Stop engaging in FWB relationships! It does nothing but make you an unpaid escort who will eventually get her heart broken. Women aren’t built for casual relationships. You deserve a man who loves you, treats you like his queen, and commits to you. You deserve the full package!

ellaykim · 2020-02-12T12:03:27+00:00

FWB- another iteration of the “cool girl.” All about pleasing the man and setting yourself up for heartbreak.

Yeah let’s have sex and “friendship...” basically a a relationship where no one is held accountable for how they treat eachother because god forbid we put a label on something and COMMIT 😱. That should work out real well. Then when he acts like a fuckboy he can just blame it on “this was casuallll” “we’re just FWB” 🤮

penelopekitty · 2020-02-12T12:22:39+00:00

Agree. Once sex is involved it is not a friendship, it's a relationship that should require a greater degree of care and respect. That never happens.

I don't do FWB. Years ago a man wanted to do this with me. I told him I don't have sex with my friends, that's why they are friends. Back in the days of the dinosaurs people used to say "they took a lover." Notice the word "love" in there. That is what is missing in FWB. Also, having sex with a person many times tends to produce a chemically induced bond for most women. It's all around a bad idea.

fructose-corn-syrup · 2020-02-12T15:58:04+00:00

Had my hot girl summer this year post divorce. I won't hate on it, it broke through a lot of barriers for me. I learned a lot about myself. But-- I have had to learn I am not personally wired to sustain this. If the sex is amazing, that oxytocin fucks me uppp. Catching feelings is like catching the flu for FWB.

Thanks for reminder!

Cutiejea · 2020-02-12T13:19:00+00:00

Learned that the hard way. Had guys who said im worth having sex but dont want to hold my hand.

Im like... why do you want to touch me all over if you cant even do the most basic/simple human touch?!?

siberiansummer · 2020-02-12T15:36:33+00:00

Exactly! No point of thinking it will develop into anything either. Men stop trying once you give them 🐱. And stop lying to yourself when you say you are ok with having cASuAl sex. 99 times out of a 100 woman is secretly hoping for more

WillowFreak · 2020-02-12T22:17:48+00:00

I admit the last time this subject came up I was on the side of keeping my FWB because I thought I was the one in charge. But when I really looked at it, I was only with him because I was afraid to ask for more. I didn't think I was worthy of more. He was easy and I didn't have to wear makeup or nice clothes to go to his house. But then I started asking him for more in bed. I wanted to orgasm more and be held more. He wasn't willing/able to give me that. So I told my FWB of 5 years goodbye. Since then I've blocked losers from OLD, felt better about myself overall, and even had a fantastic sexual experiences as a one night stand to remind me what good sex should be. I'm good now waiting for someone worthy of me. Someone to buy me coffee as we get to know each other. Someone I won't sleep with right away. I'm thankful to this sub for changing my outlook and helping me level up my life.

illusion_believe · 2020-02-12T10:02:04+00:00

It says a lot about him not you. Why do you except 68liters of love from someone that has 2 liters only. That’s all they have to give you . Accept this and move on

cannedboelyn · 2020-02-12T12:50:57+00:00

That’s exactly how I felt

hikerkay · 2020-02-12T11:22:53+00:00

Playing devils advocate here. Sometimes you just want a fuck 🤷🏽‍♀️

pinkyberries · 2020-02-12T13:48:49+00:00

FWB situation can only benefit women if the guy still takes them out to eat and pays and still cares of them aside from sexual stuff, otherwise you're setting yourself for a heartbreak while gaining nothing.

skullydog · 2020-02-12T13:57:01+00:00

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2020-02-12T14:22:21+00:00

I really hate this label. A) you don’t sleep with friends B) strangers asking for this online are nuts. You gotta be friends first and that’s not what they mean at all. Bet if you needed help of any kind, these type of men are nowhere to be found. I thinks it’s pretty rude actually, just looking for free prostitute.

ilikesoy_ · 2020-02-23T23:00:06+00:00

same with polygamous relationships

throwawayz187y · 2020-02-12T09:01:41+00:00

Likewise maybe some women think a man is good enough to fuck but not good enough to invest feelings in.

Not all women are hopeless romantics who fall for every guy they sleep with. 🤷‍♀️

Winter_Inevitable · 2020-02-12T18:39:28+00:00

Sometimes it works for me, but I am a special case. First, I am older and been through this enough to be able to compartmentalize. Also, my FWB right now is someone I tried dating and couldn't consider as a serious option, so we downgraded things to casual/FWB only. I like him as a person, the sex is great, but he has WAY too many LVM traits for me to ever take as a serious boyfriend option. I'm also working on my career and weight loss right now. Now, if someone I COULD take seriously comes along, this will obviously end.

kwolff94 · 2020-02-13T05:31:00+00:00

But like, what if I want to fuck around with more than one dude and not commit either?

I've had 2 really solid FWB at different points in my life, both stayed friends through my relationships and actually respected that I was taken or if I was interested in hooking up with someone else (I had a pact with one that if we didnt get laid by the person we were aiming for that night we'd go home together) and I stayed friends with them through their relationships.

I'm still friends with both and sleeping with one (best sex I have EVER had) and honestly, both have treated me better than my boyfriends did in the end. I think yall need better friends. Dont give any part of yourself to dudes who dont respect your needs and boundaries and if you're not satisfied theres no point in sex OR friendship.

lolumadbr0 · 2020-02-12T19:28:38+00:00

Did this shit for a very Fucking long ass time. If I do decide to do another FWB it'll be the benefits and not the friend part.

I learned all of this the hard way. Never again.

marilanna · 2020-02-12T15:58:48+00:00

I don't know. May be an unpopular opinion here but I don't mind FWB at all as long as we're truly "friends" i.e. we spend time talking and hanging out that isn't sex-related and both like each other as people. Fully romantic relationships are just messy and I don't even want to get into the possibility of marriage right now, so this is good enough to pass the time until the rest of my life is sorted out.

kwolff94 · 2020-02-12T14:02:55+00:00

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mhigh69 · 2020-02-12T16:39:57+00:00

I disagree. Look if it's not your thing, then don't do it. But not everyone sees sex the same way. I've been in a FWB relationship with a friend for over a year now and things are going great. We've never had "heartbreak" and we're never going to date. Because before we started hooking up, we talked and made it clear of what each of us wanted.

Women in FWB relationships aren't victims. Yes they can end bad but it's not always because of the man. If you entered into a FWB relationship and then you get upset that they don't want to move to the next step, that's on you.

Jasminov1 · 2020-02-12T12:41:06+00:00

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