopOccasion29 · 2019-06-17T23:41:30+00:00

Not trying to ruin the party but do you think women on this sub will admit they lost respect for their men after they cried?

Title	Did you ever make a man cry? Did you lose respect for him?
Author	jrac1353
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Date	June 17, 2019 7:24 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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