I’d like you to consider making a dating handbook for pre-teen and teenaged girls

Wait__No__What · 2020-09-07T18:35:36+00:00

Getting brigaded and down voted by those loser scrotes from mgtow again I see. They know if we get to girls young enough it's Game Over for them permanently.

CoffeeBeforeAdulty · 2020-09-07T18:47:34+00:00

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yegerska · 2020-09-07T19:05:38+00:00

It’s easier than ever to groom children and teenagers now because of social media so it’s really important to make a handbook for young girls

RavenWudgieRose · 2020-09-07T17:22:33+00:00

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K80L80 · 2020-09-07T17:20:55+00:00

If I had this as a teen it would have saved me from a lot of damage and heartache

2020-09-07T18:03:51+00:00

DO IT! Someone needs to explain (outside of religious reasoning) to young girls why it is NOT OKAY to compromise on your boundaries!

sentinelsexy · 2020-09-07T17:31:50+00:00

i agree! as a late teen i could really use one

Leavix · 2020-09-07T20:19:58+00:00

I would love to read it. I often struggle to talk about the lessons I learned as an adult, when I speak with a teen.

2020-09-07T22:15:29+00:00

Honestly for pre-teens and teenagers, it would be a handbook of men's nature. What they should look out for and how they can avoid wrong decisions. I would want my daughter to start dating when she finishes college and have money on her own first before being open to date.

The boys ages 24 and below just wants to hoo-ha! Usually, teenage pregnancy relationships just ends up in break ups and divorce.

OrchidLion · 2020-09-07T18:06:08+00:00

Pre-teens have no business dating. The fuck? They havent even hit puberty yet.

A pre teen girl should be focused on having fun with friends, going on adventures with her parents, and learning cool things. Period.

Yeah there should be one for teens. As a teen, I wanted marriage, though, and a lot of other teens are the same (if not consciously, then subconsciously). No teen girl wants to date with the intention of breaking up. A lot of them have it in their mind that they want to spend forever with that person, and/or they just havent even considered the possibility that they wont be together in the future.

Teens minds are not developed enough to be dating either, but that's when they DO start dating, so guidance would be good.

MissVvvvv · 2020-09-08T00:05:25+00:00

A handbook aimed at pre-teens could be rife with risk. A handbook aimed at teens would need consultation and input from teens. This needs to be approached with much sensitivity and caution to ensure we are not seen as encouraging inappropriate behaviours in this demographic.

While I'm sure we've all considered the responsibility involved in an undertaking of this magnitude, having a record of that consideration is important.

This comment is made with the intention of protecting all parties.

Blacktontonguetoffee · 2020-09-08T00:07:22+00:00

I wrote a book, kind of a pocket guide for any age. There is some language but it helps break down a lot of the patriarchal values that men and women have both grown accustomed to as well as satire/humor for the men and boys we tend to encounter most esp online but def in person! If you want the title let me know :)

gfcacdista · 2020-09-08T06:47:28+00:00

🎶 Financial independence all the way 🎶

That saves women from - physical abuse - power balance abuse (work, relationships) - dependence -that always gives the woman the opportunity to leave

RamenUndergraduate · 2020-09-07T21:04:54+00:00

What a great idea!💡

Averyhvw · 2020-09-07T21:17:31+00:00

Yes, I think it would be great to include stories about worst case scenarios. Teens don’t always conceive of the possible consequences. It’s hard to believe your sweet high school love interest could become cold as soon as you sleep with him, and this could blow up your entire social situation! Teens need to know that this is a possibility, which is why they need to vet very hard before deciding to get into any kind of relationship. Why taint your high school experience with low value boy drama? He really has to be worth it at that age because it is high risk to your mental health and future memories.

greenrosepdtl · 2020-09-07T23:32:53+00:00

I was just talking to a friend about the problem I see with girls/young women in their late teens/early 20s. They cant pick a side. I know a lot if women on this sub believe that you should wait and be absolutely sure a man is worth it before you sleep with him but I guarentee a lot of us also knew young women who wanted to sow some wild oats before settling down. The problem is they get stuck in the middle of being wild and settling down so they accept shit men into their lives. A shitty man who is really good in bed is fine for a quick romp if you are in a wild phase. But these girls will get sucked into a relationship and then put up with shitty behavior because "well it's not that serious, I'm too young to think about marriage it isnt a big deal." Or they think hes young too he will grow up and change. Someone needs to help guide them to pick a side. Do you want a serious relationship? Ok here is what to look for to get a HVM. Do you want to explore your sexuality and have some fun? Ok heres some knowledge about consent and standing up for yourself and some sex ed all of that. But pick a side and stick to it.

Debsterism · 2020-09-07T21:50:28+00:00

Yeah, I started one 5 years ago. I haven't picked it back up. It's about 75% done

balladwilds · 2020-09-07T22:38:02+00:00

i definitely agree ! i encourage this for young girls out there ❤

Hmtnsw · 2020-09-08T01:27:25+00:00

Note to my 17-19 yr old self:

" Don't just date a guy to get your mother off your back about not having a boyfriend. Don't cry in front of ex when he breaks up with you out of fear of your mother and not because "y0u l0ve hIm." We both know that shit nonsense. You nevrr believed in highschool boyfriends. Just because a guy says he will fly down from New Jersey to take you to Prom so he can see his friends- that shit isnt sweet. Prom isn't really that important. Don't live your life in fear because you dont have a man. You are not lesser for not having a man. Dont give hand jobs to guys if you're not into it. Leave a guy when he tells you be likes someone else and only wants to use you as practice. The practice was good but you deserve more than that. Again, don't settle for a man so you feel like you are more. You ARE ENOUGH."

VickyPL · 2020-09-08T07:20:05+00:00

Topic recommendation: how to go cold turkey after a break up.

How to prioritize your life for your benefit and not a guys

Sexual boundaries- no oral/penetration is not just nothing and should not be done immediately to keep him interested.

youdipthong · 2020-09-08T00:44:59+00:00

Yes this is a great idea! As a late teen, I NEED that handbook

Jadzzia · 2020-09-08T01:26:31+00:00

Could this teen handbook have a chapter on building strong female networks/friendships?

I personally really struggled with this as a pre-teen and a teenager and there were heaps of factors, some out of my control, (moved around a lot, misogynistic culture at home, socioeconomics, ‘competition culture’ at school, bullying etc.). I feel like this is a really pivotal time in a young lady’s life and although boys become more and more interesting through puberty, it would be really vital to foster the idea of other girls as part of the same team instead of competition.

Friendships at this age are also great for practicing advocating for yourself and your emotional needs. Plus you’re likely to be more confident continuing this when it’s time to start dating.

If I had something like that when I was a teen I don’t think I would have lost so much of my 20s to LVMs and toxic friendships.

eyeoftruthh · 2020-09-08T18:42:49+00:00

As a teen girl who loves FDS but sometimes is unsure how to apply advice from 20 something, marriage and career minded women to myself, I would truly appreciate it.

Title	I’d like you to consider making a dating handbook for pre-teen and teenaged girls
Author	Hour_Scarcity
Upvotes	502
Comments	61
Date	September 7, 2020 5:16 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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