Preach 🙌🏼

Silverpool2018 · 2020-11-12T16:45:36+00:00

All my female friends are better than most men out there. They text to check on you (without an ulterior motive), they truly care, they keep promises, hype you up when you're sad, support your hobbies, respect your time, pull you out of your funk to give tough love when needed, and know exactly when you need a hug. They know how to give perfect gifts for every occasion and have social graces.

No one taught them this, but they made an effort for me and their other friends out of love.

My girl friends (and most girls infact) do that all without expecting sex or money in return, unlike men. The love, respect and empathy is real, and it shows.

notroyaltyyet · 2020-11-12T15:29:17+00:00

I actually thought about making a post about this topic because I wasn't sure if I was being too 'judgy' about my friends husbands because most of the time I'm disgusted with them. I'm really protective about my friends so when they are struggling with kids or upset about something I tend to jump on the "what's your husband doing in all this?" And I really reflected on it the other day and realised I wouldn't have settled for any one of my friends partners. And the women with the worst partners are the ones who seem to randomly pity/reassure me that'll 'it'll happen for me one day' despite me never complaining about being single, unmarried or childless. I'm really happy, chilled out, secure, quite frankly I'm bossing it. I don't want to be mean to any of my friends or judge their choices but sometimes I want to point out that I'd never, ever have settled for the life they have, some of them are actually living my worst nightmare, which is perfectly fine - different folks, different strokes.

ALSO (while I'm here anyway) it's also occurred to me that every one of my friends planned their own engagement or gave their (now husband's) an ultimatum in order to get married. Marriage has never been high up on my list of properties but I have been proposed to before and I didn't ask/expect it. I'd hate to think I had to convince someone to marry me, doesn't fill you with that warm glow does it.

karichar · 2020-11-12T15:46:53+00:00

I have one friend, ONE, who has a HVM bf I can tolerate. The rest....oh honey

Carpedictum · 2020-11-12T15:23:18+00:00

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yomommahouse · 2020-11-12T13:45:38+00:00

Oh Lord if this isn't the truth. I had to think long and hard about all of my friends who are in relationships and I can honestly say not one of those men deserve any of them. They are all either cheaters, in-between jobs (jobless), do nothing around the house, do none of the childcare, misogynists, porn addicts, or a combo of all of the above. I'm truly beginning to come to the realization that being single is a way better deal for women.

12thwizard · 2020-11-12T14:41:42+00:00

Single is the way ladies. Until that HVM actually adds something to our lives. It's just too true. I can't think of one woman I know that's husband/bf or whatever is good enough for her. I helped a friend buy her husband a secret Xmas gift last week from my Amazon account. Had it delivered to my address, she gave me cash and I bought it, so it would be a complete surprise. It was some robot making stuff, very expensive and looked awesome. I said that he was a lucky man and asked her what she wanted for Xmas...she said she didn't want anything and would probably buy herself something from him, because he's sooo busy. Fucking loser of a man. I felt so bad for her.

SimilarGift · 2020-11-12T15:16:01+00:00

This applies to girls I don't know as well 🙃 like when a guy friend tells me he has a new crush or a girlfriend I'm like.... sis I don't know you but run

_fuyumi · 2020-11-12T17:05:10+00:00

Because they are conditioned to settle.

Shefthegooddog · 2020-11-12T16:02:23+00:00

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yggiwtmiih · 2020-11-12T13:41:44+00:00

Rats are very cute and affectionate. 🤷‍♀️

getrippeddiemirin · 2020-11-12T14:58:58+00:00

I’ve met numerous rats with a better grasp on the human emotional spectrum than the average human male

Maude2010 · 2020-11-12T18:12:46+00:00

Of the hundreds of women I’ve known over the years, I’d say five percent are happily partnered, eighty percent settled and are anywhere from dissatisfied to miserable, and fifteen percent stayed single. Women are SO conditioned to settle and the problem is that men just aren’t good enough for them. Women are smarter, better looking, kinder and more interesting. It’s not even debatable. There are some men with a lot going for them, but many of those men prefer women who they don’t feel are their equal, and that automatically makes those men garbage. The number of exceptional men who want to partner with exceptional women is breathtakingly small. I’ve always been open to meeting one of them but I absolutely refuse to invest my time and energy into finding a needle in a massive pile of shit.

2020-11-12T13:34:34+00:00

Hilarious. And true

llamasinspace420 · 2020-11-12T18:46:56+00:00

I have no friends anymore because they're all in shit relationships or I pushed them away when I was with my ex. So, I wish I could relate. I miss having friends.

FabledAngryVillager · 2020-11-12T18:53:28+00:00

Only know one friend with a HVM. Everyone else is LVM or IVM (intermediate value male.)

You'd think in an area where men outnumber women, they'd try harder. Or lower their standards. They want someone out if their league looks wise with a college education who'll moonlight as a bangmaid.

RabidWench · 2020-11-12T16:34:05+00:00

Okay, Lane, can we discuss why you cultivate friendships with men who are such crap human beings they don't deserve to date rats? Because in my mind, if you are friends with them then you are condoning their behavior to a large extent. I don't socialize with people of whom I don't approve.

Title	Preach 🙌🏼
Author	sleeeeepie
Upvotes	1328
Comments	51
Date	November 12, 2020 12:59 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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