Okay I know my situation isn’t nearly as messed up as some of you poor bastards in here, but Jesus this shit just never seems to end.

So yesterday my daughter sent me this text-

listen <uses my first name> i’m going to say this as respectfully as i can. i saw your videos you made for <my youngest daughter>, not sure if she’s even watched them but i did. if you want to make her i miss you videos fine, do whatever you want. but the most recent one is what is bothering me.

i’ve been back and forth about if i should even bother sending you this but it’s something i feel strongly about. <youngest> is a child, she is nine. i get that you miss her and love her but how dare you put your feelings before her own. it disappoints me that you could be so shallow and talk about how sad you are when you literally abandoned your children on at your own free will. it also disappoints me that you’re shallow enough to victimize yourself to your nine year old child.

do not blame mom for the decisions you’ve made. you weren’t forced out, you actively decided to leave because you were too weak to deal with the consequences of your own actions. so weak minded so that you made one of the most selfish decisions that you’ve ever made. you chose you and your feelings before your children, again. and i’m not saying any of this because of how i feel towards you, i’m saying it for the kids. treat them like kids and stop trying to get them to feel sorry for you because your wife hates you after everything you’ve done.

but as for our relationship, ill leave it short and sweet. i know you’ve always hated me, you only ever “liked” me when it was convenient for you. you’ve had so many chances and opportunities to be a father to me and you wasted them. now you’ll have a grandchild that you will never know. i say this wholeheartedly, it’s all your fault. you’ve brought all of this on yourself. only you are to blame. nonetheless stop seeking validation and sympathy from your children, give THEM validation and sympathy they deserve from you. and jesus fuck, get some therapy.

So some context on what she is saying here. I recorded a video that goes onto my youngest daughter’s iPad (it’s under my Apple ID) because their mom will not let me talk to my kids. All this video said nearly verbatim is, “I miss you so much. I am sorry I left the way I did, I was really hurt, but I just couldn’t be in the same house with mom and she doesn’t want me there either. I miss you so much and I want you to know I will be back and I love you so much”

Now, I love my kids more than anything. I would still probably take their crazy mom back just so that my kids have a good two parent life, despite her most likely trying to catch a dick at this point. If you could say I have ever done anything selfish it would be my terrible spending habits and the day I left, my mental wellbeing was under attack, but I did try to come back the next day (wife wouldn’t let me). I would probably have killed myself if I stayed, and that’s not an exaggeration. For my daughter, she is 21 and has no concept of what real life is. She thinks I am the devil because there was some tough love things from drugs and other things we did a few years ago. (she didn’t want to move with us so we left her in TX knowing full well she was about to have some serious life lessons). I thought she changed, so we brought her to us, within three months of being with us and only two weeks after meeting her guy she got pregnant. This was all while smoking weed and mooching off of us. Her and her mom have some issues together that I would have to write a book to explain.

So fast forward to today. My brother had just texted me that my wife was adding dudes to her facebook friends (whatever, she’s lost her mind), not even an hour later she calls me and tells me that my daughter wrecked the car (everything is okay, car is totaled). So its a really nice car, the car sent a message that it was in the wreck and emergency services were called with the time it happened, but I didn’t see it till after.

The point of this is, my daughter wrecked that car today, no shit, to the minute that she texted me yesterday. I didn’t believe that much in Karma, but I am thinking there is something to it now. Don’t get me wrong, I was, first and foremost, worried about my daughter’s safety, but when that all settled I noticed these things.

Talked to the wife for sometime trying to figure out a solution to her not having a car. One solution I offered was to come back to the area (I’m 1200 miles away because that’s closest family) and that we could work something out sharing my truck. All she had to say is “you’re not fucking staying with us” and “you have to come back up here anyway to pack your shit because I am not doing it.” (We have a house provided by my previous job we both have to leave.)

So wife decides she’s going to fuck around, daughter says some of the most cruel things she could to me, and now they are fucked. No car, no way to work, and she just spent most of what she had saved by not contributing to our finances anymore on 1st and last rent deposits. I’m going to get screwed on the totaled car, but considering I was worried about them intentionally doing something to it because it’s in my name, this is probably a positive.

I don’t think I will ever trust a woman again, even my daughter took the first opportunity she had to separate me from her mom for attention. I hope I can influence my youngest daughter’s life enough that she doesn’t ever think any of this behavior is at all okay. I know I shouldn’t be happy about this wreck, and that it is kinda fucked up, but good riddance, one more piece I don’t have to worry about.