askTRP Megathread March 22

I_Sank_Atlantis · 2017-03-22T20:59:13+00:00

I'm 25, running a successful small business, lifting like an animal, practicing MMA and pursuing other hobbies- but I'm in a relationship and she genuinely makes me happy and I feel like I've put all the work into an awesome party just to have it end in five minutes.

This girl meets damn near every qualification I have, is younger than me (20), doesn't have any slutty traits and was raised well by a family that I respect a lot.

What the hell do I do? Do I give up on the dream of living like a prince in a harem for one great girl? Is she too young to settle with me?

We currently have an apartment together and she's been great to live with for the most part.

Salted_Pretzel · 2017-03-22T16:03:05+00:00

Anyone here meditate? I have been meditating for a while. Just want read other people experience of it and did it improve their lives in anyway?

HumanSockPuppet · 2017-03-22T13:58:08+00:00

I have a severe outside stimulus addiction(internet, television, masturbation) and I think it really negatively influences my life.Luckily I am 18 so I guess it isn't too late.

How do I eliminate this addiction?

DahwN · 2017-03-22T17:26:51+00:00

I'm 18 and student she's 33 and engineer, basically told her on tinder that I want to have fun with her because she's hot. She told me to get a few drinks first, I said no we should meet at her or my place, because I don't want to have a fucking limp dick(I've never fucked drunk before so I don't know if it'll happen to me) and I couldn't get to my hotel if something fails, because no driving. She texted me "Ok" I didn't answer. Should I wait for her to get back in or do something else?

pleaseunplug · 2017-03-22T16:46:49+00:00

26yo, had horrible sex once with a 5/10, favorite hobby is video games(not escapism, i genuinely like them). never had a relationship, so no experience with women. Introverted, I hate clubs, I'm ok with bars. Have only one male friend who I see sometimes. My job is okay, I'm a shiftmanager (not that big of a position).

How do I fix this? My first step was to sign up at a gym.

TheMightyMellow · 2017-03-22T15:48:42+00:00

So Im at my second semester at college and live in a two bedroom apartment with one other roommate and hang out with a group of friends from highschool who are fucking boring and never want to go out. Aside from the occasional party on the weekends or trip to the bar i literally just end up sitting inside the aprtment studying or doing hw. What should I do to start expanding social circles and basically make more friends? Feel like since i didnt start out in a dorm its a little harder.

learning2slay · 2017-03-22T13:58:19+00:00

Having trouble dealing with my scumbag roommate. He has the attic and is loud af when he comes home at 2am. I have a job that works variable hours so I end up sleeping through my alarm and catching an uber to work (which is costly as a student). How do I deal with his shit? He did this last night at 3am and I texted our house group chat calling him out for being an unemployed douche nozzle. I only have 2 months left at this house and I really do not get along with this asshole but I can't keep losing sleep because he doesn't know how to shut the fuck up

For context, he dropped out of school with one semester left to pursue his record label in a small city in nj (his music isn't good he just has an ego the size of godzila) and is taking handouts from mommy and daddy to pay rent/utilities/etc.

throwinghthisoneaway · 2017-03-23T06:38:26+00:00

My gf broke up and cheated on me 7 months ago pretty maliciously. It doesnt even seem like its been that long...pretty soon it will be a year and she will still probably be with the dude she cheated on me with. I cant get it out of my head. I never want her back but I keep thinking that one day she will try to come back and will tell her off. Then I realize that I shouldn't even want that retribution. The thoughts that run through my head daily about this, especially since life is a lot different without her, is enough to make me want to blow my fucking head off. Im suicidal-ish meaning I've thought about it, got prescribed anti depressants and said fuck that.

Somehow I cant go back to being happy and doing things that I like to do that I know make me happy all while knowing she is with this other dude getting fucked and everything else, it makes me physically sick to my stomach. Ive had sex with other girls but its terrible, the connection is not there. I dont want my ex and I dont want anyone new so Im stuck in this purgatory wanting to just die accidentally everyday on my way to school or home.

Darth_Antonius · 2017-03-22T14:09:40+00:00

In the view of you senior members, what does a red pill woman look like?

grlahmb · 2017-03-22T18:35:45+00:00

I'm 20 years old and have been applying the red pill with some success.

Women (hot women in particular) consisting call me boring. It seems like a shit test and I always fail to provide a good response.

Has anyone got a good response or can you shed some light on what's happening?

Balding13 · 2017-03-22T21:45:54+00:00

30, about to be 31.

5'10 and some change (I just lie and say 6' since I'm always wearing shoes).

230 down from 270.

I'll ask the question first and give some detail:

How do I get a sense of style in both my facial hair and clothes? I don't look awful but I don't have a sense of style for either. How do I start from 0 on this and go forward?

Specifically regarding facial hair, how do I learn to make it work for me? I am hoping to find thorough details on this as I am fearful that trying a style and messing up will blow the whole thing. I'd like to be able to maintain in myself so I can reduce cost and not go to the barber once every two weeks.

Some personal info:

I am balding so I shaved my head and I have grown out my beard. I am working on losing more weight to get to 200 and the success I've had has been mainly through dieting. I do know how to lift and have been giving myself too much leniency to actually do it. Should I ditch finding a style/new social hobby/dating while I lose weight and get in shape or should I do it together? For example, the clothes I have fit me but are clearly largerthen before. I still have a gut that I'm working on, but it's clear (to me at least) that my clothes are a little to big. I could go out in public and look like a normal human being, but I don't impress much with my current wardrobe.

Other then giving away personal identifying information, I'm open to questions.

Podsaff · 2017-03-22T22:32:05+00:00

I hooked up with a girl last night and she was giving very obvious hints that she wanted to spend the night. I simply didn't want her to even though I knew she had a 50 minute drive home and it was 5:30 in the morning. I had no real reason I didn't want her to stay the night, I just told her that it would be best for me if she went home. Did I do the right thing and what's a better way to go about it next time?

RPYoungBuck · 2017-03-22T23:23:35+00:00

Where should I look for good internships? I don't trust the basic work for free, do nothing for nobodies, college package they advertise at my liberal arts school and through my school to young uninformed guys like me.

Chinny4daWinny · 2017-03-23T03:04:35+00:00

20, studying computer science and I have an on campus part time job. How do I get a side job/ side income? Is it too early to worry about something like this now? Should I finish school first?

From what I've read, you have to have a skill to monetize to use for your side income. For programming, I'm only in my second year so I don't know how to do a lot of things.

Other possible things I've thought of doing for money are:

Learning to cut/style hair
Boost people's accounts on LoL
Be a "personal trainer" to other students on campus and help them with their fitness journey

For the hair one I go to school at a place where people can get their hair cut by professionals for $10. Why would they come to someone like me who has no experience besides giving myself a bald cut for a $5 haircut? I reckon I should practice on myself before offering services.

The LoL one, I would love to do. Only thing is that it'll be time consuming and I'll need to charge a price that'll make it worth it, but University students might not want to pay that much for a new rank.

The personal trainer one - technically since I'm not a licensed personal trainer I can't say I'm one and make an advertisement, but I can offer to be their "work out buddy" who they pay for advice and a program and accountability. Thing is, people who want to lift are already going to the gym and the others just don't seem to give a damn about their physique.

Grauer_Ritter · 2017-03-23T04:13:36+00:00

19 YO, just swallowed the pill 2 weeks back. I was wondering two things, first, how do people deal with Oneitis? I have it bad, and know the girls not worth a bother to start with, have a laundry list of reasons why, but can't kick it.

Second, since I've cut the video games/TV I'm left with a lot more time (mostly working out but I still have extra). Since i'm trying to use anger phase to my advantage and go monk-mode what's a good place reading-wise to start?

Warren_Bates · 2017-03-23T05:36:51+00:00

23, and found TRP relatively recently around 6 months ago. I want to know if it's possible to have and raise a child the way things are now? How I see it is most women who I'd want to have a child with (intelligent/attractive/tall) wouldn't do so unless we get married (Trap 1). If I have a child outside of marriage, it's almost guaranteed that she will get custody, I will pay child support, and I'll be lucky to get visitation rights a couple times a month, i.e. I would be paying this women to raise my child to hate me (trap 2). Is my only option a surrogate?

I only ask because now that I don't have the dream of the unicorn to chase, having and raising a family seems to be the only reason I can come up with to keep me motivated.

Darth_Antonius · 2017-03-22T15:20:45+00:00

What is the best way to improve one's wit and humor?

Beefytaco97 · 2017-03-22T22:10:36+00:00

How exactly do I take the red pill?

Lathius_ · Wed Mar 22 22:13:14 2017 UTC

I have the opportunity to go to medical school and graduate when I'm 27. I'm currently 20. Does this seem like a good idea or am I better off getting into the workforce with my degree at 22?

Beefytaco97 · 2017-03-22T22:14:43+00:00

TL;DR How does one take the red pill exactly?

Currently in a shitty situation where I've been thinking about my life lately. Jock in high school now average personal physically and recently discovered I'm either needy or distant when it comes to relationships. Also been lacking confidence lately and doubt myself a lot as of late.

I lurk around this sub often and I've come to a point where I need to do something before I become the losers I made fun of in high school. I want to begin this journey to better myself. I've started by joining a gym as of last month and have been going 3 times a week. How does one start on their Red Pill journey?

AManOnHisWay · 2017-03-23T01:36:40+00:00

I'm 23. Was single throughout college and was doing pretty well with women. Then I met a girl (same age) senior year who didn't have any red flags and entered an LTR with her, which lasted 3 years. We broke up because I slowly started showing too much of my beta traits (I'm thinking because I lost my abundance mentality) and the relationship became unhealthy. I broke up with her over the phone during a fight, gave her no closure even though she messaged me a few times, until a few days ago. That was a month after we broke up. I became weak and felt like I needed the closure and finally caved in, saw her in person. We had sex. Both understood that we can't get back into a relationship as nothing would change, but because we both realized we need to work on ourselves and get our shit straight and arent planning to talk to other people (I am, just didnt tell her that) maybe a few months from now maybe it will work out, but not for that to be an expectation. I told her maybe we can just meet once a month, catch up and hook up. She agreed.

I know theory wise you aren't supposed to be digging in the trash and my energy/time is better invested in developing new relationships, but this relationship had no problems except I started becoming beta. Wasn't focusing on myself, lost my job, wasn't doing anything besides lifting and smoking weed, lost abundance mentality. I know this sounds like some beta shit, but I don't want to lose a loyal girl whose virginity I took, who is becoming a doctor and actually has her shit straight and plays no games with me, etc. Is it unhealthy for me to build myself expecting us not to get back together, but still hoping it does work out?

do_it_or_leave · 2017-03-23T00:42:06+00:00

Should I cut before the winter?

I am lifting for a year and fixed my diet in the last 6 months, in which I made some observable gains. I lost 10kg(more than 10kg of fat, because I had nice noob gainz) in the last 4 months, and I think I am 5kg away of a nice abs, but I my research says these 5kg will be as hard as the last 10kg. I live in SouthAmerica and soon it will be winter, should I just go maintance for some months and do another cut closer to summer or just say fuck it and keep cutting? What you guys that do this shit for more time have to say?

dustin_slothman · 2017-03-23T05:20:37+00:00

She said thanks for the flowers (randomly suprised her with some after our first date which I thought went really well) and I said you're welcome. Haven't heard from her since then, and we were texting a lot leading up to the our coffee date. Is there anything wrong with a 'hey how is your week going?' or do i wait it out.

AlexDr0ps · 2017-03-23T02:11:12+00:00

Do I actually need to make conversation with a girl after an approach? By that I mean, can I just walk up, introduce myself, say some shit and ask for her number? Or is it generally more effective to have small talk and ask her what she is up to, etc.

Kommanderdude · 2017-03-22T16:32:03+00:00

Told ltr that my best friend said he thought our ltr wouldn't last and that I would get bored or move on to someone better looking in his opinion. Did it to introduce some dread. The hamster has been spinning with comfort test but she has been more compliant and gave me morning sex which hasn't happened in awhile and she gave me period sex the other day which she has never done before.

Was that a good call to tell her. Friend actually told me that. I think that with other things I have going on plus gyming that it was like icing on the cake in terms of dread.

ilikemychickenfried · 2017-03-22T19:06:48+00:00

Is sleeping with married or taken women okay? Part of me says fuck it, who gives a shit. Another part tells me I'm a weak, undiciplined, sorry excuse of a man for doing so. Which wolf should I listen to?

DotishGuy · 2017-03-22T16:40:39+00:00

Is there a male version to awalt? What characteristics does that man possess?

(I'm assuming there'd be an alpha and a beta version)

Jakeisahooligan · 2017-03-22T20:39:07+00:00

What causes somebody to become cold-hearted?

focusedmofo · 2017-03-22T20:54:01+00:00

Can I get some objective criticism on my tinder profile?

https://imgur.com/gallery/xmG72 http://i.imgur.com/s4Aa3Zn.png

PtolemySpinola · 2017-03-22T21:50:28+00:00

Hello, gentlemen. I'm in college right now and have lost a sense of purpose (for the most part). I'm currently on ADD meds along with an SSRI and Xanax for panic attacks. I believe my depression has been caused due to a lack of purpose. I switched majors 2 1/2 years into college to Business. I have many self defeating thoughts and believe I might fail out of college. I'm a little socially awkward (add meds), but when I'm relaxed I'm able to chill with the boys. With women it's hit or miss. I'd like some advice from a few guys who have been lost and later found their purpose in life.

gmflag · 2017-03-23T01:28:37+00:00

My question is regarding the length of time for ghosting.

When you ghost a girl, I know some will be indefinite and forever because they are blatantly disrespectful or have some serious red flags that make them an absolute no go.

I guess mine is regarding plates that were once great and treated you like a king. At some point, whether I ended up slipping into some old beta habits or for whatever various reason, they then start to become disrespectful, which leads to a ghosting period.

Ultimately I think I am trying to get at good guidelines for ghosting and how long to ghost.

NotMyBestEffort · 2017-03-23T06:40:00+00:00

...found a game called Warcraft, about the same time I found Ebay. had only so much free time had to make a choice between the two. I chose the hobby that I could make money by getting better at.

I have a life rule as an adult - any hobby has to earn money - or produce a significant positive result aka gym, yoga , Ebay selling, coding classes, poker etc...

What are other hobbies I may want to consider?

r_k07 · 2017-03-23T06:42:22+00:00

19 at the moment. Kinda ruined my rep in highschool since I'm known as a player so the people who have known me already have a bad impression. Different person now than I was, maybe a bit more smarter since encountering TRP. How do I go about this, should I start meeting women i don't already know or is this reversible

Kosti2332 · 2017-03-23T10:23:14+00:00

I am new to this sub, was ironically led here by the movie "the red pill" which just mentioned this sub once, and negatively, but I was curious. I seem to suffer from many problems which are discussed here(posture, slightly overweight, shyness around girls), but have begun to tackle them myself with positive results.

So I am still curious about this sub but struggle to get into it, all of these abbreviations really confuse me and I couldn't find all explanations for them in the wiki /sidebar. Can someone help me out?

IlluminAwesome · 2017-03-23T11:24:39+00:00

I am a naturally quiet guy. A lot of people assume I'm shy or boring at parties, but internally, I'm at peace with myself. I'm also horrible at small talk because it seems so pointless and forced. This is holding me back. What can I do about it?

ciawarek · 2017-03-23T13:58:44+00:00

Im in LTR with 36yr old single mother and we live 10 mins from each other but , she has soime stomach ache since one week and cant have sex but blows me and 2 days ago she did it 2 times , then i didnt meet with her yesterday and toda she tries to sex shame me that im ok with visiting her and meeting when she blows me but when i dont need it then i wont show up, thats what she says but its bullshit, besides she still is kinda cranky and bitchy with her stomach ache so i took a day off and noow i have this, what should i tell her and how should i do it to make her stop trying sex shame me everytime we wont meet day after sex, for me its childish and retarded , but how to stop it ? She also acts up like if she doesnt want to meet today and all that bullshit, so when i will go today she will make up some bullshit that shes busy etc cause she did it before, then i kiss her cheek and leave then she will say im butthurt etc, what to do to not make it appear im butthurt ? cause im notbutthurt at all but i know she acts up, shes says shes busy when i visit her to make me sad so i kiss and leave because i dont have time to put up with her shit and prefere to spend time somewhere else when shes bitchy.

calavera_calva · Thu Mar 23 17:08:43 2017 UTC

Hi guys I am not getting as many matches as I used, would appreciate the help: Bio: I try to be normal but I can't. 1'90 📚Engineering 💛Muay Thai Pics:https://imgur.com/a/7PoXr Options:https://imgur.com/a/wSHTv.

And one more question: How can I keep a plate that is on a different city and only see two or three times a month?

SJHammer · Thu Mar 23 17:51:52 2017 UTC

Finally discovered TRP a few days ago. Working to change things as quick as possible. Here is my Tinder Profile. http://imgur.com/a/lFjyt pics are in order with extras afterwards. I plan to get some photos taken in about 1 week with an actual photographer. Thinking maybe i should delete and reactivate my account all together.

SentFromGods · Thu Mar 23 18:17:46 2017 UTC

I have a question about paying for drinks/food, as I'm not the average guy here.

First, I'm from Serbia, and while our society has been infected as of recently, people are much more "redpilled" than in the west, so society expects more traditional roles from everyone. I work at age 22, when 90% of my peers don't and will have a really hard time finding work when they finish school, and on top of that I earn 10x the average salary. Paying or not for drinks/food is completely irrelevant for my wallet, but does it hurt or benefit me in other ways?

[deleted] · 2017-03-23T21:25:59+00:00

I was hoping to get a roll call on how many TRP members are from dual parent households vs single parent, and if single parent, single ma or pa. But I'm a little late and it isn't really a question. Curious if there's some light data there.

SuperSneekerz · 2017-03-24T06:17:12+00:00

I read this subreddit everyday and somehow when im out in public i can't apply these strategies either i forget about them or they fail, any ideas or core ideas? Im focusing on pushpulling

breakingbadrule · 2017-03-22T15:06:53+00:00

I read The Rational Male, and one thing that struck me was the idea of how people can have a change in their personalities when something huge happens in their lives. (For good or bad) Rollo gave an example of how the personalities of soldiers changed after war. And if I'm remembering it correctly, he also mentioned actual rape survivors.

Now my question is, how do I make this change in my personality? Because I find that my self-confidence/my change in personality comes and goes as it pleases. Every time, it's a conscious effort to be confident, otherwise, I just go back to the old ways. I'm not sure if this is making any sense, but I hope someone who has overcome this sucessfully can help me overcome it.

FurryVegaz · 2017-03-22T18:16:55+00:00

I've tried, for a long time to understand this subreddit. Is it about self improvment, or bashing on women? I'm not hating just asking.

GayLubeOil · 2017-03-22T13:23:30+00:00

Question for everyone:

If you have no understanding of Simulation and Simulacra, the philosophical text which is the progenitor of the Red Pill metaphor, how can you claim to be Red Pill?

randommofo · 2017-03-22T13:55:44+00:00

Why do we despise women, but not men? Why can't we have relationships with women that are besides only sex? It can't be all that it's about, every action we do is an attempt of jockeying for a position on top of the hill?

Is it truly dog eat dog out there? Even in affluent parts? Why can't we transcend our nature?

Is living in this world just a lonely pursuit?There's such a fuck everyone but yourself mentality that it's depressing. Why don't we trust anyone?

How to get over comparing myself to literally anyone who went to a better college than me, more money than me, more successful than me, happier than me?

Is there any everlasting happiness?

chocobear420 · 2017-03-22T17:49:48+00:00

So this is just something I noticed after looking at a few posts. While I totally agree with the spirit and most of the messages that people post here about, my issue is that it seems misogynistic. Now, this isn't to say that this sub is full of women-hating douchebags, I just noticed that it seems very anti-female. I am curious if this was just bad luck on my part looking at certain posts as opposed to if that is the nature of the sub. While I believe beta men certainly should grow a pair, I wouldn't go so far as to victimize males for what they do. As far as I am concerned people suck as a whole and there are shit men that take advantage of men and vice versa. Am I wrong about my interpretation of the subject o f this sub? Please advise, and I am not trying to piss people off claiming they are assholes, just looking at it from an objective point of view.

IIlllIllIIIllIl · 2017-03-22T14:03:48+00:00

Have I come full circle?

I've been around for years, and I'm gaining a new dark understanding of beta men and the hell they put themselves through. I can't believe I'm saying this, but it's a mindset that they almost deserve divorce rape for becoming betas in their relationship. Like, its natures way of saying, become and STAY a fucking Man.

letmereadthatshit · 2017-03-22T23:20:39+00:00

Hi I'm insecure about the size of my penis and I wanted to hear your opinions about this

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