Don't fall for it ladies!

AnniaT · 2020-09-20T14:52:28+00:00

I read a comment on youtube once of a woman who said she used to reply: "I'm looking for a man who is exactly himself so I can observe and decide if he's the right person for me or not" . I liked that one.

cantstopthemachine77 · 2020-09-20T12:28:21+00:00

This is such a common question from men and I’ve never thought about how odd of a question it really is. Like, unless it’s like the meme says and you are trying to figure it out so you can pretend to be like that, as a man pursuing me, why else would you want to know what kind of traits I prefer in a man? Because it’s definitely not that you are just curious to know.

valleysflower25 · 2020-09-20T15:56:48+00:00

Haha! I had a guy mirror me for 4 months, trying to get sex even though I TOLD him the day we met that I'm saving myself for marriage. The 2nd time I refused our "netflix and chill" date he dumped me. This taught me to not spell all my secrets to some stranger.

vmuzondi · 2020-09-20T14:03:37+00:00

Fell for this my preFDS days. He even admitted that he was doing things to get me to like him more. Imagine the surprise I got when he stopped putting in effort. 🙄

MagnfiqueMaleficent · 2020-09-20T12:40:07+00:00

That’s a great response!

Chloeoeoiceiceice · 2020-09-20T14:35:28+00:00

Ha I love this. Reminds me of that song Blank Space

Find out what you want Be that girl for a month Wait, the worst is yet to come

butterfly2406_ · 2020-09-20T18:17:37+00:00

“I’m looking for a man who treats me well and is consistent and transparent and I can only find that out after a few months of spending time together” don’t give the Love bombing narcs specifics

evilkitty9 · 2020-09-20T18:13:05+00:00

I’ve never even had a guy ask me this. I think they expect me to just take them as they are and deal with it. A lot of them are assholes.

AotearoaCanuck · 2020-09-20T15:28:32+00:00

Oh wow, yes. Very accurate.

youdipthong · 2020-09-20T13:44:41+00:00

Was that an actual line in the movie? If it was, I have to watch it now lol

Bordersz · 2020-09-20T17:37:57+00:00

Before stumbling on this sub I would always troll them and say, "A man who is like [insert my favorite male celebrity]". I could gauge their reactions accordingly like 1) are they going to get really upset and curse out this celebrity (HUGE red flag) 2) compliment the celebrity's work or 3) reply back w/looking for a celebrity too (yellow flag, could either be funny or really bitter). Now I discovered this sub, I would just leave the conversation than even entertain them. Like I never asked a guy what they're looking for in a woman.

SpaceC4se · 2020-09-20T18:10:40+00:00

LMFAO get fucked scrotes.

2020-09-20T15:48:37+00:00

He lazy to figure you out.

ms_monquis · 2020-09-20T19:59:03+00:00

Him: What kind of guy are you looking for? Me: One that I like. Him: Well, what do you like? Me: ...we’ll see.

PooPooMeeks · 2020-09-20T23:39:42+00:00

This one Youtuber gave this same advice. He aid that if a guy asks, “So, what are you looking for?” the. The guy just wants to know so he can learn to “fake” what you want, so you will fall for him and give him sex. He recommended to just respond with something like, “I like to just get to know a person, and see if we mesh.”

This Youtuber is a guy that’s admits to having been an LVM in the past, but now has a “no nonsense” wife who has “schooled him” real quick and now he’s turned into a religious HVM that schools women on men’s games, LOL...

22leafclover · 2020-09-20T18:25:07+00:00

HA been there done that

Novemberinthechair · 2020-09-20T13:22:06+00:00

Yes.

Confection_Efficient · 2020-09-21T00:33:48+00:00

Women fake orgasms. Men fake entire relationships.

filh218 · 2020-09-20T17:49:43+00:00

Wow never even realized this

adertina · 2020-09-20T17:55:41+00:00

Would love to see how he would pull off Helen Mirren

helljess86 · 2020-09-20T18:17:03+00:00

This happened to me lately. Fuck him.

takethemonkeynLeave · 2020-09-20T21:35:03+00:00

Yep. This has happened to me a lot and it's why I prefer a man with his own established hobbies that are consistent and healthy.

One thing I do try to take into consideration because of where I live is the privilege I had being born and raised in a city. I've had exposure and access to music, sports, arts, and literature my entire life, not just within my public school system, which people from rural areas are generally limited to. I know people who don't know how to swim or ride a bike. Things I would never have known could be taken for granted. And these same people have taught me so many things I didn't know about, because our childhoods were different and that's ok. Passion for learning and trying new things is attractive as hell.

Also, it's easy to pick up on mirroring these days because they'll call it "vibing," yet always text you about how bored they are.

Sisi21cent · 2020-09-20T17:18:17+00:00

Queen

gummybearyum · 2020-09-20T19:11:05+00:00

SO MUCH THIS

And then further down the line be told that you have unreasonable expectations

halfbloodprincess88 · 2020-09-20T16:47:18+00:00

Or even for a few years!!!

Apricot_Ibex · 2020-09-20T22:46:05+00:00

I love the look on her face! 😂 She‘s like “wtf am I looking at right now, and why?”

splintercinder · 2020-09-21T04:41:20+00:00

A few weeks? Im lucky if i get a good man the day aftet a disagreement

janeaustenfan99 · 2020-09-22T05:44:54+00:00

Also relevant - what are you looking for? So he can pretend to be looking for that too

Title	Don't fall for it ladies!
Author	heavenlyfeminine
Upvotes	2418
Comments	57
Date	September 20, 2020 11:43 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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