Man wants new GF to foot half the bill for him and his two kids. Throw the whole man away

timeknife · 2020-05-03T05:34:48+00:00

This woman’s self esteem is in the toilet.

“Looking for a man’s opinion” because she can’t trust her own judgement any more

“Twin Flame” she’s been brainwashed into thinking this soul sucker is her soul mate

level_up_always · 2020-05-03T04:52:48+00:00

i used to read that subreddit but it got too painful. so many women sacrificing their entire existence for some other woman's kids and you never see men asking the same questions. hard pass.

valsavana · 2020-05-03T05:38:40+00:00

This is the exact kind of guy that, if the worst happens in 10-15 years and she becomes disabled or has cancer or whatever, will destroy her & her self-worth mentally and emotionally before trading her in for a "newer model"

ScrappleSandwiches · 2020-05-03T05:49:49+00:00

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mightbethrowawayyy · 2020-05-03T04:38:04+00:00

What does twin flame even mean and how is it different from soul mate

Truly don’t understand 😂

Milobear27 · 2020-05-03T07:26:12+00:00

I was more committed to him than he is to me

Boy 👋🏽

nosynobody · 2020-05-03T05:54:40+00:00

This is just sad. I think am gonna stop trying to date after 32, all these men sound absolutely awful. I think I would rather be single than end up with someone like this

lilitha134 · 2020-05-03T09:28:47+00:00

Reading her comments is so sad, she is desperately trying to find someone justifying his behavior because she realizes what kind of asshole he is but for some reason still wants to be with him...

Davina33 · 2020-05-03T11:57:30+00:00

She's child free with a good income and she settles for that arsehole? She really needs a brain transplant for considering his shitty offer. This is one reason why as a fellow child free woman I don't date men with kids.

_boring_daven_ · 2020-05-03T04:52:01+00:00

I say anyone who doesn’t want to split things proportional to income can kick rocks. Sure, it’s not “equal” but it’s fair. Like life.

It deeply saddens me that she doesn’t realize how shitty he is.

even_thriller · 2020-05-03T13:34:17+00:00

Omg all the women in that sub know what’s up and said it’s time to find a new man yet she wants a males opinion??? She’s so brainwashed.

ShieldMaidenLagertha · 2020-05-03T05:43:15+00:00

Omg...and moving out of state...😱

Seraphinx · 2020-05-03T10:30:54+00:00

I'm so sad and angry that this successful independent woman is even considering this, let alone actively fighting against all the women telling her how wrong this is.

I'd kill to be earning that kind of money, I'd never suffer than kind of bullshit. The only reason I've ever lived with men was to share / reduce expenses.

BerryCocoLove · 2020-05-03T11:36:43+00:00

That thread read like narcissistic abuse on top of her already being a pickmeisha.

Men like him will hook into anyone but they especially sink their teeth into someone who is weak-willed and lacking in self love.

The part that really bothered me was the emotional blackmail, like how his daughter can’t stand the OP but yet he doesn’t do anything to remedy the situation.

After I learned about narcissism, I run at the sight of men who refuse to take responsibility for their own actions or shift the blame.

ItsFreezen · 2020-05-03T12:21:31+00:00

She's a glutton for punishment.

circescircus · 2020-05-03T13:27:09+00:00

Wow, is this a new species of pickmeisha? She needs to wake up and run.

What a disgrace of a man, preying on some desperate woman, so he can avoid providing for his own children.

I got sick reading that post. Sounds like a typical narcissist/codependent relationship. The "twin flame" thing cements that. Codependent enabler types love trying to rationalize their sick twisted abusive relationships with "twin flame" bullshit.

MagnoliaMirage · 2020-05-03T09:38:31+00:00

This is why I don't like the twin flame thing. People always get confused and believe that means putting up with every shitty thing someone does.🤦‍♂️

n_AMALT · 2020-05-03T16:05:45+00:00

This is the advice a MAN gave her in a now deleted thread.

My view 50/50 is always the best way to do things.

I know this is me and not everyone. I was in relationships where it wasn't 50/50. And eventually i start to resent them because i had to pay more.

Its not his fault that you make less then him. And you chose him even tho he has kids. Moving in together makes them your responsibility also.

Keep trying to talk with him. Make your points. And maybe he will cave.

Good luck.

https://www.reddit.com/r/Advice/comments/gc6s0k/z/fp9l28m

StupidHappyPancakes · 2020-05-04T03:29:16+00:00

God, reading all that was nauseating. I just can't understand this woman at all. I mean, I put up with a terrible marriage to an abusive narcissist, but I also was disabled, had no way to support myself, and had no family to turn to. If I had been able-bodied, self-sufficient, and pulling in six figures...I damn well would have walked the fuck right out the first time he was abusive. And my self-esteem was shit at the time and I still would have given anything to be on my own!

The cherry on top was at the end when she admitted to wanting to have kids with this abusive asshole, and he's already basically told her no, so she's trying to convince herself that she doesn't necessarily want kids either.

So she has to live in a state she hates which may also well mean a pay cut, without being married, paying a ludicrously disproportionate amount of the bills, taking care of his kids who hate her while he goes climbing mountains, she isn't allowed to want a wedding or an engagement ring, he'd rather get a shittier job just to spite her rather than paying for his own damn kids, he demeans her job, and she can't even have her own KIDS with him! What the everloving bloody hell is the POINT of this guy!?

She definitely lost my sympathy with her shitty misogyny, though, and I'm not a fan of women who have affairs with married men and then expect a happy ending. Do you notice that she has absolutely NO IDEA why the kids don't like her? Like they aren't fully aware that this is the homewrecker who broke their mom and dad up. 🙄

idiosyncraticg1 · 2020-05-03T21:02:42+00:00

At least the comments are sane.

It shouldn’t even be a question that he pays more because he has not one, but two kids. That’s a higher electricity bill, larger grocery bills, more water used.

ErikaNaumann · 2020-05-05T02:06:54+00:00

She is the pickmeisha queen. Every single comment is telling her to get away from this man, and she just keeps defending him.

She's a lost cause. Some people only learn from their mistakes. Others never learn at all. In 10 years she will be complaining about how life is unfair.

Title	Man wants new GF to foot half the bill for him and his two kids. Throw the whole man away
Author	YesNoMaybe87
Upvotes	147
Comments	67
Date	May 3, 2020 4:31 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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