The woefully pathetic inquires that end up on the relationship subreddit is a true representation of the bottom half of male society. I urge you to avoid any chance of tainting your mind. However, this post ended up making its way to the front page and I couldn't help but gag.
"[UPDATE] You were right. I ignored every single one of your comments and eventually caught my wife with the other man"
One of the few tenets that are repeatedly taught here is to either extinguish a fire while it is still an ember or walk far away and let the house burn down on its own. This man allowed a small indiscretion to become a larger indiscretion and it cost him nothing more than his pride and sanity. In the previous post we learn of a "man" who caught his wife in a compromising situation. Here is an excerpt:
Last Christmas, I found she had been having a long conversation with a coworker of hers, in which they talked about having had sex multiple times and that they couldn’t wait for the next one. The guy said he was going to book a hotel near their office right after Christmas. In this conversation, when he said he was looking forward to seeing my wife, she would reply with things like “I’m looking forward to much more than just seeing you”, etc. You get the idea. Overly flirty and sexual.
And thats it. Thats where this story should end. If you care about your well-being, it's over at this point.
The number 1 mistake you can make when dealing with infidelity is showing any sort of acceptance. Once it is clear that you are willing to overlook a females lustful character, then you are no longer in control. DO NOT RATIONALIZE. "You get the idea. Overly flirty and sexual" - this man is so blinded by the unicorn of a slut he has on his hands that he reduces clear disregard of the marriage to playful flirting.
My wife says she’s going to change this time and that I never really forgave her and that’s why she kept talking to the guy. She says this time she’s really going to stop but I have a hard time believing it.
Poor guy had a hard time believing his wife would stop. And since you are reading this here, you know the end of the story. Long story short. He moves out for a few months to get therapy and clear his head. Here is some advice. If your relationship is the root cause of you needing therapy, then you need to get out of that relationship. After his self-realization and forgiveness phase, he walks back to his wife with open arms and ready to start anew, only to find her stud co-worker hiding naked in the bedroom closet. But here is the part that really disgusts me. After all this women put him through, here is how he references her.
I knew it wasn't true but was willing to forgive the woman of my dreams, who continued being in the highest altar of my universe. I'm sorry. I still love her to death.
There are just certain people you cannot shake any sense into. They are a lost cause. The reason this women felt 0 guilt in what she did was because she was placed so high up, that she knew she could do no wrong. There is no reason anyone reading this would let it get that far. This is an EXTREME example of blue-pill cuckery. That is obvious. But there are some truths to be found here.
- Do not react. Any reaction that isn't you walking away is more than you should be doing. They dont deserve any more.
- It is in her nature. If you are not familiar with the story of the frog and scorpion, go read it. A scorpion will sting anything simply because it is in its nature. Do not be surprised when women act like women.
- Do not place anyone higher than yourself. Maybe a hero father or saint brother can be an exception, but for all purposes, your own identity should be your main priority. Do not allow any person to overtake that.
- Cut your losses before they cut you. This one is obvious. There is always another route to take.