Dating during divorce

Solid-Phase-1655 · 2024-08-24T20:21:58+00:00

I waited 1.5 years. I needed my head clear for the fight I was involved with. I would recommend to anyone.

jaceq777 · 2024-08-21T06:37:47+00:00

I don't know, we don't have contact. I guess she might. I know I can't, it's still too early after half a year and it feels wrong. I'll wait until the process is finished and I'm more healed.

deadBeefCafe2014 · 2024-08-20T11:14:07+00:00

She stated “dating” well into the marriage.

It took me far too long to find my balls and construct a backbone, but it did happen. AFAIK, they are still seeing each other. 🤷‍♂️

This is a good thing though because it keeps her distracted and largely off my case. It can stay that way until I am unbound from the state Department of Revenue. I love my children and support them, but I really do not enjoy the paycheck withdrawals.

Theedon · 2024-08-20T06:31:14+00:00

I don't know what she did. I didn't want to know. I had my own mental issues to address.

jkw118 · 2024-08-20T01:56:34+00:00

So my ex planned the divorce for 5 years, told me. Then started sleeping around a week later ( I don't think she was sleeping around before then, but she had checked out of the marriage. --and their are alot of reasons that I should have initiated the divorce.. her starting it, made me not question it anymore.)

That being said, within the 1st week, she was out sleeping around, their were pics on her FB of her at bars drinking it up. She met a guy, shared an apartment for a few months. On/off again boyfriends.. two fiances (whom she broke up with before she got married again) And most of this while we were separated technically because she dragged the divorce out for almost another 5 years. (between her, the lawyers and covid)

Like I may write a short story/novel about the absurd fd up stuff she did. And an analysis as to what I was thinking then and now.. And how fd up it is even now..

Heavy_Guitar_4848 · 2024-08-20T01:31:31+00:00

She started dating during the marriage🤣

Low_Distribution5188 · 2024-08-20T00:17:53+00:00

Dating during the divorce is adultery if you've had sex with that new person that's disgusting.. finalize the divorce first..

jimmy936 · 2024-08-19T20:13:49+00:00

It's honestly best case scenario if she does. Easier to move on for you plus she isnt having second thoughts. The trouble for me came when that didn't work out and she wanted me to tear up the papers I filed. Her agreeableness was suddenly zero when I said no.

Slow-Main-2754 · 2024-08-19T18:51:04+00:00

My ex is dating already. She had just had baby when i met her. Told me the dad ghosted her when she told him she was pregnant. Fast forward 6 years, after a series of strange events we seperated, but she said she wanted to work on our marriage. 3 years go by while we work on it. Then one day my kids rat her out, that for the last 3years and during those "strange" events that my son's biological father has been lurking in my marriage. I have been raising my son for 10 years at this point. Turns out this douche is married. So while i worked 80-90 hours a week she was sleeping with this married douche while i raised his kid. My son doesnt know that dude is his dad. He has only met him in passing. He is still my son and will always be my son. She is now making all kinds of claims about me cause she knows I know everything and now refuses to let me speak to or see my both my kids. Those strange events that led tonthe seperation, happened cause that dude got divorced. Im just glad they got sloppy with hiding. I dont know how this will all work out as we gear up for court. Wish me luck.

Expert-Raccoon6097 · 2024-08-19T16:20:11+00:00

Mine started dating during the marriage lol. That was 3 years ago.

She is living with the affair partner now, broke, up to her eyeballs in debt, doing drugs, having cops called on her and her affair partner, very likely in an abusive situation and unable to afford to leave and live on her own.

With me she was a stay at home homeschooling mom who wouldn't even touch soda. Great life for 22 years. Mid life crisis to the max.

Hopefully "finding herself" was worth it for her. Quite the transformation.

DazzlingApartment0 · 2024-08-19T14:49:41+00:00

If I could go back intime I would tell myself "Dont date for a year, you're too messed up and looking for love in all the wrong places"

Exactly65536 · 2024-08-19T13:45:58+00:00

She started dating way before the divorce. During the divorce, her boyfriend (or whatever his status was) showed up to threaten me and to tell me he fucked my wife - to which I responded he hasn't been the first and is unlikely to be the last.

xeskind30 · 2024-08-19T13:13:20+00:00

My ex didn't "date" persay. She got to sleep with all the guys she had known while we were married and is now engaged to one of them.

She is timing her new marriage to him around the time my alimony ends with her.

PghSubie · 2024-08-19T12:55:49+00:00

I can't say that I really paid any attention. I did eventually find out that she got engaged and they got married a few hours after the divorce decree showed up in the mail box.

They got divorced ~7-8 years later

soontobesolo · 2024-08-19T12:04:54+00:00

Mine did, while she was begging for more couples counseling too. She didn't know I knew. Fuck all that of course.

Their relationship didn't last. Mine did. 😁

Boomhower113 · 2024-08-19T11:22:30+00:00

I have no idea and I truly do not care. Let that poor fucker deal with her.

Happy-Perception-823 · 2024-08-19T09:26:41+00:00

Yes immediately, she kicked me out and said she wanted to work things out...whilst we were attending marriage counselling and she was telling me she wanted to work things out she was dating

AttemptScary4550 · 2024-08-19T04:20:13+00:00

She dated several men while the divorce was ongoing. Two ended when they found out she was still married. The other 3 dumped her once she showed her true colors. Once the divorce was final she was married within 6 months, and he left her 4 months into the marriage. My poor kids have to deal with her craziness. Luckily most of them are adults and can judge for themselves.

NotUsedUsernameYet · 2024-08-19T04:14:42+00:00

STBX dated during divorce and before (a.k.a. cheated) - it is best thing that happened to me because she lost focus and I got everything I could ever dream about and slightly more.

AffectionateFactor84 · 2024-08-19T03:59:01+00:00

yes, immediately after split. told me nothing was going on. it was an on again, off again relationship for many, many years.

Ancient-Homework7557 · 2024-08-19T03:16:30+00:00

Yup. She has. I hope she keeps doing it too. Keeps her the hell away from me. Don’t know these men. Don’t care. How or if it’s ended? Don’t care. She wants me to care and flaunts it. I don’t react and it makes her insane. (It’s hilarious) One day she’ll see me with another woman. She’ll loose her shit. Oh well.

No-Kaleidoscope1601 · 2024-08-19T02:56:39+00:00

Immediately, nothing serious has come of it but it’s still not fun to watch.

I’ve gone on a couple dates myself and could tell she wasn’t happy about it, but I literally just wish they were dates with her lmao

Accomplished_Gene176 · 2024-08-19T02:54:51+00:00

Dude 99% of the time they have a guy before the relationship is even over.

Title	Dating during divorce
Author	jd385272
Upvotes	23
Comments	63
Date	August 19, 2024 2:28 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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