Been final for 9 months now.......but have been on my own well over 4 years.

 

It's hard waking up in a king sized bed with an oversized warm plush comforter. The smile on my face is almost unbearable at times. That comforter was hard to find for a tall person like myself.....but it's been worth it.

 

It's a real struggle coming and going as I please. No one to nag me or second guess the decisions I'm making. Not having to give an explanation for why and what I'm doing. I'm not sure I'll ever be able to cope.

 

Meal prep is a real bastard too. You know eating healthy once ever 12 hours or so? Damn I don't know if this kind of routine will be sustainable long term. It's so basic and so simple. Keeps the weight off and my overall health in good form.

 

Now for the real struggle.........spending money on myself for whatever I need. Not sure how I'll ever be able to adapt to having buckets of cash on hand at all times. The no worry of debts and if my money is being spent on nails, hair, shoes, clothes.....is just so so tough.

 

On a more serious note.......it's like women can smell that you are in a good place. I've had a few smiles and it's hilarious to me. If anyone is going to be chased it's going to be me. Not the other way around. But I really got to thinking about it. Outside sex and female companionship......what is added by pursuing someone?

 

For the life of me I can't think of a single thing that they bring that I don't already provide for myself. I mean an orgasm? There really isn't much value added.

 

Fellas the juice of marriage is not worth the squeeze. It truly is not. I'll NEVER allow the gov't to involved in my life that way ever again.

 

I'm not saying the life I live now was easy to adjust to.......it took a lot of deprogramming. Some of which I think I already had in there to begin with because I never put up with the nagging and bullshit anyway. It's like I had to break out of the plantation in order to experience true freedom and live life.

 

I will say this.....once you wake up in a warm king sized bed alone with a plush comforter.....it's pure bliss. You WILL NEVER want to go back to the futon.....EVER.

 

All the best fellas.

 

Cheers!

 

Edit: I know one aspect with men is that some desire children or to carry on their name. I didn't mention that I have a 3 year old son I share 50/50 custody with so that's not really something on my checklist as it's been fulfilled.

Also, I don't want to shit on marriage. If some of you remarry and it works out.....that's awesome......as men we have to do what we have to do. Just learn from the lessons in life and get better.