Lacking masculinity can lead to being bullied and treated poorly by both men and women. Being sensitive, unprepared to deal with crisis, dependent on others, and unable to withstand trials will turn out worse for men since they are not as valuable and won't have access to a support system that women have.

By support systems women have, I'm referring to government and academic programs specifically dedicated to assisting only women with advancing their career success, reproductive freedoms, health, safety, even her ego and mood. Body positivity movements, women can do it do campaigns, get more-women-into-only-top-paying-high status-jobs but-not-dirty-dangerous-ones campaigns, societal patterns of mass social media validation attention and sex offers all from a mediocre selfie. These things are all alien to the average man.

A mans insecurities, fears and problems are an inconvenience worthy of mockery and revulsion to other men and women. The death rates at work, suicide rates, body image issues around being short or ugly,depression and isolation from failing at interacting with women, being a miserable incel, falling behind in education and career failure, fear in a hostile climate of metoo aimed mostly at men who weren't going to assault anyone anyway... these are just something annoying MRAs whine about, not glaring international issues worthy of mens marches and billions in tax funding. One can pay lip service and admit that these are problems that exist. But then they just deflect by referencing patriarchy ( the extremely few men doing really well in life) or that women still have problems so it's not time to focus on men yet.

To be masculine is to survive and thrive for a man. He has to handle it himself because men wanting to help men is cringey MRA nonsense and women sure as hell aren't interested in helping men who can't help themselves. There is no human instinct to care about a basic adult Male. Masculinity is all a man has. That's why its important. Asking why men are so concerned about being masculine, mocking masculinity, devaluing it, lying and telling men they don't have to be this way... these are all attempts to pluck a bird's wings and then tell it it's still okay to leap of a branch. Mock the dewinged bird for valuing its wings so much. Birds are so obsessed with their fragile wings amirite?

My view is that men have to be stoic, solve their problems instead of emoting, hide fear and insecurity from people waiting to pounce on his weakness, take risks while pursuing women who will not make a move or make it easy for him, withstand rejection and mockery with a tough no fucks given persona, compete aggressively for what he wants and needs, just to survive in this world. Women are not going to carry him. Mens weakness disgusts women. Just look at incels. Sad, lonely virgins with poor social skills and extreme body image issues who already hate themselves begging for a hand touch. Everyone finds them vile. Even before their misery devolved into hatred of women which could justify it, peoples visceral reaction to diminutive ugly men is of pure disdain. Other men are a man's adversaries unless he's competent enough to cooperate and succeed together with them. It has to be this way. Am I wrong?