Getting rid of my old bdsm stuff

nosynobody · 2020-03-30T07:38:38+00:00

Good for you sis. And consider it just a facet of your past, don't let that get you down or determine your self worth.

yumiia · 2020-03-30T11:02:29+00:00

Some guy messaged me saying he’s never had anal lmao

watchoutwoman · 2020-03-30T10:57:07+00:00

Can we have a movement where instead of burning our bras we burn leather, whips and gags?

yumiia · 2020-03-30T07:12:29+00:00

I love this. I did a similar thing a while back and felt so free afterward. Good for you. This is self respect.

CorruptSoulGem · 2020-03-30T08:23:23+00:00

This is why I love this subreddit! Women figuring out their value as a person and learning to loving themselves gives me all the joy in the world. I’m so happy for you! ☺️

Loonietoons933 · 2020-03-30T09:40:05+00:00

Oomg this!!!! This is so true. I used to think bdsm was normal. No more. My partner now never liked rough sex. He was always against it and said he didnt like it. I wanted him to choke me and shit. After therapy I realized it was me being messed up. So I stopped it and we talked about it and he feels a big relief not feeling he has to do stuff like that. Its messed up. Only compassionate sex with kisses love AND eye contact!!

yumiia · 2020-03-30T06:02:13+00:00

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MagicAte_8 · 2020-03-30T06:09:34+00:00

Burn it!! 🔥🔥🔥

yumiia · 2020-03-30T06:46:32+00:00

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kittycakes22 · 2020-03-30T17:14:09+00:00

Is it weird that I’ve developed move of a dominant view of sex? I get turned on by sensual pegging videos and men being more submissive. I’ve never been into BDSM though, where the woman is abused and what not. I think I’ve always wanted to take back control since men have taken advantage of me in the past. If I was dating someone open to it, I’d definitely give pegging a try.

yumiia · 2020-03-30T10:41:20+00:00

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Inezmez · 2020-03-30T08:21:44+00:00

I can really relate to this. I haven’t had sex for a long time because I cut off all lvm relationships, and it’s really got rid of the pleasure I once got from bdsm. Now I just see it as socially acceptable abuse.

dzgata · 2020-03-30T06:30:36+00:00

Proud of you boo! Only do what makes YOU feel good.

skinsurance · 2020-03-30T07:21:20+00:00

I felt empowered just reading this ( ◜‿◝ )♡

throwawayperson820 · 2020-03-30T07:26:04+00:00

This made me cry, I can relate so much. So proud of you

yumiia · 2020-03-30T07:49:09+00:00

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Soulsalts · 2020-03-30T07:37:09+00:00

This is so exciting! What a happy day!

99power · 2020-03-30T09:00:54+00:00

You’re better than this stuff, and you always have been!! Don’t let any scrotes push you down for being a victim of porn culture.

grimreapersdtr · 2020-03-30T12:21:31+00:00

Good! Right now on the front page of reddit there is an upvoted video of a woman getting hit and the comments are disgusting and sexist, men are getting off on watching a woman getting beat. Men LOVE watching and committing acts of violence against women and BDSM is nothing more than a legal way for them to do that.

Reachingout365 · 2020-03-30T07:37:12+00:00

I'm so repulsed by men who do this to women... I'm glad you realized you deserved better and left. That sounds terrible. (I totally understand why women do it. It's trauma it's just sick how willing men are to do this to women...)

threadinsidepinhole · 2020-03-30T12:00:55+00:00

I am proud of you sis, no more loveless fake intimacy. 🙂

Parking-Act · 2020-03-30T13:53:51+00:00

Yayyyy!!!! Congratulations! I got rid of a sex toy too recently. I only got it for my demon ex and I only used to for his entertainment. It always felt weird using it and every sexy show I gave him was for him. I tried to convince myself that I could still use it for my own sexuality but NAH. I couldn't deny it was only bought to please him. I threw it right in the trash bin! I felt sooo so empowerer after! So , that is to say, I can relate! I'm so proud of you for choosing your own happiness over a man's! Im so happy you can now move forward with healthy views on sex! Congratulations!

rasta-mon · 2020-03-30T11:28:32+00:00

I’m sad that BDSM was used by guys to cause you pain. You shouldn’t be forced to do something you’re not comfortable with or pressured into. I’m really sorry you had this experience and glad you are throwing your stuff out. This is coming from someone who got men into it to use it strictly for my own pleasure, not theirs. I’d have them tie me up and give me extended foreplay. Blessings to you coming into your power.

nutshit · 2020-03-30T14:48:54+00:00

I thought I was into it too but it felt so wrong and terrible 😭 I’m proudly vanilla

anxiousbearofpolar · 2020-03-30T14:24:08+00:00

omg i was just thinking the other day about how i felt the need for bdsm with my ex. and seeing someone new where there's only passion is amazing.

sublimes0ul · 2020-03-30T15:14:53+00:00

This is my forever favorite thread to be apart of because you are all the divine feminine to me like you all radiate this sense of home/woman that I felt somewhat disconnected with 🥺

phulkari2784 · 2020-03-30T12:37:47+00:00

Does FDS condemn anal, sisters?

HoneyNJ2000 · 2020-03-30T13:37:24+00:00

Jesus. I wouldn't do that shit for someone even if they DID care about me.

Throw that garbage away and never use it again.

2020-03-30T10:08:53+00:00

If only more women would gain this level of self-respect. Good job.

yumiia · 2020-03-30T16:12:51+00:00

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Nikita_kitty93 · 2020-03-31T01:51:39+00:00

I am so happy for you

Laeun · 2020-04-04T06:01:50+00:00

Truly a momentous occasion worth celebrating.

shrimpcakewithcrust · 2020-03-30T11:48:31+00:00

Good job Queen! Let this be your upgrade, and show your worth!

Your post made me so happy, im so happy for you. Never let anyone use you for their twisted pleasure! Queen!

yumiia · 2020-03-30T13:53:50+00:00

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hello-earthlings · 2020-03-30T12:37:41+00:00

I've been thinking of getting rid of my bdsm stuff too. The only thing holding me back is that some of it is quite expensive and I'm wondering I should try and sell them (e.g. collars from Coco de Mer that go for 100 bucks).

RiriiInTheDen · 2020-03-30T12:14:56+00:00

I am so so so proud of you! I needed to read this. It is so good to know that I am not the only one who went through this/feeling this way. It is good to know I am not alone in this.

VaporwaveVampire · 2020-04-15T20:53:44+00:00

Some girls are whipped and choked before receiving unconditional love. Can’t be good for your psyche or self esteem

TheOGJammies · 2020-03-30T12:45:20+00:00

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Title	Getting rid of my old bdsm stuff
Author	yumiia
Upvotes	1013
Comments	132
Date	March 30, 2020 5:48 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/frl7wj/getting_rid_of_my_old_bdsm_stuff/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/getting-rid-of-my-old-bdsm-stuff.679323 https://theredarchive.com/post/679323

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