Has the FDS-mindset ruined (some) music for anyone else?

LevelingUpQueen_ · 2021-02-03T10:07:03+00:00

Yes, but I’m glad it happened. As I’ve said before in a comment, I’m currently in the process of wiping my entire music library and only following queens whom I agree with lyrically, especially when it comes to hip hop. I don’t want to listen to, give my coin nor my view to opinions (glorifying abuse, degradation of women, pickmeism etc) I do not agree with.

_fuyumi · 2021-02-03T07:26:40+00:00

Basically the entire album The Spirit Room by Michelle Branch. That was my jam when I was like 14-15 and I remember the music being soothing and catchy, so I download it again... Just track after track of pickme sadness. It's awful how music indoctrinates young women to expect suffering and that they should endure it, just to keep a man.

souredskittles · 2021-02-03T07:38:03+00:00

Yes. The beat to Positions by Ariana grande is fire but I can’t sing along to the lyrics😫

missgirl649 · 2021-02-03T15:08:54+00:00

Most Ariana grande songs lol, I think she’s talented but there are so many pickme anthems. Most love songs too tbh, and any songs written by women pining over men or talking about how much they want them. Also almost all breakup sad songs written by men about some woman who rejected them or dumped them, I can’t help but feel the guy is full of bs and the woman probably got sick of it and left.

Fun_Sherbet · 2021-02-03T08:39:37+00:00

YES, popular music especially does so much to glorify terrible relationship patterns. I have a theory that popular music is used deliberately to brainwash the masses.. for example how much alcohol is also glorified.

MonicaLSolis · 2021-02-03T13:09:44+00:00

I used to listen to this song called "Like You Don't Love Me". It's about a woman asking her man to have sex with her like he doesn't love her. What is the appeal to that?

HeavyMetalLobster · 2021-02-03T13:36:20+00:00

Summertime by Mungo Jerry. You’ve definitely heard this before. It is stupid catchy and I still love it....the same way I love my grandma despite hating people. (“I love you but no. You’re being embarassing and racist grandma.”)

Some lyrics:

If her daddy's rich take her out for a meal. If her daddy's poor just do what you feel

🤢

Then_Advertising_773 · 2021-02-03T11:02:41+00:00

Yup. Some song lyrics make me mad cause they promote several unhealthy things.

I try to listen to more empowering songs, they tend to improve mood and self esteem

RiverofSouls_ · 2021-02-03T08:46:01+00:00

Streets by Doja Cat is such a pick me song. I keep cringing

Chillody · 2021-02-03T12:48:09+00:00

Yep, but I'm eager to delete them and replace with better music

millennialpink2000 · 2021-02-03T15:24:33+00:00

Yes, music and TV/movies have changed for me too. For example, I was just re-watching Insecure and wanted to scream and throw something when the ladies did pick me shit all the time. It was a totally different experience than watching it the first time

I still love the show, but it hits differently now, along with a lot of other pop culture

_RustInPiece_ · 2021-02-03T12:22:59+00:00

I had to delete more than half of my mediathek, which is a lot.

sassyheather · 2021-02-03T12:38:26+00:00

No, I usually listen to music while I work out, cook or shop, so I don’t stop to analyze the lyrics. I know a lot of lyrics are non-FDS but I’m not gonna stop liking the songs.

Carpedictum · 2021-02-03T16:03:26+00:00

I was feeling a little wistful but determined not to get in touch with an ex. I wanted to hear “Maybe” by Ingrid Michaelson but couldn’t remember the name of the song so I asked Alexa to shuffle her music.

The first song to come out was “Hell no.” I thought “you’re right Alexa, that’s a MUCH better choice.” 😂

GIfuckingJane · 2021-02-03T20:34:44+00:00

Gwen Stefani. I loved her growing up. But what are these lyrics about?

Me, I'm the one you chose Out of all the people You wanted me the most

freerollerskates · 2021-02-03T23:42:15+00:00

Just listen to New Rules by Dua Lipa on repeat instead. A bop and FDS compliant!

nom-de-plume_12 · 2021-02-04T14:00:27+00:00

Good for you by Selena Gomez pickme vibe to it.

ReignOnYou95 · 2021-02-03T21:59:25+00:00

Ive always been picky with lyrics and the message people promote but kept it to myself

AmethistStars · 2021-02-04T08:27:03+00:00

My twin sister and I loved “The Boy Is Mine” when we were little and pretended she was Monica and I was Brandy. I still find it a catchy nostalgic song but damn, fighting over a guy like that is such pick me energy. 😂

weekend111 · 2021-02-03T13:01:38+00:00

Basically most europop/aughts electronics I used to listen. Why are the lyrics so pick me?

holodeckdeathtrap · 2021-02-05T15:07:05+00:00

As a hip hop fan, there's really only one FDS-related topic that I haven't been able to find any art in -- pimp culture. I think it's the fact that it occupies the intersection between rape and slavery. I've liked songs but then a line is thrown in about forcing a woman to work the streets and my reaction is involuntary. It's just gross. It's gross that any one with a mother, daughter, sister, aunt, grandmother would talk like that shit is impressive. I have yet to hear a beat or tune that was so good that it overcame my complete disgust about glorifying or even joking about that form of exploitation. It instantly makes the song gross me out.

-25T · 2021-02-05T06:04:23+00:00

Yes. There aren't too many, and most I can still enjoy in some way (being "fuck you" angry rather than being "pickme" sad). The first one that comes to mind is the lyrics to Lucid Dreams by Juice Wrld.
Listen on Spotify or Youtube

You found another one, but I am the better one. I won't let you forget me.
...
You were made outta plastic! Fake!! I was tangled up in your drastic ways. Who knew evil girls have the prettiest face?!

Title	Has the FDS-mindset ruined (some) music for anyone else?
Author	brackattack12
Upvotes	119
Comments	36
Date	February 2, 2021 6:31 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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