Don’t Date Insecure Men! I LIVE For This Goddess’ Channel.

Zurflu · 2021-06-22T14:21:06+00:00

Remember, the whole "men below your league will treat you better/be more loyal since they're so grateful!" idea is a LIE. Give a man an inch and he'll start wondering if he can get a mile from someone else.

MilkMadeMe · 2021-06-22T14:30:44+00:00

An insecure man can never focus on you or your needs. Anything you say or do will not be a reflection of you, but how YOU make HIM feel — whether that is good or bad. Spoiler alert: You were always make him feel bad about himself just by being the marvelous human you are since he is unable to externalize you outside of his own self worth.

aplaceformythoughtss · 2021-06-22T14:01:23+00:00

I dated someone exactly as described in the video and I completely agree. He would NEVER reach out to me. It would always be me reaching out to him. He told me he never starts messaging first because he’s insecure and thinks no one wants to talk to him. WELL I wondered if I didn’t message him, how long it would take for him to message me. A week went past without him messaging me and I was nahh this can’t continue so I broke it off with him😂😂😂

Zeniite · 2021-06-22T14:33:31+00:00

Amen. My covert narc ex once said, “Why are you with me? You could do so much better,” in an affectionate tone. I made a strong mental note of it and yeeted myself out of the relationship and never looked back.

officialvevo · 2021-06-22T13:47:04+00:00

I swear insecure guys are the MOST likely to cheat on you. They need validation from women in order to feel good about themselves, and will do anything to get it

misspellmyname99 · 2021-06-22T15:43:46+00:00

I have NEVER been treated worse or made to feel shitty about myself more than when I was with an insecure man who frankly wasn’t up to my level.

When a man starts making comments to you about what he doesn’t like about you, his preferences especially if opposite from you (ex: an ex told me he thought hip bones were sexy so I developed disordered eating to attain them face palm), making fun of your interests etc PLEASE LEAVE.

An ugly/insecure man will NEVER treat you better because he’s grateful you gave him a chance. He will tear you down so you don’t have the confidence to leave him.

szarcat · 2021-06-22T14:02:22+00:00

I recommend ‘Chloe_’ they’re a great YouTube channel that teaches women how not to be pick mes and pick high value men

BasieSkanks · 2021-06-22T16:17:29+00:00

Or they will start getting gassed and thinking they can do better than you.

feelgoodlost_ · 2021-06-22T16:31:19+00:00

The “I am surprised you were even interested” um yes, when you pretended to be a HVM and were so desperate to keep me.

No kidding. When you give an insecure LVM a chance they think if someone as great as you fell for the facade, other women like you will fall for them. It’s as if they think that the tricks they pulled on you suddenly transformed them into this handsome, capable, HVM. They probably monkey branched to you from their ex and once you caught on, they already had someone else in time for your discard. The thing they fail to realize is that you were never attracted in the ways that matter. You had to really use your imagination. Well, all the women they think they can get now cus of you, they won’t feel that attraction either. They’re still the same LVM, only difference is the upgrades you helped with and their toxicity they think works long term.

A lot of these LVM will claim leagues don’t exist but be quick to put you down and pretend they’ve already had “hotter and better” than you. 🤡 We all know that’s not the case, they’ll be back. And lmfao I agree. At least some of us just wasted Covid time and not real time. So there’s always that.

sassenachpants · 2021-06-22T16:44:36+00:00

Yup. They will destroy the relationship, and you if you let them.

A HVM is one that has done the work and has an appropriate sense of their self-worth. And they should derive this sense of self worth from the inside. People that don’t have this leave trails of hurt partners and destroyed relationships.

yggiwtmiih · 2021-06-22T15:39:04+00:00

She got it on the nose. 👃

waddamelone · 2021-06-22T17:05:17+00:00

I’m just here to say that she’s soooo pretty. And of course the message slaps and is 100% accurate.

ComprehensiveAmoeba9 · 2021-06-23T00:32:13+00:00

I dated a guy who told me he was afraid of disappointing me in the bedroom. Looks and education wise I was out of his league. A few of my friends even said I could do way better😂 this guy started out doing everything he could to impress me and when he felt like he won me over, he stopped putting in effort and made me feel so miserable. He started acting like he didn’t care about me and that I needed to fight for crumbs of his attention. Thankfully I had enough sense to dump him as I felt like he was stringing me along. And even more laughable was that he claimed the reason he stopped taking me out on dates was because he was having money problems and said once again that he didn’t wanna “disappoint” me. LOL. He already did with his self-deprecation jokes, alcoholism, and ED🤡

breadandbunny · 2021-06-22T22:42:25+00:00

I really love the content shared in here. It teaches some important lessons. I wish I had found this sub three years ago. Coulda saved myself some pain.

Muffcakelord · 2021-06-22T22:52:11+00:00

Speaking as a woman trying to catch myself in self sabotaging habits and actions that grew from insecurity; this is so spot on. I can't imagine an insecure man not taking an opportunity to try to ruin his relationship because it's just too automatic. It will happen unless he stops being insecure

EurasianEmpress · 2021-06-23T02:02:02+00:00

Insecure men treated me like shit even when I wasn’t even dating them. We were strictly platonic and they were still negging me so I always knew to avoid them as much as possible.

Elegaunt · 2021-06-23T03:12:01+00:00

3 months and you'll be crushed by the abuse and manipulation. Hell, 3 weeks would be tortuous.

He'll turn you into a stepping stone for someone "better" in a heartbeat. He'll build is "confidence" on the foundation of your love and attention and use it to leave you.

NEVER entertain these insecure LVM.

all_or_nothing_bet · 2021-06-22T18:05:11+00:00

There's nothing less attractive than an insecure man. Insecurity always implies hatred towards those who make them feel insecure, and it only gets worse if not addressed and dealt with properly.

Bex_The_Hex · 2021-06-23T01:10:15+00:00

I dated a man last year for 7 weeks.

I couldn't BELIEVE how insecure he was. We had different preferences on how lean we liked our ground beef. He literally asked me if I was breaking up with him over it. That was probably the stupidest thing to ask if we were going to break up over, but it wasn't the only time he was worried about it.

The last 2 weeks was me delaying the inevitable. At that point, I deserved to suffer, because I just wasn't taking the trash out. I had no remorse or guilt when I finally did, though.

Hmtnsw · 2021-06-23T00:14:36+00:00

I do this and it's a problem. I know. 🙄 Why am I like this?

late4church_ · 2021-06-22T15:35:45+00:00

Is that Lizzo 😍

Title	Don’t Date Insecure Men! I LIVE For This Goddess’ Channel.
Author	Twolipz_78
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Comments	49
Date	June 22, 2021 12:17 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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