“How do I ask my boyfriend to stop beating and strangling me?”

millennialpink2000 · 2022-02-21T16:45:01+00:00

Every pick me and cool girl in the kink community lurking needs to take note of this. When she asked for you know..less abusive sex, she got laughed at. He has zero intention of changing this dynamic, he's just going to punish her. This isn't about their respective kinks, it's about power and degradation.

Technical_Moth248 · 2022-02-21T19:48:55+00:00

A man that's just lost his virginity almost immediately jumping to aggressive and rough sex and refusing to be gentle EVER is a huge red flag. Porn has destroyed that man, he is not worth having.

BrightIdeaGenerator · 2022-02-21T18:50:19+00:00

She wants to "be made love to" is making fun of someone these days. Let that sink in, ladies.

This is the state of dating these days.

askmeabouttheforest · 2022-02-21T17:30:28+00:00

Ok, so I want to go to every discussion where they complain that women aren't interested in dating and link to this. I won't, because I have things to do and I value my peace, but I still kinda want to.

After reading this, you can't pretend that dating most men is good for women. The fact that men act this way, really, makes it hard to believe that women would date at all.

Yeah, I'm sure there are a few good men here and there, but the fact that guys like this exist at all speaks volumes, and it summarizes to: women are better off alone.

The_Cat_Empress · 2022-02-21T19:52:32+00:00

“My BF haS tHe sAmE kInKs”

How much you want to bet it’s not that he likes being choked while going down on her?

The crickets tell me everything…f*ck this scrote.

PossibleCook · 2022-02-21T19:10:15+00:00

Sounds like they were both virgins who had learned about sex through porn. Now that she’s realized that the porn ideal isn’t actually… humanizing she’s coming to her senses (slowly but still). Hopefully she leaves him for someone who sees her as a person.

aeorimithros · 2022-02-21T18:12:56+00:00

... you don't have a kink if you've never had sex before.

I wonder if she'd be into this stuff if her first time had been a guy making love to her gentle and slow like she's asking from her bf. 😞

SupremeDearLeader · 2022-02-21T20:42:55+00:00

Can we stop with the sexual assault being sold to women as kink? Nobody with a sense of self wants to be assaulted , this is exclusively for women victims who have been traumatized and disassociate during sex in order to please a criminal NVM.

shelballama · 2022-02-21T16:39:40+00:00

"Haha! She wants to be treated LiKe a PeRsOn" are the vibes I'm getting from this.

She's basically asking "how can I get him to not be violent at me and to respect me?" and he fucking laughed.

No thanks. Sis needs to dump him and laugh her merry way to her car to drive faaaar off into the sunset

MarsV89 · 2022-02-21T18:02:14+00:00

This is so sad

MsWriteNow07 · 2022-02-21T20:29:37+00:00

“I’ve been taught in order to get a man to pay attention to me I have to submit to sexual @buse. I did my job for months and now I’m telling the man who is supposed to be in a relationship with me I’d like to be treated as a person and not a sex doll and he laughed in my face. Is it possible trading my sexual degradation for love doesn’t work?”

cicerii · 2022-02-21T18:16:08+00:00

He doesn’t think she deserves vanilla sex but I’m sure he thinks his dream girl does.

FlockAroundtheClock · 2022-02-21T21:34:09+00:00

This isn’t difficult. Him laughing at her about something so intimate was the only thing she needed to know to dump this psycho.

pascalines · 2022-02-22T04:41:01+00:00

He hates her. How can so many women not see that? I’m not excluding myself because I used to be one of them. I really think women will never understand how much men hate us.

PollyannaPenny · 2022-02-21T21:47:29+00:00

Sex Posi people: "DON'T KINK SHAME ANYONE EVER!!!!"

Girl: "My kink is regular, affectionate, non-violent sex"

Sex Posi People: "LOL, why are you so basic and boring!? You expect him to cover your bedroom in rose petals and sing you love songs and somehow get off without violence!? Entitled b!tch!!!"

Carneliancat · 2022-02-21T19:04:27+00:00

How many young women need to end up dead or brain-damaged before they stop volunteering to be human toilets for LVM? This is revolting.

burritogirl101 · 2022-02-21T22:01:10+00:00

20 years old. Take a guess where these "kinks" have come from. Young people are so screwed from porn and liberal feminism.

Noemie_Mathilde · 2022-02-22T10:36:02+00:00

One good thing: I can hear the hurt and indignation in this woman's writing. She's realising what she actually wants. Leave him, leave him, leave him.

falconersys · 2022-02-22T12:16:29+00:00

"We're really good at communicating" DOES NOT ADD UP WITH "he laughed at me and made fun of me".

The girl who wrote this needs to read what she wrote again, slowly. Does that sound like good communication to you?

If you told your friend something personal and they laughed and mocked you, you wouldn't call that person a friend any longer, and especially not one with "good communication".

NotMyRealName814 · 2022-02-21T18:14:27+00:00

One thing is for certain - you can always count on porn and sex "work" to lead the way when it comes to misogyny and abusing women.

KitKat1705 · 2022-02-24T11:59:48+00:00

Is it a kink if it actually hurts you ?

Title	“How do I ask my boyfriend to stop beating and strangling me?”
Author	lansburysoda
Upvotes	683
Comments	45
Date	February 21, 2022 4:24 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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